EPISODE SUMMARY:
In this episode, we’ll explore the powerful truth that our worth is not defined by external factors—whether it's our looks, success, relationships, or what others think of us. Through heartfelt insights, I’ll guide you on a journey of releasing the grip of perfectionism and discovering how to embrace your inherent worth.
Tune in to learn:
- Why perfectionism is rooted in a false sense of control.
- How our obsession with being perfect keeps us from living authentically.
- The transformative power of self-love and surrender in healing perfectionism.
- Practical steps to feel safe within yourself and let go of the need to prove your worth.
By the end of this show, you’ll gain clarity on how to step away from the exhausting pursuit of perfection and learn how to cultivate a deeper relationship with your true self, where ease, trust, and love reside. If you’re ready to let go of old stories and step into your power, this is the episode for you!
Join me, and let’s embrace the love and freedom that await when we let go of perfectionism!
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00:00:44.000 --> 00:00:52.379 elizabeth tripp: Hello, Hello. This is Elizabeth Trip, your host of nurse, the soul
00:00:52.420 --> 00:01:05.804 elizabeth tripp: talk, radio, show and podcast. Welcome welcome. This is your opportunity to really sit back, relax, and go on an extraordinary journey of self discovery.
00:01:06.350 --> 00:01:14.200 elizabeth tripp: This podcast has really been designed to help you get out of your head and back into your body, your sacred
00:01:14.230 --> 00:01:17.670 elizabeth tripp: body Temple, to really
00:01:18.080 --> 00:01:25.069 elizabeth tripp: feel what it's like when you pause, slow down and come back into deep presence.
00:01:25.740 --> 00:01:38.299 elizabeth tripp: So we have another amazing solo show to you for you all tonight. This is the freedom beyond perfectionism and really embracing our true worth.
00:01:38.720 --> 00:01:42.979 elizabeth tripp: So I'm super excited about this show, you know.
00:01:43.860 --> 00:02:06.290 elizabeth tripp: just this past month, I feel like, and even, you know, months will say, or for many of us, even this past year it has been super full of challenge. Does anybody else agree with that? There's just been all different sorts of things that have been showing up
00:02:06.290 --> 00:02:23.120 elizabeth tripp: individually and personally for myself. But I know as I talk to other people, too, they're sharing. They are coming up against some really unique obstacles, some unique things that are in the landscape of their life.
00:02:23.330 --> 00:02:26.740 elizabeth tripp: And I really want to reiterate that
00:02:26.890 --> 00:02:31.779 elizabeth tripp: right now our life. It is an extraordinary time.
00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:34.539 elizabeth tripp: It's a unique time.
00:02:34.550 --> 00:02:47.850 elizabeth tripp: and maybe people say that every decade we're in or you know, every you know century we complete. That was a unique time period that was like nothing we ever experienced.
00:02:48.010 --> 00:02:54.839 elizabeth tripp: But truly, right now, from what I perceive life to be from my perspective.
00:02:55.040 --> 00:03:01.549 elizabeth tripp: our landscape of life is changing minute by minute. You know even the last few years from
00:03:01.770 --> 00:03:10.539 elizabeth tripp: where we stand today, to how we understand ourselves as it relates to technology and Internet and the ways we connect.
00:03:10.860 --> 00:03:26.699 elizabeth tripp: so much is changing so quickly, and it feels like things are really coming into our field much, much faster than they have in in my perception of my life
00:03:26.720 --> 00:03:33.629 elizabeth tripp: in the past and we're being called. We're really being asked to
00:03:33.730 --> 00:03:35.220 elizabeth tripp: decide
00:03:35.380 --> 00:03:38.519 elizabeth tripp: each moment that we're aware of ourselves.
00:03:38.620 --> 00:03:40.250 elizabeth tripp: Who do we want to be?
00:03:40.530 --> 00:03:42.990 elizabeth tripp: How do we want to show up in this life.
00:03:43.210 --> 00:03:49.010 elizabeth tripp: And how do we want to look at our life? What perspective do we want to hold?
00:03:49.630 --> 00:03:51.230 elizabeth tripp: Because truly
00:03:51.630 --> 00:03:54.060 elizabeth tripp: it all comes down to perspective.
00:03:54.330 --> 00:04:03.329 elizabeth tripp: Everything in our life is based off of how we see it, how we understand it, the way we interpret it.
00:04:03.980 --> 00:04:12.030 elizabeth tripp: And you know we could look at life today. And we could say, these, these challenges, these obstacles, these shifts
00:04:12.060 --> 00:04:23.659 elizabeth tripp: in technology and connection, in the ways that our political and economic landscapes. Landscapes are changing, you know, the way our our children's lives are changing.
00:04:23.800 --> 00:04:24.820 elizabeth tripp: that
00:04:24.860 --> 00:04:26.089 elizabeth tripp: it is bad.
00:04:26.800 --> 00:04:30.779 elizabeth tripp: We could absolutely hold that perspective.
00:04:31.430 --> 00:04:34.839 elizabeth tripp: and we could also say it's good.
00:04:35.780 --> 00:04:36.870 elizabeth tripp: And
00:04:36.950 --> 00:04:39.900 elizabeth tripp: each of those perspectives are valid.
00:04:40.110 --> 00:04:49.169 elizabeth tripp: They are true, based off of how we perceive this experience, how we are choosing to look at this world.
00:04:51.320 --> 00:04:57.979 elizabeth tripp: So we don't want to take away the value of your perspective because it does have value.
00:04:58.700 --> 00:05:01.629 elizabeth tripp: But what we want to offer is that
00:05:02.150 --> 00:05:05.090 elizabeth tripp: as we look at things
00:05:05.290 --> 00:05:07.680 elizabeth tripp: from a standpoint
00:05:08.260 --> 00:05:09.310 elizabeth tripp: that
00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:13.100 elizabeth tripp: everything is perfect, just as it is
00:05:13.810 --> 00:05:17.730 elizabeth tripp: because today's topic is beyond perfectionism, right?
00:05:18.100 --> 00:05:21.080 elizabeth tripp: That everything is perfect, just as it is.
00:05:23.110 --> 00:05:26.229 elizabeth tripp: so much can come to surface.
00:05:27.240 --> 00:05:28.330 elizabeth tripp: And
00:05:28.930 --> 00:05:37.239 elizabeth tripp: what I 1st noticed when I start to use this mantra, and as I've begun to really more deeply invited into our life, into my life
00:05:37.520 --> 00:05:40.399 elizabeth tripp: is we automatically
00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:43.680 elizabeth tripp: become present as we slow down
00:05:43.750 --> 00:05:46.090 elizabeth tripp: to the judgments we pass
00:05:46.220 --> 00:05:48.899 elizabeth tripp: upon our life experience.
00:05:49.910 --> 00:06:00.600 elizabeth tripp: This is bad, this is good, this is right, this is wrong. I wish this were to be different. I want this to be fixed or changed.
00:06:02.580 --> 00:06:05.120 elizabeth tripp: and this information.
00:06:05.940 --> 00:06:09.750 elizabeth tripp: it is so so powerful
00:06:10.280 --> 00:06:14.829 elizabeth tripp: because it informs us of our perspective.
00:06:15.580 --> 00:06:20.919 elizabeth tripp: It informs us of where we stand in this current moment within our life.
00:06:21.440 --> 00:06:23.749 elizabeth tripp: and how we are
00:06:23.790 --> 00:06:25.990 elizabeth tripp: choosing to look
00:06:26.520 --> 00:06:27.720 elizabeth tripp: circumstance.
00:06:29.670 --> 00:06:33.840 elizabeth tripp: and if we really slow down even more.
00:06:35.500 --> 00:06:43.189 elizabeth tripp: and we invite within that perspective that mantra, everything is perfect as it is, and we feel
00:06:43.210 --> 00:06:44.390 elizabeth tripp: through
00:06:44.990 --> 00:06:47.899 elizabeth tripp: this invitation of acceptance.
00:06:48.460 --> 00:06:57.580 elizabeth tripp: and noticing these judgments, or even these fears, that we can start to kind of tap into a field of existence that says.
00:06:57.730 --> 00:06:58.710 elizabeth tripp: you know.
00:06:59.350 --> 00:07:01.819 elizabeth tripp: everything is in divine order.
00:07:03.370 --> 00:07:05.929 elizabeth tripp: We start to tap into this field
00:07:07.110 --> 00:07:14.349 elizabeth tripp: this omnipresent field, that everything is in its place is as it should be right now.
00:07:14.440 --> 00:07:16.169 elizabeth tripp: and our mind.
00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:18.200 elizabeth tripp: it says, but how?
00:07:18.670 --> 00:07:20.720 elizabeth tripp: You know my tire's flat.
00:07:21.590 --> 00:07:24.130 elizabeth tripp: I don't have any money in my bank account.
00:07:25.560 --> 00:07:28.419 elizabeth tripp: My partner and me are in conflict.
00:07:29.620 --> 00:07:32.819 elizabeth tripp: my kids cutting up at school.
00:07:34.040 --> 00:07:37.599 elizabeth tripp: My boss is being so hard on me.
00:07:40.180 --> 00:07:41.589 elizabeth tripp: and as we
00:07:41.900 --> 00:07:43.419 elizabeth tripp: slow down
00:07:43.560 --> 00:07:49.420 elizabeth tripp: and we start to see through this invitation of acceptance that
00:07:49.760 --> 00:07:56.370 elizabeth tripp: there is within the circumstance that we may want to automatically judge
00:07:56.950 --> 00:07:59.859 elizabeth tripp: automatically, want to change or try to fix.
00:08:01.300 --> 00:08:09.210 elizabeth tripp: put effort into and force and want to control actually, a beautiful lesson.
00:08:11.230 --> 00:08:15.710 elizabeth tripp: a really powerful opportunity
00:08:18.430 --> 00:08:20.710 elizabeth tripp: to see a new perspective.
00:08:23.230 --> 00:08:26.069 elizabeth tripp: And if everything's perspective
00:08:26.280 --> 00:08:30.580 elizabeth tripp: and there is a potential of infinite perspectives.
00:08:31.420 --> 00:08:36.820 elizabeth tripp: Then we have before us in this practice, in this allowance.
00:08:38.630 --> 00:08:43.220 elizabeth tripp: the possibility to transform our life in a mere second.
00:08:44.360 --> 00:08:48.139 elizabeth tripp: the possibility to shift out of the hard
00:08:49.700 --> 00:08:55.509 elizabeth tripp: in the bad, in the, you know, giving up in the fight
00:08:56.620 --> 00:08:57.810 elizabeth tripp: to
00:08:58.640 --> 00:09:01.110 elizabeth tripp: a field of possibility
00:09:01.760 --> 00:09:03.739 elizabeth tripp: that allows for
00:09:03.970 --> 00:09:07.550 elizabeth tripp: more love through this acceptance.
00:09:07.630 --> 00:09:10.409 elizabeth tripp: through this deep awareness, to this presence of
00:09:10.640 --> 00:09:13.620 elizabeth tripp: why is the challenge here for me?
00:09:15.110 --> 00:09:22.459 elizabeth tripp: And love is one of, if not the most powerful force in the universe.
00:09:23.900 --> 00:09:30.369 elizabeth tripp: and, in my opinion, what I believe each and every single one of us at are
00:09:30.540 --> 00:09:32.380 elizabeth tripp: cellular level
00:09:33.100 --> 00:09:34.390 elizabeth tripp: has been
00:09:34.840 --> 00:09:36.950 elizabeth tripp: designed out of.
00:09:38.310 --> 00:09:43.870 elizabeth tripp: And if that's the case. Then how could love ever steer us
00:09:45.140 --> 00:09:47.060 elizabeth tripp: in the wrong direction?
00:09:48.430 --> 00:09:50.419 elizabeth tripp: How could love
00:09:51.220 --> 00:09:53.020 elizabeth tripp: ever put pain
00:09:53.540 --> 00:09:54.880 elizabeth tripp: in front of us
00:09:56.270 --> 00:09:57.250 elizabeth tripp: for it?
00:09:57.430 --> 00:09:59.660 elizabeth tripp: The point of a suffering
00:10:02.310 --> 00:10:06.780 elizabeth tripp: love wants to learn through you.
00:10:07.260 --> 00:10:09.470 elizabeth tripp: I. We us
00:10:11.340 --> 00:10:19.200 elizabeth tripp: love wants to express itself through our eyes, through our experience.
00:10:19.490 --> 00:10:20.500 elizabeth tripp: and
00:10:21.980 --> 00:10:24.520 elizabeth tripp: understand what it's like
00:10:24.610 --> 00:10:26.669 elizabeth tripp: to see life
00:10:26.890 --> 00:10:27.810 elizabeth tripp: through us
00:10:28.110 --> 00:10:29.590 elizabeth tripp: individually
00:10:29.770 --> 00:10:31.349 elizabeth tripp: and collectively.
00:10:34.220 --> 00:10:36.789 elizabeth tripp: So my personal practice
00:10:37.620 --> 00:10:39.489 elizabeth tripp: in this last week.
00:10:40.410 --> 00:10:44.259 elizabeth tripp: and it feels like even more in this last year.
00:10:45.380 --> 00:10:49.449 elizabeth tripp: has been to really humbly meet
00:10:49.740 --> 00:10:51.180 elizabeth tripp: that mantra.
00:10:52.940 --> 00:10:57.210 elizabeth tripp: Everything is perfect just the way it is.
00:10:59.160 --> 00:11:02.969 elizabeth tripp: because maybe some of you know this or you don't.
00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:04.720 elizabeth tripp: I'm sure maybe
00:11:04.760 --> 00:11:08.580 elizabeth tripp: a few of you have read my post. Maybe some of you haven't.
00:11:09.980 --> 00:11:12.770 elizabeth tripp: but I have had a
00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:16.270 elizabeth tripp: lifelong relationship
00:11:16.460 --> 00:11:18.900 elizabeth tripp: with perfectionism.
00:11:21.510 --> 00:11:24.249 elizabeth tripp: and that lifelong relationship
00:11:24.930 --> 00:11:30.339 elizabeth tripp: by nature of what perfectionism is, and we're going to talk a little bit more about it today
00:11:31.630 --> 00:11:33.130 elizabeth tripp: has had
00:11:34.080 --> 00:11:36.919 elizabeth tripp: yes, significant hardships.
00:11:37.930 --> 00:11:38.940 elizabeth tripp: and
00:11:39.760 --> 00:11:42.769 elizabeth tripp: all by my own design.
00:11:44.010 --> 00:11:47.320 elizabeth tripp: all by my own choosing.
00:11:49.710 --> 00:11:53.569 elizabeth tripp: and to invite such a mantra, such a powerful
00:11:53.880 --> 00:11:57.400 elizabeth tripp: perspective in! I have witnessed myself.
00:11:57.770 --> 00:12:09.459 elizabeth tripp: soften and let go and get upset, and get frustrated, and feel sad, and be afraid, and accept and invite and allow
00:12:09.520 --> 00:12:11.400 elizabeth tripp: all these facets in.
00:12:11.910 --> 00:12:18.569 elizabeth tripp: because a majority of what this inner perfectionist me used to do was Judge
00:12:19.400 --> 00:12:22.310 elizabeth tripp: Judge, these parts of me
00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:24.490 elizabeth tripp: that made me so
00:12:24.560 --> 00:12:27.030 elizabeth tripp: human and unique.
00:12:28.420 --> 00:12:35.420 elizabeth tripp: And I want to talk about how common this is tonight on today's broadcast
00:12:35.830 --> 00:12:37.479 elizabeth tripp: to judge ourselves.
00:12:38.010 --> 00:12:43.309 elizabeth tripp: to feel afraid, to really be ourselves because of that.
00:12:43.850 --> 00:12:46.350 elizabeth tripp: and therefore
00:12:46.890 --> 00:12:53.380 elizabeth tripp: live in a smaller existence, because we are unable to invite
00:12:53.780 --> 00:12:57.489 elizabeth tripp: a more grander perspective that is just
00:12:58.130 --> 00:13:07.990 elizabeth tripp: tiny bit outside of our field, and yet still here for us to experience, if we allow it to be.
00:13:09.430 --> 00:13:11.650 elizabeth tripp: if we can
00:13:12.100 --> 00:13:14.879 elizabeth tripp: within ourselves, be open
00:13:15.500 --> 00:13:20.479 elizabeth tripp: to a new understanding of ourself and life.
00:13:23.020 --> 00:13:30.600 elizabeth tripp: So on that note, let's take a quick break. And when we get back we're gonna dive into beyond perfectionism.
00:13:30.960 --> 00:13:33.429 elizabeth tripp: and really embracing our true worth.
00:15:47.620 --> 00:15:58.709 elizabeth tripp: Welcome back everyone. This is Elizabeth Trip. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you all for tuning in. We are talking about
00:15:59.370 --> 00:16:06.130 elizabeth tripp: freedom, beyond perfectionism. And really this invitation of
00:16:06.260 --> 00:16:08.050 elizabeth tripp: deeper acceptance
00:16:08.180 --> 00:16:11.890 elizabeth tripp: of ourselves, of what life is presenting us.
00:16:12.080 --> 00:16:27.280 elizabeth tripp: a then allowance of what is a softer way of being, a sense of surrender and release, of control that so many of us I know, struggle with. I know I was just sharing in the previous segment about
00:16:27.520 --> 00:16:44.689 elizabeth tripp: little bit of insight into my journey with that perfectionism, and I and I have so many clients that struggle with this as well, and are seeing it in a new light, because perfectionism actually is beautiful because it holds so many
00:16:44.690 --> 00:17:11.229 elizabeth tripp: amazingly powerful soul lessons just speaking about them, how to let go of control and surrender, how to deepen our self love, how to, you know really accept things as they are right, how to really in, you know, embrace the flow of life and the invitation of support from the universe, even though sometimes it can feel intangible
00:17:11.270 --> 00:17:17.860 elizabeth tripp: right, that deeper trust that we start to build so perfectionism offers these
00:17:17.930 --> 00:17:26.390 elizabeth tripp: sole lessons to come alive in our life, but often through the struggles that we bump up against when we
00:17:26.390 --> 00:17:51.910 elizabeth tripp: seek control, when we really, you know, seek certainty when we are very attached to, you know a specific way of doing things, to give ourselves that self confidence, that we're doing it right, because we're embarrassingly. You know we're embarrassed to do anything wrong. So we're kind of heading into here like the the telltale signs that you're a perfectionist, and
00:17:51.910 --> 00:17:57.349 elizabeth tripp: I kind of want to introduce this because I want to get everybody present. You know what is a perfectionist like.
00:17:57.730 --> 00:18:14.759 elizabeth tripp: And truly, you know, when I, when I notice this tendency, because I'm very aware of it, because I I'm aware of it within myself. And I'm in this really beautiful deconstructive phase, and and it takes some time. I remember my mentor telling me that
00:18:15.210 --> 00:18:33.200 elizabeth tripp: this this programming of perfection is actually one of the most challenging programs to de deconstruct, to dissolve. Because ultimately it requires that we really dissolve these big big ego conversations that we can have.
00:18:33.610 --> 00:18:58.780 elizabeth tripp: So a perfectionist? Well, telltale sign is, you know. Do you fear failure? Are you afraid of making a mistake and doing things wrong? You know? Do you set really high standards for yourself, and maybe even for others. And when you fall short, do you tend to be harsh on yourself, and and beat yourself up
00:18:59.120 --> 00:19:11.390 elizabeth tripp: leading to guilt or disappointment? Right, you know, who's ever gotten angry at someone because they didn't do it, the way that we expected them to right.
00:19:11.680 --> 00:19:20.519 elizabeth tripp: and then gotten mad at ourselves for getting angry, and can you be quick to judge
00:19:20.610 --> 00:19:23.619 elizabeth tripp: both yourself and others? You know.
00:19:24.350 --> 00:19:38.029 elizabeth tripp: being wrong to you also feel very uncomfortable. It can almost feel like, you know, you cannot rationalize that. Your point of view could have a loophole in it.
00:19:38.456 --> 00:19:51.239 elizabeth tripp: And when people disagree with you and have a different perspective. It's super easy to get triggered to be defensive, you know, but my point of view is right. How could I be wrong?
00:19:51.750 --> 00:19:55.219 elizabeth tripp: Oh, remember, we just invited you to the invitation of it.
00:19:55.330 --> 00:19:59.710 elizabeth tripp: Infinite possibility through infinite perspective. Right?
00:20:00.380 --> 00:20:06.090 elizabeth tripp: And so we want to really be leaning into this because a lot of what
00:20:06.210 --> 00:20:09.239 elizabeth tripp: we are seeing in the landscape of our life
00:20:09.310 --> 00:20:11.460 elizabeth tripp: is a lot of these. These
00:20:12.340 --> 00:20:33.360 elizabeth tripp: programmings of this inner perfection is coming outward into our our family dynamics, into our social and cultural dynamics. And, and, you know, bubbling over into our the landscape of our life. You know, as we know it politically and economically, and education all of that.
00:20:34.620 --> 00:21:02.450 elizabeth tripp: So a perfectionist often gets very set in their ways, and they can have inflexible thinking like it takes a lot for them to pivot their track like, Okay, we're going here here. But then it starts to rain, and it's like it's almost like it's it's it's a lot of effort to to then turn and and change direction, and and come up into another avenue of possibility of what we could do.
00:21:02.450 --> 00:21:14.099 elizabeth tripp: And that's just a very simple example. Which adds to like frustration when life doesn't go as planned when we we don't meet, you know. What we envision right?
00:21:14.500 --> 00:21:22.679 elizabeth tripp: And another really big characteristic of a perfectionist is they thrive on praise and validation.
00:21:23.398 --> 00:21:26.889 elizabeth tripp: This is something that you know truly got me
00:21:27.370 --> 00:21:42.229 elizabeth tripp: extremely far in life, and yet hindered me equally as much. Because when I got this praise and validation, whether it was over my physical appearance or my success, or you know,
00:21:42.910 --> 00:21:56.353 elizabeth tripp: yeah, just how I appeared to the outside world. It was reassuring me that I could do things right, and it's really bolstering my self confidence. But it was a false sense of myself. It was very ego inflated.
00:21:56.890 --> 00:22:02.303 elizabeth tripp: And that can be really hard for somebody to want to accept and recognize
00:22:02.730 --> 00:22:06.259 elizabeth tripp: But this can mean, and
00:22:06.360 --> 00:22:15.509 elizabeth tripp: I continue to even embrace this on myself, because it's very natural that we may over analyze how other people perceive us.
00:22:15.670 --> 00:22:16.656 elizabeth tripp: you know,
00:22:17.640 --> 00:22:32.420 elizabeth tripp: even today I that some very clear boundaries with people in my life, and by the nature of who I am, I can hear the ripple effect that my boundary has within them.
00:22:32.450 --> 00:22:45.730 elizabeth tripp: What's going on? Is she okay? How come she's changed? I wonder if she's a you know. Something is more happening for her. And those are all okay. But because I can hear it.
00:22:45.750 --> 00:22:54.760 elizabeth tripp: I can sometimes slip into this kind of over analyzing my own action. And I have to go. Whoa! Come back. Pause. Come into my heart.
00:22:54.850 --> 00:23:01.240 elizabeth tripp: It's okay for me to set a boundary and to allow people to think whatever they want about me
00:23:01.600 --> 00:23:08.440 elizabeth tripp: to allow them to have their own opinion, and for me to continue to
00:23:08.570 --> 00:23:12.190 elizabeth tripp: recognize my worth is not dependent
00:23:12.280 --> 00:23:16.110 elizabeth tripp: on what I do or don't do for other people.
00:23:16.420 --> 00:23:20.450 elizabeth tripp: and how much time I give or not to them.
00:23:20.750 --> 00:23:24.329 elizabeth tripp: And that's really huge for a lot of people.
00:23:24.360 --> 00:23:31.800 elizabeth tripp: because often perfectionists struggle with emotional stress and feelings of inadequacy.
00:23:32.541 --> 00:23:40.090 elizabeth tripp: And definitely, that was something for me that I really really had a tough time with.
00:23:40.280 --> 00:23:44.129 elizabeth tripp: And you know, I've been on this 8 year long journey.
00:23:44.210 --> 00:23:50.310 elizabeth tripp: some of you know, or don't know, but in 2,015 I I went through one of the most.
00:23:50.580 --> 00:24:00.790 elizabeth tripp: you know, emotionally crushing experiences. I was just around 30, and I had been planning my life with somebody.
00:24:00.800 --> 00:24:20.950 elizabeth tripp: And suddenly that plan that I had in place, and, you know, was thinking was going to be my future. Just the rug got ripped out from underneath me, and I just emotionally went into a downward spiral. I was really hard on myself, judging myself for being the cause and at fault, and
00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:28.629 elizabeth tripp: I had spent many years, not even realizing how much I was trying to fix things and change myself for the other person to be happy.
00:24:28.640 --> 00:24:41.829 elizabeth tripp: And I met someone in this journey when I was at Rock Bottom, who quite literally helped me change my perspective of myself and transform my life. And it's why I do what I do today.
00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:46.870 elizabeth tripp: and I'll tell more about that journey, and and the nature of what
00:24:46.950 --> 00:24:55.176 elizabeth tripp: has transpired since then. A little more, and probably next episodes. There's more to come. But
00:24:56.040 --> 00:25:00.370 elizabeth tripp: It had to happen that experience had to happen for me to get here.
00:25:00.500 --> 00:25:05.649 elizabeth tripp: And I think that speaks to the nature. Yeah, everything is perfect, just as it is
00:25:05.710 --> 00:25:08.970 elizabeth tripp: but as a perfectionist man, we can just be like.
00:25:09.150 --> 00:25:27.670 elizabeth tripp: we can almost feel like the world is crashing in when we come up against these these challenges or we find really great ways to cope that, you know. Check us out and get us out of presence and and get us busy, or.
00:25:27.800 --> 00:25:34.420 elizabeth tripp: you know. Help us, you know, really disconnect or disassociate from.
00:25:34.880 --> 00:25:37.709 elizabeth tripp: It's emotional roller coaster we're on.
00:25:38.410 --> 00:25:46.940 elizabeth tripp: But I think you guys are all getting the point and chime in. Certainly. Leave me a note. Send me a message
00:25:47.030 --> 00:26:01.109 elizabeth tripp: share on the live. If it's safe to say that I think we can all see a perfectionist within ourselves to varying degrees, depending on how aware we are of our own tendencies or not.
00:26:02.040 --> 00:26:02.880 elizabeth tripp: And
00:26:03.210 --> 00:26:09.230 elizabeth tripp: I think that's why it's really important to explore perfectionism.
00:26:09.916 --> 00:26:21.820 elizabeth tripp: Because, like I said it, it invites an invitation or opportunity from a soul level to really see. Okay, what is the deeper? Why, if.
00:26:22.250 --> 00:26:43.270 elizabeth tripp: as a collective, this is something we can relate to each other on, you know, we can say, Yeah, I I tend to be hard on myself. Or, yeah, I have this, you know. Tendency to want to, you know, have things happen a certain way? Or I, yeah, I get defensive when someone doesn't see life the way I do right?
00:26:43.500 --> 00:26:57.437 elizabeth tripp: Well, it's all for a reason. And I think it can be one of the most challenging things to really find our center, and and why I wanted to talk about this
00:26:58.250 --> 00:27:20.070 elizabeth tripp: so much of our culture actually reinforces perfectionism at a really young age, you know, who remembers going to school and being in these like time tested environments where you had, you know, 25 min to take a spelling test that you were to study for the night before, and
00:27:20.160 --> 00:27:37.409 elizabeth tripp: you know, depending on how many you got right. You know you got a grade that either puts you on a star chart for success in the in the school year, or you didn't get a star, and you felt really bad about yourself, you know. So I know.
00:27:37.680 --> 00:27:45.610 elizabeth tripp: Probably everybody's had an experience like that. And it's just a a reinforcement of you know
00:27:45.960 --> 00:27:59.039 elizabeth tripp: how our culture really supports this kind of self critical judgment being hard, and then also kind of fevering an experience where we fail. Where this may happen again.
00:27:59.470 --> 00:28:07.360 elizabeth tripp: So we're gonna look at this right? Because it's it's super easy to, you know.
00:28:07.410 --> 00:28:09.410 elizabeth tripp: Come into the space of
00:28:09.450 --> 00:28:29.489 elizabeth tripp: bad good, right? Wrong, and so much more. So we're gonna look at this. And we're gonna understand, really, what is the root cause of perfectionism and talk about it a little bit. And we're gonna take a break right now. And when we come back we're gonna dive right into that root cause of perfectionism. So we'll be right back.
00:30:31.740 --> 00:30:34.749 elizabeth tripp: Welcome back to nurse the soul.
00:30:34.800 --> 00:30:45.670 elizabeth tripp: So glad to be here. I'm Elizabeth Trip, your host. I wanted to also let you guys know something really exciting before I dive back in to the root here of perfectionism.
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00:31:12.300 --> 00:31:18.210 elizabeth tripp: I would love if you would consider that, because then more people get to
00:31:18.790 --> 00:31:26.929 elizabeth tripp: experience the show, and I certainly feel that the kind of messaging we're bringing out here is really powerful and potent.
00:31:27.080 --> 00:31:29.770 elizabeth tripp: because our bodies.
00:31:29.910 --> 00:31:41.379 elizabeth tripp: they will tell us when we are full on in the programming of perfectionism. We're going to talk a little bit about this a little bit later in the show, but
00:31:41.650 --> 00:32:11.619 elizabeth tripp: certainly through all the emotional upheavals that perfectionism can cause right. The need for control. This, you know, having to be right, this feeling of defensiveness, this you know, questioning of our self worth this analyzation of other people's perceptions of us. My goodness, it can cause so much stress and overwhelm. We're going to talk a little later about how that can affect us physically. And let us know when there's something we really need to transform. But
00:32:11.910 --> 00:32:14.919 elizabeth tripp: I wanted to ask, you know
00:32:15.420 --> 00:32:17.880 elizabeth tripp: how many of us
00:32:17.890 --> 00:32:44.609 elizabeth tripp: have been through an experience where we felt judged or criticized by someone, and we took it personally. Believe we talked about this last week on the previous episode, and then made a judgment of ourselves, leading us to feel self conscious. Well, let's just not go back to like the recent 5 years, you know. Let's think back into our past. Let's let's go into our little, our little, you know.
00:32:44.610 --> 00:32:59.979 elizabeth tripp: boys and girl childhood. Here are little our little selves, you know. Because in my, in my client sessions, this is where I actually start to see the root of perfectionism where they're they're actually
00:33:00.090 --> 00:33:02.084 elizabeth tripp: planted, you know,
00:33:03.610 --> 00:33:29.660 elizabeth tripp: in their upbringing within their family. Ho! How homes and dynamics! Whether it was mildly dysfunctional, or, you know, highly dysfunctional, because I, personally don't believe that any family is actually perfect regardless if someone says that there's there's dysfunction in everybody. At some point early in their life in their childhood experience.
00:33:29.990 --> 00:33:31.750 elizabeth tripp: Something happened.
00:33:31.880 --> 00:33:36.629 elizabeth tripp: You know. We've been through a trauma. It nobody got
00:33:36.740 --> 00:33:38.070 elizabeth tripp: like like.
00:33:38.380 --> 00:33:47.829 elizabeth tripp: Didn't you know they got nobody got saved from that and that's important to know. And and something compromised our sense of safety.
00:33:48.409 --> 00:33:50.310 elizabeth tripp: And that could be just
00:33:50.340 --> 00:34:02.459 elizabeth tripp: a chaotic home. You know. There's there's a lot of fighting. There's a lot of, you know, reactivity. There could be an anxious parent or parents.
00:34:02.630 --> 00:34:16.270 elizabeth tripp: you know, with anxious parents. And there's a level of hypersensitivity or helicopter parenting. Or you know, the need to be in control of a lot of aspects due to worry and and
00:34:16.710 --> 00:34:21.579 elizabeth tripp: that can really impact the child because we want to remember.
00:34:21.590 --> 00:34:25.440 elizabeth tripp: children are sponges. They're they're really like
00:34:25.489 --> 00:34:32.199 elizabeth tripp: taking in everything because they're. This is like their 1st glimpse through this perspective of what life is.
00:34:32.780 --> 00:34:33.949 elizabeth tripp: And so
00:34:34.139 --> 00:34:38.970 elizabeth tripp: what I've seen, case after case with all my clients, and I can't even believe it. I I
00:34:39.070 --> 00:34:44.520 elizabeth tripp: probably have done thousands of client sessions thousands
00:34:44.550 --> 00:34:46.999 elizabeth tripp: and 8 years. How's it?
00:34:48.600 --> 00:35:06.009 elizabeth tripp: what happens is these as children we we learn to compensate for, you know. This feeling of insecurity we could have in this chaos that we're perceiving, you know, a reactive parent, a controlling parent, a worried parent.
00:35:07.120 --> 00:35:37.059 elizabeth tripp: and we start to learn to adjust ourselves for that. That experience, you know, because what child wants to feel bad or made to feel wrong, or, you know, think they're doing something to upset their parents. Very natural. So we start to modify ourselves and modify how we share ourselves with you know our closest family members in an effort ultimately to feel safe.
00:35:37.220 --> 00:35:42.509 elizabeth tripp: right? Because something happens within our experience and we feel
00:35:43.090 --> 00:35:46.919 elizabeth tripp: unsafe. We feel insecure in our environment.
00:35:47.200 --> 00:35:50.730 elizabeth tripp: and we're not blaming the parents. Certainly
00:35:50.860 --> 00:35:58.189 elizabeth tripp: this date. We, in fact, chose our parents, Louise Hake, that that 1,989,
00:35:58.410 --> 00:36:02.280 elizabeth tripp: you know, 2,024 at this point
00:36:02.350 --> 00:36:07.589 elizabeth tripp: we've all heard. We choose our parents right and for a purpose.
00:36:07.970 --> 00:36:08.770 elizabeth tripp: So
00:36:09.000 --> 00:36:23.580 elizabeth tripp: we're choosing them, and things happen. And we become afraid of something that we experience with them, based off of an element that they're expressing of reactivity or control. And this is where the route begins.
00:36:23.610 --> 00:36:28.820 elizabeth tripp: because if we are compromised in our safety at any point in our life.
00:36:28.910 --> 00:36:32.949 elizabeth tripp: we are continuously compensating for that.
00:36:33.170 --> 00:36:39.000 elizabeth tripp: and through that compensation right modifying ourselves, chameleoning ourselves to be
00:36:39.290 --> 00:36:46.519 elizabeth tripp: something for somebody else to not disrupt the peace, or, you know, to create more chaos. Right?
00:36:46.930 --> 00:36:48.830 elizabeth tripp: We don't have any power.
00:36:49.430 --> 00:37:00.884 elizabeth tripp: And ultimately some some kids grow up to be teenagers, and they. That's why they rebel. They want that power right? Only causing probably more destruction in the household.
00:37:01.440 --> 00:37:02.450 elizabeth tripp: But
00:37:02.970 --> 00:37:11.370 elizabeth tripp: that inner critic right starts to grasp a hold of us, you know. Don't do that. You should do this.
00:37:11.380 --> 00:37:25.960 elizabeth tripp: We start to analyze the environment around us, their behaviors, their actions. We start to get to know when to talk, when not to what to do and what not to do, what's right, what's wrong. And so we get programmed very early on. And
00:37:26.150 --> 00:37:36.380 elizabeth tripp: it does. It takes an awareness of this because our school environments reinforce this. Our social, cultural expectations reinforce this.
00:37:36.890 --> 00:37:42.830 elizabeth tripp: How many people believe that our friends should be there for us at all costs
00:37:43.590 --> 00:37:47.500 elizabeth tripp: and listen to their problems, no matter what.
00:37:47.700 --> 00:37:53.520 elizabeth tripp: And yet we see our friends don't change. They stay in the same spot.
00:37:53.560 --> 00:38:00.900 elizabeth tripp: and we continuously give our time and energy, thinking that if we do this we are good.
00:38:01.200 --> 00:38:04.020 elizabeth tripp: So we are trying to prove
00:38:04.310 --> 00:38:05.320 elizabeth tripp: are worth
00:38:05.740 --> 00:38:08.289 elizabeth tripp: that is a perfectionist.
00:38:09.440 --> 00:38:14.960 elizabeth tripp: whereas somebody who knows their value can speak up and say, Hey.
00:38:15.480 --> 00:38:24.169 elizabeth tripp: I've given you this advice. I've given you the opportunity to find solutions. And you're not choosing it. So I'm no longer
00:38:24.210 --> 00:38:27.280 elizabeth tripp: going to enable you anymore.
00:38:28.440 --> 00:38:31.100 elizabeth tripp: It takes a lot of strength and courage
00:38:31.980 --> 00:38:36.330 elizabeth tripp: and a lot of perfectionists are afraid of that because of the judgment.
00:38:37.710 --> 00:38:39.810 elizabeth tripp: But that's the inner work.
00:38:40.680 --> 00:38:45.790 elizabeth tripp: because it's challenging for a perfectionist to learn to let their guard down
00:38:45.880 --> 00:38:52.299 elizabeth tripp: to really feel fully relaxed and completely themselves.
00:38:53.160 --> 00:38:58.819 elizabeth tripp: Because there's this this current of fear that hasn't been processed.
00:38:59.100 --> 00:39:05.589 elizabeth tripp: And it needs to be addressed because it's gonna it's gonna rear itself. But often what we do
00:39:05.610 --> 00:39:07.769 elizabeth tripp: is we actually
00:39:07.920 --> 00:39:13.540 elizabeth tripp: find the, you know, norms quote unquote in our culture like
00:39:14.050 --> 00:39:31.370 elizabeth tripp: drinking and drugs. And you know, getting busy and working harder. And you know, checking off our list of everything we're supposed to achieve in order to be on par with. You know the the Joneses.
00:39:32.290 --> 00:39:39.290 elizabeth tripp: and or we could go to the opposite spectrum and totally rebel and go wild and say, You know, screw it.
00:39:40.020 --> 00:39:49.609 elizabeth tripp: gonna live this life like everybody else. And we and we, we can put ourselves into position where we we are in squander because we don't believe in rules and regulations.
00:39:51.150 --> 00:39:58.193 elizabeth tripp: so it can go both ways. And it's so crazy to be thinking about it in your own life where you see this
00:39:58.720 --> 00:40:03.430 elizabeth tripp: because if we don't have this sense of security. We don't have our power.
00:40:04.570 --> 00:40:05.610 elizabeth tripp: and
00:40:06.330 --> 00:40:09.969 elizabeth tripp: from that a perfectionist seeks control.
00:40:10.600 --> 00:40:13.930 elizabeth tripp: It is so so natural.
00:40:14.630 --> 00:40:16.070 elizabeth tripp: supernatural.
00:40:16.150 --> 00:40:30.270 elizabeth tripp: Of course you're gonna want control. You know you're because the lack of safety in turn is creating. You know this, this false sense that you know who you are and how you are
00:40:30.310 --> 00:40:31.640 elizabeth tripp: isn't right
00:40:32.530 --> 00:40:39.329 elizabeth tripp: because we judged ourselves based off of a experience we had with somebody else. And when we're 8,
00:40:39.820 --> 00:40:47.359 elizabeth tripp: the world of adults can look a whole lot bigger than ourselves, and of course we take their opinion to heart.
00:40:48.710 --> 00:40:54.460 elizabeth tripp: But the most beautiful part about this is that this is the design of our soul.
00:40:56.860 --> 00:40:59.839 elizabeth tripp: Everything is perfect, just as it is.
00:41:01.950 --> 00:41:08.410 elizabeth tripp: That means our childhood experiences, our parents, the trauma, the things we went through.
00:41:11.250 --> 00:41:16.450 elizabeth tripp: and the argument I can already hear is, but this happened to me.
00:41:16.510 --> 00:41:27.010 elizabeth tripp: and we can talk about real specific traumatic events. But I have helped so many people, even people who have been sexually abused by their parents
00:41:28.570 --> 00:41:33.160 elizabeth tripp: to understand on the soul level what that experience was truly meant for them
00:41:34.050 --> 00:41:36.620 elizabeth tripp: to understand about themselves.
00:41:38.620 --> 00:41:42.339 elizabeth tripp: because there is, when we slow down
00:41:43.060 --> 00:41:56.199 elizabeth tripp: and are able to come out of our head into our bodies, we can start to get aware of our own perspectives that we've held that keep us limited
00:41:57.020 --> 00:41:58.030 elizabeth tripp: in
00:41:58.260 --> 00:42:04.089 elizabeth tripp: understanding the true vastness of ourselves, our true value.
00:42:04.250 --> 00:42:08.959 elizabeth tripp: and we can get so caught up in what we think we should be doing.
00:42:09.320 --> 00:42:15.529 elizabeth tripp: and how others are doing it. And so they become our measure
00:42:16.420 --> 00:42:22.939 elizabeth tripp: that we all of a sudden fail to see what we're here to really learn and the body.
00:42:23.260 --> 00:42:26.080 elizabeth tripp: Sutherland takes the brunt because it will.
00:42:27.000 --> 00:42:29.119 elizabeth tripp: and it's why
00:42:29.610 --> 00:42:30.950 elizabeth tripp: the body
00:42:31.860 --> 00:42:37.810 elizabeth tripp: is the solution to every problem we have, because it will tell you, when you need to change
00:42:39.340 --> 00:42:46.929 elizabeth tripp: it will tell you through your aches and pains and dis-ease you need to change.
00:42:50.310 --> 00:42:54.499 elizabeth tripp: It's incredibly powerful when you invite this into your life.
00:42:56.070 --> 00:43:04.310 elizabeth tripp: So I want to ask you, before we take a quick break. Have any of you ever struggled with feeling uncomfortable with fully being yourself?
00:43:05.290 --> 00:43:10.939 elizabeth tripp: Have you ever changed who you are when you're with someone else, to make them feel comfortable?
00:43:11.510 --> 00:43:14.760 elizabeth tripp: And do you struggle with wanting to keep peace
00:43:15.600 --> 00:43:20.880 elizabeth tripp: like sacrificing your comfort. So others are happy around you.
00:43:22.820 --> 00:43:30.369 elizabeth tripp: We're going to go into this subject even more in our last segment. Let's take a quick break. We'll be right back.
00:45:35.150 --> 00:45:53.130 elizabeth tripp: Wow! We are back for our last segment here. The show is just speeding by and rich with a lot of wisdom, and I want to remind you. If you are someone who is spiritually curious and really seeking a community, you can call home.
00:45:53.420 --> 00:46:10.369 elizabeth tripp: Please visit our community, the Inner light tribe. You can just type that in inner light tribe. And here you're gonna find an array of opportunities, a collection of meditations and training videos and a place where you can connect with like minded
00:46:10.370 --> 00:46:24.469 elizabeth tripp: to be able to awaken to your heart and embrace your true power, which is exactly what we're talking about today. So that's the Inner Light tribe. And I really look forward to seeing you there. So
00:46:24.950 --> 00:46:37.679 elizabeth tripp: we're just, you know, dissembling the perfectionist right? And I want to share in this last segment a little bit about my own personal story. Just a brief kind of insight. You know
00:46:37.870 --> 00:46:46.709 elizabeth tripp: my inner perfectionist got rooted in childhood, like I've been speaking about because
00:46:47.510 --> 00:47:04.919 elizabeth tripp: the nature of my home environment was that my my both of my parents had to work, you know, to be able to, you know, keep our lifestyle at a certain level that they were. You know that they wanted for us, which I'm very grateful for, and
00:47:05.340 --> 00:47:08.200 elizabeth tripp: during the the supper times I had
00:47:08.230 --> 00:47:19.890 elizabeth tripp: my older siblings taking care of me, which you know the the age difference is my 8 years, my oldest brother to 5 years, my sister to 3 years, my second oldest brother, and then me
00:47:20.600 --> 00:47:24.079 elizabeth tripp: and so I I remember just
00:47:24.280 --> 00:47:51.079 elizabeth tripp: there were brief moments where I remember looking around in the summertime and seeing complete chaos, I mean my older brother fighting with my younger, my older but younger brother, and you know there was just lack of boundaries and appropriateness of what should be going on when obviously our parents weren't home. And because I'm so sensitive
00:47:51.650 --> 00:47:57.030 elizabeth tripp: to environment, to energy. I felt the chaos.
00:47:57.650 --> 00:47:58.980 elizabeth tripp: and it
00:47:58.990 --> 00:48:02.420 elizabeth tripp: left me with a feeling of insecurity.
00:48:02.830 --> 00:48:21.840 elizabeth tripp: and I had no one to sit down and process with me what I was seeing on a daily basis, sometimes really big arguments and fights and screaming like any kids would do if they were left on their own and
00:48:22.430 --> 00:48:23.590 elizabeth tripp: it just
00:48:24.690 --> 00:48:31.449 elizabeth tripp: it affected me. But for a reason for a purpose. I didn't have that sense of peace within myself
00:48:31.590 --> 00:48:32.999 elizabeth tripp: after that point.
00:48:33.360 --> 00:48:40.689 elizabeth tripp: and I didn't recognize it, but I began to really start to observe others and the environment and
00:48:40.940 --> 00:48:51.270 elizabeth tripp: my my behavior and chameleon myself to make sure that I was enslaved from any of the the chaos I was seeing, and I did. I did a great job at it.
00:48:51.420 --> 00:48:55.780 elizabeth tripp: but I learned the skill set, you know, to kind of change myself for others which
00:48:55.870 --> 00:48:59.979 elizabeth tripp: built in my journey. You know I
00:49:00.050 --> 00:49:02.439 elizabeth tripp: also never released this
00:49:02.500 --> 00:49:06.990 elizabeth tripp: insecurity. I started to feel and thought food for comfort.
00:49:07.290 --> 00:49:13.370 elizabeth tripp: and in that speaking I gained weight, and got picked on and teased, and guess what
00:49:14.020 --> 00:49:16.519 elizabeth tripp: it really hurt my self esteem.
00:49:17.050 --> 00:49:41.239 elizabeth tripp: and I remember feeling like everybody else had the power to to fix me, that if I just lost the weight I would be liked, or lovable or beautiful, if I just, you know, was able to show others that I could succeed at something, go above and beyond everybody else, and then I would be seen as smart and good. So it's exactly what I did.
00:49:41.350 --> 00:49:51.710 elizabeth tripp: And this programming served me. I mean, I've out exceeded so many people, and I'll say that very honestly and humbly, because in the same breath.
00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:57.180 elizabeth tripp: It caused me so much stress, so much overwhelm, so much tension.
00:49:57.710 --> 00:50:17.529 elizabeth tripp: My physical body I've had, you know, gi issues. I've had tension in my shoulders. Neck. I've had, you know, imbalances within my my body. I've had, you know, different things show up with unknown reason and cause other than just being stressed consistently.
00:50:17.720 --> 00:50:18.820 elizabeth tripp: chronically.
00:50:19.800 --> 00:50:23.419 elizabeth tripp: So. How many of you can relate right?
00:50:23.570 --> 00:50:38.280 elizabeth tripp: Because it it got to a point where I was just so broken down and fatigued and tired, and so, feeling as though I had given it my all to everybody else, never felt like I got the same in return that
00:50:38.880 --> 00:50:44.840 elizabeth tripp: my life had to completely overhaul and change. And it's been the universe sent me somebody that
00:50:45.080 --> 00:50:46.140 elizabeth tripp: could help me.
00:50:46.610 --> 00:50:49.380 elizabeth tripp: And once I started to give myself
00:50:49.420 --> 00:50:51.649 elizabeth tripp: that self love that I
00:50:51.710 --> 00:51:06.820 elizabeth tripp: desperately needed and cultivated a deeper sense of peace within myself. I started to recognize where those perfectionist tendencies were, and began to over time start to break them down and reclaim my sense of power
00:51:07.420 --> 00:51:12.250 elizabeth tripp: through my sense of safety. Returning, my power returned, my
00:51:12.300 --> 00:51:22.360 elizabeth tripp: actions became more you know, intentional. I began to treat myself better, and I started to let go of people in my life that just didn't resonate.
00:51:23.390 --> 00:51:26.339 elizabeth tripp: That's how I got here. The short, short version of that.
00:51:26.870 --> 00:51:27.940 elizabeth tripp: But
00:51:28.320 --> 00:51:35.160 elizabeth tripp: I really want you to be present to that, because perfectionism can wreak havoc on our bodies.
00:51:35.190 --> 00:51:37.350 elizabeth tripp: especially our nervous system.
00:51:39.280 --> 00:51:55.310 elizabeth tripp: especially our nervous system, because that fear that that comp that has been, you know, planted in during that that trauma that we experienced. And it can be, you know, big to some, little to others, but it's relative to how you perceived it
00:51:55.330 --> 00:51:57.309 elizabeth tripp: can change our whole
00:51:57.460 --> 00:51:59.840 elizabeth tripp: system, how our body runs.
00:52:01.030 --> 00:52:02.000 elizabeth tripp: So
00:52:02.360 --> 00:52:05.270 elizabeth tripp: we're coming up on the close of the show, and let me just
00:52:05.380 --> 00:52:16.769 elizabeth tripp: invite you. If you have more Questions about Perfectionism, if you have a Curiosity to awaken your heart and deepen your self Love, you can always find more about
00:52:16.970 --> 00:52:29.490 elizabeth tripp: who I am and what I do to support others. On this journey. On my website, Elizabeth trip.com, and explore the opportunity that may be calling you forward to dismantle this yourself.
00:52:29.500 --> 00:52:32.119 elizabeth tripp: But I wanted to read a transmission
00:52:32.500 --> 00:52:59.979 elizabeth tripp: sometimes when I get up in the morning. I just write, and I had such a transmission yesterday, and I I love it when this happens, because it shows me let go in the flow right? Because as we let go of that need to control, we create that sense of security within ourselves. Our power returns, our self. Love starts to emulate out, we start taking actions to take care of ourselves, to better ourselves.
00:53:00.050 --> 00:53:07.589 elizabeth tripp: Things are in flow because we're surrendering now to the beauty of what this life really is, no matter the circumstance.
00:53:08.120 --> 00:53:10.330 elizabeth tripp: So here's the transmission. I'm going to read it.
00:53:11.610 --> 00:53:16.819 elizabeth tripp: Our worthiness is not dependent on being perfect.
00:53:18.200 --> 00:53:20.800 elizabeth tripp: not dependent on what others think
00:53:21.240 --> 00:53:28.879 elizabeth tripp: on our weight or looks, our bank account the size of our house, how successful we are at work
00:53:29.070 --> 00:53:31.809 elizabeth tripp: as parents or in our partnerships.
00:53:32.400 --> 00:53:38.109 elizabeth tripp: Our worth is not dependent on whether we're married, single, divorced, or widowed
00:53:38.380 --> 00:53:43.040 elizabeth tripp: doesn't matter. If we came from a good upbringing or a dysfunctional one
00:53:43.160 --> 00:53:50.100 elizabeth tripp: from an infused household. Our worth is not measured by anything external.
00:53:50.820 --> 00:53:55.019 elizabeth tripp: It cannot be determined by what we've done or what we've achieved.
00:53:55.940 --> 00:53:59.989 elizabeth tripp: Our worth is inherent to who we are.
00:54:01.450 --> 00:54:03.920 elizabeth tripp: It is built into our being.
00:54:04.160 --> 00:54:09.810 elizabeth tripp: into the blueprint of it, and it is alive in every single one of our cells.
00:54:10.270 --> 00:54:14.579 elizabeth tripp: It's in the air we breathe in the ground we walk upon.
00:54:14.860 --> 00:54:19.389 elizabeth tripp: Our worth is something we have entered into this world with.
00:54:20.330 --> 00:54:23.110 elizabeth tripp: and we will leave this world with
00:54:24.660 --> 00:54:28.779 elizabeth tripp: at the heart of our self-worth lies a power.
00:54:29.400 --> 00:54:37.130 elizabeth tripp: a power. We've been given to choose our truth, to accept what is real and what is not
00:54:37.370 --> 00:54:38.820 elizabeth tripp: about ourselves
00:54:40.100 --> 00:54:41.580 elizabeth tripp: as perfectionists.
00:54:41.930 --> 00:54:50.090 elizabeth tripp: We can't do this unless we 1st establish sense of safety within ourselves. To be ourselves.
00:54:50.400 --> 00:54:53.320 elizabeth tripp: Without that safety we have no power.
00:54:53.880 --> 00:55:01.160 elizabeth tripp: We won't fully relax. We won't have the confidence to let go of the control we think we need over ourselves and others.
00:55:01.440 --> 00:55:05.140 elizabeth tripp: But the thing is control is an illusion.
00:55:06.510 --> 00:55:09.009 elizabeth tripp: because if we truly know our value.
00:55:10.000 --> 00:55:11.819 elizabeth tripp: we don't need to have to prove it.
00:55:12.020 --> 00:55:20.360 elizabeth tripp: We know our worth. We wouldn't fear sharing ourselves, our voice, and we wouldn't compromise our integrity for someone else to be comfortable.
00:55:21.840 --> 00:55:37.390 elizabeth tripp: So do we then allow ourselves to get vulnerable with our emotions when they come up, when we choose something new than we've done in the past. Do we lean in and explore the gift of this? Or do we contract, shut down and revert to what's familiar.
00:55:38.230 --> 00:55:42.230 elizabeth tripp: Perfectionists will do anything to be safe and in control.
00:55:42.660 --> 00:55:46.360 elizabeth tripp: and will also do anything to avoid the fear of failure.
00:55:46.960 --> 00:55:50.150 elizabeth tripp: messing up or doing something embarrassingly wrong.
00:55:51.410 --> 00:55:54.080 elizabeth tripp: but love it surrenders
00:55:54.420 --> 00:55:56.310 elizabeth tripp: love, it allows.
00:55:56.690 --> 00:56:00.000 elizabeth tripp: allows things to be just as they are.
00:56:00.340 --> 00:56:06.789 elizabeth tripp: No need to fix, no need to make wrong, no need to change anything at all.
00:56:07.560 --> 00:56:11.909 elizabeth tripp: and that's what we often miss as perfectionists
00:56:12.920 --> 00:56:13.880 elizabeth tripp: love
00:56:16.430 --> 00:56:18.180 elizabeth tripp: self love.
00:56:20.760 --> 00:56:21.650 elizabeth tripp: So.
00:56:21.760 --> 00:56:23.399 elizabeth tripp: in conclusion.
00:56:23.710 --> 00:56:34.700 elizabeth tripp: I really want to thank all of you for being a part of this show, and please let me know how you're enjoying this, and what other kinds of topics you may like to explore with me.
00:56:34.900 --> 00:56:40.029 elizabeth tripp: Look forward to seeing you again next week. Until then Namaste.
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