EPISODE SUMMARY:
In the face of work and life challenges, there are three distinct possible long-term outcomes including harm, resilience, and growth. In some cases, people can experience positive change because of overcoming challenges and crises, as expressed in the aphorism “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” Dr. Ken Nowack will help us understand how resilience and growth occur as a set of personality and evidence-based personality traits, lifestyle practices and specific habits/behaviors that characterize such hardy individuals, and the leadership practices that can enhance a trusting, psychologically safe, and a positive mental health culture. Kenneth M. Nowack, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Senior Research Officer of Envisia Learning, Inc. Dr. Nowack received his doctorate degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of California, Los Angeles and has published extensively in the areas of 360-degree feedback, assessment, health psychology, and behavioral medicine. Ken is a member of Daniel Goleman’s Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations and serves as the outgoing Editor for the APA Consulting Psychology Journal. He is also a Fellow of the American Psychological Association (Division 13: Society of Consulting Psychology).
What differentiates the hardy who grow and flourish under pressure and challenge versus those who appear to endure lasting negative consequences of these same experiences? In this episode, Dr. Ken Nowack will walk us through: 1. Understanding the 3 ways to define resilience 2. Understanding the common trajectories of resilience 3. How to apply leadership practices to enhance a psychologically safe, trusting, and resilience culture in organizations
#resilience #leadership #job burnout #stress #TheHardSkills #leadershipdevelopment
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Segment 1
In this episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam is by himself and will be having a session to discuss the power of flexibility. As always, Sam starts his show by reading one of his blogs, “When We Can’t Feel Our Own Goodness, It Is Time To Ask Someone Else What They See.” Sam wraps up the segment diving deeper into the meaning of the blog post and its overall theme. As always, please www.talkradio.nyc/blogs or www.theconsciousconsultant.com for more blogs and content from Sam.
Segment 2
After the first break, we return to Sam diving into the main topic of the episode, which is flexibility. Sam shares how he is not as flexible compared to others in real-life situations and begs the question, why is flexibility so hard? He gives personal examples of how Sam was able to become more flexible and learn to overcome it, primarily talking about how his show was able to help him learn this skill.
Segment 3
Moving along, Sam continues the show by discussing the balance of flexibility. He gives more examples of situations where Sam had to be flexible. He shares that though in some situations, we have to be understanding, we can’t be flakey all the time, which could strain a relationship. It is all about trying to find a good balance between being flexible in certain situations when it involves others.
Segment 4
As the episode comes to an end, Sam wraps up by finally diving into the key of flexibility. He talks about how the key to flexibility is not to get attached to the outcome of a situation. Cultivating that skill of not getting attached can really help to unlock the power of flexibility. He finishes the show by talking about the different waves of generations and how flexibility is needed for future waves of change.
00:00:43.060 --> 00:00:53.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Good afternoon, my conscious Co. Creators. Welcome to another edition of conscious, consulting hour, awakening humanity.
00:00:53.360 --> 00:00:58.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Very, very pleased that you are all here with me today.
00:00:58.670 --> 00:01:10.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you for tuning in, whether it's here on the live stream, on Youtube or Facebook or Twitter or Linkedin, or if you're listening to the replay after the fact.
00:01:11.180 --> 00:01:25.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I so appreciate you being with us today. Today is my regularly scheduled show, with no guest. Last week I had no guest because my guest didn't arrive. So you're getting a double dose of just Sam for the month.
00:01:26.020 --> 00:01:40.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But fear not. We have plenty of guests for the rest of the month. And actually, I'm kind of booked out until like November, I think so. We got a lot of great shows coming up for you. Hope you caught last week show that was a
00:01:40.920 --> 00:02:01.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so off the cuff kind of fun show. But today, I actually have a topic planned. So we'll see how today goes. But I would really love your comments, your feedback. Please let me know what you think about anything I talk about, or any questions you might have. And let's do this show together. Alright.
00:02:02.220 --> 00:02:17.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I am starting off the show as I have been for quite a while now. With a blog post that I wrote just kind of taking these in order from a couple of years ago, and this one is entitled.
00:02:19.500 --> 00:02:23.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we can't feel our own goodness.
00:02:24.280 --> 00:02:28.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it is time to ask someone else what they see.
00:02:30.100 --> 00:02:33.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's an interesting dance that we do
00:02:33.630 --> 00:02:35.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one where we go to extreme.
00:02:36.800 --> 00:02:41.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we may find it hard to acknowledge our gifts one day.
00:02:41.630 --> 00:02:43.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and the next day
00:02:43.620 --> 00:02:46.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we tell people how great we are.
00:02:47.400 --> 00:02:54.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is a common occurrence for those of us who do not have a balanced sense of self.
00:02:56.740 --> 00:03:02.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for it is truly a challenge to see ourselves clearly
00:03:03.340 --> 00:03:08.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be objective about how good we are at something.
00:03:09.300 --> 00:03:14.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or perhaps we think we are better at it than we really are.
00:03:16.100 --> 00:03:23.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes it can just be a swing in our mood that takes us into judgment about ourselves.
00:03:24.120 --> 00:03:30.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We take a failure as a sign that we are not good people, or that we are not special.
00:03:31.420 --> 00:03:34.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if we ask us if we ask others
00:03:35.060 --> 00:03:37.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what they see in us.
00:03:37.610 --> 00:03:40.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we get a totally different perspective.
00:03:41.350 --> 00:03:45.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for they are not in the middle of the emotional storm
00:03:46.410 --> 00:03:48.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about ourselves.
00:03:49.030 --> 00:03:51.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: only about themselves.
00:03:51.960 --> 00:03:57.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So someone else can see clearly that we are grayed at one thing
00:03:57.930 --> 00:04:01.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are only mediocre at something else.
00:04:01.650 --> 00:04:05.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we ask our friends for the truth about us.
00:04:05.790 --> 00:04:10.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the responses we receive can be quite enlightening.
00:04:10.900 --> 00:04:14.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for other people can see that we are smart.
00:04:14.370 --> 00:04:17.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind, or capable in an instant.
00:04:19.070 --> 00:04:21.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet when we look in the mirror.
00:04:21.630 --> 00:04:24.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: only see all of our faults
00:04:24.990 --> 00:04:29.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we get stuck in that pattern of self criticism.
00:04:29.140 --> 00:04:33.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be a good reminder to ask someone else
00:04:33.690 --> 00:04:35.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what they see in us.
00:04:37.560 --> 00:04:41.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What do they see as our greatest qualities?
00:04:42.330 --> 00:04:45.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where do they see that we can improve?
00:04:46.660 --> 00:04:53.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is not to say that a close friend might not go soft on us to cheer us up
00:04:53.280 --> 00:04:55.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if they feel we are upset.
00:04:55.970 --> 00:05:00.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if we are in a good mood when we ask.
00:05:00.150 --> 00:05:04.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we are likely to get some quite interesting responses.
00:05:05.700 --> 00:05:08.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we are doubting ourselves.
00:05:08.720 --> 00:05:10.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: unsure of ourselves.
00:05:11.360 --> 00:05:16.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or just plain, can't see anything of value in ourselves.
00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:19.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is a good reminder
00:05:20.040 --> 00:05:22.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to ask someone else.
00:05:23.490 --> 00:05:28.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if we cannot feel what they say about us.
00:05:28.860 --> 00:05:34.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then it is time to take their words and repeat them to ourselves
00:05:35.400 --> 00:05:36.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: out loud.
00:05:37.880 --> 00:05:39.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then in front of a mirror.
00:05:40.880 --> 00:05:44.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: saying their words like, we really mean it.
00:05:45.460 --> 00:05:49.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even if we don't feel it in the moment.
00:05:51.230 --> 00:05:52.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: specially
00:05:52.460 --> 00:05:55.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we don't feel it in the moment.
00:05:58.200 --> 00:05:59.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah. So
00:06:00.710 --> 00:06:02.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this blog post
00:06:03.620 --> 00:06:05.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really came from
00:06:06.780 --> 00:06:09.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this exercise that we did
00:06:09.560 --> 00:06:12.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in in a session once.
00:06:14.280 --> 00:06:17.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where I believe the facilitator had us
00:06:18.760 --> 00:06:21.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: write down, like all of our.
00:06:21.350 --> 00:06:25.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What we saw is all our positive traits and all our negative traits.
00:06:26.260 --> 00:06:29.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then they had this go to somebody.
00:06:31.840 --> 00:06:35.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I think we all kind of knew each other a little bit, but ask
00:06:36.330 --> 00:06:40.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the other people in the room what they saw as our good trades.
00:06:42.290 --> 00:06:44.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was so enlightening
00:06:44.830 --> 00:06:47.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to hear the feedback from people in the room.
00:06:48.400 --> 00:06:50.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how much
00:06:50.100 --> 00:06:51.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: other people
00:06:51.710 --> 00:06:53.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: could see good traits
00:06:54.370 --> 00:06:56.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in someone else.
00:06:57.560 --> 00:06:59.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but they could not see it in themselves.
00:07:01.560 --> 00:07:03.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to me that just
00:07:04.260 --> 00:07:07.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really goes to the heart of
00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:13.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't honor ourselves. We don't see ourselves clearly.
00:07:15.560 --> 00:07:18.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and the thing that was so interesting is
00:07:18.490 --> 00:07:23.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sometimes the things that people thought they were really good at.
00:07:23.700 --> 00:07:27.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The other people in the room could see improvement.
00:07:27.580 --> 00:07:32.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, could see the need for improvement could see like there's something more to happen there.
00:07:35.740 --> 00:07:40.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So there was never this sort of balanced view
00:07:40.880 --> 00:07:41.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of
00:07:43.270 --> 00:07:44.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of of ourselves.
00:07:45.140 --> 00:07:47.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it wasn't just true, for
00:07:47.720 --> 00:07:50.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one person was true for everybody in the room.
00:07:52.200 --> 00:07:54.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so that really got me thinking.
00:07:59.670 --> 00:08:04.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because other people are a real resource to us.
00:08:05.170 --> 00:08:06.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet we often
00:08:07.990 --> 00:08:10.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: do not take advantage of that resource.
00:08:12.830 --> 00:08:17.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and because we're so in the middle of our own lives.
00:08:19.060 --> 00:08:20.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't see
00:08:21.980 --> 00:08:23.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what other people see.
00:08:24.300 --> 00:08:26.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We do not have
00:08:27.200 --> 00:08:32.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a an unbiased or an emotional detachment.
00:08:33.429 --> 00:08:38.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How we truly show up in the world. And and and this is one of the reasons why
00:08:38.460 --> 00:08:43.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: working with a facilitator, a guide, a mentor is so important.
00:08:47.630 --> 00:08:50.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when we work with a mentor.
00:08:53.890 --> 00:08:56.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our mentor can
00:08:56.490 --> 00:08:59.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: see things in us that we
00:08:59.810 --> 00:09:01.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: do not see ourselves
00:09:04.480 --> 00:09:06.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and our mentor can see
00:09:06.920 --> 00:09:08.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are strong points
00:09:09.120 --> 00:09:10.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: at our weak points.
00:09:12.420 --> 00:09:13.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so
00:09:13.920 --> 00:09:15.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we.
00:09:17.240 --> 00:09:19.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or working with someone
00:09:20.270 --> 00:09:23.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who can see us truly for who we are
00:09:24.140 --> 00:09:26.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and not just for who we
00:09:26.900 --> 00:09:28.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: think we are.
00:09:29.420 --> 00:09:32.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It gives us a very different perspective
00:09:33.040 --> 00:09:36.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on where we are in our process, and how we show up in life.
00:09:37.290 --> 00:09:38.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on.
00:09:38.470 --> 00:09:40.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: on, on what really
00:09:41.010 --> 00:09:43.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: works for us and what doesn't.
00:09:46.080 --> 00:09:48.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I mean, it's something that I've known.
00:09:49.326 --> 00:09:51.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For many, many years.
00:09:55.650 --> 00:09:56.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that
00:09:57.910 --> 00:10:01.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: working with a coach, a mentor, a guide.
00:10:01.370 --> 00:10:03.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, somebody who
00:10:04.640 --> 00:10:08.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can see us as we truly are, and not as we think we are
00:10:08.990 --> 00:10:12.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is one of the most valuable things we can do.
00:10:13.150 --> 00:10:14.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's why.
00:10:14.740 --> 00:10:25.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you look at, like most successful people, they don't just have one coach. They have a dozen coach for coaches for each different area in their life.
00:10:25.160 --> 00:10:40.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They have someone for find that that advises them on finance. They have someone who advises them on physical health. If someone advises them on mental health, there's someone advise them on their business. They have someone in in that advises them on relationships. I mean, there's just so much
00:10:43.140 --> 00:10:44.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so.
00:10:47.620 --> 00:10:52.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and so I take these 2 things together, and I realize that
00:10:56.890 --> 00:10:58.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we really
00:10:58.360 --> 00:11:01.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: never have an unbiased view of ourselves.
00:11:04.510 --> 00:11:06.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, sometimes.
00:11:07.010 --> 00:11:10.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe because of past trauma, or how we were raised.
00:11:11.380 --> 00:11:13.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our view might be completely negative
00:11:14.860 --> 00:11:16.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and and
00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:21.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: completely negative in a very unbalanced way.
00:11:23.170 --> 00:11:25.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or if we're a narcissist.
00:11:25.760 --> 00:11:29.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it can be unbalanced in a completely positive way.
00:11:30.520 --> 00:11:36.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the truth is, when, whenever there are those extremes, and how we view ourselves
00:11:37.210 --> 00:11:40.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that that then that's a real key, that that's not accurate.
00:11:41.850 --> 00:11:44.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the truth is always somewhere in the middle.
00:11:46.010 --> 00:11:47.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the truth is.
00:11:47.870 --> 00:11:49.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're both good and bad.
00:11:50.040 --> 00:11:52.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's always room for improvement.
00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:55.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and they're places that we've done incredibly well.
00:12:00.850 --> 00:12:05.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we have a hard time seeing that about ourselves
00:12:06.440 --> 00:12:08.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we're in the middle of it.
00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:11.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we're emotionally attached
00:12:11.910 --> 00:12:15.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to these stories running around in our head
00:12:16.210 --> 00:12:20.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: about how good we are at something or how bad we are at something.
00:12:24.790 --> 00:12:27.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so to get out of our own head
00:12:29.010 --> 00:12:30.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the simplest.
00:12:31.090 --> 00:12:32.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: easiest.
00:12:33.220 --> 00:12:35.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: most direct way.
00:12:37.660 --> 00:12:39.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ask someone else.
00:12:41.310 --> 00:12:45.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: ask someone who knows us really well.
00:12:45.530 --> 00:12:50.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and there are people out there who know us better than we know ourselves. Absolutely.
00:12:58.060 --> 00:12:58.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:13:00.980 --> 00:13:04.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I guess this this blog post is just a
00:13:05.200 --> 00:13:06.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a calling out
00:13:09.660 --> 00:13:12.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to those people who who need it
00:13:13.500 --> 00:13:14.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to look at.
00:13:15.800 --> 00:13:19.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, when you're really feeling bad about yourself.
00:13:20.050 --> 00:13:22.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that is a great time
00:13:25.370 --> 00:13:27.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to look for other people's opinion
00:13:28.170 --> 00:13:31.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to ask your closest friends. Now, look.
00:13:31.560 --> 00:13:38.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm not saying you should go out and ask someone who's abusive to someone who doesn't like you, or or or someone who doesn't care about you.
00:13:40.300 --> 00:13:45.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but ask someone who knows you well, who, you know, is going to be supportive
00:13:45.770 --> 00:13:47.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and ask them, what do they see?
00:13:50.160 --> 00:13:55.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it doesn't even have to be about. Maybe a particular thing that you're feeling bad about.
00:13:56.370 --> 00:14:01.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It could be, they could say, you know, you're wonderful at something else like, maybe
00:14:01.920 --> 00:14:10.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, maybe you have kids, and and maybe you did something. And and you felt like, Oh, no, I I shouldn't have said that to my son or daughter, my child.
00:14:12.030 --> 00:14:15.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so you're feeling bad about your parenting skills.
00:14:15.630 --> 00:14:20.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So you ask a friend, someone else. Just what do they see in you?
00:14:20.330 --> 00:14:25.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they may know nothing about your parenting skills. And they won't say anything about your parenting skills.
00:14:25.300 --> 00:14:32.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they may talk about how you're such a good friend, and they may talk about how you're always there for them, and and how you always stand up for them.
00:14:33.930 --> 00:14:36.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so then, that view of this sort of
00:14:37.090 --> 00:14:40.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: aspect of yourself that that's an alignment
00:14:41.620 --> 00:14:43.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that suddenly offsets
00:14:43.960 --> 00:14:48.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this this negative feeling of like, Oh, my God, I can't believe what I did to my kids.
00:14:52.280 --> 00:14:54.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And at the same time.
00:14:54.850 --> 00:14:58.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you think well, I'm a great parent, let me do it. Wonderful thing. Da da da.
00:14:58.950 --> 00:15:09.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you may want to ask, maybe another parent who's a friend of your your your kids, one of your kids, friends, parents, you know. What do they see about you in terms of parenthood?
00:15:10.050 --> 00:15:29.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They may say, Well, you really good at some things, but you know you really are too hot on your kid, or you're too easy on your kid, or whatever they may say. And and look, I'm I'm using about being a parent as an example, please extrapolate it to anything, to work, to personal relationships, to intimate relationships, to, to, to finances, to health.
00:15:30.100 --> 00:15:32.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it could be any aspect.
00:15:34.350 --> 00:15:36.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What do they see about you.
00:15:38.370 --> 00:15:41.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because inevitably, inevitably.
00:15:44.570 --> 00:15:46.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what they will say will shock.
00:15:50.540 --> 00:15:54.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because they will notice something about yourself
00:15:55.120 --> 00:15:57.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we take completely for granted.
00:15:57.920 --> 00:16:06.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like, it's just the way we are. It's nothing we even put any effort into. It's just sort of how we naturally show up in life.
00:16:06.370 --> 00:16:08.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so we don't think anything of it.
00:16:09.130 --> 00:16:15.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they somebody someone else sees and goes. Oh, my God! That's like such a wonderful quality! You're so good at that.
00:16:17.930 --> 00:16:25.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you're like, really. And and we have no clue. We had no idea, because for us it was just natural.
00:16:26.160 --> 00:16:31.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But another person can see it as something very special, because it's not natural for a lot of people.
00:16:33.520 --> 00:16:35.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So this is why.
00:16:35.600 --> 00:16:37.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: asking someone
00:16:37.340 --> 00:16:43.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who's outside of your internal world, what do they see in you
00:16:43.540 --> 00:16:45.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can be so powerful.
00:16:51.130 --> 00:16:56.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you don't believe me, and that's okay, you don't have to believe me.
00:16:56.890 --> 00:16:58.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Try it sometime.
00:16:59.940 --> 00:17:03.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Go and talk to some people and ask them.
00:17:03.780 --> 00:17:08.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hey? What do you see me just at random times, random people.
00:17:09.030 --> 00:17:13.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's a great exercise. Even people who don't know you that well.
00:17:14.369 --> 00:17:18.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even even if they? They've just seen you on Zoom.
00:17:19.859 --> 00:17:20.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Ask
00:17:21.060 --> 00:17:22.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see what they say.
00:17:23.859 --> 00:17:25.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The answers might really
00:17:26.210 --> 00:17:27.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really surprise you.
00:17:30.280 --> 00:17:35.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's my blog post for the show. It's entitled.
00:17:35.520 --> 00:17:38.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we can't feel our own goodness.
00:17:38.990 --> 00:17:43.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it is time to ask someone else what they see.
00:17:43.650 --> 00:17:45.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can find that, of course.
00:17:46.192 --> 00:17:51.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: At my blog which you can find on talk radio dot Nyc slash blog.
00:17:51.220 --> 00:17:57.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or on my personal branded website, the conscious consultant.com.
00:17:57.770 --> 00:18:18.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, a a if you wanna ask me about it. You want to give me feedback about this blog post. Please email me at Sam at the conscious Consultant. I would love to hear from you all I would love if you can even comment on the live stream. You know what you thought of it. Any feedback is always very helpful.
00:18:19.570 --> 00:18:22.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right, we're going to go. Take a quick break.
00:18:22.480 --> 00:18:24.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we come back.
00:18:24.320 --> 00:18:32.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: going to dive into today's topic, which is why, flexibility is a super power.
00:18:32.610 --> 00:18:34.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and this is something that
00:18:35.245 --> 00:18:42.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've been working on for a long time. Now, if I'd say for, like in in earnest the last 10 years.
00:18:42.250 --> 00:18:43.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:18:43.500 --> 00:18:49.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's even. I even have recent examples, very recent examples
00:18:49.750 --> 00:18:50.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of how
00:18:51.070 --> 00:18:55.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: flexibility really is a super power, and why it's so good
00:18:55.780 --> 00:19:19.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how, being flexible can really serve. So I hope you'll you'll stay tuned for the this episode, for that I would love to hear your comments, your questions all around flexibility and even anything tangentially related to it. But 1st we're gonna take this break. So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consulting humanity. We do this every Thursday 12 noon
00:19:19.471 --> 00:19:28.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to one pm, eastern, right here on top, radio, down Nyc and all over social media and all the podcasting platforms, and we will be right back
00:19:29.400 --> 00:19:32.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with the rest of our show in just a moment.
00:21:49.023 --> 00:21:54.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Welcome back to that conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:21:54.290 --> 00:22:08.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for being with us today. I see loyal listener, Sanaya Sinai. We have to get together soon. So good to see you on on the show today. Welcome! And she says, welcome the honest opinion. Always room for enlightenment and change.
00:22:09.610 --> 00:22:23.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Very good scenario. Yes, there's always room for improvement and change, you know, the Japanese have this concept of tony Robbins calls it. Can. I can constant and never ending improvement.
00:22:23.880 --> 00:22:26.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know it doesn't have to be big. It can be a little improved.
00:22:26.740 --> 00:22:30.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But today we're talking about improvement around flexibility.
00:22:31.450 --> 00:22:33.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So why is flexibility such a big deal?
00:22:34.870 --> 00:22:39.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Well, you know, I don't really see people talking a lot about
00:22:40.470 --> 00:22:43.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how flexibility really serves us in our life.
00:22:45.080 --> 00:22:51.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I just felt like this is the topic I haven't touched upon. I haven't really talked about all that much.
00:22:51.720 --> 00:22:58.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it's something that I have learned to live with, and I feel I'm pretty good with it. And
00:22:58.280 --> 00:23:02.164 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and for those of you that know astrology.
00:23:03.400 --> 00:23:10.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I'm kind of. I have a lot of Earth signs, you know, although I'm an Aquarius Pisces. Cusp
00:23:11.305 --> 00:23:19.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so I have air and water, a lot of water, I think, in my chart, but I also have some Earth signs that that kind of like I I like
00:23:19.870 --> 00:23:29.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: end up someplace, and I like to stay. Then, you know I like, I don't like moving a lot. Yeah, I've been living in the in the place. I'm living now for the last
00:23:33.347 --> 00:23:34.402 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How many
00:23:35.080 --> 00:23:36.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: over.
00:23:36.270 --> 00:23:38.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I think, 19 years.
00:23:38.240 --> 00:23:48.398 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and before that the place I lived in then I lived in for 14 years. So you know I don't. You know there's some people I know, like every 2 or 3 years they're moving to a different place. That's not me.
00:23:49.590 --> 00:23:54.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I I do not naturally
00:23:54.340 --> 00:24:04.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like to change on a whip. My my wife, on the other hand, and even though she's a Taurus, which is an earth sign, she actually is, as
00:24:04.100 --> 00:24:10.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, must have a lot of other things in her chart, because she's very flexible. She's always like changing like that on the wind.
00:24:13.170 --> 00:24:15.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and so
00:24:17.710 --> 00:24:23.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I really about 10 years ago, when I started doing the ceremonial work that I do.
00:24:24.200 --> 00:24:36.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I found the facility that I was working with was very flexible, and you could never PIN him down. And and and you know, say one thing, and then things wouldn't work out. And
00:24:36.040 --> 00:24:39.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it it was very frustrating in the beginning.
00:24:39.800 --> 00:24:46.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I learned those 1st 2, 3 years about really how to embrace flexibility.
00:24:48.810 --> 00:24:50.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then over the years
00:24:52.560 --> 00:24:55.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I really had to put into practice
00:24:57.430 --> 00:25:01.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this idea of flexibility. And there's there's a certain key
00:25:01.590 --> 00:25:12.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to really being able to embrace flexibility that I think a lot of people, miss, and and I'll let you know what that is later in the show. But it was something that I learned
00:25:12.560 --> 00:25:14.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of the hard way.
00:25:15.140 --> 00:25:18.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So why is flexibility a super powerful.
00:25:20.910 --> 00:25:22.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So here's the thing
00:25:24.400 --> 00:25:26.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we are too rigid.
00:25:27.000 --> 00:25:30.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when things always have to go a certain way.
00:25:31.540 --> 00:25:36.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we're not flexible with our plans with what we're looking to do with what's going on.
00:25:38.960 --> 00:25:45.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't leave much room for the magic of life to get in there and surprise us.
00:25:47.550 --> 00:25:51.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now there have been a lot of surprises in my life
00:25:51.530 --> 00:25:54.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: some wonderful, some not so wonderful.
00:25:55.180 --> 00:26:12.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The fact that I'm doing this show and I run talk radio down. Nyc, it's a was a big surprise to me. And and you know, yeah, I've been running it now 14 years. But like 20 years ago, 30 years ago. If anyone had told me like this is what I'd be doing today, I would have thought they're nuts.
00:26:14.550 --> 00:26:26.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and many of you have heard me tell this story on on the network before how I met Georgio, and he decided to become a Buddhist monk, and I thought I'd help him sell him business. Instead, I ended up buying it with my wife.
00:26:26.840 --> 00:26:27.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:26:28.460 --> 00:26:33.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was a matter of saying yes to life I've talked about, you know, saying yes to life.
00:26:34.820 --> 00:26:37.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but to say yes to life. We really got to be flexible.
00:26:38.130 --> 00:26:42.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because life brings us stuff all the time that we don't expect.
00:26:46.680 --> 00:26:50.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you look at nature. You know I love
00:26:50.410 --> 00:26:52.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: looking at nature.
00:26:52.700 --> 00:26:56.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or clues, and hints about how to live a good life.
00:26:58.670 --> 00:27:01.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you see nature is very flexible.
00:27:03.080 --> 00:27:05.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you just look at how
00:27:05.920 --> 00:27:08.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: plants grow in the wild.
00:27:09.400 --> 00:27:11.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they don't just grow in a straight line.
00:27:12.150 --> 00:27:23.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, there are some like certain cactuses grow straight up, but but if you look at most glance, they twist and turn, and they come up this way and that way, and they go to where the sunshine is.
00:27:23.820 --> 00:27:32.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but they go around the rocks, and that they climb up the sides of trees. I mean plants do all kinds of weird things.
00:27:33.320 --> 00:27:35.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Animals, too.
00:27:36.000 --> 00:27:49.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: especially insects. You ever notice how like an insects they go from here to that, like like insects work together, especially ants like they'll go in straight lines. They're very good at working together, but if they come across a block they go around it.
00:27:49.580 --> 00:27:53.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They come across something and and they're up above, below, around sideways.
00:27:54.570 --> 00:27:57.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Nature is inherently flexible.
00:28:00.010 --> 00:28:02.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because nature is constantly changing.
00:28:04.700 --> 00:28:06.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Nature is not static.
00:28:07.310 --> 00:28:09.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: nature is not linear.
00:28:10.550 --> 00:28:12.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so that should tell us something
00:28:13.180 --> 00:28:16.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that should be a little bit of an indication
00:28:17.490 --> 00:28:21.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of like if we pay true attention to nature.
00:28:21.620 --> 00:28:25.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that maybe there's a lesson there for us.
00:28:30.850 --> 00:28:32.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so.
00:28:32.410 --> 00:28:36.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being flexible can really serve us in life.
00:28:38.540 --> 00:28:43.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because life can bring us amazing coincidences
00:28:43.460 --> 00:28:46.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we never could have imagined
00:28:49.850 --> 00:29:07.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like. Perhaps someone invites us to a party last minute, and and we had other plans. But we didn't really want to do the other plans. So if we honor ourselves, we change our plans, and we go with our friends to the party, and we have a great time. We meet amazing people, and maybe even create lifelong friendships out of it. You just never know.
00:29:10.110 --> 00:29:11.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that's the thing.
00:29:12.480 --> 00:29:15.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You don't know where the future will lead.
00:29:16.100 --> 00:29:20.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that's why one of the reasons why flexibility is so important.
00:29:24.550 --> 00:29:29.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and I'll just give you also a quick example, something that
00:29:29.190 --> 00:29:30.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: happens
00:29:30.520 --> 00:29:35.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not on a regular basis, but once in a while, for those of you who were tuning in last week
00:29:35.990 --> 00:29:38.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was supposed to be interviewing someone.
00:29:38.360 --> 00:29:43.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: actually someone who we had rescheduled because he got sick the 1st time.
00:29:43.330 --> 00:29:47.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I was really looking forward to having him on the show, and he never showed up.
00:29:49.070 --> 00:29:50.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So guess what
00:29:51.240 --> 00:29:56.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had to do. A show on my own. I had to be flexible
00:29:56.380 --> 00:29:59.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and find something to talk about that would be interesting.
00:30:00.910 --> 00:30:07.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, because I recently been the To the Horizons Conference here in New York City.
00:30:07.380 --> 00:30:15.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I thought there were some really interesting stories and interesting things I got from it. So I I spent the the show, you know, talking about the
00:30:15.960 --> 00:30:17.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: going to that conference.
00:30:17.730 --> 00:30:19.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm just curious for people who listened.
00:30:20.010 --> 00:30:29.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even if you're not to psychedelics like. Was that an interesting show? Did you learn something? Did you get something out of it. Were there any like oh, really like something you didn't know. Let me know
00:30:29.740 --> 00:30:32.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because that feedback would be very valuable.
00:30:34.740 --> 00:30:37.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you see, when you do a live show
00:30:38.460 --> 00:30:46.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you have to be able to be flexible and think on your feet and roll with things, because sometimes.
00:30:46.210 --> 00:30:49.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, look, I've been doing this show 14 years
00:30:50.060 --> 00:30:54.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: out of those 14 years. How many times have people not shown up?
00:30:54.510 --> 00:30:58.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe once or twice a year?
00:30:58.910 --> 00:31:08.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Not a lot, but you know it happens once in a while. But one, let's just say twice a year at most over 14 years. That's 28 times
00:31:08.810 --> 00:31:12.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I've had to be flexible about my topic, about
00:31:12.530 --> 00:31:15.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: doing a show by myself instead of interviewing someone.
00:31:18.490 --> 00:31:19.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:31:20.030 --> 00:31:20.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:31:21.080 --> 00:31:25.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I had to learn to embrace flexibility whether I wanted to or not.
00:31:26.490 --> 00:31:28.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because that's life.
00:31:29.330 --> 00:31:31.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's the way life is
00:31:33.170 --> 00:31:34.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all right.
00:31:34.290 --> 00:31:39.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I'm just beginning to dive into this super power known as flexibility.
00:31:41.010 --> 00:31:48.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we come back I'll bring some more examples, and and hopefully be able to highlight for you, my listeners.
00:31:49.950 --> 00:31:56.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How you can really honor flexibility and still do what you need to get done.
00:31:56.370 --> 00:32:00.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where do we find that balance between flexibility and consistency?
00:32:01.900 --> 00:32:02.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:32:03.290 --> 00:32:07.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and yes, I eventually will get to what's the real key
00:32:08.330 --> 00:32:09.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to being flexible.
00:32:09.780 --> 00:32:23.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What's the one thing that will make the biggest difference to help us to be flexible, and we'll get into all of that after this next commercial break. So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:32:24.430 --> 00:32:25.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We'll be right back
00:32:26.030 --> 00:32:27.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after this.
00:34:32.600 --> 00:34:41.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious consult now awakening humanity. And this episode is all about why, flexibility is a super path.
00:34:44.159 --> 00:34:50.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you know I've been talking about how life brings us different things at different times.
00:34:51.070 --> 00:34:55.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and flexibility really is a super power, and
00:34:55.159 --> 00:34:58.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: under I'll give you another example. Very recent example.
00:35:00.516 --> 00:35:24.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I was working. I'm working on putting together sort of a special invitation. Only ceremonial experience in the Hamptons this summer. A woman who I got connected to. And then it turned out we had multiple connections has a house in this Hamptons, and and she's like I'd love to have you come out and and do what you do. And and with this other person. And I'm like, Okay, sure, great.
00:35:25.110 --> 00:35:26.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we started
00:35:27.257 --> 00:35:33.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: looking at it. There was sort of one kind of arrangement. She was gonna participate, not charge us all this stuff.
00:35:34.110 --> 00:35:35.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then
00:35:35.880 --> 00:35:53.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: she shifted and changed. And she's like. Well, you know, I'm a little nervous. I really don't. Wanna I wanna just be there holding space the the 1st night. So I I can, you know. Can I charge you a land fee and and still do it? And then we'll see how it goes.
00:35:53.890 --> 00:35:54.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:35:55.070 --> 00:35:58.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know would have been quite easy to just say.
00:35:58.360 --> 00:36:03.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: no, we're not doing it. That's not the way we originally started. We've we we.
00:36:03.910 --> 00:36:04.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know.
00:36:05.670 --> 00:36:16.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, that's not what we agreed on. If you had said this in the beginning we wouldn't have done it. Blah blah blah would have been really easy to to be rigid and to say you know what? No.
00:36:17.060 --> 00:36:22.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but you know I sat down with my wife and talked about it, and and we went through it, and
00:36:23.460 --> 00:36:27.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and by not being so rigid and being flexible.
00:36:28.240 --> 00:36:36.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We negotiated with her, and we found sort of a middle ground that that works for for both of us, for everyone involved.
00:36:37.590 --> 00:36:40.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we're moving forward with this retreat
00:36:41.480 --> 00:36:42.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that
00:36:42.390 --> 00:36:45.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, could be a really good thing for me.
00:36:46.420 --> 00:36:58.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whereas if I had been rigid and not flexible, and it didn't like no, you're changing the deal on me. No, I we can't do this, and and and no it it has to. It can only be this way.
00:37:02.220 --> 00:37:03.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'm not saying that.
00:37:04.370 --> 00:37:11.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know there's no judgment about whether she was right or wrong for changing it right, how she feels about things. No, it it doesn't.
00:37:11.420 --> 00:37:13.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's there's no judgment around
00:37:14.110 --> 00:37:16.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it, just a noticing
00:37:16.210 --> 00:37:17.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of of what happened.
00:37:18.910 --> 00:37:20.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so
00:37:21.600 --> 00:37:24.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's kind of. If I had been rigid.
00:37:26.250 --> 00:37:30.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would have been cutting off my nose to spike my face, as my mom used to say.
00:37:32.010 --> 00:37:38.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I only would have been hurting myself by sort of cutting myself off from a possibility.
00:37:39.010 --> 00:37:41.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even though it wasn't what we originally agreed upon.
00:37:44.210 --> 00:37:45.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:37:46.040 --> 00:37:47.486 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's always
00:37:49.270 --> 00:37:50.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's always a give and take.
00:37:51.570 --> 00:38:05.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know there's always something we have to evaluate for ourselves of like, oh, things are changing. Do I really wanna stay with this or not? And I'm not saying we have to be flexible about everything all the time.
00:38:05.410 --> 00:38:12.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: No, there's a balance to it. There's a th. There's a reasonableness to it.
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:16.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: However.
00:38:17.710 --> 00:38:22.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know again, it's really important to see what shows up for us
00:38:23.190 --> 00:38:25.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to really feel into is this
00:38:25.690 --> 00:38:27.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: right for us
00:38:30.170 --> 00:38:32.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and that being flexible.
00:38:33.530 --> 00:38:37.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it can really serve us in so many ways.
00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:48.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and by being too rigid we can miss out on opportunities.
00:38:52.710 --> 00:38:57.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. And and another example, something that happened last summer.
00:38:59.490 --> 00:39:02.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for my, I mean, this is more sort of
00:39:03.410 --> 00:39:08.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something I experienced tangentially, but it was really actually more about my wife
00:39:08.250 --> 00:39:09.892 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where we were.
00:39:10.660 --> 00:39:17.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We were out in Colorado. We're house sitting, working virtually, you know, from afar.
00:39:17.970 --> 00:39:19.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:39:19.870 --> 00:39:23.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: she got a message from her niece
00:39:23.200 --> 00:39:25.187 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that her sister
00:39:26.470 --> 00:39:29.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was just diagnosed with cancer
00:39:30.690 --> 00:39:32.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and was about to go for treatment
00:39:33.570 --> 00:39:34.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in China.
00:39:35.430 --> 00:39:37.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so she had to decide
00:39:38.290 --> 00:39:40.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what she was going to do.
00:39:41.320 --> 00:39:43.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, if she had been rigid
00:39:44.360 --> 00:39:53.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: she would have been like, Okay, I have to wait till we get back home. I have to figure out into time, and then I'll I'll come to to to China and see her.
00:39:55.270 --> 00:40:00.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But she sat with it for a day or 2, and then she really came to know. I. I have to go there now.
00:40:03.080 --> 00:40:10.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we we changed plane tickets. We arranged things, got our ticket to China. She left
00:40:11.512 --> 00:40:20.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Colorado. I stayed because we had this commitment to doing this, these house, sitting and watching. You know people's pets for them.
00:40:20.520 --> 00:40:28.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: She came back to New York for a day next day left for China and spent a month in China. She actually, when she left for China. She didn't know how long she was going to go there for.
00:40:30.170 --> 00:40:34.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And she said, You know I just don't want to regret anything
00:40:35.310 --> 00:40:37.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't ever want to.
00:40:37.820 --> 00:40:42.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: at some point in the future. Look back and say, Oh, I should have been there for my system!
00:40:44.760 --> 00:40:47.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So she really embraced
00:40:47.820 --> 00:40:55.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: flexibility and embraced having to go and be there, and and what happened was, and it was really quite interesting
00:40:55.940 --> 00:40:57.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: while she was there.
00:40:57.830 --> 00:41:04.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, she was basically just going to see her sister when she was at the hospital. They released her, and she was home.
00:41:05.010 --> 00:41:08.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But her sister didn't always have the strength to see her every day.
00:41:08.940 --> 00:41:25.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so every day she had to be flexible about like, get up! See? What doing for the day? Is she going to see her sister or not? Is she? If not, what did she gonna do? And she really had space for herself, and because of the time difference, she couldn't see any of her clients. So she took a month off from work.
00:41:26.530 --> 00:41:36.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: She? She read. You know, she's in a different environment, I mean, did she see friends? Yeah. But she couldn't really plan to see her friends until towards the end
00:41:37.300 --> 00:41:46.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to see whether she would even have the time to be able to, because something happened with her sister, and she might have to run to the hospital or run to our sister's house to see her last minute.
00:41:47.770 --> 00:41:50.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and then I had to also be flexible.
00:41:51.460 --> 00:41:55.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because I was expecting to be in Colorado with her for 3 weeks.
00:41:56.300 --> 00:41:57.245 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:41:58.290 --> 00:42:00.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in less than a week she left.
00:42:04.070 --> 00:42:07.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so for me, I mean.
00:42:08.640 --> 00:42:09.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: was it
00:42:10.140 --> 00:42:19.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: unpleasant? I mean, I would have preferred not to be all by myself I mean Colorado was beautiful. I loved it. I I would love to go back to Colorado.
00:42:21.580 --> 00:42:28.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being without her. There was a little challenging for me, but I also knew was very important for her to go.
00:42:28.910 --> 00:42:32.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you know we kept in touch, and you know we talked.
00:42:32.390 --> 00:42:35.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, every other every day, every other day, after a while.
00:42:38.180 --> 00:42:42.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it gave her some very precious and valuable time.
00:42:42.970 --> 00:42:47.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It gave her time with her sister to family whom she hadn't seen for a few years.
00:42:47.830 --> 00:42:50.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it gave her time to be with herself.
00:42:52.180 --> 00:42:54.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when she came back.
00:42:55.190 --> 00:42:58.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I could see she really shifted in some way.
00:43:01.840 --> 00:43:04.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that trip for her
00:43:04.270 --> 00:43:07.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in some ways was was very much a gift.
00:43:07.950 --> 00:43:09.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if she
00:43:10.580 --> 00:43:12.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hadn't had been flexible enough
00:43:13.470 --> 00:43:16.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to drop everything and go
00:43:17.160 --> 00:43:19.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: could have been a very different story.
00:43:23.390 --> 00:43:27.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So flexibility can serve us in so many different ways.
00:43:27.810 --> 00:43:29.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not just in
00:43:29.400 --> 00:43:33.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: pleasant situations, but even in unpleasant situations.
00:43:35.130 --> 00:43:38.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so flexibility is something that can really
00:43:38.580 --> 00:43:42.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: help us to take the most out of a specific situation.
00:43:42.730 --> 00:43:46.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm sure some of you listening today have had to deal with that.
00:43:46.590 --> 00:43:51.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm sure some of you have had those situations that something popped up.
00:43:51.250 --> 00:43:59.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you you just had to go. You had to change. You had to cancel plans last minute. It happens to all of us sometimes.
00:44:01.290 --> 00:44:06.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So being flexible is recognizing that. Yeah, sometimes that happens.
00:44:08.380 --> 00:44:18.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now look, this does not mean that we should be flaky, and she never live up to commitment. We should never be on time, and all that other stuff. No.
00:44:19.450 --> 00:44:21.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it just means that
00:44:22.190 --> 00:44:24.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we need to honor
00:44:24.450 --> 00:44:25.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what's right
00:44:25.890 --> 00:44:29.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the moment in the moment.
00:44:30.540 --> 00:44:34.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to be flexible about a situation.
00:44:37.350 --> 00:44:49.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I would love to hear your comments. I got one more section. I I haven't spoken yet about what's the real key to flexibility, and what will make flexibility so much easier for everyone
00:44:49.460 --> 00:44:51.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you can embrace this.
00:44:54.630 --> 00:44:56.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so I do hope that
00:44:56.840 --> 00:44:58.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you'll stay with me.
00:44:58.850 --> 00:45:07.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please post your comments in the live streams, let let me know, is being flexible, a challenge for you, or does it something that come naturally?
00:45:07.490 --> 00:45:13.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is flexibility served you in any situation, or has it not served you in some situations
00:45:14.750 --> 00:45:16.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and be curious?
00:45:16.260 --> 00:45:17.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know.
00:45:18.690 --> 00:45:19.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:45:20.170 --> 00:45:33.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you are listening to the conscious consultant hour. It's the only one, and we will come right back in just a moment and wrap this all up, and give you the key to unlock
00:45:33.470 --> 00:45:35.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the superpower that is
00:45:35.790 --> 00:45:37.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: flexibility.
00:45:37.290 --> 00:45:38.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Stay with us.
00:47:47.520 --> 00:47:50.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back. So
00:47:50.550 --> 00:47:56.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we've been talking about how flexibility is a very important super path.
00:47:58.420 --> 00:48:07.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and my engineer right? You know how a couple of his roommates are going to be moving out at the end of the lease, and him and his other roommates have to figure out what they're going to do
00:48:08.220 --> 00:48:13.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so, you know, gotta be flexible with living situations too
00:48:14.070 --> 00:48:19.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: flexible with jobs, flexible with business, flexible with relationships
00:48:20.380 --> 00:48:22.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being flexible
00:48:23.210 --> 00:48:26.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can really really serve us, because
00:48:26.680 --> 00:48:32.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we're flexible, then we can really take advantage of a situation when something presents itself.
00:48:32.590 --> 00:48:43.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whereas if we're too stuck and no, it has to be this way and that way, and you know I can only do this, and I can only do that. We miss out on some great great opportunities.
00:48:46.060 --> 00:48:47.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is a key.
00:48:48.680 --> 00:48:51.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There is a key to unlock
00:48:52.250 --> 00:48:55.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this superpower which is flexibility.
00:48:57.340 --> 00:49:00.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that key is nonattach.
00:49:01.750 --> 00:49:07.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That key is not being attached to the outcome of a situation.
00:49:09.060 --> 00:49:13.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because when we're attached to the way things need to look and need to work.
00:49:16.180 --> 00:49:17.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we're stuck.
00:49:17.930 --> 00:49:19.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we start to get rigid.
00:49:19.970 --> 00:49:27.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then we're not open to the myriad of possibilities that life can bring to us and offer to us.
00:49:29.840 --> 00:49:32.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So flexibility is a real superpow.
00:49:33.900 --> 00:49:36.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but to cultivate that superpower.
00:49:37.420 --> 00:49:39.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We truly need to
00:49:40.020 --> 00:49:42.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: learn to detect
00:49:43.050 --> 00:49:44.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from how things need to look.
00:49:46.270 --> 00:49:49.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We need to not micromanage the universe.
00:49:53.020 --> 00:49:54.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because
00:49:54.530 --> 00:49:56.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we're too rigid.
00:49:57.430 --> 00:49:59.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we're too
00:50:01.580 --> 00:50:03.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: attached to
00:50:04.360 --> 00:50:06.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: inflexible.
00:50:07.510 --> 00:50:10.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we miss tremendous opportunities.
00:50:10.670 --> 00:50:12.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we miss
00:50:12.770 --> 00:50:13.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Fate
00:50:14.000 --> 00:50:17.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the chance to really thrive
00:50:17.440 --> 00:50:22.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in a new situation, because we don't know where any of this is going to take us.
00:50:22.700 --> 00:50:23.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And indeed.
00:50:24.540 --> 00:50:27.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I think the pandemic was a big lesson in this.
00:50:28.650 --> 00:50:30.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because if you looked at
00:50:31.150 --> 00:50:34.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the year 2020, and 2021.
00:50:35.340 --> 00:50:36.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The people
00:50:36.790 --> 00:50:38.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who thrived
00:50:39.260 --> 00:50:41.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and did the best in that
00:50:42.130 --> 00:50:44.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: unsettling time
00:50:44.680 --> 00:50:50.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: were the people who were able to be flexible and shift their business models overnight
00:50:50.890 --> 00:50:57.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we went from a radio station that operated in person in our studio in midtown.
00:50:57.490 --> 00:50:59.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: over a long weekend
00:51:01.720 --> 00:51:03.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to a virtual one
00:51:03.100 --> 00:51:06.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to one where all of the hosts could do the show
00:51:06.810 --> 00:51:10.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from their home, and all their guests could be wherever they are.
00:51:11.040 --> 00:51:15.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know what happened, because I was flexible enough to make that change.
00:51:16.170 --> 00:51:28.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was a change I had resisted for a number of years. People had asked me about doing shows virtually and remotely for for quite a while before that, but I always resisted it because I felt the quality of the audio wasn't good enough.
00:51:29.510 --> 00:51:36.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what happened, because I was flexible enough to not stay too stuck in what I thought was the way of doing things.
00:51:37.550 --> 00:51:38.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We grew
00:51:39.020 --> 00:51:49.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 2021 was the best year ever for talking alternative for talk, radio data. Nyc, we had more programs than we had ever had on the station before.
00:51:54.380 --> 00:52:00.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look around, look, look at the people, you know, who had to completely change their businesses in 2020.
00:52:01.070 --> 00:52:05.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How did they do in 21, and 22, and 23 in this year.
00:52:06.000 --> 00:52:07.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My guess is
00:52:08.470 --> 00:52:13.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: regardless of whether their business for themselves or maybe they're they're they're
00:52:13.110 --> 00:52:15.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: employees
00:52:15.210 --> 00:52:18.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that if they were flexible enough to change.
00:52:19.340 --> 00:52:21.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they actually thrive.
00:52:21.260 --> 00:52:33.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But those people who were too rigid and too stuck, and it's like, no, I can't do my business that way. They couldn't. They? They refuse to adapt until the they were just completely forced to.
00:52:33.920 --> 00:52:35.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They didn't do so. Well.
00:52:35.900 --> 00:52:49.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I I know a number of people who their whole business was doing, live in person events. And suddenly they couldn't do that anymore was doing, live speaking events. And suddenly all those speaking events disappeared overnight.
00:52:50.460 --> 00:52:53.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and those who could embrace going online.
00:52:54.860 --> 00:52:58.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They did much, much better than those who didn't.
00:53:00.270 --> 00:53:06.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I feel like eventually everybody opened up to it. I feel like everyone
00:53:07.060 --> 00:53:08.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of got
00:53:08.910 --> 00:53:10.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the message. And now
00:53:10.860 --> 00:53:17.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a even if you're not 100% virtual, you're at least hybrid. There's a a virtual component to almost every business now.
00:53:18.220 --> 00:53:25.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: except for something like a restaurant, although now you could order from a restaurant on your phone and it will be delivered while the food still hot.
00:53:28.900 --> 00:53:33.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What I noticed is those people really embrace the change? They thrive.
00:53:34.980 --> 00:53:39.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And now, what's the wave that we all have to be flexible about
00:53:40.500 --> 00:53:42.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: artificial intelligence?
00:53:43.270 --> 00:53:48.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Those people who are embracing the use of artificial intelligence
00:53:48.870 --> 00:53:52.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in general, not always are doing better than those that aren't.
00:53:54.440 --> 00:53:57.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we are just seeing the the beginning of this wave.
00:53:58.110 --> 00:54:08.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Artificial intelligence is going to completely transform society. The same way the the popularization of the computer transforms society.
00:54:10.940 --> 00:54:15.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, I'm an old man. I got the gray hairs to prove it. I remember the days
00:54:16.240 --> 00:54:19.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when most people did not work on a computer.
00:54:19.880 --> 00:54:20.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're not
00:54:21.110 --> 00:54:30.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all the the most advanced technology were dumb terminals connected to a mainframe. This in this cold computer centers.
00:54:32.750 --> 00:54:36.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and most people were doing things on paper and pen.
00:54:37.800 --> 00:54:42.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then within about 10 years.
00:54:42.330 --> 00:54:44.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe 15 years
00:54:45.050 --> 00:54:48.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there was a huge sip shift. And suddenly
00:54:49.700 --> 00:54:53.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: anybody who worked in an office had a computer on their desk.
00:54:54.600 --> 00:54:55.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Think about it.
00:54:57.590 --> 00:55:00.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe 40 years ago
00:55:00.990 --> 00:55:02.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that was almost unthinkable.
00:55:03.620 --> 00:55:05.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe 50 years ago
00:55:05.930 --> 00:55:07.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it was unthinkable.
00:55:07.440 --> 00:55:10.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: relatively short amount of time.
00:55:10.860 --> 00:55:15.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The computer has gotten integrated into almost every aspect of our life
00:55:16.090 --> 00:55:24.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from entertainment to healthcare relationships. Everything. Technology is everywhere
00:55:25.540 --> 00:55:38.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: embracing that takes flexibility. That's why children thrive at it because children love to play with things. And when you're brought up with technology, you don't know any difference, and you just love it.
00:55:39.930 --> 00:55:41.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And now the next
00:55:42.040 --> 00:55:46.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: big wave that we need to be flexible about is artificial intelligence.
00:55:49.020 --> 00:55:55.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now I know a lot of people are concerned about it. I'm not saying it's all good or all bad.
00:55:57.260 --> 00:56:01.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. We do need to be careful and mindful and conscious, and
00:56:02.250 --> 00:56:08.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and approach it in an ethical manner, and there will always be those people who don't
00:56:08.760 --> 00:56:12.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to to be aware to be grounded and realistic
00:56:13.090 --> 00:56:19.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that not everybody is going to use every advancement for the good of people. Some people are going to use it
00:56:19.190 --> 00:56:20.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: who is more.
00:56:21.650 --> 00:56:25.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, and until we wipe out selfishness on the planet, which
00:56:26.040 --> 00:56:29.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't think is gonna happen in the next several lifetimes.
00:56:30.400 --> 00:56:33.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's always going to be people using things
00:56:34.300 --> 00:56:38.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for good and bad. Same thing. I always use the example like a hammer.
00:56:38.540 --> 00:56:42.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Use a hammer to build a house, or you can use a hammer to kill. Someone
00:56:43.010 --> 00:56:44.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: depends on who's holding it.
00:56:48.610 --> 00:56:53.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But artificial intelligence is starting to sweep through
00:56:53.940 --> 00:56:56.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and learning to be flexible.
00:56:56.620 --> 00:57:00.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: learning to embrace this latest wave of change
00:57:00.680 --> 00:57:04.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is going to be essential. If we're going to adapt
00:57:04.120 --> 00:57:05.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and thrive.
00:57:05.820 --> 00:57:10.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: may be able to survive by resisting it. But we're not going to thrive.
00:57:11.740 --> 00:57:23.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And hey, do I know how it's going to affect your job? Your life? Of course not. I'm not even sure how it's completely going to affect mine. I just know it is, and I'm learning about it and working with it and
00:57:23.500 --> 00:57:24.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and using it.
00:57:26.690 --> 00:57:32.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But, I'm not by any means an artificial intelligence expert.
00:57:32.620 --> 00:57:36.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't know where this is all going. I've seen some hints, some clues.
00:57:38.290 --> 00:57:41.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I just know it's something I need to be flexible about.
00:57:44.240 --> 00:57:45.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:57:47.140 --> 00:57:53.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I could talk about flexibility for quite a long time. However, unfortunately, it is the end of our time together.
00:57:56.810 --> 00:58:01.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so I'd be really curious to know how is flexibility
00:58:01.520 --> 00:58:03.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: played out in your life?
00:58:04.020 --> 00:58:04.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What
00:58:05.100 --> 00:58:10.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: has been a challenge for you to be flexible about? And how did you overcome that challenge?
00:58:13.230 --> 00:58:21.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would love to hear from you. You can email me at Sam, at the conscious Consultant Com.
00:58:21.700 --> 00:58:27.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or just post your comments on the live streams. Even after the fact, I'll check them out and respond.
00:58:29.260 --> 00:58:41.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all for showing up today. I truly appreciate you being out there listening listening to me ramble for an hour. I I hope this was valuable. I hope this was worthwhile. I hope it
00:58:41.310 --> 00:58:44.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe shifted how you view flexibility a bit.
00:58:45.060 --> 00:58:47.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and can find a way to serve you.
00:58:48.470 --> 00:58:49.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would love to know.
00:58:50.210 --> 00:59:05.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright everyone. Listen. If you missed any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on talk, radio, Nyc, and of course you can always listen on all the major podcasting platforms. Although there's, there's starting to be less of them. Many of them have stopped, or, or.
00:59:05.610 --> 00:59:24.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, turned into something else. But Apple Google stitches spotify. Pandora stitchers not around anymore. Pandero, Iheart, radio you can find us wherever you like to listen to podcasts. And if there's a podcasting platform, you love and you cannot find the conscious consultant hour there, let me know, and we'll make sure to remedy that situation.
00:59:24.810 --> 00:59:45.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for tuning in. Don't forget coming up next. Dr. Richard Lewis Miller, with his show, mind, body, health and politics filed later today at 5 Pm. Eastern with Frank Harrison in a show, Frank, about health. And of course there's our flight. Friday block of shows starting at 1110 Am. Eastern time and our Tuesday block of show starting at 5 Pm. Eastern time.
00:59:45.700 --> 00:59:50.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for tuning in. We will talk to you all next week.
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