EPISODE SUMMARY:
Welcome back to another special episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour and the last one for 2024! Join us this week as we dive deep into the topic of why it is so important to make time for ourselves.
On this special episode I will be focusing on the benefits, challenges, and strategies for learning how to take time out of our busy schedules to just be with ourselves. It has become harder and harder to do so in recent years, yet the need is greater than ever before.
How much time do you spend with yourself? How challenging do you find spending time with just you?
Tune in to this week’s episode, "The Importance of Making Time For Ourselves" and discover the different ways that making time to be with yourself supports you, and how to deal with the challenges around it.
Tune in and share your own thoughts and feelings about being alone with ourselves on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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00:00:25.510 --> 00:00:36.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon. Good morning. Good evening. Wherever you're tuning in from welcome to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:00:36.330 --> 00:00:43.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today for our very last show
00:00:43.340 --> 00:00:57.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of 2024. I cannot believe we're already at that time of year, as my loyal, regular listeners know we always take off the last 2 weeks of the year. So after this.
00:00:57.300 --> 00:01:20.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: no new shows until January. But if you hit our live stream. If you go to Talkradio, dot Nyc. And press play on the little live stream player, you'll probably hear some reruns, some old episodes that are just as juicy and good. All right. So let's start off, as we usually do with my blog post.
00:01:20.460 --> 00:01:23.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this is a really good one. Actually.
00:01:23.770 --> 00:01:33.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this one, and it really ties into my topic. In some ways I really like this blog post, and I'm really glad this is the one that we're going to end the year on.
00:01:33.830 --> 00:01:36.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the title for this one is
00:01:37.300 --> 00:01:41.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all we have is this present moment.
00:01:43.710 --> 00:01:45.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life can be hard.
00:01:46.360 --> 00:01:49.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We may experience pain and suffering
00:01:50.390 --> 00:01:53.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that can cause us not to want to be here.
00:01:54.210 --> 00:01:56.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to run away from the agony
00:01:57.060 --> 00:02:00.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we may want to hide from our life or our past.
00:02:02.470 --> 00:02:06.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just find a way to stop the pain.
00:02:06.900 --> 00:02:09.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be too much for us at times.
00:02:10.580 --> 00:02:15.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Often we just don't have good ways to cope with the pain.
00:02:16.510 --> 00:02:19.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it takes us away from the present moment
00:02:20.260 --> 00:02:24.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we just don't want to feel it anymore.
00:02:25.690 --> 00:02:29.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All we want is to have some relief and feel better.
00:02:29.760 --> 00:02:34.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We use all kinds of things to take us away from the pain.
00:02:35.390 --> 00:02:40.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: drugs, sex, food, alcohol, even our phones.
00:02:41.730 --> 00:02:46.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All these distractions take us out of the present moment.
00:02:47.220 --> 00:02:52.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They take us away, however briefly, from what we are feeling
00:02:53.960 --> 00:03:00.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: while this coping coping mechanism is necessary, it also hurts us.
00:03:01.770 --> 00:03:06.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for we get so used to not being in the present moment
00:03:06.580 --> 00:03:11.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we learn to almost never be here now.
00:03:12.290 --> 00:03:16.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The shame of it is, we only have the present moment.
00:03:17.230 --> 00:03:23.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This moment right here right now, is all we truly have.
00:03:24.970 --> 00:03:28.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All of life is lived in the present.
00:03:29.090 --> 00:03:33.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for the past is gone, and the future hasn't happened yet.
00:03:34.790 --> 00:03:40.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet. We either get stuck, avoiding our feelings for what happened in the past.
00:03:40.760 --> 00:03:48.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or we escape into a future that never comes as conscious beings. With choice.
00:03:48.750 --> 00:03:51.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can make a different decision.
00:03:52.750 --> 00:04:00.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can learn to deal with the pain and the sorrow from our past, and then let it go.
00:04:01.230 --> 00:04:09.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Freedom comes when we go through that pain into the wholeness that awaits on the other side. For us
00:04:12.060 --> 00:04:15.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's not easy, that is certain.
00:04:16.269 --> 00:04:21.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The path through the pain is for the truly heroic at heart.
00:04:22.450 --> 00:04:25.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for some of us never get there.
00:04:26.080 --> 00:04:37.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we miss out on so much when all we do is find another way to take us out of the pain and out of presence.
00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:40.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There was no easy answer.
00:04:41.460 --> 00:04:50.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The solution is challenging, but the reward is the greatest prize of all having our life back.
00:04:51.200 --> 00:05:02.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being able to live in the present moment. Once again, this present moment and only this present moment
00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:04.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is all we ever have.
00:05:06.300 --> 00:05:10.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even being present to the pain and anguish
00:05:10.850 --> 00:05:14.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is better than being checked out altogether
00:05:16.480 --> 00:05:22.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for this, and since for the sensation of pain is not the hardest part.
00:05:24.540 --> 00:05:29.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is all the stories we create around the pain.
00:05:30.850 --> 00:05:34.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how we tell ourselves that it will go on forever.
00:05:37.650 --> 00:05:42.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or how it means. There is something wrong with us.
00:05:43.600 --> 00:05:52.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we can stop judging the pain as something bad, even for a moment.
00:05:52.430 --> 00:05:56.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it makes being present to it so much easier.
00:05:58.480 --> 00:06:02.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then perhaps, we can take a moment to see the pain
00:06:03.470 --> 00:06:06.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for what the pain is trying to teach us.
00:06:08.110 --> 00:06:10.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we can come to that place.
00:06:10.860 --> 00:06:17.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can learn to live in all our present moments.
00:06:20.100 --> 00:06:22.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is there something in your life
00:06:23.060 --> 00:06:25.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that you are not being present to?
00:06:27.370 --> 00:06:30.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Can you find a way to be present to it.
00:06:31.350 --> 00:06:33.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even though it can be painful?
00:06:36.180 --> 00:06:39.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I believe I wrote this blog post a couple of years ago.
00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:43.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when I started working with a client
00:06:43.460 --> 00:06:49.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who would come to our ceremonies, and pretty much her whole experience
00:06:50.460 --> 00:06:52.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was just being in pain the whole time.
00:06:54.760 --> 00:06:58.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and throughout the whole session you can hear her crying, and
00:06:58.830 --> 00:07:04.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, just making noise, barely conscious in some ways.
00:07:06.370 --> 00:07:12.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if she did say something often, it was. I don't want to be here. Why am I here?
00:07:12.500 --> 00:07:15.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why is why is this happening to me?
00:07:16.050 --> 00:07:20.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because there was so much trauma from such a young age.
00:07:20.600 --> 00:07:26.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It it was almost you could tell. The trauma must have come from before the time she was even able to speak.
00:07:31.010 --> 00:07:46.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just observing and seeing her go through her process, it made me really reflect on
00:07:47.950 --> 00:07:51.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: presence and not being present, and
00:07:51.190 --> 00:07:56.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how brave she was for facing her pain and being present to it.
00:08:03.540 --> 00:08:08.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We also want to be careful not to wallow in our pain, not to marinate in it.
00:08:10.550 --> 00:08:28.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But yeah, whether it's sadness, anguish, anguish, grief, loss, whatever your pain is, fear, whatever your pain is.
00:08:32.850 --> 00:08:35.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we're not present to it.
00:08:37.360 --> 00:08:39.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we miss out not just on that.
00:08:40.100 --> 00:08:42.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but we miss out on our whole life.
00:08:43.530 --> 00:08:52.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because the thing they never teach us in school. The thing our parents never taught us is that
00:08:52.620 --> 00:08:56.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can't just not be present to part of our life.
00:08:57.930 --> 00:09:05.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because not being present is a habit, it is a skill we acquire.
00:09:07.250 --> 00:09:10.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it when it becomes so ingrained
00:09:11.450 --> 00:09:14.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we keep missing out and keep missing out.
00:09:17.160 --> 00:09:22.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I keep missing out until there's no more life left.
00:09:26.840 --> 00:09:27.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:09:29.870 --> 00:09:37.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know for a lot of my clients. They look at me when I'm like I'm crazy when I say we've got to be present to the pain.
00:09:39.300 --> 00:09:41.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The present moment is all we have.
00:09:42.200 --> 00:09:45.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if that's where we are, then that's where we are.
00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:57.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the one thing one ray of hope, the one lifeline
00:09:59.320 --> 00:10:06.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we can hold on to in the midst of all that pain is that
00:10:07.270 --> 00:10:19.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the more able we are to experience that pain, the more able we are to hold it, to feel the sadness, the sorrow, the fear, the anguish.
00:10:20.060 --> 00:10:26.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the terror, the loss, the more we're able to hold it.
00:10:28.680 --> 00:10:35.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then the more joy we can feel, the more happiness we can feel, the more passion, the more excitement.
00:10:38.270 --> 00:10:42.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the more we can just feel period.
00:10:48.360 --> 00:10:56.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the reason why this is such an important thing to talk about
00:10:57.570 --> 00:11:00.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is because, especially in today's society.
00:11:01.750 --> 00:11:09.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where our phones, our computers, our screens, take us out of presence all the time all the time.
00:11:12.130 --> 00:11:15.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hey? I'm as guilty as the next next person.
00:11:16.070 --> 00:11:22.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I on my phone at times when I shouldn't be on my phone. I'm not present at times when I should be present
00:11:23.660 --> 00:11:33.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and look nobody, except maybe you know these Buddhists monks who've been meditating for 50, 60 years. Nobody's present all the time.
00:11:33.600 --> 00:11:35.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not what I'm saying.
00:11:38.980 --> 00:11:40.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Point of this blog
00:11:44.250 --> 00:11:47.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is to not shy away from the pain.
00:11:51.260 --> 00:12:02.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not to push it down and suppress it with alcohol or other drugs, or video games or phones, or whatever it is.
00:12:04.630 --> 00:12:07.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because the more we suppress that energy.
00:12:08.270 --> 00:12:11.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the more we stuff it down and we ignore it.
00:12:12.730 --> 00:12:15.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the stronger and stronger it's going to come back.
00:12:16.910 --> 00:12:26.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if we can continue to ignore it and not feel it, not face it, it'll eventually come back
00:12:26.510 --> 00:12:29.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as a physical disease or physical problem.
00:12:33.790 --> 00:12:36.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've always been a big believer in
00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:46.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: everything is energy first, st until that energy gets so dense that then it
00:12:46.870 --> 00:12:50.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it manifests down into a physical form.
00:12:52.240 --> 00:12:57.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if it's not yet manifested to a physical problem. Great.
00:12:58.300 --> 00:13:01.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then let's work with that energy.
00:13:01.840 --> 00:13:07.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let's process and feel that energy and find our way through.
00:13:09.980 --> 00:13:14.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that then we can really be present to the rest of our lives
00:13:15.890 --> 00:13:19.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we can be present for the joy of a spring day.
00:13:20.690 --> 00:13:23.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of a walk on the beach or in the park?
00:13:25.060 --> 00:13:29.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Are we present to being in the company of good friends?
00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:35.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Be present to whatever is happening in the moment.
00:13:38.390 --> 00:13:40.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the surest way I know.
00:13:42.220 --> 00:13:46.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To just make it a little bit easier. To be present to the pain
00:13:49.990 --> 00:13:53.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is to just feel it without any judgment
00:13:53.410 --> 00:14:02.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just be present to whatever your pain is like, I said. The fear, the anxiety, the depression, the worry.
00:14:04.990 --> 00:14:06.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the loss, the grief
00:14:09.700 --> 00:14:15.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just be present to it, and not make a story around it
00:14:15.270 --> 00:14:27.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and not make how you're an awful person because you're feeling this and not tell yourself the story that oh, life is punishing me. God is punishing me because you're feeling this.
00:14:29.350 --> 00:14:31.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not a punishment.
00:14:32.830 --> 00:14:40.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's just what we feel, and our feelings are wonderful things.
00:14:40.520 --> 00:14:43.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's so much information in our feelings.
00:14:45.520 --> 00:14:49.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the whole reason why we feel pain.
00:14:50.670 --> 00:14:53.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that we know we need to make a change.
00:14:53.910 --> 00:14:57.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to know that something doesn't feel right for us.
00:14:59.570 --> 00:15:05.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes most of the time our pain is inflicted on us from other people.
00:15:07.720 --> 00:15:19.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but the fact that they inflict pain on us is not nearly as detrimental as the stories we make upon about that pain that's been inflicted upon us.
00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:26.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The stories we make about that person who inflicted the pain, and, more importantly, the stories we make about ourselves
00:15:26.530 --> 00:15:29.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for having the pain inflicted on us.
00:15:32.070 --> 00:15:32.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:15:36.990 --> 00:15:40.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with this blog post, with this last show of the year.
00:15:42.860 --> 00:15:59.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I implore anyone listening to this. No matter when you're listening to us, whether you're watching the video on Youtube or listening to the podcast. On apple or spotify wherever you happen to come across this message.
00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:03.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you're hearing this message, this message is for you.
00:16:06.550 --> 00:16:08.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't run away from the feelings
00:16:12.860 --> 00:16:22.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: present to them, so you can be present to your life, so that one day.
00:16:23.340 --> 00:16:28.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when you're much, much older, you don't look back and say, Oh, I wish
00:16:28.920 --> 00:16:34.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I wish I had done this or that. I wish I had been more present to my friends, my family, my loved ones.
00:16:40.270 --> 00:16:44.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just know, just know, because I've been there
00:16:45.590 --> 00:16:52.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but the other side of feeling that pain, the other side of feeling, all those uncomfortable feelings.
00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:56.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There are wonderful, joyful feelings waiting for you.
00:16:57.950 --> 00:17:03.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You may not be able to access them right now. You may not be able to feel them right now.
00:17:04.420 --> 00:17:06.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but if you do the deep work.
00:17:08.450 --> 00:17:12.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you can find somehow some way
00:17:13.230 --> 00:17:16.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be present, and hold that pain
00:17:17.849 --> 00:17:24.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and give it some space to breathe without making any story around it.
00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:31.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that eventually it has to dissipate.
00:17:31.680 --> 00:17:33.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It has to be processed.
00:17:36.440 --> 00:17:43.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and maybe it'll never leave. But maybe we can integrate it into ourselves, into our lives
00:17:43.760 --> 00:17:46.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and know that it's there, and it's a part of us.
00:17:48.460 --> 00:17:51.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's something we can carry with us.
00:17:51.170 --> 00:17:54.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but not as a burden as a lesson.
00:17:57.530 --> 00:18:02.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if we can be present to that, we can be present to anything.
00:18:03.080 --> 00:18:05.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we're really present, woof!
00:18:05.820 --> 00:18:07.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What a life we can live!
00:18:08.530 --> 00:18:15.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's my blog post. It's entitled. All we have is this present moment.
00:18:16.140 --> 00:18:18.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You can always find my blog
00:18:18.580 --> 00:18:26.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: at Talkradio, Dot, Nyc. And on my personally branded website of theconsciousconsultant.com.
00:18:27.540 --> 00:18:32.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we'll be right back, and we'll dive into our main topic of the show.
00:18:32.880 --> 00:18:37.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is the importance of making time for ourselves.
00:18:37.860 --> 00:18:41.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we'll talk about that when we come back you're listening to
00:18:41.790 --> 00:18:45.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:50.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We do this every week to be of service to you, my loyal listeners.
00:18:54.360 --> 00:18:57.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we will be right back in just a moment.
00:20:43.090 --> 00:21:00.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. This special episode, our end of the year episode, where it's just me and you and going to dive into our main topic. Now, which is the importance of making time for ourselves.
00:21:03.210 --> 00:21:08.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, it was really quite interesting how, during the pandemic.
00:21:10.520 --> 00:21:19.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 1st time in my lifetime we were kind of forced into spending time with ourselves.
00:21:20.720 --> 00:21:24.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was quite curious people's reaction to it.
00:21:26.880 --> 00:21:34.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for some people they loved having that time to themselves, but for most people
00:21:34.920 --> 00:21:44.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they didn't feel so good about it. They were so used to being around other people, so used to being distracted and running from here to there and back.
00:21:47.260 --> 00:21:51.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So having this much space, and this much time to be with ourselves.
00:21:52.040 --> 00:21:55.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was pretty uncomfortable for most people.
00:21:59.440 --> 00:22:04.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's uncomfortable for a number of different reasons.
00:22:07.040 --> 00:22:09.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if we're mindful about it.
00:22:10.070 --> 00:22:16.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we can understand the real beauty and value of spending time with ourselves.
00:22:17.440 --> 00:22:20.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Even if it's uncomfortable in the beginning.
00:22:21.070 --> 00:22:25.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we'll learn that it's 1 of the biggest gifts we can give to ourselves.
00:22:28.950 --> 00:22:32.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So why is making time for ourselves so important.
00:22:33.770 --> 00:22:43.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, if you ask anybody who has a ton of responsibilities, who has parents, kids who's constantly being pulled in a million different directions.
00:22:44.070 --> 00:22:46.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What is the one thing they often say?
00:22:47.460 --> 00:22:50.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just need some time for myself
00:22:52.040 --> 00:22:59.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: as much as we are social creatures as much as we're designed to run in packs
00:22:59.320 --> 00:23:01.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to be with others.
00:23:02.750 --> 00:23:09.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We also need time to be by ourselves. There's a balance where
00:23:10.590 --> 00:23:16.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't want to be completely by ourselves. But we don't want to be spending all our time with other people.
00:23:17.400 --> 00:23:21.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because and here's bringing it back to my blog post
00:23:22.020 --> 00:23:32.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we're constantly with other people that can take us out of presence to what we're feeling. Suddenly our attention.
00:23:32.530 --> 00:23:41.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: instead of being inward. And what's going on within us, it's outward, and it's what's going on with, you know the other people I'm with.
00:23:48.420 --> 00:23:53.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you see, when there's an imbalance
00:23:53.500 --> 00:23:57.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when too much of our time is spent
00:23:57.360 --> 00:24:00.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: focused on being with other people?
00:24:03.120 --> 00:24:07.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then how do we truly know how we feel in any given moment?
00:24:08.260 --> 00:24:10.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we know what we need?
00:24:11.510 --> 00:24:18.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we give ourselves the time to process whatever we've been going through in the moment?
00:24:22.400 --> 00:24:25.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not so easy, not so easy at all.
00:24:28.760 --> 00:24:31.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it was really funny because
00:24:35.000 --> 00:24:44.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a friend of mine recently went on a Vipassana meditation retreat and Vipassana meditation. It's where basically, you spend a whole week in silence.
00:24:44.800 --> 00:24:50.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, you're not completely alone, because there's a whole bunch of other people around there in silence as well.
00:24:50.790 --> 00:24:58.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you're just not talking so when we're not talking, when we're not expressing ourselves.
00:24:58.450 --> 00:25:02.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can be even more present to what's going on within us
00:25:09.090 --> 00:25:18.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: now. Not everybody can take off 9 days from what they're doing, and go to one of these Vipassana retreat centers
00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:24.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and be there with themselves the whole time.
00:25:25.400 --> 00:25:26.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we don't have to
00:25:29.940 --> 00:25:33.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: see. That's a big concentrated commitment.
00:25:34.110 --> 00:25:36.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then, what happens when we come back?
00:25:36.530 --> 00:25:38.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What happens in our day-to-day life.
00:25:39.930 --> 00:25:46.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, my loyal listeners know, like I'm not so much into like doing the big thing and making some big splash.
00:25:47.900 --> 00:25:52.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I like the little baby steps. I like the little things that we can do.
00:25:55.270 --> 00:26:03.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there are lots of ways, and we're going to talk about them throughout the show today. There are lots of ways to give ourselves time.
00:26:11.170 --> 00:26:17.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Somebody once described human beings to me as being these giant antennas
00:26:17.660 --> 00:26:21.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that receive and transmit energy all day long.
00:26:21.880 --> 00:26:30.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you think about it when we're with other people, there's a different energy. Our our focus is different. Our attention is different.
00:26:30.880 --> 00:26:32.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Presence is different.
00:26:34.560 --> 00:26:37.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what we don't realize is
00:26:37.810 --> 00:26:41.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're actually picking up energy from the other people.
00:26:43.750 --> 00:26:51.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, the the Heart Math Institute has measured the electromagnetic field that the heart generates.
00:26:51.260 --> 00:26:54.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's something like 6 feet. I mean, it's huge.
00:26:55.500 --> 00:26:57.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we're around other people.
00:26:58.450 --> 00:27:02.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're in their energetic field. They're in our energetic field.
00:27:03.900 --> 00:27:08.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you're very sensitive, sometimes you pick up someone else's energy.
00:27:11.160 --> 00:27:19.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we're running around all day long, going from one place to another. If you're one of those people who now has to go into an office.
00:27:20.360 --> 00:27:29.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or or if you drive a cab for a living, or if you're just, you know, because of the nature of your business, you're just always
00:27:29.480 --> 00:27:31.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: running around outside.
00:27:33.500 --> 00:27:34.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's like.
00:27:35.360 --> 00:27:41.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's like, we're always putting out this energy, putting out this energy, putting out this energy. And we're draining our battery.
00:27:43.360 --> 00:27:48.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we don't give ourselves time to recharge. We don't give ourselves time to
00:27:49.680 --> 00:27:54.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: feel what's going on with us until we stop
00:27:56.270 --> 00:28:01.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: until we're not with other people until we take a break
00:28:02.520 --> 00:28:05.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from the frenetic nature of life.
00:28:09.150 --> 00:28:15.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know it's kind of funny. In the old days there was plenty of time
00:28:15.730 --> 00:28:25.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: outside of work within work to talk with your coworkers to socialize, to be quiet, to be in your own thoughts.
00:28:25.800 --> 00:28:41.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And these days everything is so much about making profit and being productive, and you got to do this, and you got to do that. And if it's not about that, it's you got to take your kids to every activity they have, or you know you have to attend all these functions and everything.
00:28:41.850 --> 00:28:45.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's so much to do now
00:28:46.090 --> 00:28:50.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that the idea of just sitting still and doing nothing
00:28:50.480 --> 00:28:54.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is like unthinkable in today's world.
00:28:55.880 --> 00:29:04.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet it is absolutely one of the most important things that we can do for ourselves.
00:29:09.490 --> 00:29:15.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I hope you're sitting down and taking some time while you're listening to the show
00:29:15.890 --> 00:29:19.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether you're listening to the podcast or watching the video.
00:29:21.030 --> 00:29:26.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And let's just spend a little time with ourselves. So we're going to take a little break.
00:29:27.290 --> 00:29:34.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we come back we'll talk about what are the different ways we can spend time with ourselves.
00:29:35.590 --> 00:29:38.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And why is it so important?
00:29:38.600 --> 00:29:41.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Touched upon a little bit? We'll go a little bit more in depth.
00:29:42.170 --> 00:29:48.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So everybody, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:29:49.390 --> 00:29:56.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you for joining me for my special end of your show, and we'll be right back in just a moment.
00:31:31.820 --> 00:31:39.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we're talking this episode, this last episode of the year about the importance of making time for ourselves. And I kind of
00:31:40.080 --> 00:31:45.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: talked last segment about the challenges, about why, it's hard to do it.
00:31:48.090 --> 00:31:54.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but let's talk a little bit about why you should do it. The benefits behind it. So I touched upon it a little bit.
00:31:56.050 --> 00:31:58.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But there's even more benefits.
00:31:58.760 --> 00:31:59.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:32:00.290 --> 00:32:10.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one of the things to look at is like, or you know what practice is a kind of practice that you always do on your own making time for yourself.
00:32:12.030 --> 00:32:18.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look at people who meditate, and I'm not saying you have to meditate to spend time with yourself. But I mean, if you look at
00:32:18.720 --> 00:32:25.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: practice of meditation, the practice of meditation is a practice of just sitting by yourself
00:32:25.670 --> 00:32:30.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether it's closing your eyes or not, closing your eyes and just being present to what comes up
00:32:33.240 --> 00:32:35.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and look at the benefits people get from that.
00:32:36.350 --> 00:32:38.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're more calm, more peaceful.
00:32:38.970 --> 00:32:42.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They're more present. They're more with you when they're there.
00:32:43.950 --> 00:32:52.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So many people talk about how it's helped them get past some really difficult challenges in their life, they're more centered.
00:32:53.940 --> 00:33:02.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, guess what those are. All the same benefits we get when we spend time with ourselves.
00:33:05.150 --> 00:33:13.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So spending time with ourselves will tremendously benefit us, for those times when we don't spend time with ourselves.
00:33:14.090 --> 00:33:19.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: will benefit us when we're spending time with other people when we're going out and doing things.
00:33:23.700 --> 00:33:28.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but spending time with ourselves is also important and essential
00:33:29.950 --> 00:33:37.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for us to be able to know and to feel what is right for us
00:33:39.070 --> 00:33:47.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so often. We get pushed into making a decision fast, quick, right away, you know.
00:33:47.460 --> 00:33:51.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: One time offer. You have to do this now, or the offer goes away
00:33:52.330 --> 00:34:00.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all these marketing techniques to scare us into making a choice right away. That doesn't necessarily serve us.
00:34:03.580 --> 00:34:08.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We were pushed to answer a question as fast as possible.
00:34:11.300 --> 00:34:13.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That doesn't serve us.
00:34:13.940 --> 00:34:21.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because sometimes in the moment we can get carried away by emotion and not make a very good decision or choice.
00:34:23.020 --> 00:34:26.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we make time for ourselves.
00:34:26.670 --> 00:34:30.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can give ourselves some space and some distance.
00:34:31.190 --> 00:34:38.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: while we're considering different choices, different decisions, and really weigh
00:34:39.159 --> 00:34:44.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether it feels right to us whether it makes sense.
00:34:44.980 --> 00:34:48.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether it's going to bring us what we truly want.
00:34:50.300 --> 00:34:55.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, I'll be the 1st to admit there were lots of decisions in my life
00:34:56.969 --> 00:34:59.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I made way too hastily
00:34:59.720 --> 00:35:02.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that I did not spend time with myself.
00:35:02.920 --> 00:35:06.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I deeply regret some of those decisions
00:35:07.480 --> 00:35:13.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: cause almost always, when I don't take time to sit with it, to sleep on it.
00:35:14.450 --> 00:35:16.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to give myself some space with it
00:35:18.720 --> 00:35:26.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: almost never works out the way I expected, or the way that would ultimately serve me best.
00:35:29.970 --> 00:35:34.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So spending time with ourselves and making time for ourselves
00:35:35.070 --> 00:35:40.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: helps us to make much, much better choices in our life.
00:35:42.070 --> 00:35:46.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we create our life through the choices that we make.
00:35:48.840 --> 00:35:52.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So what can be more important than that?
00:35:53.070 --> 00:35:55.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What can be a bigger benefit than that.
00:35:59.990 --> 00:36:02.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now the challenge with it is.
00:36:03.270 --> 00:36:12.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there are so many demands on our time. There are so many people who want our attention. There's so much to see and do
00:36:13.440 --> 00:36:17.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we feel like we're missing out on something.
00:36:17.800 --> 00:36:20.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we're not constantly engaged constantly doing something
00:36:21.110 --> 00:36:26.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: constantly appeasing the other person who wants our attention.
00:36:29.300 --> 00:36:33.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But how can we really be present to them
00:36:34.140 --> 00:36:44.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we haven't spent some time with ourself checking in with ourself, feeling ourself, finding our center.
00:36:47.240 --> 00:36:50.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How can we really, truly be with another person?
00:36:52.050 --> 00:36:57.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I know there are always exceptions. I know there are people who are caregivers
00:36:58.720 --> 00:37:07.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who are taking care of elderly parents or young children, or other relatives who have no one else to care for them.
00:37:09.330 --> 00:37:14.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but sometimes taking time for ourselves, can just be a little thing.
00:37:16.140 --> 00:37:21.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't mean having to take a whole evening off and and shirk our responsibilities.
00:37:23.890 --> 00:37:27.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes it can just be taking 5 min out
00:37:30.140 --> 00:37:32.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just sit and be quiet
00:37:32.780 --> 00:37:37.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: before we enter into our next thing, before we engage in the next thing.
00:37:40.340 --> 00:37:44.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just give ourselves an opportunity to breathe.
00:37:45.100 --> 00:37:47.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just relax and just go.
00:37:56.460 --> 00:38:01.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't have to take care of the world, and we don't have to carry it on our backs.
00:38:05.040 --> 00:38:07.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but sometimes it feels like we do.
00:38:10.830 --> 00:38:15.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if we can just give ourselves a moment
00:38:18.550 --> 00:38:24.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just breathe, to just notice our breath.
00:38:26.380 --> 00:38:33.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to notice how we feel in our body this wonderful machine, this mechanism that we've been given that
00:38:33.620 --> 00:38:38.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: serves us so well, at least for most of most of us through our life
00:38:47.510 --> 00:38:50.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when there's so much to do and so much to be done.
00:38:51.090 --> 00:38:56.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So many people. Yeah, it's challenging to take time for ourselves.
00:38:57.650 --> 00:38:59.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: lots of little ways to do it.
00:39:01.210 --> 00:39:16.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'll tell you my secret. Please don't tell anybody this. I'm holding you all to like the strictest of confidentiality. Okay, I want you all to promise me you're not going to share Sam's secret of how he makes time for himself. Sometimes when it's challenging.
00:39:18.210 --> 00:39:20.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I tell people I have to go to the bathroom.
00:39:22.260 --> 00:39:28.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'll go and close the door, and I'll do my business if I have any business to do, and if not, I'll just sit there.
00:39:31.040 --> 00:39:33.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'll just sit and take a breath.
00:39:36.060 --> 00:39:38.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'll just take my time
00:39:39.300 --> 00:39:42.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hopefully. Nobody needs to use the bathroom at that time.
00:39:43.490 --> 00:39:47.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And maybe I'll wash my hands, I'll look in the mirror.
00:39:47.840 --> 00:39:50.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I'll really take my time.
00:39:51.610 --> 00:39:54.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because that's the one place people
00:39:54.900 --> 00:39:58.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: often are very reticent to disturb us.
00:40:01.150 --> 00:40:06.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So yeah, I'm holding you to my secret. Do not tell anyone.
00:40:06.950 --> 00:40:11.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But yeah, just saying, Hey, I need to go to the bathroom. I'll be back in a minute.
00:40:11.630 --> 00:40:16.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and just take your time there, don't rush it.
00:40:17.470 --> 00:40:19.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't be looking to get out of it.
00:40:20.400 --> 00:40:25.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just sit there, then, take your time.
00:40:27.010 --> 00:40:34.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's my sanctuary used to be known as the library. I know most people refer to the bathroom as the library.
00:40:35.520 --> 00:40:37.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but really it's a sanctuary.
00:40:38.420 --> 00:40:41.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's just one little trick that I use
00:40:42.240 --> 00:40:44.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: feel free to use it yourselves.
00:40:44.780 --> 00:40:48.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't tell anybody that that's what I do. Okay, just between you and me
00:40:53.320 --> 00:40:59.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the reason why I'll do that because I know how important it is to make time for ourselves.
00:41:01.540 --> 00:41:05.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there are a lot of little ways to do it. I mean, there are big ways also.
00:41:05.670 --> 00:41:08.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but there's a lot of little ways to do it.
00:41:09.900 --> 00:41:15.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and especially especially if somebody is pushing us for an answer.
00:41:16.590 --> 00:41:19.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, that's when we gotta use that.
00:41:19.430 --> 00:41:24.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I need to slip. Sleep on it. I'm not sure how I feel about it right now.
00:41:25.080 --> 00:41:27.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I need a little time to sit with it.
00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:38.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't answer them right away. If it's a big choice, a big decision, or even if it's a small one. But you're just not sure.
00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:42.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Give yourself some time and space.
00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:48.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You don't always have to answer a question. Someone asks you
00:41:49.830 --> 00:41:53.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: lots of ways to avoid answering the question that was asked of you.
00:41:55.080 --> 00:41:59.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can always say, Hmm, that's a really good question. Let me think about it.
00:42:00.820 --> 00:42:03.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, that's really interesting.
00:42:03.600 --> 00:42:04.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what
00:42:05.050 --> 00:42:10.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really need to feel into this. I really need to think about this. I really need to consider everything
00:42:12.230 --> 00:42:25.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or just the Oh, my God! This is wonderful! I'd love to answer you, but I've just got so much going on right now. I don't even know what the answer would be. Give me some time, and I'll and I'll find you an answer.
00:42:27.280 --> 00:42:30.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Put them off. Just put them off.
00:42:33.210 --> 00:42:40.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is nothing as important for us as making time for ourselves.
00:42:43.770 --> 00:42:49.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now look, is this absolute? Can you always do this? Of course not.
00:42:49.850 --> 00:42:54.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes there are things that are pressing
00:42:54.550 --> 00:42:57.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that need a decision right away.
00:42:57.430 --> 00:43:01.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes there are things that are extremely time sensitive.
00:43:03.010 --> 00:43:08.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but sometimes people make it look like there are things that are time sensitive and they're not.
00:43:09.720 --> 00:43:11.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know how you can tell.
00:43:12.320 --> 00:43:18.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, if you've taken my advice, and if you've been making time for yourself.
00:43:19.600 --> 00:43:25.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you know how you feel in your body, because you've spent time with yourself.
00:43:26.520 --> 00:43:29.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then when something like that comes.
00:43:29.400 --> 00:43:37.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you'll feel it. You'll know it right away. No one will have to tell you. It'll just be obvious to you. Oh.
00:43:39.060 --> 00:43:43.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I actually do need to answer this right away.
00:43:46.420 --> 00:43:50.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But when we're constantly living in response and reaction.
00:43:50.990 --> 00:44:00.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we're not giving ourselves a chance to breathe, then everything seems like an emergency. Everything is a crisis. Everything needs to get handled right away.
00:44:02.450 --> 00:44:09.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the truth is actually a relatively small percentage of them need to get handled right away.
00:44:12.260 --> 00:44:17.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, look, I'm not a parent. I don't know what it's like to raise small children.
00:44:17.620 --> 00:44:26.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and of course you got to get them to school. You got to get them out of bed. You got to get them to do a whole bunch of things so a lot of that stuff can feel like very time pressured.
00:44:28.770 --> 00:44:37.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But maybe it's just about giving more time for the activity, giving more time for it. So it doesn't feel so tight and so pressured.
00:44:41.670 --> 00:44:46.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's often many ways to approach something.
00:44:48.200 --> 00:44:49.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Anyway.
00:44:49.420 --> 00:44:56.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I hope this is resonating with you. I hope that you're getting something out of this discussion.
00:44:57.240 --> 00:45:01.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We do have one last break we take before we finish the show.
00:45:01.820 --> 00:45:03.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so I do have some
00:45:04.510 --> 00:45:10.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: more little golden nuggets on the importance of making time for ourselves. And I've talked about little things.
00:45:11.010 --> 00:45:16.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let's talk about some big things that maybe appear obvious, but often aren't.
00:45:17.430 --> 00:45:25.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So everyone. Please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity, and we'll be right back
00:45:25.860 --> 00:45:30.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with the last segment of my last show for 2024.
00:45:31.420 --> 00:45:32.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We'll be right back.
00:47:12.570 --> 00:47:14.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back.
00:47:15.520 --> 00:47:22.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we've been talking throughout the hour about the importance of making time for ourselves, and I've been
00:47:22.890 --> 00:47:38.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of emphasizing the little things in life, you know, taking those little short 5 min pauses, taking your time when answering a question, taking your time, even when you get out of bed in the morning, when you're going to bed at night, when you're eating your meals
00:47:40.780 --> 00:47:45.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like really, even just before you start to sit down and eat your food.
00:47:45.490 --> 00:47:47.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why not be a little more present to it?
00:47:48.190 --> 00:47:56.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why not? Just give yourself a moment and smell it. Smell how delicious it is! Take in
00:47:57.310 --> 00:48:03.258 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the colors and everything hopefully. It's a good meal.
00:48:03.860 --> 00:48:07.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but there are also some big ways. We can make time for ourselves.
00:48:07.710 --> 00:48:12.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'm going to speak for a moment to my entrepreneurs out there, because those
00:48:12.360 --> 00:48:20.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who work at companies and corporations, you know, you get your standard whatever. 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 6 weeks vacation every year.
00:48:21.480 --> 00:48:28.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But sometimes as entrepreneurs, we have a tendency to keep working, because if we're not working, we're not making money.
00:48:29.890 --> 00:48:31.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that's a horrible thing.
00:48:31.770 --> 00:48:37.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I mean I've done it. I've done it, especially since the pandemic. We thought
00:48:37.280 --> 00:48:45.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we were taking time off, but we were really house sitting and and still working, but just working from other places.
00:48:46.950 --> 00:48:54.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But today, my wife and I, we're leaving for a vacation. We're going away for 8, 9 days.
00:48:55.130 --> 00:49:03.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's something we don't always do a vacation. Sometimes it's a staycation, but we always close down our businesses for the last 2 weeks of the year.
00:49:04.900 --> 00:49:09.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean Christmas week, New Year's week. There's usually not a whole lot going on, anyway.
00:49:10.600 --> 00:49:14.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so we take it off to give us ourselves some time.
00:49:14.780 --> 00:49:23.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we've been doing it probably now for at least 7, 8 years, maybe a little longer.
00:49:24.405 --> 00:49:35.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But there were a number of years we didn't make sure to do that. You know, we would keep working, you know, during Christmas week and stuff, and I have to tell you I'm so grateful that we started this practice.
00:49:38.850 --> 00:49:44.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, sometimes people you might have businesses that can't close down. Maybe it's the busiest time of year for you.
00:49:45.290 --> 00:49:54.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but maybe it's a couple of weeks in the summer. Maybe it's a couple of weeks after tax season. I don't know whatever it is. You know your business cycles better than I do.
00:49:56.640 --> 00:50:05.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: putting in the calendar a vacation time off from work and sticking to it is one of the most important things you can do
00:50:06.060 --> 00:50:10.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to get ourselves out of our typical day-to-day stuff.
00:50:12.310 --> 00:50:18.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just to get away, just to get a different environment, different scenery.
00:50:19.450 --> 00:50:23.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we can have time and space to relax, to
00:50:23.780 --> 00:50:27.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: keep our minds fresh with something new.
00:50:28.350 --> 00:50:32.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to meet different people from all around the world.
00:50:32.460 --> 00:50:36.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This vacations are so so important.
00:50:37.820 --> 00:50:40.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and there are different types of vacations.
00:50:40.650 --> 00:50:48.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And sometimes there are vacations where you're going out. You're exploring. You're running around seeing a new country in different places.
00:50:48.870 --> 00:50:55.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and sometimes there are vacations where you're just sitting by the beach swimming in the ocean, doing nothing.
00:50:56.820 --> 00:51:03.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They both have a place, but they're both equally important.
00:51:09.310 --> 00:51:15.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it may, you may say to me, Sam, I can't afford to take off time from work. There's just too much going on.
00:51:15.920 --> 00:51:17.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, you know what
00:51:17.610 --> 00:51:39.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we keep working, and don't take the time off and we're drained and we're tired. Our creativity goes down, our ability to think clearly goes down. Our ability to come up with new ideas and better ways of doing things decreases. And we're actually less productive. We're actually less able to
00:51:39.540 --> 00:51:41.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: do things the right way.
00:51:42.720 --> 00:51:49.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we take time off we can come back and be refreshed. And we're actually more productive.
00:51:50.550 --> 00:51:53.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And a great example of this is
00:51:53.884 --> 00:52:01.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's this wonderful book. I've mentioned it a couple of times on my show called the Diamond Cutter, by Geshe Michael Roche.
00:52:02.330 --> 00:52:10.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and in it he talks about how he negotiated getting every Wednesday off, when he started working at this company.
00:52:11.380 --> 00:52:18.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where he would do no work. He wouldn't take his phone with him. He would go out and meditate, walk in the woods, do whatever be in nature.
00:52:18.740 --> 00:52:21.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when he came back on Thursday
00:52:21.260 --> 00:52:28.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: he was refreshed, super active, and he was able to be more productive than other people who worked in the office 5 days a week.
00:52:30.980 --> 00:52:35.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: See, this is the thing that doesn't really get talked about. A lot
00:52:37.730 --> 00:52:42.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is sometimes, in order to be more productive, we need to be less productive.
00:52:43.090 --> 00:52:54.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But sometimes, in order to achieve things, we need to take ourselves out of the environment. We need to do something else for a period of time.
00:52:55.250 --> 00:52:59.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that then we can come back to the work we're doing with
00:52:59.330 --> 00:53:08.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being refreshed, being able to see things anew, being able to approach things from a new perspective and a new point of view.
00:53:13.000 --> 00:53:18.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this is why vacations are sacred.
00:53:18.850 --> 00:53:21.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They should not be missed, skipped
00:53:22.180 --> 00:53:26.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for anything except the most extreme circumstances.
00:53:30.890 --> 00:53:36.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And even if you work for someone else, and they're giving you a hard time about taking time off.
00:53:37.550 --> 00:53:39.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you let them know
00:53:39.500 --> 00:53:44.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I need. If you want me to be productive, if you want me to be my best.
00:53:45.070 --> 00:53:50.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I need to take some time off, so I can be refreshed so that I can
00:53:51.070 --> 00:53:54.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: de-stress so that I can be better
00:53:55.250 --> 00:53:56.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that I can come back
00:53:57.440 --> 00:54:00.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and solve the problems you want me to solve.
00:54:01.960 --> 00:54:04.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, sometimes it's funny
00:54:04.480 --> 00:54:08.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we take the time off, when we've been working on something really hard.
00:54:09.100 --> 00:54:16.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it just nothing seems to be working, and we take time off, and we just totally remove ourselves from the situation.
00:54:16.410 --> 00:54:21.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I cannot tell you how many times a situation ended up resolving itself while I was away.
00:54:27.020 --> 00:54:34.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So really comes down to one thing.
00:54:34.940 --> 00:54:39.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why is it so important to make time for ourselves?
00:54:41.020 --> 00:54:45.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's so we can be more present to our daily life.
00:54:47.820 --> 00:54:52.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's so that we can show up and be our best selves.
00:54:53.510 --> 00:55:01.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if we're constantly on the run, we're constantly engaged with other people. We're constantly distracted. We're constantly doing things for other people.
00:55:03.160 --> 00:55:09.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we never take a step back. How can we find a fresh perspective. How can we
00:55:09.460 --> 00:55:19.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: truly be our best? How can we see things in a different context, a different way? How can we solve the problems? How can we make good choices, good decisions?
00:55:20.220 --> 00:55:23.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How can we really be there for the people
00:55:23.630 --> 00:55:25.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who are truly relying on us?
00:55:29.980 --> 00:55:47.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The only way to achieve that is to remove ourselves from our daily environment sometimes and look it
00:55:47.860 --> 00:55:57.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you can schedule it so that you can take a week off every 2, 3 months. Do it, or take 2 weeks off every 4 months, do it.
00:56:00.690 --> 00:56:07.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if you can just maybe put a little extra time in your calendar in your schedule.
00:56:07.510 --> 00:56:12.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Give yourself some free time in the middle of the day or the afternoon.
00:56:13.470 --> 00:56:16.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't go to meetings. Don't work on anything.
00:56:18.010 --> 00:56:26.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just give yourself that time the benefits will astound you.
00:56:30.020 --> 00:56:33.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and especially taking time away from our screens.
00:56:34.860 --> 00:56:38.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're so focused this little thing in our hand.
00:56:40.940 --> 00:56:45.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We miss a whole world of wonder happening around us.
00:56:49.800 --> 00:56:57.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this is my final message for you. For 2024.
00:56:59.360 --> 00:57:06.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please honor yourself, take care of yourself, take time for yourself.
00:57:08.100 --> 00:57:14.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Value yourself enough to know that you're worth it.
00:57:16.110 --> 00:57:19.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that by taking time for yourself
00:57:19.580 --> 00:57:28.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you'll be able to come back. Show up better for your family, your friends, your coworkers, your bosses, your employees.
00:57:29.160 --> 00:57:33.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you'll show up better for the world around you, and who knows?
00:57:34.130 --> 00:57:35.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who knows?
00:57:35.740 --> 00:57:38.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe you'll set a good example for other people
00:57:40.280 --> 00:57:43.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and other people will start doing the same.
00:57:44.090 --> 00:57:46.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What a world we would have
00:57:47.030 --> 00:57:55.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if everyone just took a little more time to be with themselves, and not distracted.
00:57:56.590 --> 00:58:01.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that we could all be a little more present to what's going on.
00:58:01.990 --> 00:58:02.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Fuck.
00:58:02.970 --> 00:58:10.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for joining me. Thank you, my loyal listeners for staying with me throughout the year. I so appreciate you.
00:58:12.530 --> 00:58:19.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's my last new show for the year. So after this we'll be joining you in the 1st week of January.
00:58:20.970 --> 00:58:25.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I forget what date is. It's like the 7th or the 8, th or the 9, th
00:58:27.620 --> 00:58:32.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and look for some new stuff happening next year, and some changes to the network.
00:58:33.480 --> 00:58:39.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you so much for tuning in. I appreciate every single one of you.
00:58:39.130 --> 00:58:45.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know how you liked or didn't like this episode. I may not be able to comment back right away because I got to run, catch a plane.
00:58:46.080 --> 00:58:52.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But but you comment on the Youtube video, the Facebook video and I'll see it. And I'll respond.
00:58:53.420 --> 00:58:55.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for tuning in.
00:58:56.410 --> 00:59:02.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I appreciate you all. We will not talk to you. Next week we will talk to you all next year.
00:59:02.830 --> 00:59:03.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Take care.
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