Pain is often a messenger, guiding us to uncover deeper truths about ourselves. By viewing pain as a teacher rather than something to fear or avoid, we open ourselves to transformative growth and healing.
By going within and connecting to the heart, listeners can access an unshakable power that transcends external circumstances. This inner strength is the key to transforming any challenge into an opportunity for growth and expansion.
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Elizabeth Tripp welcomes her audience to the show. She acknowledges the terrors that are going on in the world and challenges her audience to turn that pain into power. It's about shifting from victimhood to self-responsibility. Turning pain into power shifts victimhood into self-responsibility which plays a significant role in our physical and mental health. Elizabeth takes a moment to meditate with her audience as a way to get in the present. We should recognize that we are all going through something. Some are struggling with greater obstacles but we are all struggling to some extent. Before the break, Elizabeth defines victimhood and how it shows up in the world.
Elizabeth explains how we are all creators. As a creator we have the power to create whatever we want. Elizabeth explains how trauma and stress can lead to serious health issues. She discusses the problems with victimhood and how it can steer us in a negative way of thinking. Victimhood is about holding others responsible for the issue instead of holding yourself accountable for your actions. Elizabeth explains how this is learned behavior. She talks about her clients and the common storyline that falls in line with victimhood.
Elizabeth continues to discuss how our perception of ourselves can build a self-limiting point of view. She explains how our bodies take the brunt of the stress. We are responsible for our own actions and we should not be affected by other people’s choices. It’s important to not take things personally. Elizabeth shares her thoughts from a loving space but also an honest space. She explains how we create everything even in the light of unexpected events. She also adds that as a society we do not teach our child to be self-responsible individuals.
In the last segment, Elizabeth continues to talk about self-responsibility. She explains that the heart never wants you to prove anything because that would be forced. The heart doesn't force, the heart allows or flows. Elizabeth explains how changing your pain into power is a process. It’s understanding that there’s a lesson in everything.
00:00:43.180 --> 00:00:51.040 elizabeth tripp: Good evening and welcome to nourish the soul, talk, radio show, and podcast.
00:00:51.320 --> 00:00:57.829 elizabeth tripp: this is your place, to sit back, relax, and go on a journey of self-discovery.
00:00:57.840 --> 00:01:05.700 elizabeth tripp: And really, what we do here is we explore our sacred human body to include
00:01:05.830 --> 00:01:09.750 elizabeth tripp: our mind, our feelings, our heart.
00:01:10.010 --> 00:01:17.660 elizabeth tripp: our soul, and how these elements interplay and weave into our life to create
00:01:17.950 --> 00:01:27.309 elizabeth tripp: our existence right who we are in this very moment. So I want to thank you for being here and coming along on this journey.
00:01:27.370 --> 00:01:29.879 elizabeth tripp: And if you ever miss a show.
00:01:30.150 --> 00:01:37.040 elizabeth tripp: you can now download the podcast on spotify and Amazon and Iheartradio
00:01:37.450 --> 00:01:44.930 elizabeth tripp: and catch that episode that you weren't able to tune in on the live at 6 pm. And get.
00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:55.110 elizabeth tripp: So I like to mix things up. Today, I'm doing another solo show. We've had a series of amazing guests, and so I encourage you to
00:01:55.160 --> 00:02:02.690 elizabeth tripp: tune in and take a listen to those shows. But tonight we're talking about a subject that I've
00:02:03.460 --> 00:02:09.420 elizabeth tripp: explored with you all before, and it's really nothing I'd say new.
00:02:09.479 --> 00:02:14.850 elizabeth tripp: but worth absolutely worth diving into, because
00:02:15.140 --> 00:02:16.720 elizabeth tripp: it is so
00:02:16.850 --> 00:02:19.800 elizabeth tripp: important for our current
00:02:19.810 --> 00:02:30.339 elizabeth tripp: world events, our current, you know, way in which we are seeing things unfold. Right? It's a very unique time.
00:02:30.640 --> 00:02:35.730 elizabeth tripp: Just this past week. We witnessed
00:02:35.930 --> 00:02:51.410 elizabeth tripp: a part of our own country. The you know, Northern Carolinas, the western northern Carolinas, in fact, in parts of Florida and Florida again today get hit with extreme weather, and many people's lives were impacted.
00:02:51.530 --> 00:02:54.020 elizabeth tripp: And we are
00:02:54.590 --> 00:02:56.555 elizabeth tripp: continuing to diverse
00:02:58.430 --> 00:03:06.349 elizabeth tripp: places within our world where there just is no peace. There's actually quite a bit of conflict and disagreement and war.
00:03:07.010 --> 00:03:08.190 elizabeth tripp: and
00:03:08.310 --> 00:03:33.669 elizabeth tripp: within our own lives, I mean, how many of us can, you know, attest to knowing somebody who's going through something pretty difficult right now. Maybe, that relates to a loved one passing, perhaps some sort of physical ailment or pain they are facing, or some kind of unexpected twist in their life, whether that be
00:03:34.100 --> 00:03:42.870 elizabeth tripp: a job opportunity that you know is lost, or that they are facing being let go
00:03:44.400 --> 00:04:01.749 elizabeth tripp: economically. A lot of people are in places where they wish they that things were different, right? That they had more savings or more room to spend, especially with the upcoming holiday season coming just around the corner. We've got about a month and some to go.
00:04:02.230 --> 00:04:03.080 elizabeth tripp: Well.
00:04:04.650 --> 00:04:06.255 elizabeth tripp: excuse me tonight.
00:04:07.630 --> 00:04:10.600 elizabeth tripp: Sorry tonight we are going to talk about
00:04:10.870 --> 00:04:15.080 elizabeth tripp: transforming our pain into power
00:04:15.380 --> 00:04:24.769 elizabeth tripp: and really shifting this victimhood type of mindset that we can get caught up in into self responsibility.
00:04:25.090 --> 00:04:28.760 elizabeth tripp: And I'm going to weave into the show how this
00:04:28.840 --> 00:04:33.690 elizabeth tripp: pain into power, shift this victimhood into self responsibility
00:04:34.100 --> 00:04:35.250 elizabeth tripp: really
00:04:35.270 --> 00:04:42.819 elizabeth tripp: plays a significant role in our physical health in our well-being and really highlights.
00:04:43.401 --> 00:04:49.530 elizabeth tripp: How, when we make this transition in our perception of ourselves in life.
00:04:49.730 --> 00:04:52.139 elizabeth tripp: our whole world can change.
00:04:52.200 --> 00:04:53.480 elizabeth tripp: So
00:04:53.850 --> 00:05:00.940 elizabeth tripp: I want to invite you all as I do when I do, my solo shows to come into presence with me.
00:05:01.468 --> 00:05:05.100 elizabeth tripp: Taking a deep breath together. Let's all
00:05:05.230 --> 00:05:09.420 elizabeth tripp: make space within ourselves to really intend that
00:05:09.830 --> 00:05:20.390 elizabeth tripp: this show is our safe space, where we can really connect more deeply with ourselves, and that each episode is an opportunity
00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:21.810 elizabeth tripp: to
00:05:22.680 --> 00:05:28.570 elizabeth tripp: see something that is necessary within us that we are needing to wake up to.
00:05:29.060 --> 00:05:37.679 elizabeth tripp: that our soul, something deep within us has called us to the show to really unlock.
00:05:37.710 --> 00:05:47.109 elizabeth tripp: and by no coincidence that we're listening and tuning in because we're gonna not only just unlock it, but set the intention that we're actually going to
00:05:47.720 --> 00:05:54.920 elizabeth tripp: let it go and open up space within us for something new, something
00:05:55.170 --> 00:06:01.570 elizabeth tripp: higher in vibration, something more aligned to our truth within us to come in
00:06:02.010 --> 00:06:04.069 elizabeth tripp: and touch our awareness
00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:07.480 elizabeth tripp: so that we ourselves can
00:06:07.610 --> 00:06:17.970 elizabeth tripp: reach into a new reality and start to shape our life from that place, because transformation can happen that quickly.
00:06:18.100 --> 00:06:28.640 elizabeth tripp: and our life can change in just a moment, just a choice that we make. In one moment our whole world can be different.
00:06:29.130 --> 00:06:33.910 elizabeth tripp: And so, as we place a hand on our heart, and we all
00:06:34.310 --> 00:06:37.120 elizabeth tripp: take a breath together, breathing in deeply.
00:06:38.440 --> 00:06:50.730 elizabeth tripp: really filling our body, really filling it up with air with our breath. With this prana, this life force, and letting it all go all the way out
00:06:50.960 --> 00:06:54.880 elizabeth tripp: one more time together, breathing in really deeply
00:06:56.580 --> 00:07:01.390 elizabeth tripp: filling every part of her body. Keep breathing as much as you can.
00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:05.550 elizabeth tripp: and letting it all out with a big sigh.
00:07:07.020 --> 00:07:10.590 elizabeth tripp: feeling the spaciousness now within our heart center.
00:07:10.710 --> 00:07:12.140 elizabeth tripp: affirming.
00:07:12.180 --> 00:07:16.199 elizabeth tripp: I am connected to the light of my heart
00:07:16.380 --> 00:07:17.490 elizabeth tripp: now
00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:20.270 elizabeth tripp: the truth of myself.
00:07:20.420 --> 00:07:22.989 elizabeth tripp: who I really am.
00:07:25.120 --> 00:07:29.369 elizabeth tripp: I tell my mind now to relax, to just sit back.
00:07:29.970 --> 00:07:32.810 elizabeth tripp: This is now my heart's journey.
00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:36.829 elizabeth tripp: I allow myself to look through the eyes of my heart.
00:07:37.200 --> 00:07:41.600 elizabeth tripp: to hear through the eyes of my heart, and to make choices
00:07:41.890 --> 00:07:45.109 elizabeth tripp: through the eyes of my heart. Now.
00:07:47.070 --> 00:07:48.120 elizabeth tripp: so
00:07:48.880 --> 00:07:54.910 elizabeth tripp: thank you for setting that intention together with me, and coming into this really sacred, beautiful space.
00:07:56.500 --> 00:08:03.180 elizabeth tripp: power, right pain into power, shifting from victimhood to self responsibility.
00:08:03.870 --> 00:08:04.800 elizabeth tripp: Well.
00:08:05.350 --> 00:08:20.799 elizabeth tripp: I know so many of us are going through different things like I mentioned. Maybe you know someone who was in Western North Carolina, and they experienced great devastation or loss, or even death of a family member or friend.
00:08:21.439 --> 00:08:28.229 elizabeth tripp: Maybe you know someone that's going through a tremendous amount of difficulty, whether that's physically, mentally, emotionally.
00:08:28.650 --> 00:08:30.650 elizabeth tripp: as it relates to
00:08:30.940 --> 00:08:33.989 elizabeth tripp: some sort of pain or ailment, or some sort of
00:08:34.390 --> 00:08:37.770 elizabeth tripp: job related loss or economic impact that
00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:39.779 elizabeth tripp: they're having trouble managing.
00:08:40.520 --> 00:08:44.900 elizabeth tripp: Whatever it is. We're all going through something.
00:08:45.830 --> 00:08:46.840 elizabeth tripp: you know.
00:08:47.040 --> 00:08:49.610 elizabeth tripp: to some degree in some level, some
00:08:49.670 --> 00:08:52.699 elizabeth tripp: at greater levels than someone else.
00:08:53.405 --> 00:08:54.089 elizabeth tripp: But
00:08:54.280 --> 00:08:56.319 elizabeth tripp: to one may call
00:08:56.330 --> 00:08:59.909 elizabeth tripp: difficult to another, may say, No, that's not too bad.
00:09:00.160 --> 00:09:03.969 elizabeth tripp: So it's really dependent on how
00:09:04.150 --> 00:09:07.890 elizabeth tripp: each individual navigates a challenge.
00:09:08.380 --> 00:09:13.590 elizabeth tripp: But one thing we really want to invite into our heart this evening is that
00:09:14.020 --> 00:09:15.229 elizabeth tripp: none of us
00:09:16.180 --> 00:09:20.129 elizabeth tripp: in life ever get to escape pain?
00:09:22.310 --> 00:09:28.070 elizabeth tripp: not a single one of us at least I have never met, and I have worked with
00:09:28.760 --> 00:09:30.699 elizabeth tripp: hundreds of clients.
00:09:30.920 --> 00:09:33.060 elizabeth tripp: and have
00:09:33.190 --> 00:09:37.920 elizabeth tripp: had the privilege of speaking to many, many people.
00:09:38.540 --> 00:09:45.330 elizabeth tripp: I've never met somebody who said they. They've gone through life never feeling hurt or having
00:09:45.470 --> 00:09:54.239 elizabeth tripp: felt a pain or experienced a challenge. So we all go through that if if that alone can unify us
00:09:54.870 --> 00:10:01.129 elizabeth tripp: in our shared experience as a as a group, a collective on this planet.
00:10:01.640 --> 00:10:06.390 elizabeth tripp: Then let it right, because we all do go through
00:10:06.680 --> 00:10:10.150 elizabeth tripp: things that change us.
00:10:10.560 --> 00:10:11.800 elizabeth tripp: And
00:10:12.150 --> 00:10:15.660 elizabeth tripp: when these events happen in our world.
00:10:15.710 --> 00:10:20.730 elizabeth tripp: whether it's politically within our own country or globally
00:10:20.760 --> 00:10:22.000 elizabeth tripp: around
00:10:22.220 --> 00:10:23.520 elizabeth tripp: our, our.
00:10:23.690 --> 00:10:27.140 elizabeth tripp: our, our planet right? Or
00:10:27.520 --> 00:10:30.049 elizabeth tripp: within our own interpersonal lives.
00:10:30.820 --> 00:10:34.579 elizabeth tripp: these big things, these challenges that affect us. They can
00:10:34.770 --> 00:10:42.300 elizabeth tripp: often, if we don't have the tools or skills or healthy
00:10:42.450 --> 00:10:47.220 elizabeth tripp: perspectives can really hit us hard and can
00:10:47.370 --> 00:10:51.449 elizabeth tripp: impact us in ways that can really affect
00:10:51.650 --> 00:10:55.110 elizabeth tripp: our whole life and everybody that's been.
00:10:55.440 --> 00:10:59.590 elizabeth tripp: And that's why it's so important right now to
00:10:59.680 --> 00:11:03.520 elizabeth tripp: really help people understand what it means
00:11:03.760 --> 00:11:10.310 elizabeth tripp: to shift our pain into power and to understand what victimhood is.
00:11:10.590 --> 00:11:12.850 elizabeth tripp: Because I think
00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:17.630 elizabeth tripp: and I actually, I really believe it's 1 of the biggest
00:11:18.020 --> 00:11:22.139 elizabeth tripp: limitations we, as a cohort of people.
00:11:22.720 --> 00:11:23.790 elizabeth tripp: face.
00:11:23.810 --> 00:11:30.800 elizabeth tripp: I think, this perspective of victimhood as a as a collective humanity, as a
00:11:30.840 --> 00:11:35.100 elizabeth tripp: as a shared family of human beings, regardless of
00:11:35.110 --> 00:11:37.349 elizabeth tripp: our race. Gender, religion
00:11:37.780 --> 00:11:40.020 elizabeth tripp: face is this
00:11:40.800 --> 00:11:54.569 elizabeth tripp: perspective of victimhood. So I want to begin the broadcast right now by just gently and lovingly exploring what exactly. That is and how to identify it.
00:11:55.658 --> 00:12:00.929 elizabeth tripp: Because victimhood is extremely powerful because
00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:07.480 elizabeth tripp: we all are creators. And I want to be very clear in my stance here
00:12:07.520 --> 00:12:16.900 elizabeth tripp: as somebody who's going on a live broadcast, and and talking about victimhood and pain into power, where it is such a sensitive subject.
00:12:17.020 --> 00:12:18.760 elizabeth tripp: and by no
00:12:19.140 --> 00:12:24.340 elizabeth tripp: shape or form am I minimizing anybody's pain or suffering that they are going through.
00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:25.880 elizabeth tripp: but offering
00:12:26.070 --> 00:12:28.320 elizabeth tripp: a perspective that can
00:12:28.430 --> 00:12:30.310 elizabeth tripp: definitely take us
00:12:30.630 --> 00:12:43.610 elizabeth tripp: easily out of that kind of way of viewing something, and into a place that aligns with more of our truth, of our heart, of a knowing of trust, of
00:12:43.800 --> 00:12:46.940 elizabeth tripp: power of peace, of love.
00:12:47.360 --> 00:12:48.380 elizabeth tripp: So.
00:12:48.550 --> 00:12:58.009 elizabeth tripp: 1st and foremost, before I even go into victimhood, I definitely want to share that my value or principle in which I view life is that
00:12:58.080 --> 00:13:00.340 elizabeth tripp: we are all creators.
00:13:00.960 --> 00:13:10.199 elizabeth tripp: We are all, indeed, a spark of the divine that have uniquely brought its own perspective into physical form.
00:13:10.250 --> 00:13:12.929 elizabeth tripp: Into these temples of
00:13:13.030 --> 00:13:16.710 elizabeth tripp: of form we call body into these vessels.
00:13:17.170 --> 00:13:18.300 elizabeth tripp: and
00:13:19.110 --> 00:13:28.959 elizabeth tripp: that means we've been made in the image of the Creator. We are no different than the Creator itself, whether we call that God, or or Source, or
00:13:29.120 --> 00:13:32.000 elizabeth tripp: you know the Infinite intelligence, we are
00:13:32.150 --> 00:13:36.429 elizabeth tripp: a extension of it in physical form.
00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:43.929 elizabeth tripp: And so, as I express this to you, I'm gonna leave you on this note, and we're gonna go a little bit farther into that as we
00:13:43.980 --> 00:13:48.340 elizabeth tripp: dive into victimhood in the next segment and get you pondering on that
00:13:48.530 --> 00:13:49.940 elizabeth tripp: we are
00:13:50.100 --> 00:13:54.720 elizabeth tripp: a creator. So let's take a quick break, and we'll come back and dive back in.
00:16:14.560 --> 00:16:22.490 elizabeth tripp: Welcome back to nourish the soul. We are diving into a really valuable and powerful discussion.
00:16:22.720 --> 00:16:45.470 elizabeth tripp: pain into power, shifting from victimhood to self responsibility. And I'm just laying down some foundational ways in which I invite you to consider, as these are very powerful ways that I have invited my perspective of life to be seen through. And
00:16:45.770 --> 00:16:50.159 elizabeth tripp: for this discussion in this topic I really want to emphasize that
00:16:50.370 --> 00:16:52.489 elizabeth tripp: I believe we're all creators.
00:16:53.080 --> 00:16:59.979 elizabeth tripp: I believe that every single one of us, regardless of. If you've chosen to be a good person.
00:17:00.060 --> 00:17:07.019 elizabeth tripp: quote unquote or a bad person, quote unquote and do good things or bad things. Within all of us
00:17:07.530 --> 00:17:10.329 elizabeth tripp: there is a spark of
00:17:10.339 --> 00:17:13.839 elizabeth tripp: divine. There is a spark of divinity.
00:17:14.180 --> 00:17:26.660 elizabeth tripp: I believe we've all come from a light like our sun, and we are just sunbeams of this light individually, these beams of light that have come down into these physical bodies.
00:17:26.670 --> 00:17:29.550 elizabeth tripp: each to have a unique experience.
00:17:29.940 --> 00:17:33.500 elizabeth tripp: and I believe many, many of us are asleep
00:17:33.630 --> 00:17:37.030 elizabeth tripp: and don't actually realize this.
00:17:37.100 --> 00:17:40.070 elizabeth tripp: and that they feel that
00:17:40.660 --> 00:17:45.440 elizabeth tripp: divinity and source, or their power is outside of them.
00:17:45.950 --> 00:17:55.199 elizabeth tripp: and that they can only attain it when they're worthy, when they've repented enough, when they've done enough good deeds, or that, in fact, it is never possible.
00:17:55.390 --> 00:17:58.279 elizabeth tripp: because it may not even exist.
00:17:58.740 --> 00:18:02.610 elizabeth tripp: and I feel that many people, because of this
00:18:03.370 --> 00:18:09.379 elizabeth tripp: being asleep, are not aware of how powerful their minds actually are
00:18:09.580 --> 00:18:12.190 elizabeth tripp: in creating their life.
00:18:12.540 --> 00:18:15.230 elizabeth tripp: and in that I see
00:18:15.390 --> 00:18:17.870 elizabeth tripp: many people creating
00:18:18.450 --> 00:18:29.650 elizabeth tripp: unintentionally, unconsciously, and by no surprise, there being then so much struggle and so much drama.
00:18:29.660 --> 00:18:33.610 elizabeth tripp: and so much suffering in our lives.
00:18:34.130 --> 00:18:36.879 elizabeth tripp: and I believe that there is
00:18:36.900 --> 00:18:40.310 elizabeth tripp: a power within us, and within
00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:42.040 elizabeth tripp: each of us
00:18:42.050 --> 00:18:44.770 elizabeth tripp: to reclaim
00:18:45.990 --> 00:18:50.509 elizabeth tripp: our life, to reclaim the way in which we
00:18:51.600 --> 00:19:01.369 elizabeth tripp: walk through life, to be able to learn a certain set of lessons that are necessary for us in this unique expression of divinity.
00:19:01.500 --> 00:19:02.980 elizabeth tripp: to then
00:19:03.080 --> 00:19:09.730 elizabeth tripp: be able to fulfill something that's very special to each of us.
00:19:10.140 --> 00:19:13.879 elizabeth tripp: And so why is that so important? Because
00:19:14.370 --> 00:19:23.199 elizabeth tripp: that means that as a creator, right made in the image of, we could say, source of
00:19:23.450 --> 00:19:26.539 elizabeth tripp: infinite intelligence of God. Right?
00:19:27.010 --> 00:19:29.570 elizabeth tripp: We get to create whatever we want.
00:19:30.060 --> 00:19:34.780 elizabeth tripp: And because we've come into this existence with having forgotten that.
00:19:34.980 --> 00:19:56.420 elizabeth tripp: and having to then go through certain sets of experiences that change our perspective of ourselves often for the negative right, we can live an entire (102) 030-4050 years, or more, seeing ourselves through one fixed opinion that can often cause us a lot of
00:19:56.800 --> 00:20:16.879 elizabeth tripp: stress and pressure, and which leads to then disease and unhappiness and debilitation, mental illness, depression to just conflict and giving up. And I see this happening to many, many people. But it doesn't have to be the case because
00:20:17.100 --> 00:20:23.759 elizabeth tripp: we can equally create a positive. We can equally create good
00:20:24.650 --> 00:20:31.650 elizabeth tripp: in anything we experience. It's a will of our own power that we have.
00:20:32.170 --> 00:20:37.460 elizabeth tripp: But many, many people have forgotten this, and it's become very easy to become a victim
00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:41.850 elizabeth tripp: and our bodies, let me tell you they take the brunt of it victim
00:20:41.870 --> 00:20:47.197 elizabeth tripp: mindset, going through a painful event, and feeling as though
00:20:47.970 --> 00:20:53.540 elizabeth tripp: This experience has, you know, hurt them, and therefore they
00:20:53.730 --> 00:21:07.849 elizabeth tripp: are being punished, or that they are suffering, and that therefore, then they need the sympathy of others, or they blame even others for the cause of how they're feeling is so rampant and alive.
00:21:07.890 --> 00:21:17.150 elizabeth tripp: And because of this way of being, our health absolutely takes the brunt. It absolutely
00:21:17.170 --> 00:21:22.170 elizabeth tripp: bears the impact. I mean, we're living in times where
00:21:22.490 --> 00:21:27.880 elizabeth tripp: the health industry is actually collapsing because there's so much disease.
00:21:28.470 --> 00:21:30.820 elizabeth tripp: There's so many sick people.
00:21:31.030 --> 00:21:38.900 elizabeth tripp: And we have to ask ourselves, you know. Why is it with all of this technology? With all of this, you know
00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:46.089 elizabeth tripp: all of these resources to our food supply, to medicine that we are the sickest we've ever really.
00:21:46.320 --> 00:21:47.560 elizabeth tripp: Ben.
00:21:47.620 --> 00:21:54.320 elizabeth tripp: you know, in the last a hundred years, as a population with so much modern technology.
00:21:55.460 --> 00:21:56.510 elizabeth tripp: So
00:21:57.260 --> 00:22:05.660 elizabeth tripp: I believe it's our our mindset, our point of view, our perspective. Because I believe as creators, that's what we are. We are a perspective
00:22:05.710 --> 00:22:11.139 elizabeth tripp: seeing life through a perspective. And we have the ability to choose perspectives
00:22:11.600 --> 00:22:13.990 elizabeth tripp: but victimhood.
00:22:14.180 --> 00:22:15.160 elizabeth tripp: It is
00:22:15.810 --> 00:22:20.859 elizabeth tripp: a way in which we go through an experience like I said, and we really
00:22:21.460 --> 00:22:24.059 elizabeth tripp: aren't able to
00:22:24.690 --> 00:22:28.730 elizabeth tripp: take responsibility for the way we feel, and rather we
00:22:28.890 --> 00:22:34.000 elizabeth tripp: look outside of us ourselves to be for the cause, and we blame others, and
00:22:34.190 --> 00:22:45.979 elizabeth tripp: it can feel like in relationships like gaslighting. Like, you know, we're always the wrong. We're always the bad. We're never doing anything that's right in. You know.
00:22:46.100 --> 00:23:10.525 elizabeth tripp: our political arenas or environments. It can always. It can kind of sound like, you know. They'll promise one thing, but they won't really do it. Or, you know, this bad thing happened, and it was caused by them. So that's why I'm you know, in this position. So it's always like making somebody else responsible rather than yourself, or making something else responsible rather than yourself, like a circumstance.
00:23:11.220 --> 00:23:13.789 elizabeth tripp: the cause for your
00:23:14.180 --> 00:23:25.219 elizabeth tripp: you know, pain. You're suffering, you're hurt, whatever it is that it's not right that you're going through. Okay? So it's it's those that's the language to look out for and be aware of.
00:23:25.340 --> 00:23:27.739 elizabeth tripp: And it's learned.
00:23:27.880 --> 00:23:33.229 elizabeth tripp: It's learned. It's learned generationally, it's learned in all cultures around the world.
00:23:33.645 --> 00:23:41.529 elizabeth tripp: But particular in the Western culture. I see it a lot, you know. I I see it so much. It's
00:23:41.910 --> 00:23:50.589 elizabeth tripp: it's a way of saying No, that's not how I feel. Isn't my fault. It's their fault. They said that to me, or they said that about me.
00:23:52.110 --> 00:24:00.479 elizabeth tripp: And so we really want to get aware, it's like we point externally. And we say, Okay, that thing or that person.
00:24:01.044 --> 00:24:08.949 elizabeth tripp: Is the cause for my situation, for my pain, my feelings, and my outlook or world view.
00:24:09.370 --> 00:24:18.789 elizabeth tripp: and if they were different and they changed, then my life would change, and my circumstance would be different. And because they're not.
00:24:18.820 --> 00:24:24.599 elizabeth tripp: nothing is so. We have no power in this. Just by the way, our victimhood is
00:24:24.680 --> 00:24:27.139 elizabeth tripp: an absolute avoidance of power.
00:24:27.160 --> 00:24:31.409 elizabeth tripp: and often in victimhood we think power is force.
00:24:31.480 --> 00:24:41.009 elizabeth tripp: and so reactivity and quick to judge and to make others wrong is a way to find control when really
00:24:41.100 --> 00:24:46.260 elizabeth tripp: in victimhood, we often feel very out of control. We feel often
00:24:46.690 --> 00:24:57.989 elizabeth tripp: really like we don't really have the true power that we would like, and therefore, by making others the cause or the blame, gives us that false sense of security that we have
00:24:58.070 --> 00:25:01.449 elizabeth tripp: that power back when really it's
00:25:01.680 --> 00:25:05.740 elizabeth tripp: false, it really is, it is. It is a false sense of power.
00:25:06.970 --> 00:25:08.080 elizabeth tripp: So
00:25:08.340 --> 00:25:20.821 elizabeth tripp: in saying that I just want to give you like a very quick example. And then I'm gonna you know, kind of answer. I know there's a question online about this subject. So I'm going to answer it.
00:25:22.520 --> 00:25:31.310 elizabeth tripp: I've worked with so many, so many clients, so many people, and a storyline that I see that falls within this victimhood type like
00:25:31.410 --> 00:25:37.250 elizabeth tripp: mindset. That's very rampant, very pervasive, and it's been pervasive in my life. So I'm not.
00:25:37.320 --> 00:25:50.639 elizabeth tripp: I'm not exempt by this, by any means, and I can talk about it because I'm very secure and recognizing when it shows up and when it has, and how to nurture myself through this
00:25:52.490 --> 00:25:57.080 elizabeth tripp: But I found that many, many, many people fundamentally
00:25:57.660 --> 00:25:58.850 elizabeth tripp: believe
00:25:58.900 --> 00:26:01.300 elizabeth tripp: that there is something wrong
00:26:01.380 --> 00:26:02.900 elizabeth tripp: or bad about them.
00:26:04.190 --> 00:26:16.050 elizabeth tripp: This is fundamentally across the board when I work with people and have really listened to the real root or or source of their issues.
00:26:16.650 --> 00:26:20.180 elizabeth tripp: that there's an underlying belief and opinion that
00:26:20.380 --> 00:26:23.970 elizabeth tripp: there's something truly defective about them.
00:26:24.940 --> 00:26:28.790 elizabeth tripp: And I want to offer that you know
00:26:29.130 --> 00:26:31.679 elizabeth tripp: this kind of belief can can
00:26:31.720 --> 00:26:36.269 elizabeth tripp: easily come about in our lives. For my own example, you know.
00:26:36.360 --> 00:26:48.630 elizabeth tripp: growing up, being very sensitive, you know, feeling the the environment around me on a level or depth that often I don't think others had the capacity to or ability to.
00:26:48.680 --> 00:26:52.330 elizabeth tripp: There was a lot of internalizing I was doing, and
00:26:52.420 --> 00:26:54.889 elizabeth tripp: to comfort myself, I found
00:26:55.350 --> 00:26:58.040 elizabeth tripp: food as a way to make myself feel better.
00:26:58.160 --> 00:27:03.060 elizabeth tripp: and in doing that my body actually started to gain weight.
00:27:03.330 --> 00:27:07.839 elizabeth tripp: and very early on in my younger years I was teased, and
00:27:08.120 --> 00:27:13.150 elizabeth tripp: who wouldn't if by their peers they were laughed and pointed and giggled at
00:27:13.690 --> 00:27:21.409 elizabeth tripp: in their own perspective of what was happening, make an opinion that there was something wrong or bad about them.
00:27:21.500 --> 00:27:22.520 elizabeth tripp: something
00:27:22.700 --> 00:27:25.979 elizabeth tripp: they needed to maybe fix, because it wasn't right, as
00:27:26.600 --> 00:27:29.079 elizabeth tripp: it could relate to their physical appearance.
00:27:29.860 --> 00:27:39.040 elizabeth tripp: And if that is never processed, if that is never addressed, could you imagine how that one perspective could create
00:27:39.580 --> 00:27:42.380 elizabeth tripp: a lens for that individual in which
00:27:42.450 --> 00:27:44.050 elizabeth tripp: nobody's safe
00:27:44.140 --> 00:27:45.170 elizabeth tripp: to
00:27:45.540 --> 00:27:53.920 elizabeth tripp: be around, because they have to be cautious in the way that they express, because they might be judged because they've been through that experience themselves.
00:27:54.910 --> 00:27:59.740 elizabeth tripp: Because of that, they can feel like, maybe people aren't kind. They're not nice, or that
00:27:59.750 --> 00:28:02.849 elizabeth tripp: when they joke around with them, they are just truly just
00:28:03.010 --> 00:28:04.899 elizabeth tripp: using them and being mean.
00:28:05.780 --> 00:28:12.590 elizabeth tripp: And it starts to build and build and build. And and this idea that everybody's the cause for
00:28:13.040 --> 00:28:19.839 elizabeth tripp: their insecurity, their lack of confidence, their inability to truly relax and be themselves.
00:28:20.460 --> 00:28:23.510 elizabeth tripp: that it's everybody else around them starts to grow
00:28:23.550 --> 00:28:25.959 elizabeth tripp: very deep roots in their psyche.
00:28:26.660 --> 00:28:47.279 elizabeth tripp: and it becomes very natural, for when that person that little girl, grows up, and somebody, you know, says something that maybe brings that hurt that insecurity up, or maybe that sense of not being confident to lash out and then want to defend themselves or make that other person wrong for saying something that didn't settle right with them.
00:28:48.540 --> 00:28:51.389 elizabeth tripp: and that can create so much conflict
00:28:51.500 --> 00:28:54.510 elizabeth tripp: and so much misunderstanding.
00:28:55.330 --> 00:28:58.440 elizabeth tripp: and all because that individual
00:28:58.700 --> 00:29:08.719 elizabeth tripp: doesn't yet know they have more power to understand themselves from a new perspective or a different point of view than what they did when they were younger.
00:29:09.580 --> 00:29:14.369 elizabeth tripp: So that's how victimhood gets created and spreads out into our life.
00:29:14.420 --> 00:29:20.460 elizabeth tripp: So we're going to take a quick break. And when we get back we're going to start diving into self responsibility.
00:31:23.310 --> 00:31:32.930 elizabeth tripp: Welcome back. We're talking about pain into power, shifting out of victimhood into self-responsibility. I'm your host, Elizabeth Tripp.
00:31:33.150 --> 00:31:38.700 elizabeth tripp: and this is an exciting conversation. We're exploring right? How are
00:31:39.180 --> 00:31:43.440 elizabeth tripp: our own perception of ourselves can build a very.
00:31:44.260 --> 00:31:57.530 elizabeth tripp: you know, self-limiting point of view of our entire life, and you know our own physical vessels. These temples, which I consider sacred spaces in which we live in.
00:31:57.560 --> 00:32:04.249 elizabeth tripp: take the brunt of it, and what we were discussing was my own personal story of just giving an example of how easy it is to
00:32:04.410 --> 00:32:20.459 elizabeth tripp: to create a victim mindset. How many of us have ever felt like we were wrong, or made wrong, or done something wrong and and or bad, and and there was something we need to fix about ourselves. And I gave the example of just my own
00:32:20.570 --> 00:32:23.629 elizabeth tripp: physical body and being teased, and
00:32:24.040 --> 00:32:26.240 elizabeth tripp: how much of
00:32:26.460 --> 00:32:27.540 elizabeth tripp: that.
00:32:27.720 --> 00:32:30.449 elizabeth tripp: from the teasing, changed my perception
00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:37.939 elizabeth tripp: to that. You know, it wasn't safe for me to be myself around people I had to maybe change who I was to, you know.
00:32:38.110 --> 00:32:48.249 elizabeth tripp: help them accept me so that I could be someone that they enjoyed and not made poke fun of right, or that I needed to change about me physically, or my appearance, that
00:32:48.280 --> 00:32:49.570 elizabeth tripp: you know, or
00:32:50.610 --> 00:32:56.510 elizabeth tripp: the ways in which we think we need to do for others in order to make them happy, so that things are good.
00:32:56.640 --> 00:33:01.730 elizabeth tripp: builds a whole life. And so I'm just giving you some examples to think about in your own world.
00:33:01.850 --> 00:33:16.029 elizabeth tripp: where maybe in your life have you been building a foundation of around yourself that perhaps there's some element of you that's wrong or bad, or or needs fixing. That puts you in a victim. Mindset makes you get reactive towards others, and as though
00:33:16.130 --> 00:33:25.959 elizabeth tripp: them being themselves. Maybe they're in a mood, you know. Maybe they're not the most jolliest that day. They say something that you don't agree with, and you can fly off the handle.
00:33:26.000 --> 00:33:37.820 elizabeth tripp: or you can internalize and take personally and and feel hurt, and then feel as though you know there's some sort of resentment you're carrying towards them for what they say or how they are.
00:33:38.250 --> 00:33:40.909 elizabeth tripp: and that can create a lot of division
00:33:41.350 --> 00:33:48.140 elizabeth tripp: and division in our own interpersonal lives. If we go out into our
00:33:48.680 --> 00:33:57.369 elizabeth tripp: work lives and we bring that. And then we bring that into our communities. And then the communities bring that into our culture becomes a way of living
00:33:58.210 --> 00:34:01.209 elizabeth tripp: really does, it becomes a way in which we live
00:34:02.200 --> 00:34:10.049 elizabeth tripp: so really important. My husband says this to me all the time, and I love him for this. It always comes back to self.
00:34:11.290 --> 00:34:15.020 elizabeth tripp: We are always the ones in the driver's seats.
00:34:16.060 --> 00:34:23.339 elizabeth tripp: our issues, our pains, the feelings that we have are created by us.
00:34:23.489 --> 00:34:31.040 elizabeth tripp: and that everyone in our life is been placed here on purpose. Positively.
00:34:31.469 --> 00:34:41.580 elizabeth tripp: even if they bring up something, quote unquote, negatively charged within us, right like an anger or a hurt, or a sadness
00:34:41.980 --> 00:34:47.190 elizabeth tripp: to be able to see that within ourselves, to grow from it.
00:34:47.620 --> 00:34:51.750 elizabeth tripp: it is never, ever, ever about somebody else.
00:34:51.929 --> 00:34:54.469 elizabeth tripp: And that extends to the most
00:34:54.750 --> 00:35:05.219 elizabeth tripp: extreme cases. And I definitely could be, you know, grilled for saying that. And I'm okay with saying that.
00:35:05.230 --> 00:35:06.279 elizabeth tripp: But there are
00:35:06.570 --> 00:35:13.560 elizabeth tripp: definite cases in which someone could say, how could you say that when that person is a victim?
00:35:14.220 --> 00:35:15.160 elizabeth tripp: And
00:35:15.300 --> 00:35:21.729 elizabeth tripp: if someone is willing to have that conversation with me. I will go into more further detail to support my perspective.
00:35:22.010 --> 00:35:26.350 elizabeth tripp: But I really want to say that from a loving space.
00:35:26.670 --> 00:35:29.330 elizabeth tripp: we create everything.
00:35:29.880 --> 00:35:33.030 elizabeth tripp: and in the even onic.
00:35:33.070 --> 00:35:37.229 elizabeth tripp: expected or quote unplanned, we have
00:35:37.260 --> 00:35:41.359 elizabeth tripp: opportunity to choose what we want to create.
00:35:41.660 --> 00:35:48.750 elizabeth tripp: And we have not been taught that in our lives there's no school to educate us on this as human beings.
00:35:48.780 --> 00:35:54.909 elizabeth tripp: and generally within our family lives. There really isn't a lot of attention given to this
00:35:55.490 --> 00:35:58.170 elizabeth tripp: and nurtured within our children
00:35:58.450 --> 00:36:01.859 elizabeth tripp: to be these self-responsible types of individuals.
00:36:02.380 --> 00:36:10.550 elizabeth tripp: Because what is self responsibility? But let's go into it. It's it's the practice of taking ownership for your action
00:36:11.320 --> 00:36:14.179 elizabeth tripp: and your decisions and your emotions.
00:36:14.570 --> 00:36:20.189 elizabeth tripp: It's really the practice of recognizing. Okay, if I am a spark of the Creator.
00:36:20.200 --> 00:36:24.059 elizabeth tripp: a divine spark of light in a human physical form.
00:36:24.250 --> 00:36:28.650 elizabeth tripp: then my thoughts are divine, right, good or bad.
00:36:28.690 --> 00:36:40.280 elizabeth tripp: my actions from my thoughts that create emotions, right emotional states. And then the decisions I make in those states, they're all divine right.
00:36:40.390 --> 00:36:41.350 elizabeth tripp: So
00:36:41.650 --> 00:36:45.699 elizabeth tripp: if I act in a way that is
00:36:46.070 --> 00:36:47.440 elizabeth tripp: reactive
00:36:47.620 --> 00:36:52.390 elizabeth tripp: or impatient or unkind or unloving right
00:36:53.910 --> 00:36:56.070 elizabeth tripp: that's on me
00:36:56.370 --> 00:37:04.460 elizabeth tripp: to take responsibility for. And it's not for me to point out to the outside world and say, you cause that to me.
00:37:05.700 --> 00:37:16.150 elizabeth tripp: But it's also very clear that if you're in the habit of taking responsibility and you're in a situation where somebody else isn't.
00:37:16.680 --> 00:37:19.609 elizabeth tripp: then there can be an imbalance.
00:37:19.820 --> 00:37:24.659 elizabeth tripp: right? Because you may be in a dynamic where
00:37:24.700 --> 00:37:28.180 elizabeth tripp: they're unwilling to take ownership in their
00:37:28.220 --> 00:37:35.909 elizabeth tripp: creative power, right to be responsible for their thoughts and feelings, and putting all of their stuff on you
00:37:36.180 --> 00:37:42.839 elizabeth tripp: to be responsible for, and saying that if you change and are better than their life will improve.
00:37:43.020 --> 00:37:46.680 elizabeth tripp: That's where we want to say that's victimhood.
00:37:47.050 --> 00:37:51.360 elizabeth tripp: And really, in a relationship, if that's the space we could look at.
00:37:51.650 --> 00:37:56.819 elizabeth tripp: you know, is addressing. I think this is a question that Lenny brought up online. You know
00:37:57.000 --> 00:38:02.720 elizabeth tripp: that that's a place where, then, we want to be able to recognize that
00:38:02.980 --> 00:38:11.149 elizabeth tripp: as 2 people who've come together, who are creators are spike sparks of divinity within each of their being.
00:38:11.280 --> 00:38:15.010 elizabeth tripp: that each individual is responsible for
00:38:15.720 --> 00:38:20.719 elizabeth tripp: what's going on with them, and how they're choosing to communicate inside that
00:38:21.000 --> 00:38:23.179 elizabeth tripp: sacred relationship space.
00:38:23.410 --> 00:38:26.219 elizabeth tripp: and that that is a place where
00:38:26.230 --> 00:38:32.139 elizabeth tripp: you're learning through the other, and that they're learning through you, and that each of you have.
00:38:32.290 --> 00:38:42.410 elizabeth tripp: you know, agreed to be these catalysts for growth, and that as you expand in that, even in our friendships, we recognize that
00:38:42.780 --> 00:38:53.339 elizabeth tripp: as somebody displays reactivity or impatience, or, you know, gets down in the dumps and and maybe does want to put the blame on you or place, the responsibility
00:38:53.550 --> 00:39:02.020 elizabeth tripp: that we don't ever have to take that personally, because we get to decide, we get to take ownership of the fact that
00:39:02.560 --> 00:39:11.019 elizabeth tripp: we're not responsible for how they feel. We're not the ones that created their their own perception of ourselves. We played a role.
00:39:11.360 --> 00:39:17.989 elizabeth tripp: but we don't have to be accountable for how they choose to navigate
00:39:18.120 --> 00:39:35.979 elizabeth tripp: the way that we are in their life. Only they can take on that exploration, because only they know why they hold a certain perception that may be disturbing them or causing them some sort of frustration or anger within them.
00:39:36.690 --> 00:39:42.230 elizabeth tripp: So it's a delicate space of realizing that each of us are sovereign. Each of us
00:39:42.910 --> 00:39:59.080 elizabeth tripp: inherently have the freedom within ourselves to at any moment create opinions about ourselves, about others, about our world that are going to ultimately shape our reality and affect our well-being.
00:40:00.370 --> 00:40:05.660 elizabeth tripp: So when we're in this self responsibility, right? We're actually, you know, really
00:40:05.950 --> 00:40:20.540 elizabeth tripp: emphasizing the power that we have, regardless of what we experience. You know that we get to make conscious choices in our lives that allow us to have more control rather than being, you know.
00:40:21.620 --> 00:40:27.259 elizabeth tripp: Let's say, you know, just for the sake of this conversation, a victim to life right.
00:40:27.360 --> 00:40:31.119 elizabeth tripp: that things are happening for us, not to us.
00:40:31.660 --> 00:40:37.549 elizabeth tripp: and in that that self responsibility a whole new vibration starts to emerge
00:40:37.700 --> 00:40:44.309 elizabeth tripp: because we set, we tend to detach from the downward spiral that a victimhood can go into
00:40:44.440 --> 00:40:47.380 elizabeth tripp: where it's like Whoa, me, you know.
00:40:47.940 --> 00:40:58.699 elizabeth tripp: this is something that only you know you can help solve, or that that you cause, and therefore then need to make better, or that I have no way out.
00:40:58.710 --> 00:41:03.530 elizabeth tripp: and you know there's nothing that I can do that's a victim language.
00:41:04.040 --> 00:41:14.379 elizabeth tripp: or I didn't. You know, mean for that to happen it it, you know, happened. And it was so awful. Why would something so awful happen to me?
00:41:15.470 --> 00:41:22.709 elizabeth tripp: We really want to pause as a culture. And this is important in self responsibility as labeling things.
00:41:22.870 --> 00:41:24.520 elizabeth tripp: We are so
00:41:24.540 --> 00:41:26.840 elizabeth tripp: attached to
00:41:26.910 --> 00:41:30.690 elizabeth tripp: forming an opinion automatically about everything
00:41:31.520 --> 00:41:34.229 elizabeth tripp: when in our creative power.
00:41:35.910 --> 00:41:38.359 elizabeth tripp: What if everything could be neutral?
00:41:38.730 --> 00:41:45.809 elizabeth tripp: What if there is really no right or wrong, or good or bad, that, in fact, it's just an experience.
00:41:46.590 --> 00:41:52.279 elizabeth tripp: You know that. Okay, for example, the political landscape we're in? It's an experience.
00:41:53.140 --> 00:41:59.820 elizabeth tripp: Why does it have to be the right side and the wrong side. Why does it have to be the good side and the bad side?
00:42:00.110 --> 00:42:01.750 elizabeth tripp: That's division.
00:42:03.000 --> 00:42:12.099 elizabeth tripp: What if it's an experience of a culture going through, you know, a shift in the way in which
00:42:12.720 --> 00:42:18.580 elizabeth tripp: people who are in leadership roles are navigating our cultural
00:42:18.770 --> 00:42:21.609 elizabeth tripp: in the present moment towards the future.
00:42:22.090 --> 00:42:33.009 elizabeth tripp: and that is our responsibility to be able to look at this and discern, okay, what do I want to give my conscious attention towards
00:42:33.220 --> 00:42:36.550 elizabeth tripp: what do I want to put my conscious focus towards
00:42:36.570 --> 00:42:37.640 elizabeth tripp: that
00:42:37.910 --> 00:42:42.179 elizabeth tripp: actually empowers me and doesn't
00:42:42.360 --> 00:42:46.030 elizabeth tripp: hurt intentionally other people.
00:42:46.380 --> 00:42:51.820 elizabeth tripp: right? That is more of a self responsible type of view
00:42:51.880 --> 00:42:54.040 elizabeth tripp: versus saying.
00:42:54.530 --> 00:43:13.220 elizabeth tripp: if you vote this way, then you're this a idiot or a jerk, or whatever. And if you vote that way, you're that, and really splitting people apart and then labeling them according to their inability to see your point of view.
00:43:13.230 --> 00:43:19.990 elizabeth tripp: There's so much energy there, and it's so conflicting, and it's so heavy, and it's so
00:43:20.180 --> 00:43:21.420 elizabeth tripp: dense
00:43:22.900 --> 00:43:28.029 elizabeth tripp: that why, as a creator, would you even want to get yourself hooked in too far?
00:43:28.890 --> 00:43:32.690 elizabeth tripp: Because there's an opportunity to actually really say, Okay.
00:43:33.870 --> 00:43:57.880 elizabeth tripp: perhaps this is all happening for a greater reason. That is beyond even what I can see, and that my role in this is to remain positive, so that my family stays healthy and positive. My coworkers stay healthy and positive. My community stays healthy and positive, and I bring a conscious shift. Then, therefore, as it ripples out into life.
00:43:59.110 --> 00:44:00.310 elizabeth tripp: Think about that.
00:44:00.380 --> 00:44:03.269 elizabeth tripp: Let's take a quick break, and we'll be right back.
00:46:07.510 --> 00:46:13.750 elizabeth tripp: Welcome back. This is Elizabeth Tripp, your host of nourish the soul, and we are talking about
00:46:14.480 --> 00:46:19.120 elizabeth tripp: pain into power, victimhood into self responsibility.
00:46:19.230 --> 00:46:27.770 elizabeth tripp: I think I'm answering a lot of these questions online. But I also have a question, passive, aggressive reactions, you know, to present times
00:46:28.210 --> 00:46:32.430 elizabeth tripp: from its mirroring to our past wounding. So you know.
00:46:32.560 --> 00:46:43.380 elizabeth tripp: passive, aggressive. First, st to just kind of relate this topic. It's a way of proving a point when when somebody's passive, aggressive. It's it's often
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:50.849 elizabeth tripp: a way in which they're trying to prove to somebody other, somebody or someone else. They're right. Okay?
00:46:50.980 --> 00:46:52.300 elizabeth tripp: And so
00:46:52.900 --> 00:46:58.239 elizabeth tripp: rightness in that sense that that bullheadedness like that we could call it
00:46:58.980 --> 00:47:06.869 elizabeth tripp: That in itself, yes, can feed victimhood, because if somebody, you know, challenges their rightness.
00:47:07.050 --> 00:47:09.470 elizabeth tripp: then it can spur
00:47:09.580 --> 00:47:20.889 elizabeth tripp: a sense of there being a disagreement based off, of how one sees a point of view versus how the other perceives it in being right or what is wrong.
00:47:21.170 --> 00:47:31.840 elizabeth tripp: And so to handle that, you know, is to simply see that whenever somebody is really gung ho about proving a point and being in their rightness.
00:47:31.950 --> 00:47:43.739 elizabeth tripp: Right? There's obviously something within themselves they're having to prove to themselves about being right that once they do, then they'll feel good, or they'll have the confidence that they're smart, or
00:47:43.830 --> 00:47:52.900 elizabeth tripp: that you know they have. You know, the power within them to, you know. See the truth, or the or the you know the way or or the the
00:47:53.200 --> 00:48:10.179 elizabeth tripp: figure it in all out, you know, and we can kind of smile at that from the heart and go, okay, I know that energy. I've felt that before within myself, and I can forgive my my mind, my human mind, for thinking that way. But it is just my mind, because my heart
00:48:10.370 --> 00:48:15.789 elizabeth tripp: would never need to prove something about myself, and to hold that kind of energy
00:48:15.890 --> 00:48:21.299 elizabeth tripp: towards another until they agree with me. Because that's force, and the heart never forces.
00:48:21.640 --> 00:48:24.449 elizabeth tripp: It allows, it flows.
00:48:24.880 --> 00:48:30.809 elizabeth tripp: and it gives people the space and time at their own pace to decide, to make choice, to to
00:48:31.010 --> 00:48:34.630 elizabeth tripp: be in the space that they're in for as long as they need to.
00:48:36.030 --> 00:48:41.620 elizabeth tripp: There was another question about negative reinforcement when a child within the child. So
00:48:41.910 --> 00:48:44.919 elizabeth tripp: you know, if we grow up in a household where
00:48:45.050 --> 00:48:56.450 elizabeth tripp: we were exposed to a lot of negativity, whether that's your you know you're you're not right. You're not doing this. You're you're this. You're that a constant breaking down of our confidence of our self esteem.
00:48:56.830 --> 00:49:03.160 elizabeth tripp: Yeah, definitely you. You had probably one of the toughest places to, you know.
00:49:03.610 --> 00:49:04.500 elizabeth tripp: to
00:49:04.650 --> 00:49:10.142 elizabeth tripp: flourishing because it's very difficult to thrive in an environment like that.
00:49:10.640 --> 00:49:25.900 elizabeth tripp: And so essentially for you, it's really about coming into an acknowledgement and accepting that what you experienced yes, was difficult, but that rather than saying it was our parents fault.
00:49:26.420 --> 00:49:30.889 elizabeth tripp: Could it be that we chose them for a greater purpose, to
00:49:30.940 --> 00:49:45.280 elizabeth tripp: open up to a greater self compassion, or a expansion of our own self, love for the way in which we treat ourselves, that this has been a model for us to then
00:49:45.340 --> 00:49:54.509 elizabeth tripp: learn from, to be able to change, maybe our fixed points of view in which we've learned from them, about ourselves to something completely different.
00:49:54.550 --> 00:50:01.520 elizabeth tripp: which is the process which you know, part of transforming our pain into power is recognizing. It is a process.
00:50:01.640 --> 00:50:06.700 elizabeth tripp: It's an acknowledgement. It's identifying that there's a lesson in everything.
00:50:06.750 --> 00:50:09.019 elizabeth tripp: You know. There's a lesson to.
00:50:09.070 --> 00:50:20.069 elizabeth tripp: you know. I just had someone share with me that they were on an airplane, and a flight attendant was extremely aggressive and and forceful with them, and you know it really shook them up.
00:50:20.110 --> 00:50:27.819 elizabeth tripp: and there was an opportunity to maybe beat themselves up for the way that they, you know, maybe reacted slightly to such an intense energy.
00:50:27.920 --> 00:50:32.930 elizabeth tripp: But overall in the end, you know they handle it very well, and
00:50:33.510 --> 00:50:44.870 elizabeth tripp: what was really coming to light was just being able to see people in their own pain and not personalizing it ourselves.
00:50:45.150 --> 00:50:48.079 elizabeth tripp: you know, recognizing you. We're not.
00:50:48.330 --> 00:51:00.640 elizabeth tripp: We're not forcing this person to be this way. Nothing in our behavior, you know, could have been that extreme in her case. In this situation she was just sitting in her seat with a little over a little oversized bag, and
00:51:00.790 --> 00:51:05.411 elizabeth tripp: the attendant said, You know the bag was too big, and she really got very
00:51:05.750 --> 00:51:09.083 elizabeth tripp: very direct with her
00:51:09.840 --> 00:51:10.980 elizabeth tripp: and
00:51:11.040 --> 00:51:22.130 elizabeth tripp: to realize that when people come in that type of energy that if we feel something within ourselves come up because of that, there's just a part of us that we haven't made peace with.
00:51:22.450 --> 00:51:27.259 elizabeth tripp: that. This is an opportunity because of the their behavior, that we can
00:51:27.630 --> 00:51:35.189 elizabeth tripp: find a place within ourselves where we need to make peace because their energy is bothering us because their energy is triggering them.
00:51:35.470 --> 00:51:41.420 elizabeth tripp: And gosh! What a gift to become more present to the Creator within ourselves!
00:51:41.480 --> 00:51:59.139 elizabeth tripp: To return back home to a truth of love and love, that energy, love, that thing that isn't at peace within us, that came up through that person's behavior, their, you know, their reactivity, their their dominance, their need to have control.
00:52:00.070 --> 00:52:12.929 elizabeth tripp: And that's the beautiful thing. Because if we can see everyone and everything as gifts, as opportunities to grow, to expand our understanding of ourselves, then nothing is bad.
00:52:12.970 --> 00:52:14.450 elizabeth tripp: nothing is wrong.
00:52:15.600 --> 00:52:18.300 elizabeth tripp: and yes, some of us are dealt with
00:52:18.580 --> 00:52:21.219 elizabeth tripp: different extremes of what we go through.
00:52:21.570 --> 00:52:31.990 elizabeth tripp: but what unifies us, and I'll say this again, is that nobody in this world that I've ever talked to has ever gone through life without having to face a challenge or pain
00:52:32.350 --> 00:52:33.380 elizabeth tripp: both.
00:52:34.220 --> 00:52:46.819 elizabeth tripp: And so that brings us together, and the stories we share and the ways in which we get through things, and the faith we can find, and the people that are kind and good are everywhere.
00:52:47.330 --> 00:52:53.120 elizabeth tripp: It's just a matter of opening ourselves up and looking for it right and not personalizing.
00:52:53.800 --> 00:52:59.139 elizabeth tripp: So some really great tools and strategies that I teach my clients is this
00:52:59.190 --> 00:53:03.710 elizabeth tripp: act of compassion for ourselves? Listen! We were all kids
00:53:04.370 --> 00:53:08.339 elizabeth tripp: who all at some point felt scared.
00:53:08.800 --> 00:53:15.269 elizabeth tripp: based off of what we saw, what we experienced, what was happening to us, and through that fear
00:53:15.560 --> 00:53:18.939 elizabeth tripp: made an opinion that was very judgmental.
00:53:19.300 --> 00:53:26.460 elizabeth tripp: Likely that we were wrong, we were bad. We were not enough that we need to fix some element of ourselves, be different
00:53:27.110 --> 00:53:28.810 elizabeth tripp: so that we can survive.
00:53:28.900 --> 00:53:30.389 elizabeth tripp: that we can get through.
00:53:31.040 --> 00:53:33.330 elizabeth tripp: And that's what separated us
00:53:33.810 --> 00:53:36.809 elizabeth tripp: that point from the truth.
00:53:36.890 --> 00:53:40.169 elizabeth tripp: And it is getting back to those points within our
00:53:40.620 --> 00:53:42.529 elizabeth tripp: childhood, within our psyche
00:53:42.550 --> 00:53:52.249 elizabeth tripp: and resolving them and making peace with them, that we can free ourselves from so much of the drama and the pain that we continually
00:53:52.300 --> 00:53:59.919 elizabeth tripp: continually face, and that we continually are choosing to suffer, because that's all we know all we've been
00:54:00.000 --> 00:54:13.029 elizabeth tripp: telling ourselves that it's their fault. They're the cause. They're the reason, or this is the you know, the cause, the circumstances. This thing that I'm in has nothing to do with me. It's just how it happened.
00:54:13.050 --> 00:54:17.099 elizabeth tripp: right? We want to change that and realize. No, no, no, wait a second.
00:54:17.140 --> 00:54:21.490 elizabeth tripp: We all have a superpower mind and
00:54:21.980 --> 00:54:32.449 elizabeth tripp: a childlike energy that has once lived, that likely misunderstood ourselves, likely made assumptions and conclusions that definitely
00:54:32.900 --> 00:54:34.620 elizabeth tripp: separate us from
00:54:34.800 --> 00:54:39.329 elizabeth tripp: a vitality and light and well-being that we so deserve. And
00:54:39.760 --> 00:54:44.529 elizabeth tripp: because our vessels are these transparent channels, they really are
00:54:44.790 --> 00:54:52.099 elizabeth tripp: their receptors of energy for frequencies of our mind and and our emotions to flow through.
00:54:52.870 --> 00:54:57.549 elizabeth tripp: We can create illness by just staying in victim mindset.
00:54:58.170 --> 00:55:02.730 elizabeth tripp: We can absolutely create disease by being in this
00:55:03.240 --> 00:55:06.789 elizabeth tripp: sort of space where everybody else is a cause but ourselves.
00:55:07.010 --> 00:55:09.119 elizabeth tripp: So it always comes back to us.
00:55:09.870 --> 00:55:13.819 elizabeth tripp: So we want to recognize that when we're blaming
00:55:14.460 --> 00:55:20.269 elizabeth tripp: to pause, take a few breaths, ask yourself, what can I do to change my response?
00:55:20.360 --> 00:55:30.820 elizabeth tripp: You know that's that's just a a great place to start where you can take back that control. You can start setting healthy boundaries, you can even, you know, start
00:55:30.900 --> 00:55:33.980 elizabeth tripp: practicing gratitude, and you can also
00:55:34.330 --> 00:55:40.500 elizabeth tripp: find somebody to talk to. Support is often so helpful because it can change
00:55:40.600 --> 00:55:47.220 elizabeth tripp: how we really start to. You know, experience things and see things in a different light.
00:55:47.610 --> 00:55:52.979 elizabeth tripp: but also no, you know, one of the greatest things we can do is start with our declaration.
00:55:53.090 --> 00:55:56.709 elizabeth tripp: I have the power to shape my life.
00:55:56.920 --> 00:55:59.310 elizabeth tripp: I am powerful.
00:55:59.990 --> 00:56:04.489 elizabeth tripp: And so I really want to leave you with that antidote, that prescription.
00:56:04.950 --> 00:56:15.120 elizabeth tripp: Use that you are powerful. You can change your life, and you have everything you need within your own life right now to do that.
00:56:15.340 --> 00:56:20.430 elizabeth tripp: Thank you so much. Everyone for joining tonight's live show
00:56:20.610 --> 00:56:43.909 elizabeth tripp: been a real, true pleasure. And if you want more, if you need to, you know, connect, more, visit my website, elizabethtrip.com, and or join our tribe and community, the Inner Light tribe, Theinner Light tribe.com to continue your journey of awakening your heart and really embracing your power, we welcome you with open arms.
00:56:44.280 --> 00:56:52.540 elizabeth tripp: Thank you so much, and I I bid you adieu until we see each other next Namas Day. Thank you.
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