Stephanie McAuliffe is a personal transformation coach and energy healer, and founder of The Way of the Diamond Warrior, after leaving a 27 year career on Wall Street.
Important to her perspective are boundaries and trauma: the belief that all stories can be healed. Stephanie describes trauma as both big T trauma and little t trauma, and is passionate about healing the invisible impact of the little t trauma.
Listeners will learn about The Way of the Diamond Warrior; Stephanie’s energy work; her two books: “The Impact of Silence: Self Mastery Practices for Women, and “The message in the Bottle: Finding Hope and Peace Amidst the Chaos of Living with an Alcoholic.”
Stephanie and I will discuss her transformation from being an executive on Wall Street to
developing her work as an energy healer and transformational coach.
Her work on trauma will be described, looking at the difference between. big T and little t trauma: its effects! We will also review Stephanie's work with boundaries to empower her clients.
Website: https://wayofthediamondwarrior.com
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In this powerful opening segment of The A Train to Sedona, host Linda Marsanico introduces guest Stephanie McAuliffe, an energy healer and transformation coach who shares her courageous journey of breaking free from multi-generational silence, trauma, and control. Stephanie reflects on her personal path through alcoholism, generational wounding, and energetic entanglements—and how energy healing, writing, and self-forgiveness helped her reclaim her voice and truth. Together, Linda and Stephanie affirm that deep, somatic healing is possible when we choose to confront our pain, lean into our triggers, and allow Spirit to guide our transformation.
In this heartfelt segment of The A Train to Sedona, Stephanie McAuliffe opens up about her journey from disconnection and despair to deep spiritual alignment, describing how trauma once severed her connection to Spirit and self. Through years of healing—including energy work, writing, and coaching—she reclaimed her sense of belonging and trust in a loving, expansive divine presence. Stephanie’s story reminds us that no matter how far we stray, it’s never too late to return to our soul’s path and say yes to our healing, our truth, and our spiritual home.
In this rich and intimate portion of The A Train to Sedona, Stephanie McAuliffe reflects on her greatest challenge in transitioning from Wall Street to healing work: learning to trust herself and her divine guidance. She speaks powerfully about breaking free from family expectations and societal conditioning in order to stand fully in her truth as a channel for Spirit. Stephanie also shares deep insights on the difference between "big T" and "little t" trauma—reminding us that unspoken pain and emotional silencing can be just as harmful as major events—and encourages us all to embrace the healing power of presence, energy work, and self-compassion.
In the final segment of The A Train to Sedona, Stephanie McAuliffe offers a soul-stirring affirmation that no story is beyond healing, sharing how her own transformation began when she chose to release the narrative of victimhood and reclaim her power. Through the lens of compassion, she describes the path to self-forgiveness, energetic freedom, and heart-centered living, inspiring listeners to see trauma not as a life sentence but as a doorway to deeper wholeness. With gentle strength, she invites us to embrace our inner “diamond warrior,” reminding us that when we choose to heal, the universe opens its arms—and the light within us begins to shine.
00:00:46.280 --> 00:00:51.909 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone! Welcome to the A. Train to Sedona broadcast.
00:00:52.140 --> 00:00:53.830 Linda Marsanico: I'm Linda Marcannico.
00:00:54.530 --> 00:01:09.079 Linda Marsanico: The A. Train to Sedona is also the name of a book I wrote a memoir about my journey to love and Compassion, where I share successes and failures. I wrote it to have my voice be heard, but also to inspire your journey.
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00:01:53.650 --> 00:01:56.379 Linda Marsanico: Now I have 2 disclaimers.
00:01:56.820 --> 00:02:02.629 Linda Marsanico: One is that this broadcast does not establish a professional relationship.
00:02:03.240 --> 00:02:11.650 Linda Marsanico: The second disclaimer is that the opinions expressed here do not necessarily represent talk radio, new York City.
00:02:12.870 --> 00:02:17.449 Linda Marsanico: Today I have as my guest, Stephanie Mcauliffe.
00:02:18.510 --> 00:02:25.730 Linda Marsanico: After a 27 year career on Wall Street. Stephanie is the founder, and CEO
00:02:25.830 --> 00:02:28.810 Linda Marsanico: of the way of the diamond warrior.
00:02:29.660 --> 00:02:39.520 Linda Marsanico: Stephanie speaks, writes, and teaches on the human condition and the impact of our internalized, energetic patterns.
00:02:40.080 --> 00:02:50.129 Linda Marsanico: As a personal transformation, coach and energy healer. She deeply understands the impact of trauma held within the body
00:02:50.310 --> 00:02:55.229 Linda Marsanico: and the importance to our vitality to clear and heal it.
00:02:56.480 --> 00:03:01.389 Linda Marsanico: Stephanie is the author of 2 international best-selling books.
00:03:01.920 --> 00:03:06.489 Linda Marsanico: the impact of silence, self-mastery practices for women.
00:03:07.540 --> 00:03:10.120 Linda Marsanico: and the message in the bottle.
00:03:10.440 --> 00:03:19.750 Linda Marsanico: finding hope and peace amidst the chaos of living, with an alcoholic welcome to the broadcast Stephanie.
00:03:19.750 --> 00:03:22.780 Stephanie McAuliffe: Thank you, Linda. I'm thrilled to be here with you today.
00:03:22.970 --> 00:03:24.580 Linda Marsanico: I'm as thrilled to have you.
00:03:25.780 --> 00:03:36.519 Linda Marsanico: The 1st question I'm going to ask you is about the influences from your childhood adolescence, young adulthood, which bring you to where you are today.
00:03:37.630 --> 00:03:48.520 Stephanie McAuliffe: Oh, my goodness! It can sometimes feel like a loaded question! And yet, as a synopsis, I grew up in multi-generational silencing
00:03:48.760 --> 00:03:52.559 Stephanie McAuliffe: of our words of our feelings, of our emotions.
00:03:53.020 --> 00:04:00.060 Stephanie McAuliffe: There was a an unspoken energy of command and control
00:04:00.250 --> 00:04:05.829 Stephanie McAuliffe: within my house, within my mother's house. I see it going multiple generations back.
00:04:05.830 --> 00:04:06.380 Linda Marsanico: Hmm.
00:04:06.740 --> 00:04:08.459 Stephanie McAuliffe: And it was one of
00:04:08.690 --> 00:04:15.030 Stephanie McAuliffe: in some ways felt a little bit hypocritical, because there was the do. As I say, not as I do.
00:04:15.240 --> 00:04:19.019 Linda Marsanico: So I would see certain things that the adults would do.
00:04:19.149 --> 00:04:22.490 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet we, as kids would hear. No.
00:04:23.130 --> 00:04:26.889 Stephanie McAuliffe: we can't afford that. No, we can't do that. No, we don't have time.
00:04:29.180 --> 00:04:35.289 Stephanie McAuliffe: One of the big things now that that I've written about, and that I speak about
00:04:35.980 --> 00:04:45.080 Stephanie McAuliffe: and work with clients on, is breaking the cycle of the generational patterns that were either spoken or unspoken.
00:04:46.500 --> 00:04:53.620 Stephanie McAuliffe: because when we stand in really the truth of who we are versus a lot of it was
00:04:54.360 --> 00:04:56.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: a lot of it is buried within us
00:04:57.230 --> 00:05:04.399 Stephanie McAuliffe: because of these rules that we grew up with, and they were disguised as boundaries. But they're really rules.
00:05:05.010 --> 00:05:09.260 Stephanie McAuliffe: and part of it was to keep us safe. I understand that. And yet.
00:05:09.910 --> 00:05:19.830 Stephanie McAuliffe: as an adult, it's so important for us to give a voice to our story. And this is what I have really been working diligently on
00:05:20.230 --> 00:05:22.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: since before the end of my career on Wall Street.
00:05:23.450 --> 00:05:28.569 Stephanie McAuliffe: Because this is how we heal, when we have the awareness, when we have
00:05:29.660 --> 00:05:38.339 Stephanie McAuliffe: when we see how the breadcrumbs fit together that go back generationally as well, we're able to break a pattern and then heal the energy.
00:05:39.830 --> 00:05:46.320 Stephanie McAuliffe: So in some ways I've had to energetically divorce myself from my family.
00:05:46.660 --> 00:05:53.619 Stephanie McAuliffe: because many of them still live within that old paradigm of obey your mother and father.
00:05:53.880 --> 00:06:02.779 Stephanie McAuliffe: I grew up with a God that was a man sitting on a cloud up above me, judging me and everything that I was doing.
00:06:03.320 --> 00:06:07.410 Stephanie McAuliffe: So again. It was a lot of fear and control
00:06:08.200 --> 00:06:11.440 Stephanie McAuliffe: that I finally said no to.
00:06:14.960 --> 00:06:21.050 Linda Marsanico: You say how you energetically divorced yourself, or separated yourself from your family.
00:06:22.030 --> 00:06:23.440 Stephanie McAuliffe: I I.
00:06:24.740 --> 00:06:35.780 Stephanie McAuliffe: So when I was I married to alcoholics, I grew up around functional alcoholism and multigenerational sexual abuse and the silencing of it. So there are many layers to this story.
00:06:36.480 --> 00:06:42.819 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I went to Al-anon for many, many years, which is for families of alcoholics.
00:06:43.270 --> 00:06:47.479 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I even started well, I started when I was married to my 1st alcoholic.
00:06:47.660 --> 00:06:55.740 Stephanie McAuliffe: and then really got into the program during my second marriage, and after the divorce
00:06:56.250 --> 00:07:04.900 Stephanie McAuliffe: there was a. There was like a moment that was a huge catalyst for me in New Jersey. There was a day of joint meetings between Aa and Al-anon.
00:07:05.370 --> 00:07:09.219 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I went to an a meeting because I had never been to one.
00:07:09.410 --> 00:07:16.159 Stephanie McAuliffe: and a man came in and told the story of how, when he was a teenager. His father had forced him
00:07:16.350 --> 00:07:23.660 Stephanie McAuliffe: to do heroin with them, which is horrible. No parent should force their child to do any kind of
00:07:24.050 --> 00:07:26.239 Stephanie McAuliffe: drugs or anything like that
00:07:28.250 --> 00:07:35.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: in the session, right after that which I led, which was an adult children of alcoholics. The man came in and told the exact same story.
00:07:36.040 --> 00:07:38.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: and the light bulb went off for me
00:07:38.460 --> 00:07:42.910 Stephanie McAuliffe: because it was. I saw how stuck people are in their stories.
00:07:43.650 --> 00:07:54.739 Stephanie McAuliffe: I saw how stuck I was in my story, and the box that I had put myself in was very valuable. It gave me comfort in knowing some of the
00:07:55.290 --> 00:08:00.050 Stephanie McAuliffe: toxic behavior and codependency I had grew up around and that I was raised in.
00:08:01.500 --> 00:08:04.490 Stephanie McAuliffe: It was then that I started doing energy work.
00:08:04.640 --> 00:08:12.500 Stephanie McAuliffe: so I took Reiki one. I went to sound ball healings. I went to energy healing classes. I worked my way up through.
00:08:12.770 --> 00:08:19.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: I'm a holy fire. 3 Karuna Reiki master, and my work has has extends beyond that
00:08:20.450 --> 00:08:26.330 Stephanie McAuliffe: energy work completed the sentence that is meant to be a metaphor.
00:08:27.170 --> 00:08:32.429 Stephanie McAuliffe: Because I had done a lot of personal transformation work and still felt stuck
00:08:33.049 --> 00:08:36.609 Stephanie McAuliffe: as I cleared the energetic blocks out of my body.
00:08:37.570 --> 00:08:41.729 Stephanie McAuliffe: It was like the final frontier of freeing myself
00:08:42.030 --> 00:08:45.039 Stephanie McAuliffe: so that I could energetically divorce myself
00:08:45.210 --> 00:08:49.919 Stephanie McAuliffe: from the patterns and the cycles that some of which came through in my DNA.
00:08:50.610 --> 00:08:51.180 Linda Marsanico: Hmm.
00:08:51.670 --> 00:08:55.080 Stephanie McAuliffe: Somebody pick right, and some we pick up
00:08:55.300 --> 00:09:03.180 Stephanie McAuliffe: in our childhood up through the age of 8. We are like sponges. We're absorbing everything around us. There are studies that show that
00:09:03.670 --> 00:09:07.390 Stephanie McAuliffe: young children can smell fear in their mothers.
00:09:07.880 --> 00:09:13.550 Stephanie McAuliffe: There are other studies that are looking at war veterans, and how anxiety is passed through the sperm.
00:09:14.250 --> 00:09:16.079 Stephanie McAuliffe: So it's not just.
00:09:17.260 --> 00:09:28.710 Stephanie McAuliffe: you know, the environment we grew up around. It is also clearing the energy that came through through no fault of our own, and sometimes through no fault of our parents.
00:09:28.890 --> 00:09:31.440 Stephanie McAuliffe: because it's the things that they picked up
00:09:31.820 --> 00:09:33.850 Stephanie McAuliffe: that they passed along to us.
00:09:34.820 --> 00:09:38.149 Stephanie McAuliffe: And this is why energy work is such a big component.
00:09:38.300 --> 00:09:41.230 Linda Marsanico: In the work that I continue to do for myself.
00:09:41.400 --> 00:09:43.599 Stephanie McAuliffe: And the work I do with my clients.
00:09:44.080 --> 00:09:50.410 Linda Marsanico: So you use your energy skills, Reiki, and the list of
00:09:50.700 --> 00:09:54.539 Linda Marsanico: that you just described to work on yourself. I do the same thing.
00:09:54.540 --> 00:09:55.080 Stephanie McAuliffe: Hmm.
00:09:55.080 --> 00:09:56.560 Linda Marsanico: Wonderful that we can do that.
00:09:56.560 --> 00:09:57.230 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yes.
00:09:58.800 --> 00:10:05.539 Linda Marsanico: And it is very effective. It's another level, a deeper level of healing, which is essential
00:10:06.260 --> 00:10:10.389 Linda Marsanico: because we're not just a body. You know we're much more complex than that.
00:10:11.660 --> 00:10:16.249 Stephanie McAuliffe: We are. And in my second book, the impact of Silence. I talk about how it's like
00:10:16.640 --> 00:10:19.389 Stephanie McAuliffe: it's like we have a layer cake inside of us.
00:10:19.730 --> 00:10:22.929 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we cover up what we don't want to see with frosting.
00:10:23.830 --> 00:10:30.380 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet, when we melt the frosting, and we have many, many layers, and this is why it can feel like
00:10:30.500 --> 00:10:35.069 Stephanie McAuliffe: sometimes, like I've done all this work on this thing. Why is it back?
00:10:35.220 --> 00:10:38.359 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's because we're ready to clear the deeper layer
00:10:38.870 --> 00:10:45.760 Stephanie McAuliffe: and spirit universe. Consciousness would not bring it into our world if we weren't ready.
00:10:45.860 --> 00:10:49.179 Linda Marsanico: To heal it and work through it, and let it go.
00:10:49.330 --> 00:10:53.160 Stephanie McAuliffe: So when we allow ourselves to melt that frosting
00:10:53.330 --> 00:10:56.090 Stephanie McAuliffe: and basically eat the layer of cake.
00:10:58.840 --> 00:11:01.110 Linda Marsanico: I don't even know. Go! I think you want to say something.
00:11:01.110 --> 00:11:04.600 Stephanie McAuliffe: I was just gonna say that this is how we we free ourselves.
00:11:04.600 --> 00:11:05.110 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:11:05.110 --> 00:11:06.899 Stephanie McAuliffe: Of what's come up for us.
00:11:08.230 --> 00:11:13.579 Linda Marsanico: Some years ago I had done a lot of work on my relationship with my mother.
00:11:13.710 --> 00:11:16.379 Linda Marsanico: and I thought, Well, you know, I've cleared it.
00:11:16.490 --> 00:11:28.579 Linda Marsanico: and I went on a retreat, and there was a woman there who triggered something else about my mother, and I thought, Well, I'm on a road here, and it's not complete. And yet I was able to
00:11:28.810 --> 00:11:35.770 Linda Marsanico: to work through the issues that came up. And it's a continuing challenge, and
00:11:36.000 --> 00:11:47.509 Linda Marsanico: really a beautiful path. As you say, we've given these situations to help us grow, not to punish us, because we're ready finally for the deeper and deeper levels of
00:11:47.780 --> 00:11:49.880 Linda Marsanico: what presents itself.
00:11:50.100 --> 00:11:53.110 Stephanie McAuliffe: Right and like. Haven't we already punished ourselves enough
00:11:54.710 --> 00:11:59.130 Stephanie McAuliffe: like when we heal one of the biggest parts is on self-forgiveness.
00:11:59.610 --> 00:12:03.680 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we can forgive a situation. We can forgive a person
00:12:03.970 --> 00:12:10.249 Stephanie McAuliffe: we need to be compassionate with ourselves. But I wanted to go back to your point about triggers. Triggers are a gift.
00:12:11.770 --> 00:12:12.200 Linda Marsanico: Yes.
00:12:12.200 --> 00:12:14.600 Stephanie McAuliffe: They truly are when we lean in
00:12:15.390 --> 00:12:19.940 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we get curious rather than sitting in judgment.
00:12:20.500 --> 00:12:24.469 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's amazing what can come through for us, and it isn't always easy.
00:12:25.420 --> 00:12:30.940 Stephanie McAuliffe: Personally, I've shed many tears. I've gone through many boxes of kleenex. I have many journals.
00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:35.440 Stephanie McAuliffe: and yet those are parts of the transformation.
00:12:35.570 --> 00:12:43.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: Because writing is a somatic experience. We get to move the energy out through our arm, through our hand.
00:12:43.980 --> 00:12:50.320 Stephanie McAuliffe: through the pen, onto the paper, as well as crying, or screaming.
00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:55.010 Stephanie McAuliffe: or yelling, or having a conversation in a room by yourself.
00:12:55.200 --> 00:12:57.830 Stephanie McAuliffe: There are multiple things that we can do
00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:01.700 Stephanie McAuliffe: on our own. In addition to working with a healer
00:13:02.880 --> 00:13:07.039 Stephanie McAuliffe: to help us give a voice to what wants to be seen and heard.
00:13:07.930 --> 00:13:24.279 Linda Marsanico: Yes, writing is very helpful. When I write my blogs. When I'm writing anything it's in with a pencil, usually a pencil or a pen on loose leaf paper. And it's a wonderful connection, as you say. And then it goes on to the computer after that.
00:13:24.900 --> 00:13:26.419 Linda Marsanico: So it's a handy thing.
00:13:26.420 --> 00:13:32.570 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yeah. And and it can be really powerful if you're not able to have a conversation with someone.
00:13:32.710 --> 00:13:38.729 Stephanie McAuliffe: For instance, my second husband was actively drinking when we divorced.
00:13:39.160 --> 00:13:42.730 Stephanie McAuliffe: and there were things I wanted to say to him I was never able to.
00:13:42.980 --> 00:13:48.200 Stephanie McAuliffe: Through the course of a couple of days I wrote him a 30 page letter that I then burnt.
00:13:48.600 --> 00:13:50.950 Stephanie McAuliffe: and yet in there were some nuggets
00:13:51.060 --> 00:13:54.240 Stephanie McAuliffe: of wisdom. It's like, Oh, that's what that was.
00:13:54.750 --> 00:13:57.479 Stephanie McAuliffe: So it allows us to to move
00:13:57.580 --> 00:14:04.809 Stephanie McAuliffe: out what it is that we wanted to say. We don't need the other person's presence nor cooperation
00:14:05.590 --> 00:14:07.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: to do this for ourselves.
00:14:08.310 --> 00:14:10.790 Linda Marsanico: Journaling is masterful.
00:14:11.460 --> 00:14:12.250 Stephanie McAuliffe: Truly.
00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:15.280 Linda Marsanico: Now I know we're getting ready for a break.
00:14:16.050 --> 00:14:17.959 Linda Marsanico: And what I would like to do when we come back
00:14:18.700 --> 00:14:22.809 Linda Marsanico: is to discuss the role of spirituality in your life.
00:14:23.970 --> 00:14:24.720 Stephanie McAuliffe: In a call.
00:14:24.720 --> 00:14:31.639 Linda Marsanico: Okay, so we're going to take a break. And listeners do come back to hear these wonderful nuggets that will be produced
00:14:31.810 --> 00:14:33.450 Linda Marsanico: after this break.
00:16:17.650 --> 00:16:27.070 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone! Welcome back to the A. Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marsannico with my guest, Stephanie Mcauliffe.
00:16:27.260 --> 00:16:37.059 Linda Marsanico: Now, Stephanie, we were on the verge. We we asked listeners to come back to hear you respond to the question of the role of spirituality in your life.
00:16:39.320 --> 00:16:41.059 Stephanie McAuliffe: Right now it's everything.
00:16:42.290 --> 00:16:43.429 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet
00:16:43.770 --> 00:16:49.569 Stephanie McAuliffe: and this is something that I've I've worked through in multiple layers, and another one has come through of late
00:16:50.130 --> 00:16:53.140 Stephanie McAuliffe: my senior of high school. I lost all connection
00:16:53.370 --> 00:16:56.639 Stephanie McAuliffe: to God, to spirituality. I wanted
00:16:57.400 --> 00:16:59.219 Stephanie McAuliffe: nothing to do with my life.
00:16:59.790 --> 00:17:03.349 Stephanie McAuliffe: I I did not want to be in my body.
00:17:04.300 --> 00:17:13.160 Stephanie McAuliffe: And I found multiple ways, including a lot of drugs, to not be present.
00:17:13.420 --> 00:17:14.060 Linda Marsanico: Hmm.
00:17:15.140 --> 00:17:18.449 Stephanie McAuliffe: And it's been a healing journey of
00:17:18.700 --> 00:17:23.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: coming back to not only trusting myself, trusting God.
00:17:23.960 --> 00:17:28.329 Stephanie McAuliffe: and when I say God, it is not the God who was up on the white cloud.
00:17:28.450 --> 00:17:33.800 Stephanie McAuliffe: Judging me, that looks like Santa Claus. But isn't
00:17:34.980 --> 00:17:39.830 Stephanie McAuliffe: it? Is the greater universe consciousness. It is the Divine mother.
00:17:40.850 --> 00:17:50.170 Stephanie McAuliffe: and it's taken time to get to this space of feeling like I belong in the universe.
00:17:50.980 --> 00:17:55.659 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we all do. We all belong. And yet through trauma.
00:17:56.590 --> 00:18:01.379 Stephanie McAuliffe: We lose this connection, and I see it in so many people
00:18:01.600 --> 00:18:05.879 Stephanie McAuliffe: that we will do whatever we can do to not be present.
00:18:06.450 --> 00:18:14.749 Stephanie McAuliffe: Call it distraction, call it disassociation, call it addiction, call it whatever you want.
00:18:16.060 --> 00:18:22.430 Stephanie McAuliffe: Now, in my personal situation we had moved to Florida for my sophomore and junior years of high school.
00:18:23.340 --> 00:18:30.679 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I was finally away from my stepbrother, who had abused me for 4 years.
00:18:31.390 --> 00:18:33.529 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I was finding my way.
00:18:33.630 --> 00:18:37.400 Stephanie McAuliffe: and and I was away from that whole dynamic.
00:18:37.550 --> 00:18:43.989 Stephanie McAuliffe: and at Christmas time, during my junior year of high school, my ex-stepfather
00:18:44.410 --> 00:18:48.049 Stephanie McAuliffe: came down, and he and my mother announced that they were remarrying.
00:18:49.670 --> 00:19:01.729 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I felt like the world was just pulled out. Everything was pulled out from underneath me. My grades went from A's to C's. I started doing some really hard drugs versus partying.
00:19:02.830 --> 00:19:06.520 Stephanie McAuliffe: and when we moved to Massachusetts
00:19:07.040 --> 00:19:11.850 Stephanie McAuliffe: within 2 weeks, I found the kids who were doing some really hard drugs.
00:19:12.060 --> 00:19:15.059 Stephanie McAuliffe: By all rights. I probably should either be dead
00:19:15.230 --> 00:19:22.150 Stephanie McAuliffe: or living in a van by the river right now, and yet there was always an intestinal fortitude within me that kept me going.
00:19:23.550 --> 00:19:29.959 Stephanie McAuliffe: and in a way the thrashing that I did in my senior year of high school
00:19:31.450 --> 00:19:36.120 Stephanie McAuliffe: kept me from feeling that pain until I was ready to feel it
00:19:37.690 --> 00:19:42.079 Stephanie McAuliffe: so it in an odd way. In a paradox it can be
00:19:42.490 --> 00:19:53.259 Stephanie McAuliffe: protective for us, and I've written about this in one of my blogs of sometimes the the addiction that we hold on to that box that we crawl into
00:19:53.510 --> 00:19:58.050 Stephanie McAuliffe: provides a safety net for us until we were ready to face
00:19:58.460 --> 00:20:03.079 Stephanie McAuliffe: what was so painful that we stepped into the addiction. In the 1st place.
00:20:05.520 --> 00:20:08.949 Stephanie McAuliffe: Wall Street was also part of that as well.
00:20:09.710 --> 00:20:13.650 Stephanie McAuliffe: I found my worth through my work.
00:20:13.940 --> 00:20:14.550 Linda Marsanico: Hmm.
00:20:15.560 --> 00:20:27.900 Stephanie McAuliffe: And then, within a year of each other, my second marriage and my 27 year career on Wall Street ended, and all of a sudden I was left with all of this space, and it was like being a 5 year old. Being asked.
00:20:28.060 --> 00:20:29.799 Stephanie McAuliffe: What do you want to do when you grow up?
00:20:32.250 --> 00:20:33.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: I couldn't answer the question.
00:20:34.590 --> 00:20:50.129 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet the 1st coach I started working with, and this is the why it's so important to work with coaches and different coaches, because they will bring different things just like different healers. I was asked the question on the 1st group call, How do you want to feel.
00:20:51.740 --> 00:20:57.409 Stephanie McAuliffe: And that question shook me to my core because I realized I wasn't able to answer it.
00:20:58.950 --> 00:21:01.100 Stephanie McAuliffe: and it cracked me wide open.
00:21:02.830 --> 00:21:08.459 Stephanie McAuliffe: It has been the journey and the process of healing. Since that call
00:21:08.670 --> 00:21:11.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: that I have come to this space of
00:21:12.920 --> 00:21:17.010 Stephanie McAuliffe: I trust God, I trust the universe. I trust myself.
00:21:17.170 --> 00:21:22.150 Stephanie McAuliffe: I've stepped into the space of love and belonging where.
00:21:23.010 --> 00:21:28.470 Stephanie McAuliffe: if we think of Maslow's hierarchy, there's the physiological
00:21:28.800 --> 00:21:33.829 Stephanie McAuliffe: which many of us have the physiological layer, and then there is safety
00:21:34.530 --> 00:21:40.119 Stephanie McAuliffe: with love and belonging. He had trust. I actually think trust needs to be down with safety.
00:21:40.340 --> 00:21:45.649 Stephanie McAuliffe: because if we don't have trust, we don't feel safe, and if we don't feel safe we don't have trust.
00:21:48.340 --> 00:21:54.790 Stephanie McAuliffe: And this has been my journey of coming back to myself, coming back to my heart.
00:21:55.970 --> 00:21:59.789 Stephanie McAuliffe: So now spirituality is everything.
00:22:02.800 --> 00:22:04.200 Linda Marsanico: Beautifully stated.
00:22:05.030 --> 00:22:05.810 Stephanie McAuliffe: Thank you.
00:22:06.110 --> 00:22:12.700 Stephanie McAuliffe: It took a while to get here, and this is where it doesn't matter how long it takes. It doesn't matter when you start.
00:22:13.650 --> 00:22:15.789 Stephanie McAuliffe: it doesn't matter how old you are.
00:22:18.370 --> 00:22:25.199 Stephanie McAuliffe: And hopefully, this conversation can be a catalyst for people to say yes to themselves.
00:22:28.100 --> 00:22:28.950 Linda Marsanico: Indeed.
00:22:31.660 --> 00:22:38.979 Linda Marsanico: I have another question for you. You mentioned being on Wall Street, and the world knows Wall Street and the
00:22:39.140 --> 00:22:44.579 Linda Marsanico: A. Train. The 2 train all the trains in many of them in New York City. Go to Wall Street.
00:22:45.540 --> 00:22:53.189 Linda Marsanico: How did you go from being an executive on Wall Street to being a personal transformation. Coach and energy healer.
00:22:55.400 --> 00:23:04.319 Stephanie McAuliffe: I sat for a while in that space after I had been in project and program management. So I helped the business run
00:23:04.860 --> 00:23:08.550 Stephanie McAuliffe: either through commodities, exchanges, or some of the big
00:23:08.830 --> 00:23:10.749 Stephanie McAuliffe: financial firms that I worked at.
00:23:11.980 --> 00:23:14.640 Stephanie McAuliffe: And when my last big program ended.
00:23:15.130 --> 00:23:22.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: I looked around and said, Okay, I just helped to co-manage an 85 million dollars four-year
00:23:22.680 --> 00:23:24.860 Stephanie McAuliffe: global transformation program.
00:23:26.250 --> 00:23:27.909 Stephanie McAuliffe: Do I want to do this again?
00:23:28.560 --> 00:23:35.500 Stephanie McAuliffe: And in the summer of 2,016, I gave myself quote unquote permission to leave Wall Street.
00:23:37.660 --> 00:23:39.309 Stephanie McAuliffe: and this is when
00:23:39.740 --> 00:23:45.549 Stephanie McAuliffe: I had already been into energy work, I received the download of you're going to write a book
00:23:48.130 --> 00:23:56.850 Stephanie McAuliffe: I was connected with a publisher, and this is how the message in the bottle, finding hope and peace amidst the chaos, living with an alcoholic was written.
00:23:57.770 --> 00:24:09.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: I started with just sitting at my computer and writing somewhere on my hard drive. I have a 75,000 word document that I think about 3 paragraphs of it went into my 1st book
00:24:10.030 --> 00:24:17.370 Stephanie McAuliffe: I needed to purge, and I thought my mission was to
00:24:18.160 --> 00:24:23.810 Stephanie McAuliffe: not simply but simply work with families of alcoholics, yet many of them
00:24:24.540 --> 00:24:29.190 Stephanie McAuliffe: just want to focus on the alcoholic, and they think well, if they stop drinking, everything will be perfect.
00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:38.589 Stephanie McAuliffe: Those of us who have lived around alcohol, active or functional alcoholism need just as much
00:24:39.360 --> 00:24:43.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: recovery and sometimes more than the alcoholic.
00:24:45.420 --> 00:24:50.590 Stephanie McAuliffe: So I started looking more deeply, and that was around the time where I was at that joint.
00:24:51.220 --> 00:24:54.510 Stephanie McAuliffe: That joint meeting between Aa and Al-anon.
00:24:54.670 --> 00:25:01.200 Stephanie McAuliffe: where the light bulb went off of this is bigger than a bread box. This is bigger than I think it is.
00:25:01.790 --> 00:25:04.279 Stephanie McAuliffe: So I started to really explore
00:25:04.470 --> 00:25:08.109 Stephanie McAuliffe: energy work. I worked with world renowned mediums.
00:25:08.360 --> 00:25:16.139 Stephanie McAuliffe: I took courses. I dove into my own journey, so it's been an evolution
00:25:16.400 --> 00:25:23.270 Stephanie McAuliffe: of, and I now see how people I worked with on Wall Street.
00:25:23.930 --> 00:25:34.079 Stephanie McAuliffe: We're stuck in some of the same paradigms that I was of. If you didn't feel heard when you were a child, you might be one of the people who feels like they need to
00:25:34.810 --> 00:25:40.069 Stephanie McAuliffe: over, explain, or defend or write big, long emails
00:25:40.360 --> 00:25:43.330 Stephanie McAuliffe: to justify every single point that you want to make.
00:25:43.440 --> 00:25:45.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: And a lot of this is subconscious.
00:25:47.370 --> 00:25:55.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: So when I look back at people I worked with, and how I was, this is why
00:25:55.510 --> 00:26:02.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: healing these energetic patterns and clearing not just what we took on, but also the ancestral
00:26:02.460 --> 00:26:07.350 Stephanie McAuliffe: rules and obligations is so important, because
00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:12.649 Stephanie McAuliffe: when we do this, this is where we stand in our true power of who we are.
00:26:13.300 --> 00:26:20.659 Stephanie McAuliffe: We don't necessarily have to change anything around us, because, as we shift the world around us shifts
00:26:21.720 --> 00:26:25.520 Stephanie McAuliffe: so through this journey, I've seen the bigger picture of
00:26:26.030 --> 00:26:33.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: the broader impact of how much we and ourselves have been silenced.
00:26:36.220 --> 00:26:37.720 Linda Marsanico: Yes, I hear you.
00:26:40.440 --> 00:26:52.530 Linda Marsanico: I'm a little distracted because we have a message from a listener, my good friend Gwendolyn Green. Lindbergh. Yay, good thanks for listening in Gwen.
00:26:54.740 --> 00:27:06.230 Linda Marsanico: Silence is, you know, silence can be golden, but silence, to avoid speaking the truth makes us ill
00:27:06.610 --> 00:27:13.820 Linda Marsanico: in some way, and you know we have many layers. You talk about the layer cake. We are so complex when Creator designed us.
00:27:14.110 --> 00:27:18.859 Linda Marsanico: My goodness, we are quite a design. Everything is interconnected.
00:27:18.990 --> 00:27:24.629 Linda Marsanico: It's just beautiful. So speaking truth is something that I feel
00:27:25.860 --> 00:27:28.759 Linda Marsanico: it's 1 of my goals in every relationship.
00:27:29.360 --> 00:27:36.760 Linda Marsanico: Having said that sometimes to be kind or appropriate silence can be very beneficial.
00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:47.419 Linda Marsanico: but it always has to be weighed. You know I talk about assertiveness and picking, choosing when I'm going to become assertive, because assertion is so important.
00:27:48.320 --> 00:27:57.200 Linda Marsanico: and if I'm not feeling so energetic I might want to let something pass for the moment.
00:27:57.630 --> 00:28:06.160 Linda Marsanico: But I once did a blog, and I said, What can't you leave home without your keys? This that I said, forget about the keys. Forget about this.
00:28:06.310 --> 00:28:11.169 Linda Marsanico: Don't leave home without assertion, so it's an important skill.
00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:13.510 Linda Marsanico: Now we are going to take a break.
00:28:13.850 --> 00:28:20.990 Linda Marsanico: But when we come back, Stephanie, I'd like to discuss the biggest challenge
00:28:21.160 --> 00:28:24.180 Linda Marsanico: in this transition. This leap you made
00:28:24.460 --> 00:28:30.660 Linda Marsanico: from 26 years on Wall Street to being a transformational coach and energy healer.
00:28:31.320 --> 00:28:34.500 Linda Marsanico: Emily, produce some nuggets again.
00:28:34.720 --> 00:28:38.960 Stephanie McAuliffe: Beautiful. I look forward to continuing our conversation after the break.
00:28:39.920 --> 00:28:42.659 Linda Marsanico: So let's take a break. Now.
00:30:20.290 --> 00:30:27.519 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone! Welcome back to the A. Train to Sedona. I'm Linda Morsenico with my guest, Stephanie Mcauliffe.
00:30:27.680 --> 00:30:37.120 Linda Marsanico: So, Stephanie, I'd like to ask what was the biggest challenge during the transition from your 26 year career on Wall Street to being
00:30:37.770 --> 00:30:39.799 Linda Marsanico: coach and an energy healer.
00:30:43.420 --> 00:30:44.790 Stephanie McAuliffe: Trusting myself.
00:30:46.380 --> 00:30:53.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: There were so many messages in my youth.
00:30:54.270 --> 00:31:01.530 Stephanie McAuliffe: and many of us are taught this to not trust ourselves to look to someone or something outside of us.
00:31:01.710 --> 00:31:07.400 Stephanie McAuliffe: to give us the answer, to give us the confirmation, to give us the validation that we seek.
00:31:09.940 --> 00:31:19.759 Stephanie McAuliffe: so trust in myself, of my message that I have something valuable and worthwhile to bring to the world.
00:31:20.520 --> 00:31:26.819 Stephanie McAuliffe: because my career on Wall Street was all about producing something, and then you get validation.
00:31:27.760 --> 00:31:32.990 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I did very well. I was a senior director
00:31:33.900 --> 00:31:36.850 Stephanie McAuliffe: at at the end of my career. I
00:31:37.370 --> 00:31:40.509 Stephanie McAuliffe: implemented many things for the business.
00:31:40.880 --> 00:31:43.580 Stephanie McAuliffe: and yet what I was implementing
00:31:44.320 --> 00:31:48.370 Stephanie McAuliffe: I was given direction on, or I would work with the business to
00:31:49.120 --> 00:31:51.280 Stephanie McAuliffe: gain what it was that they wanted.
00:31:53.420 --> 00:31:58.920 Stephanie McAuliffe: So it was a a model of production and reward.
00:32:00.370 --> 00:32:07.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: Stepping into this role as a coach and a healer, it's
00:32:08.130 --> 00:32:15.439 Stephanie McAuliffe: we need to trust ourselves the core of of who we are and what it is that we're bringing
00:32:16.780 --> 00:32:19.079 Stephanie McAuliffe: that not everyone is going to get us.
00:32:19.860 --> 00:32:21.569 Stephanie McAuliffe: And that's okay.
00:32:21.820 --> 00:32:29.390 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's knowing that I haven't done all of this work to not share
00:32:29.610 --> 00:32:31.860 Stephanie McAuliffe: the wisdom that has been gained.
00:32:33.250 --> 00:32:36.410 Stephanie McAuliffe: and part of that trust has also been one of
00:32:38.980 --> 00:32:44.330 Stephanie McAuliffe: trusting that I've been given this as a channel for spirit.
00:32:47.570 --> 00:32:52.429 Stephanie McAuliffe: and had spirit not trusted me, I would not have the wisdom
00:32:52.640 --> 00:33:04.380 Stephanie McAuliffe: that I have gained, especially with this this work around the energy of boundaries and the generational, the the new layers, the different layers of the energies that we've
00:33:04.510 --> 00:33:06.080 Stephanie McAuliffe: internalized.
00:33:08.630 --> 00:33:10.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: So it's been one of
00:33:10.920 --> 00:33:18.739 Stephanie McAuliffe: I've I've walked my talk, everything that I speak about, everything that I teach, everything that I do with clients I've done for myself.
00:33:19.320 --> 00:33:21.789 Stephanie McAuliffe: because in some ways I needed to prove
00:33:22.230 --> 00:33:25.100 Stephanie McAuliffe: to myself and for myself that it was valid.
00:33:26.610 --> 00:33:31.769 Stephanie McAuliffe: And this was another way that I brought the trust back within and for myself.
00:33:33.550 --> 00:33:37.920 Stephanie McAuliffe: so that I didn't need the validation from the outside world
00:33:40.080 --> 00:33:46.350 Stephanie McAuliffe: because another big component of this has been moving beyond the family paradigm.
00:33:47.810 --> 00:33:54.540 Stephanie McAuliffe: and whereas we, as children, are taught to look to our family for validation of who we are in the world.
00:33:55.250 --> 00:34:00.109 Stephanie McAuliffe: This, the big part of this journey, has been that energetic divorce
00:34:00.340 --> 00:34:05.830 Stephanie McAuliffe: from people who don't support the work that I'm it's not that they don't support me.
00:34:05.960 --> 00:34:12.540 Stephanie McAuliffe: They don't support the work I'm doing, because then they need to look in the mirror for themselves.
00:34:14.460 --> 00:34:21.649 Linda Marsanico: That's very powerful to bring it home, and and to to discuss, to understand
00:34:21.850 --> 00:34:27.130 Linda Marsanico: how this very challenging work that we do could be threatened.
00:34:27.239 --> 00:34:32.279 Linda Marsanico: threatening to other people. And, as you said before, and I totally agree.
00:34:32.409 --> 00:34:35.280 Linda Marsanico: people need to be ready, and we're not to judge.
00:34:35.900 --> 00:34:41.080 Linda Marsanico: There's no judgment. It's when we're ready. And eventually I do believe
00:34:41.670 --> 00:35:05.729 Linda Marsanico: that we will all get to the same place it just takes. We're on our own path, and I think of one of my favorite stories from Neil Donald Walsh's conversations with God. Neil says, you know I don't really want to deal with this issue, and God says Neil, take 10,000 lifetimes, and Neil says, Oh, I'm going to do it now. So it's a matter of when we decide.
00:35:06.130 --> 00:35:07.719 Linda Marsanico: as we are not judged.
00:35:08.760 --> 00:35:13.980 Stephanie McAuliffe: And I think sometimes there's there's a point where we can say I'm not ready yet.
00:35:16.970 --> 00:35:23.310 Stephanie McAuliffe: And and then it will come back around when we are ready. It's similar to
00:35:23.680 --> 00:35:31.119 Stephanie McAuliffe: me, completely denouncing God and my relationship with God at the Thanksgiving table of my senior year of high school
00:35:31.540 --> 00:35:37.470 Stephanie McAuliffe: to say, I am an atheist, because no, no loving God
00:35:37.780 --> 00:35:41.349 Stephanie McAuliffe: would put me in that situation, that I was living in.
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:44.039 Stephanie McAuliffe: and yet it had nothing to do with God.
00:35:45.550 --> 00:35:48.210 Stephanie McAuliffe: It was the people I was living with
00:35:49.030 --> 00:35:51.839 Stephanie McAuliffe: who I understand that the deeper
00:35:52.200 --> 00:35:55.190 Stephanie McAuliffe: aspects in the story to that. And yet
00:35:55.780 --> 00:36:01.120 Stephanie McAuliffe: there were certain aspects of that that I wasn't ready to heal until recently.
00:36:01.560 --> 00:36:08.150 Stephanie McAuliffe: And that's okay it. Its spirit brings us what we need when we're ready for it.
00:36:09.040 --> 00:36:17.469 Stephanie McAuliffe: and never before, even if it feels like a huge thing, we can say, not yet.
00:36:18.450 --> 00:36:20.389 Stephanie McAuliffe: And when we're ready it comes.
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:28.939 Linda Marsanico: I would like to shift a little bit to a very important part of your work.
00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:34.740 Linda Marsanico: That which you label big T trauma and little t trauma.
00:36:35.430 --> 00:36:38.839 Linda Marsanico: So would you talk about the difference.
00:36:39.590 --> 00:36:40.730 Stephanie McAuliffe: Absolutely.
00:36:42.730 --> 00:36:46.380 Stephanie McAuliffe: And what's coming to me is this, is to discuss sexual abuse.
00:36:48.340 --> 00:36:51.420 Stephanie McAuliffe: The act of the abuse is a big t trauma.
00:36:52.630 --> 00:36:59.319 Stephanie McAuliffe: We have been vile. People have been violated in ways that no one should ever be violated.
00:36:59.780 --> 00:37:06.289 Stephanie McAuliffe: even if it's improper. Touching which I experienced when I was 6,
00:37:06.740 --> 00:37:17.269 Stephanie McAuliffe: and then there were other. I've I've experienced multiple instances and multiple years of this type of abuse.
00:37:17.930 --> 00:37:21.659 Stephanie McAuliffe: The little 2 trauma is the fact that
00:37:23.270 --> 00:37:25.409 Stephanie McAuliffe: I didn't get support from my mother.
00:37:26.190 --> 00:37:33.499 Stephanie McAuliffe: She knew it was happening. There were other people within the family that knew it was happening. It did nothing to protect me.
00:37:34.760 --> 00:37:41.669 Stephanie McAuliffe: or I went to go live with my grandmother for 2 summers to get me away from my my stepbrother, and yet
00:37:41.870 --> 00:37:44.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: for the school year I was back under the same roof.
00:37:45.310 --> 00:37:50.860 Stephanie McAuliffe: So this is where the small t trauma is the silencing
00:37:51.000 --> 00:37:59.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: of the impact and the effect on us. And that's what causes illness and sickness, and I truly believe
00:38:00.110 --> 00:38:05.880 Stephanie McAuliffe: a big reason why there's so much addiction, because
00:38:06.120 --> 00:38:08.820 Stephanie McAuliffe: we don't want to be in our body.
00:38:09.410 --> 00:38:13.060 Stephanie McAuliffe: We don't want to feel the pain. We have not been shown how to feel it.
00:38:13.550 --> 00:38:22.429 Stephanie McAuliffe: We have not been given the ability to get bring a voice to it, and so that the
00:38:22.560 --> 00:38:29.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: small T trauma are more of the energetic and psychological effects.
00:38:30.090 --> 00:38:34.800 Stephanie McAuliffe: Many times from the big t trauma that we can focus on
00:38:35.640 --> 00:38:38.209 Stephanie McAuliffe: the the physical things that we can see.
00:38:39.650 --> 00:38:44.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: So in my senior of high school I had a really bad case of bronchitis.
00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:46.490 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I was living in in
00:38:46.750 --> 00:38:50.510 Stephanie McAuliffe: an area where storms would come in and we lost power.
00:38:51.650 --> 00:38:55.210 Stephanie McAuliffe: So there was a lot of focus on my physical healing.
00:38:55.790 --> 00:39:02.280 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet there was no discussion about what was happening.
00:39:02.670 --> 00:39:07.859 Stephanie McAuliffe: The energetics in the 4 walls and under the roof of that household.
00:39:10.670 --> 00:39:11.979 Linda Marsanico: That's so painful.
00:39:13.110 --> 00:39:15.359 Stephanie McAuliffe: It can be. And so through therapy
00:39:15.550 --> 00:39:18.070 Stephanie McAuliffe: I dealt with a lot of it.
00:39:18.480 --> 00:39:25.860 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet I go back to the energy work, help to clear those energetic blocks.
00:39:27.300 --> 00:39:31.620 Stephanie McAuliffe: There are studies that show the
00:39:31.830 --> 00:39:36.790 Stephanie McAuliffe: most of our disease is caused from these internalized traumas.
00:39:37.540 --> 00:39:43.000 Stephanie McAuliffe: So Dr. Joe Dispenza says, less than 30% of disease is genetic.
00:39:43.720 --> 00:39:48.170 Stephanie McAuliffe: Bruce Lipton says it's 7% or less.
00:39:48.490 --> 00:39:49.300 Linda Marsanico: 7.
00:39:49.300 --> 00:39:57.550 Stephanie McAuliffe: 7. So it is our environment. It's the food we eat. It's the things we ingest. It's how we don't care for ourselves
00:39:57.800 --> 00:39:59.410 Stephanie McAuliffe: or lack of movement.
00:40:00.790 --> 00:40:07.519 Stephanie McAuliffe: A lot of it, I believe, is the energetics. It's the things that we continue to swallow
00:40:08.950 --> 00:40:11.060 Stephanie McAuliffe: that we have not processed.
00:40:13.350 --> 00:40:21.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's really it's really pretty astounding when we look at. And even the Cdc. When you look at the aces, study adverse childhood experiences
00:40:21.770 --> 00:40:34.660 Stephanie McAuliffe: and the impact on us from the perspective of disease. There's a reason why cancer rates are so high. There's a reason why heart disease and high blood pressure is so high. There's direct correlation
00:40:34.890 --> 00:40:39.130 Stephanie McAuliffe: to our adverse childhood experiences, to to the
00:40:40.090 --> 00:40:43.269 Stephanie McAuliffe: physical ailments we experience as adults.
00:40:44.770 --> 00:40:47.429 Linda Marsanico: It was a pediatrician who did a Ted talk on that.
00:40:47.680 --> 00:40:52.940 Linda Marsanico: She had been seeing children come in with all these illnesses, so she did research.
00:40:53.640 --> 00:40:58.790 Linda Marsanico: And one of my clients wrote to me to tell me to watch it, because it described his childhood.
00:40:59.710 --> 00:41:01.679 Linda Marsanico: It's very powerful, and it's
00:41:02.500 --> 00:41:09.689 Linda Marsanico: a very good thing that we're seeing some research to support. What we feel is appropriate and true.
00:41:09.940 --> 00:41:19.500 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yeah. And that's why, in my second book I talk about the science and the energetics and give invitations to the reader to go deeper into
00:41:19.700 --> 00:41:24.109 Stephanie McAuliffe: their own story, because when we see how these breadcrumbs are connected.
00:41:25.140 --> 00:41:31.270 Stephanie McAuliffe: say, Oh, that's where that comes from. I don't have to hold on to it. I don't have to own it anymore.
00:41:32.410 --> 00:41:34.149 Stephanie McAuliffe: And I can let this go.
00:41:35.220 --> 00:41:38.609 Stephanie McAuliffe: Don't have to carry this energetic bag of rocks anymore.
00:41:41.040 --> 00:41:44.689 Linda Marsanico: It sounds uplifting to hear you say it.
00:41:44.870 --> 00:41:53.880 Linda Marsanico: and the energy around the statement is very positive and actually spectacular.
00:41:54.460 --> 00:41:57.410 Linda Marsanico: I can let that go. I don't have to live with that.
00:41:57.730 --> 00:42:00.890 Linda Marsanico: I can let that I can let go of my story.
00:42:00.890 --> 00:42:06.260 Stephanie McAuliffe: We can. And this is why this is why I do the work that I do.
00:42:07.060 --> 00:42:09.600 Stephanie McAuliffe: because it's not just about the alcoholism.
00:42:11.180 --> 00:42:14.029 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's the layers that are underneath it.
00:42:15.430 --> 00:42:18.299 Stephanie McAuliffe: and the importance of healing those layers
00:42:18.870 --> 00:42:24.570 Stephanie McAuliffe: that is so important for our individual sovereignty and freedom.
00:42:27.250 --> 00:42:36.310 Linda Marsanico: That's a quite a worthy prize to seek. It's it's a the goal that can propel us
00:42:36.630 --> 00:42:45.040 Linda Marsanico: through the challenging work that needs to be done. There's quite a prize awaiting, I can tell you from personal experience.
00:42:45.800 --> 00:42:48.069 Stephanie McAuliffe: We are the light at the end of the tunnel.
00:42:48.070 --> 00:42:52.279 Linda Marsanico: Yes, we are the ones we've been waiting for.
00:42:52.470 --> 00:42:53.470 Stephanie McAuliffe: Absolutely.
00:42:53.470 --> 00:43:00.210 Linda Marsanico: Yes, now I know that we're coming to a break. It's a couple of minutes.
00:43:02.720 --> 00:43:08.080 Linda Marsanico: So I want to wait until we get back from the break. To talk about this is very important.
00:43:08.210 --> 00:43:16.000 Linda Marsanico: There is no story that can't be healed, because some people think I can never get rid of this. I'm beyond healing, and we'll talk about that. But since we have a minute.
00:43:16.160 --> 00:43:18.389 Linda Marsanico: can you tell us about your free gift?
00:43:19.250 --> 00:43:23.060 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yes, so it is 3 guided meditations
00:43:23.700 --> 00:43:27.169 Stephanie McAuliffe: that one connects us back with joy.
00:43:27.870 --> 00:43:30.289 Stephanie McAuliffe: Another one is, I am safe.
00:43:30.740 --> 00:43:41.490 Stephanie McAuliffe: and the 3rd is an alchemy bowl meditation to help clear out your energy centers and just sit for 15 min and relax
00:43:41.880 --> 00:43:44.110 Stephanie McAuliffe: where we don't have to do anything.
00:43:44.300 --> 00:43:47.499 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's an opportunity where you get to just be.
00:43:48.530 --> 00:43:51.530 Stephanie McAuliffe: which is a gift in and of itself to you.
00:43:51.930 --> 00:44:01.080 Stephanie McAuliffe: So I am safe. It's connecting with joy which is inherently ours. Yet through traumas we lose our connection to it.
00:44:02.690 --> 00:44:03.499 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we get to breathe.
00:44:05.650 --> 00:44:09.599 Linda Marsanico: With that, Stephanie. Let's take a break
00:44:09.800 --> 00:44:12.730 Linda Marsanico: and tell our listeners that we're going to be discussing
00:44:13.260 --> 00:44:16.749 Linda Marsanico: that there is no story that can't be healed, and I'm quoting you.
00:44:17.730 --> 00:44:19.109 Linda Marsanico: Let's take a break now.
00:45:51.920 --> 00:46:00.839 Linda Marsanico: Hello, everyone! Welcome back to the A. Train to Sedona broadcast. I'm Linda Marcannico. Stephanie Mcauliffe is here with me.
00:46:02.060 --> 00:46:12.740 Linda Marsanico: There's a very important statement that's being made today, because sometimes people can feel that they've been so traumatized they cannot let it go.
00:46:13.330 --> 00:46:24.079 Linda Marsanico: We're talking about Stephanie's statement that there is no story that can't be healed, Stephanie, would you share your thoughts about this? Your experiences.
00:46:25.640 --> 00:46:29.250 Stephanie McAuliffe: I was so attached to my stories
00:46:29.430 --> 00:46:38.180 Stephanie McAuliffe: that they kept me connected with the exact thing I didn't want anymore, that I was a victim
00:46:38.410 --> 00:46:43.030 Stephanie McAuliffe: of sexual abuse, multiple times going back to being an infant.
00:46:43.920 --> 00:46:51.289 Stephanie McAuliffe: that I was a victim of growing up with functional alcoholism, of silencing. Of
00:46:51.590 --> 00:46:58.050 Stephanie McAuliffe: all these things of why I was the way that I was the layers of my cake.
00:47:00.270 --> 00:47:06.449 Stephanie McAuliffe: I finally got tired of telling the story, and of feeling like
00:47:06.560 --> 00:47:09.909 Stephanie McAuliffe: I was in that box that I had created for myself.
00:47:11.130 --> 00:47:14.740 Stephanie McAuliffe: So when we get to the point of
00:47:15.800 --> 00:47:21.730 Stephanie McAuliffe: I don't want to tell this story anymore, I don't want to be defined by these labels anymore.
00:47:21.850 --> 00:47:26.989 Stephanie McAuliffe: I am ready to let go of that energetic bag of rocks.
00:47:28.120 --> 00:47:33.250 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's like the door will open up for us for us to step through.
00:47:35.670 --> 00:47:40.939 Stephanie McAuliffe: so we can hold on to anger. And there's a great quote by Buddha that says.
00:47:41.160 --> 00:47:47.519 Stephanie McAuliffe: holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
00:47:48.920 --> 00:47:51.130 Stephanie McAuliffe: The other person has moved on with their life.
00:47:51.780 --> 00:47:56.560 Stephanie McAuliffe: Whether they are dealing with it or not is none of our business.
00:47:57.980 --> 00:48:06.280 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's interesting. I wrote a blog post a number of years ago in a dream my stepbrother came to me asking for absolution.
00:48:07.710 --> 00:48:11.790 Stephanie McAuliffe: and I said, it's not for me to absolve you that's between you and God.
00:48:12.460 --> 00:48:13.900 Stephanie McAuliffe: I have forgiven you.
00:48:14.110 --> 00:48:23.999 Stephanie McAuliffe: I don't hold any anger towards you, or ill will, because I now have a better understanding of your background, and where you came from.
00:48:25.090 --> 00:48:29.480 Stephanie McAuliffe: and why I why, what happened between us happened
00:48:31.440 --> 00:48:33.940 Stephanie McAuliffe: when I chose to let go of that.
00:48:34.460 --> 00:48:41.539 Stephanie McAuliffe: I freed myself so. And the blog post is is up on my website.
00:48:43.160 --> 00:48:51.600 Stephanie McAuliffe: Absolution. If we think we can absolve someone of something, we're actually putting ourselves on a pedestal up above them
00:48:52.270 --> 00:48:58.779 Stephanie McAuliffe: versus when we are in a victim mode, we've put someone else on a pedestal above us.
00:48:59.210 --> 00:49:01.319 Stephanie McAuliffe: No one is above anybody else.
00:49:02.240 --> 00:49:04.629 Stephanie McAuliffe: There are people who have different skills.
00:49:05.480 --> 00:49:10.320 Stephanie McAuliffe: There are people who have different abilities, or may have been
00:49:11.240 --> 00:49:15.469 Stephanie McAuliffe: voted into or put into a position of power.
00:49:15.710 --> 00:49:19.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: It doesn't mean they actually have power over us.
00:49:20.580 --> 00:49:25.729 Stephanie McAuliffe: So when I say there is no story that can't be healed when we choose
00:49:25.930 --> 00:49:32.370 Stephanie McAuliffe: to say I am done with this in all aspects the door opens.
00:49:32.820 --> 00:49:36.660 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we can free ourselves on whole new levels.
00:49:41.140 --> 00:49:49.150 Linda Marsanico: The open door is quite a reality and a metaphor. There's a book
00:49:49.550 --> 00:49:52.240 Linda Marsanico: I don't remember. It's a small book
00:49:52.370 --> 00:49:55.099 Linda Marsanico: that Christ says I am the open door.
00:49:55.970 --> 00:50:03.750 Linda Marsanico: So if we want to say that the universe is the open door or my letting go of this, I'm getting out of this box
00:50:04.820 --> 00:50:11.490 Linda Marsanico: I'm letting go. I'm going through the door. It's it's a powerful intention.
00:50:12.750 --> 00:50:17.230 Linda Marsanico: and it has an energy, and it's 1 of it's the 1st tip in my book.
00:50:17.350 --> 00:50:26.979 Linda Marsanico: having the intention to be on the spiritual path, and then the second taking responsibility. These are very important attitudes to have. I'm going to open that door.
00:50:27.330 --> 00:50:30.319 Linda Marsanico: and then we take. You know, I think of the Wonder Woman power pose.
00:50:31.120 --> 00:50:31.970 Linda Marsanico: Like this.
00:50:32.340 --> 00:50:32.740 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yeah.
00:50:32.740 --> 00:50:37.329 Linda Marsanico: Yeah. And then the new. The new Wonder Woman has wristbands.
00:50:37.510 --> 00:50:40.200 Linda Marsanico: and people are shooting at her.
00:50:40.500 --> 00:50:47.869 Linda Marsanico: So you think of criticisms and people disagreeing in vitriolic terms.
00:50:48.250 --> 00:50:55.270 Linda Marsanico: Just be a powerful warrior. So that brings me to ask you, where did the name, diamond warrior come from?
00:50:55.680 --> 00:50:58.730 Stephanie McAuliffe: It was a download, and.
00:50:58.730 --> 00:50:59.055 Linda Marsanico: Hmm.
00:50:59.930 --> 00:51:05.310 Stephanie McAuliffe: If we think of our heart, our heart is like a diamond through
00:51:05.460 --> 00:51:12.350 Stephanie McAuliffe: trauma, through trying to protect ourselves, we block our heart. We don't allow our own light to shine.
00:51:14.030 --> 00:51:20.009 Stephanie McAuliffe: There's a phrase on my website that says achieving peace is an act of defiance.
00:51:21.870 --> 00:51:27.219 Stephanie McAuliffe: We are defying the old rules. We can become our own warrior.
00:51:28.030 --> 00:51:33.279 Stephanie McAuliffe: and say no to the old rules, to say no to the old paradigms, to say no to the old way of being.
00:51:34.320 --> 00:51:39.559 Stephanie McAuliffe: And as we remove and clear these layers out from
00:51:39.960 --> 00:51:43.770 Stephanie McAuliffe: around our heart, and I have a whole process that I take people through.
00:51:44.760 --> 00:51:47.900 Stephanie McAuliffe: we allow the the diamond that is our heart to shine.
00:51:50.740 --> 00:51:53.790 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yeah, the phrase that the
00:51:54.460 --> 00:51:59.249 Stephanie McAuliffe: when I and then when I think of the way it goes back to you know, Jesus.
00:51:59.510 --> 00:52:02.930 Stephanie McAuliffe: but this is not. This is a spiritual journey.
00:52:03.430 --> 00:52:09.879 Stephanie McAuliffe: and we all, being diamond warriors, allow ourselves to shine.
00:52:10.100 --> 00:52:10.720 Linda Marsanico: Hmm!
00:52:13.700 --> 00:52:20.760 Linda Marsanico: And that's an important nugget. It's it's very powerful to know that we have.
00:52:21.140 --> 00:52:25.620 Linda Marsanico: I think, of the redwood trees about a thousand feet tall.
00:52:26.070 --> 00:52:33.010 Linda Marsanico: If you bring it back, bring it back. You bring it to the seed. That was that huge
00:52:33.820 --> 00:52:40.999 Linda Marsanico: redwood tree. And so we have everything that we need, as the redwood tree does, to grow to spectacular heights.
00:52:41.450 --> 00:52:49.119 Linda Marsanico: And the heart is very powerful. It is said that you know, as we meditate and we speak, our heart softens.
00:52:49.580 --> 00:52:59.120 Linda Marsanico: that the energy precedes us, it is behind us, and people feel that, and that is what shifts
00:52:59.910 --> 00:53:00.860 Linda Marsanico: the earth.
00:53:01.410 --> 00:53:10.760 Linda Marsanico: the people in it, our looking at ourselves to heal self, to be compassionate and loving and forgiving, and all of that.
00:53:10.930 --> 00:53:11.490 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yeah.
00:53:11.730 --> 00:53:17.040 Stephanie McAuliffe: And and I'm thinking of, you know, we can sometimes not see the sun
00:53:17.340 --> 00:53:20.439 Stephanie McAuliffe: because of clouds, and yet the sun is always there.
00:53:21.160 --> 00:53:28.710 Stephanie McAuliffe: and when the clouds part the light comes in, and it's like opening that door, and sometimes it is going into 12 step.
00:53:29.120 --> 00:53:34.449 Stephanie McAuliffe: and then, or therapy, or a group, or a coach.
00:53:34.960 --> 00:53:39.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: We open multiple doors for ourselves on this healing journey.
00:53:41.340 --> 00:53:44.650 Stephanie McAuliffe: And each time we're saying yes to ourselves.
00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:46.500 Linda Marsanico: And we get to peel back.
00:53:46.810 --> 00:53:49.210 Stephanie McAuliffe: There's there's someone that I've
00:53:49.970 --> 00:53:55.190 Stephanie McAuliffe: instead of using the analogy of the onion, she she uses the analogy of the artichoke.
00:53:55.600 --> 00:54:02.550 Stephanie McAuliffe: because, as we peel back all of the leaves we get to the heart, we get to our heart.
00:54:04.720 --> 00:54:07.849 Stephanie McAuliffe: So there's a purpose of trying to go to the center.
00:54:08.300 --> 00:54:11.219 Stephanie McAuliffe: It's not just to peel things away and throw them away.
00:54:12.170 --> 00:54:15.960 Stephanie McAuliffe: Yes, we can send that energy off and and be done with it.
00:54:16.680 --> 00:54:19.960 Stephanie McAuliffe: And yet it's coming back to us.
00:54:21.080 --> 00:54:23.780 Linda Marsanico: I think that gives people hope to hear
00:54:23.890 --> 00:54:27.740 Linda Marsanico: what you've just said, that there is hope, and
00:54:28.000 --> 00:54:30.849 Linda Marsanico: when they're ready, when we're ready we do the work.
00:54:31.000 --> 00:54:36.729 Linda Marsanico: but there's no judgment. There's just. I'm not ready yet, or I'm going to open that door.
00:54:37.940 --> 00:54:43.410 Stephanie McAuliffe: And it's finding a safe place. So I've had clients who have come to me, who have shared things
00:54:43.820 --> 00:54:48.180 Stephanie McAuliffe: where they've never given a voice to it before, and
00:54:48.930 --> 00:54:53.779 Stephanie McAuliffe: they know they're in a safe space where they can do that because there is no judgment.
00:54:54.220 --> 00:54:56.610 Stephanie McAuliffe: I've done enough things to myself.
00:54:57.050 --> 00:54:59.309 Stephanie McAuliffe: I've got nothing to judge.
00:54:59.860 --> 00:55:03.170 Stephanie McAuliffe: We we do what we do, and
00:55:03.590 --> 00:55:07.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: this is a big journey of self-forgiveness.
00:55:10.800 --> 00:55:16.520 Linda Marsanico: Well, this has been a glorious conversation, Stephanie.
00:55:17.120 --> 00:55:24.089 Linda Marsanico: As we have said, prior to this broadcast, we have this. There's a synergy.
00:55:24.560 --> 00:55:31.070 Linda Marsanico: In our approaches and our energy. So I'm so grateful to have you here.
00:55:32.250 --> 00:55:33.990 Linda Marsanico: How can people reach you.
00:55:35.230 --> 00:55:43.680 Stephanie McAuliffe: The best way is via my website, which is wayofthediamondwarrior.com. If you put a slash connect
00:55:44.200 --> 00:55:50.249 Stephanie McAuliffe: on the on the end of that there are different ways that
00:55:50.370 --> 00:55:55.459 Stephanie McAuliffe: people can connect in all the different ways and socials and sign up for my newsletter
00:55:55.680 --> 00:55:59.060 Stephanie McAuliffe: and explore. There's a lot of resources on my website.
00:55:59.530 --> 00:56:02.689 Linda Marsanico: And where can they purchase your book? Your 2 books.
00:56:02.690 --> 00:56:11.440 Stephanie McAuliffe: They're both on Amazon and from the slash way of the way of the diamond warrior slash connect. There are links to both of my books as well.
00:56:13.730 --> 00:56:16.710 Linda Marsanico: And are you planning any workshops.
00:56:17.180 --> 00:56:24.480 Stephanie McAuliffe: I am. The week after next. I am doing a free workshop on the conundrum of boundaries
00:56:24.830 --> 00:56:31.309 Stephanie McAuliffe: and the energy of boundaries. 8 week program begins on April 28, th
00:56:31.710 --> 00:56:36.300 Stephanie McAuliffe: and those will be up on my website in the next day or so.
00:56:36.850 --> 00:56:40.770 Linda Marsanico: Okay, listeners. You know how to get in touch with Stephanie.
00:56:41.210 --> 00:56:42.559 Linda Marsanico: Thank you again.
00:56:43.310 --> 00:56:48.340 Stephanie McAuliffe: Thank you. This has been a wonderful, wonderful conversation today.
00:56:49.810 --> 00:56:56.880 Linda Marsanico: So next week. Listeners. My guest is Dr. Enolia Harris Pedro, a New Yorker.
00:56:57.130 --> 00:56:59.580 Linda Marsanico: who now lives in Angola, Africa.
00:57:00.020 --> 00:57:03.860 Linda Marsanico: So do stay tuned next Wednesday at 12 noon.
00:57:04.750 --> 00:57:09.710 Linda Marsanico: Parting is sweet sorrow, bye, for now.
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