Sometimes we have a tendency.

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One that does not serve us at all.

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Where we critiize ourselves for any mistake.

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Or for just being different.

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For some reason we tend think it is all our fault.

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That there must be something wrong with us.

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If that person can be okay with it, then why can't I?

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Perhaps it goes something like this, "They got better from doing XYZ, what's wrong with me that I can't?"

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This self blame is often accompanied by comparing ourselves with others.

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When we do not live up to some imaginary standard that we set for ourselves, yet others do, we feel less than and ashamed.

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It is an interesting trap we set for ourselves that keeps us in pain.

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Keeps us from digging in deeper to the underlying issue.

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For when we are ashamed of what we have or haven't done, we can't get in there and understand why.

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Or we simply learn to not accept ourselves how we are.

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We get stuck in the blame and shame and cannot find our way through.

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Because to get through the shame and the blame we have to go deeper.

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To really see ourselves from a higher perspective and from a more compassionate place.

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Just because we do not respond the way someone else does, or live up to something that someone else can accomplish, does not mean we are bad or broken.

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All it means is that we are different.

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Different in so many ways.

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And that difference is not good or bad.

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It is just our unique way that we show up in the world.

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Our path is always unique to us and comparing to anyone else only does a disservice to ourselves.

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There is nothign to be ashamed of or to be blamed for.

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This is how we add to the tapestry of life with our own unique colors.

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Our being different enriches the world, not diminish it.

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Just because we respond differently or show up differebtly than someone else, does not make us wrong or bad.

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It just makes us different.

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Thank goodness we are different.

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How boring would the world be if we were all the same?

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~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant

Host of The Conscious Consultant Hour