As we do our deep work a desire is often born.

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A desire to be better than we are.

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To be less ego-driven and more heart-centered.

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That desire can sometimes lead us astray.

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It can cause us to focus too much on the things that we consider to be wrong with us.

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So we start to look at all the ways we are not perfect.

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All the ways that our ego gets in the way and causes us trouble.

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And we start to feel not good about ourselves.

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We doubt ourselves and start examining every little motivation.

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As if we somehow need to be perfect and live up to an impossible standard.

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Many times, we focus on the ego and how it is the cause of all of our suffering.

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Pushing against it with all our might and will to become what we think is a better person.

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That is a trap.

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A trap that the mind sets for us that is impossible to achieve.

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For the real issue is not our ego.

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Our ego gives us our sense of self.

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It is essential for our survival on this planet.

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And provides us with a sense of self worth and self value.

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Both of which are very valuable to have.

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So how do we deal with the challenges that the ego does provide?

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The real issue is not the ego in and of itself.

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It is how to keep it in balance with our heart, body, and soul.

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For our ego or our mind is another important aspect of our consciousness.

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Rather than looking to get rid of our ego, perhaps we should take a different approach.

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Perhaps if we find a way to befriend the ego, it can serve us instead of being a challenge.

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By befriending the ego we make it an ally.

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We give it a new job to do instead of just allowing it to always make everything about us.

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The ego can then function properly, in balance, giving us a proper sense of value and worth.

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For when we focus and push against something so hard, it only gives it more energy.

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So the ego will respond with temper tantrums and by acting out.

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And it might seem as if even though we are doing everything we can to get rid of the ego, that it is actually getting stronger.

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If we label the ego as our enemy, it will only go to war with us.

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Yet if we make it our friend, our ally, and a a valuable part of who we are, it relaxes.

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With any part of ourselves, if instead of trying to get rid of it with align with it in a conscious manner, we become more whole.

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We bring that aspect of ourselves into greater consciousness and enlighten it with our appreciation.

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Our ego did a great job of helping us survive and got us to this point in life.

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Why not show it some love and gratitude for doing that?

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Giving that part of ourselves some true appreciation softens it and allows the ego to function in a more aligned manner.

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Instead of the ego running rampant and creating chaos in our life, it can actually help us on our path of healing and wholeness.

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This might seem counter-intuitive, but it works.

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The less we push away the different sides of ourselves and the more we accept them and honor them, the more they will serve us.

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So how has your own ego served you and how can you make it an ally and a friend?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour