When we look for healing, sometimes we feel we need a big experience.

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We want to go deep quickly so we can get at the root of it all.

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And to go deep we expect things to get rough.

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These expectations cause us to tense up.

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They can cause our nervous system to shut down in fear of something harsh about to happen.

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Because we hold so much pain, fear, sadness, and anger, we prepare ourselves for a big explosion.

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We prepare for an excruciating time.

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And sometimes that does happen.

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Sometimes the things we fear do happen.

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Yet sometimes they don't.

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The process and experience we go through can be something quite different.

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We do not have to endure misery to find wholeness.

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For the healing path is one that is full of mystery and surprises.

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It all depends on the container that the guides we work with hold.

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If the energetic container is clean, deep, and gentle, our process can reflect that.

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By having a gentle experience we can also go deep.

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Deep does not mean we have to suffer through the process.

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Our healing does not have to be a torturous experience.

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In fact, when we go the gentle route, our nervous system relaxes and sometimes we can actually go deeper compared to strong, overpowering experience.

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Intensity does not always equate to faster healing.

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Going through our past anguish in full force does not mean we are releasing more trauma than the gentle approach.

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Our healing can be both gentle and deep at the same time.

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And indeed, when we do take the gentle and deep approach, our nervous system responds more quickly to our process.

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We flow with the ups and downs of our healing journey with more ease.

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For the shock of an intense experience can actually slow down our healing process.

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It takes time for the nervous to process our experiences, and when we rush the process we can actually cause more trauma.

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We are creating the same conditions that causes our nervous systems to go in fight, flight or freeze to begin with.

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The intensity of the experience is not always an indication of the depth of the healing.

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What we really need more of in our lives is gentleness and sensitivity.

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Having the time and space to truly process the feelings and emotions that are stored in our bodies.

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Healing is not abut getting an adrenalin rush in order to feel better.

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It is about acknowledging the body's need for safety.

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Safety does not come from a big bang.

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For safety is cultivated from a slow and deliberate movement to feel what has been stored up inside of us.

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Taking the time to be gentle can actually create a greater depth of healing.

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So where in your own life can you use a gentle and deep approach to your own healing?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour