EPISODE SUMMARY:
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, we have another special show with just you and Sam as he shares about integrating our healing experiences and how things falling apart actually serves us.
When we start on our healing path we look forward to the day when everything just feels good. To be past our misery and pain. To feel like life is actually working for us.
Yet along the way many things happen. We open up to our feelings, sometimes for the very first time. And when we feel more, we feel more of everything, not just the good feelings.
Integrating all of the feelings is important for us to be whole. To accept all the many sides of ourselves that we often shun and hide. Integration means bringing all of it to the light.
In this process we may find that certain parts of our life that really don’t serve us start to fall apart. Perhaps we lose a job that is not good for us, or a long-term relationship that isn’t working suddenly ends.
This is the flow of integration and disintegration, and how it shows up in our lives.
Please join us as Sam shares his insights and experiences from working with hundreds of people over the years, about the importance of learning to work with both integration and disintegration on our healing path.
Tune in and share your own thoughts and feelings about validation, and how you look for it or not, on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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Segment 1
On this episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam is by himself as he dives into a conversation about how things fall apart and serves us. As always Sam starts the show off by reading one of his blogs entitled, “When We Open Up To The Unknown, We Are On An Adventure.” To read this post and more content from Sam, please visit www.talkradio.nyc/blogs or www.theconsciousconsultant.com for more information. As the segment comes to a close, Sam finishes by talking about the post, its meaning, and how the blog post ties into the discussion of integration and disintegration.
Segment 2
After the first break, we return to Sam as he discusses the primary topic of integration and disintegration and how it serves us. He ties in some of his personal experience to the topic along with some references to pop culture, like Star Trek, to help make some points in integration. Specifically looking at how positivity is more forefront, while negativity is hidden, and when something is hidden it persists and affects us in our consciousness, whether we realize it or not.
Segment 3
Moving forward into the episode, Sam moves on to discuss the second topic of the day, disintegration, when things fall apart. He gives numerous examples of how things can fall apart and goes on to explain that we need things to fall apart to rebuild, grow, and heal. He goes on to highlight that though we appreciate integration more and prioritize it, we cannot have integration without disintegration. It is not until things fall apart, that we can see disintegration and see how it may serve us in the future.
Segment 4
As the episode comes to an end, Sam wraps up by talking about working with the processes of integration and disintegration and ultimately finding peace within ourselves during these processes. Sam continues to tie in personal experiences as examples for the topics of the episode’s discussion. He mentions that the key to handling integration and disintegration is to just be okay with what we feel in the moment and that it is something we are not taught or allowed to express at a young age.
00:00:46.450 --> 00:01:09.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Afternoon, my conscious co- creators welcome to another edition of the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. I am very, very pleased that you are all here with me today. Yes. Last week we did have a rerun I was out in San Diego at the Evolutionary Business Council
00:01:09.350 --> 00:01:25.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: annual retreat. It was our first hybrid retreat where we did it both in person and online. It was a wonderful experience, great to see so many of my dear friends and colleagues. Truly an outstanding event.
00:01:25.350 --> 00:01:32.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I'm so happy to see everyone again. It's been over a year since we were together. Live like that.
00:01:32.680 --> 00:01:50.448 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So it was really a a special, a special event. So that's why I wasn't here. And that's why we did a repeat. I was trying to pre record an episode with the guest I had scheduled for last week, but I never heard from them, so we couldn't pre record alright. So let's get on to today's show.
00:01:51.340 --> 00:01:59.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So today is one of those wonderful shows. Yes, it's the first show of the month which typically not always, but typically is just myself
00:01:59.580 --> 00:02:01.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: talking about a certain topic.
00:02:01.850 --> 00:02:11.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and my topic for today is all about integration and disintegration. We'll talk about how they both serve us as we travel on our path.
00:02:12.480 --> 00:02:15.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But first, of course, we have my blog post.
00:02:15.920 --> 00:02:17.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and today
00:02:18.500 --> 00:02:24.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: rather, I guess. Oh, this blog post is entitled.
00:02:25.260 --> 00:02:30.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we open up to the unknown. We are on an adventure.
00:02:32.490 --> 00:02:36.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes we think that an adventure is something big.
00:02:37.750 --> 00:02:41.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our conceptions about what it means. Blow it up.
00:02:42.430 --> 00:02:46.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We put a lot of meaning behind the word adventure.
00:02:47.640 --> 00:02:49.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet in an adventure
00:02:49.430 --> 00:02:50.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can be something
00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:52.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: quite simple.
00:02:53.310 --> 00:02:55.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be something small.
00:02:55.800 --> 00:03:00.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not involving great trials and tribulations
00:03:00.330 --> 00:03:04.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: does not have to be something life-changing or dramatic.
00:03:06.810 --> 00:03:10.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe it just starts with being open to something new.
00:03:12.110 --> 00:03:15.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like going for a walk in an unfamiliar neighborhood.
00:03:15.930 --> 00:03:19.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A meandering through a park on a different path
00:03:19.970 --> 00:03:23.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: could be as simple as showing up to a meeting
00:03:23.430 --> 00:03:25.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where you do not know anyone.
00:03:26.230 --> 00:03:28.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or going on a blind date.
00:03:29.480 --> 00:03:32.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Anytime we open ourselves
00:03:32.520 --> 00:03:34.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: up to the unknown.
00:03:35.070 --> 00:03:37.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are on an adventure.
00:03:38.450 --> 00:03:41.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are taking a step into a larger world.
00:03:42.110 --> 00:03:46.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: confronting the unfamiliar and the mysterious.
00:03:46.630 --> 00:03:50.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: giving space to the magic of life
00:03:50.650 --> 00:03:56.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to unfold without our control or expectations.
00:03:56.920 --> 00:04:03.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For when we give space in our lives for something new and unexpected to show up.
00:04:04.070 --> 00:04:07.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are truly on an adventure.
00:04:07.790 --> 00:04:12.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not an adventure of slaying dragons and fighting enemies.
00:04:12.940 --> 00:04:18.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the truest of adventures, where we allow life itself
00:04:18.220 --> 00:04:21.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to bring something new and different to us.
00:04:23.600 --> 00:04:26.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who knows where the adventure will lead us.
00:04:27.080 --> 00:04:30.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or what new relationships will be created?
00:04:31.460 --> 00:04:42.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Perhaps we will experience something so new and different that we can't even conceive of how we will be different afterwards.
00:04:43.820 --> 00:04:46.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life itself is an adventure.
00:04:46.990 --> 00:04:49.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether we want it to be or not.
00:04:51.160 --> 00:04:56.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Every day there are so many possibilities that await us
00:04:57.750 --> 00:05:03.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we can be open and curious, and allow it to unfold
00:05:04.390 --> 00:05:09.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we try to control and manage every little aspect of our lives.
00:05:09.960 --> 00:05:12.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We leave no room for magic.
00:05:14.130 --> 00:05:19.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yet when we give space for the adventure to present itself to us.
00:05:20.130 --> 00:05:23.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we will be richly rewarded.
00:05:24.650 --> 00:05:27.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So where in your own life
00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:29.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can you give room
00:05:29.400 --> 00:05:30.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for adventure?
00:05:31.570 --> 00:05:32.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:05:35.044 --> 00:05:37.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the inspiration for this
00:05:37.910 --> 00:05:40.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a blog post
00:05:40.910 --> 00:05:43.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really comes from
00:05:43.530 --> 00:05:47.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the wanderings and meanderings my wife and I did
00:05:50.130 --> 00:05:52.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a couple of years ago.
00:05:54.190 --> 00:05:56.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we
00:05:57.300 --> 00:05:58.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we started.
00:05:58.410 --> 00:06:01.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but because we were both working virtually.
00:06:01.560 --> 00:06:05.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we weren't going back to doing anything in person for quite a while.
00:06:07.480 --> 00:06:09.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We started to travel a bit.
00:06:10.020 --> 00:06:15.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we started to house it for people in different places.
00:06:15.370 --> 00:06:20.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now this was before we did the big trip out to the West Coast for 3 months.
00:06:20.620 --> 00:06:27.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but I think this was we. We had started our first house. It we went up to Vermont for a week.
00:06:29.610 --> 00:06:30.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:06:31.530 --> 00:06:33.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know we didn't.
00:06:33.260 --> 00:06:34.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know
00:06:34.340 --> 00:06:41.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: know the town that we went to that. Well, we were taking care of someone's cat while they were away.
00:06:41.950 --> 00:06:43.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:45.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it it was an adventure.
00:06:46.400 --> 00:06:50.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it it wasn't a big adventure. It wasn't like. We
00:06:50.440 --> 00:06:55.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: traveled to the ends of the earth and went to some exotic location.
00:06:56.530 --> 00:06:59.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're just a few hours away up in Vermont.
00:07:01.220 --> 00:07:07.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I think the plane ride was like all of 45 min from Laguardia to Burlington.
00:07:10.260 --> 00:07:12.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but it was an adventure for us.
00:07:13.660 --> 00:07:20.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because we were staying in a person's place living in a town neither of us had ever lived in before.
00:07:22.860 --> 00:07:36.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so we had to find our own way through things to find local stores, restaurants, supermarkets, you know. What parks were there around? Where could we, you know, wander around in nature.
00:07:37.100 --> 00:07:40.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, meeting people in different places.
00:07:41.690 --> 00:07:44.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it was just a really nice experience.
00:07:45.340 --> 00:07:47.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It wasn't a
00:07:48.720 --> 00:07:51.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a super adventure wasn't like.
00:07:51.700 --> 00:07:54.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, anything exotic happened to us.
00:07:57.010 --> 00:07:58.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We were just
00:07:58.660 --> 00:08:01.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: out of our ordinary environment.
00:08:02.400 --> 00:08:03.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We were just.
00:08:04.740 --> 00:08:07.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, being present to the moment
00:08:09.260 --> 00:08:10.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of what
00:08:11.460 --> 00:08:13.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there was.
00:08:13.220 --> 00:08:15.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, for us to do
00:08:15.270 --> 00:08:20.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in this town. In this it was actually college town, Burlington's and college towns, the capital of Vermont.
00:08:24.190 --> 00:08:30.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know not a huge town, not a huge city that, like there were millions of different things to do.
00:08:34.490 --> 00:08:36.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it was different for us.
00:08:36.760 --> 00:08:38.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's the point.
00:08:39.340 --> 00:08:41.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: An an adventure
00:08:41.400 --> 00:08:46.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is when we put ourselves into an environment that we are not familiar with.
00:08:49.460 --> 00:08:57.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it can be a big move. It can be a small move like this is where this whole idea that, like adventure, doesn't have to be
00:08:57.280 --> 00:08:59.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something huge and big.
00:09:00.190 --> 00:09:06.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be something as simple as just going to the town next door, going someplace
00:09:07.950 --> 00:09:14.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that we've never been to before, and allowing what's gonna show up to show up. And we had a wonderful time there.
00:09:18.030 --> 00:09:23.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and and we discovered little things. We even discovered a little dumpling restaurant
00:09:24.770 --> 00:09:30.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that was named that had my wife's name on it. So I was like, Oh, we got to try this place, and it was actually pretty good.
00:09:31.300 --> 00:09:37.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and so it just kind of. I think I was just sitting with that whole experience
00:09:38.650 --> 00:09:40.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when they came up with
00:09:41.246 --> 00:09:43.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: this blog post, because
00:09:45.130 --> 00:09:47.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I don't know. I just felt like, sometimes
00:09:48.480 --> 00:09:50.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we we make
00:09:50.200 --> 00:09:53.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: adventure into this huge big thing.
00:09:54.870 --> 00:09:57.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I realized after this
00:09:57.370 --> 00:10:01.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: little trip we took that. You know what it doesn't have to be a huge thing.
00:10:01.810 --> 00:10:06.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't have to be an exotic place with
00:10:06.560 --> 00:10:08.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from a foreign culture.
00:10:11.810 --> 00:10:15.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: An adventure can be waiting right outside our own door.
00:10:16.450 --> 00:10:19.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, an adventure can just be
00:10:19.460 --> 00:10:23.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something as simple as you know. If we're commuting to work
00:10:23.200 --> 00:10:25.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just taking a different route.
00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:28.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: walking a different
00:10:28.750 --> 00:10:33.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: path that we usually than we usually walk to get somewhere.
00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:51.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, if we always tend to go down the same street or the same couple of blocks, and we turn that the same place all the time. Well, what if we turned the block before, or block afterwards, and came back around? What else is there out there that we're missing by not
00:10:51.760 --> 00:10:54.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: trying something different?
00:10:56.860 --> 00:10:59.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean, that's opening ourselves up to adventure
00:11:00.890 --> 00:11:02.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: trying something different.
00:11:03.800 --> 00:11:06.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it can be as simple as maybe
00:11:06.430 --> 00:11:16.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you've never tried Indian food. So you go out to an Indian restaurant or you've never shopped at a certain store. So you go check out this new store
00:11:19.550 --> 00:11:21.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where you go to
00:11:21.190 --> 00:11:29.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a group that I don't know does hiking, or does bowling, or does something that you you're interested in, but you've never done before.
00:11:31.580 --> 00:11:33.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't have to be
00:11:33.340 --> 00:11:35.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: some big, huge thing.
00:11:37.140 --> 00:11:38.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be something
00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:40.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so simple.
00:11:41.050 --> 00:11:42.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something
00:11:42.790 --> 00:11:45.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in some way so trivial.
00:11:45.710 --> 00:11:47.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but can be profound.
00:11:49.980 --> 00:11:57.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Who knows that just by taking a different path to work, or a different path home, or a different path to the store.
00:11:58.230 --> 00:12:09.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you might notice something you've never seen before. You might bump into somebody you never would have bumped into before. You might have an experience you never would have had if you hadn't changed your path.
00:12:13.500 --> 00:12:15.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So for me.
00:12:16.210 --> 00:12:19.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: really just opening ourselves up
00:12:20.410 --> 00:12:27.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in little ways. And it can be big ways, too. I mean, I'm not saying the adventure isn't going to someplace. Huge
00:12:27.760 --> 00:12:29.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it can be.
00:12:30.740 --> 00:12:32.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's let's not.
00:12:33.210 --> 00:12:39.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, lose the perspective that an adventure doesn't have to be a huge thing. It can be a small thing.
00:12:41.250 --> 00:12:44.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so that's what this blog post is all about.
00:12:46.260 --> 00:12:55.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I see a loyal listener, Sonia, on on the livestream says, Love the adventure of each day, little gifts that await us.
00:12:55.270 --> 00:12:57.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, so nice!
00:12:57.400 --> 00:12:58.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yeah.
00:12:58.670 --> 00:13:01.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: each day is filled with little gifts.
00:13:04.910 --> 00:13:07.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's really it's just
00:13:08.870 --> 00:13:13.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in some ways just allowing ourselves to be like children.
00:13:13.930 --> 00:13:16.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be open to the unknown.
00:13:16.160 --> 00:13:18.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be open to
00:13:18.650 --> 00:13:21.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all the things that life has to offer.
00:13:24.630 --> 00:13:26.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's my
00:13:26.810 --> 00:13:28.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: blog for today.
00:13:29.080 --> 00:13:34.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's entitled, When we open up to the unknown, we are on an adventure.
00:13:34.100 --> 00:13:44.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you can always find my blogs@talkradio.nyc. Slash blog, or, of course, on my personal branded website, the conscious consultant
00:13:44.760 --> 00:13:45.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: calm.
00:13:47.180 --> 00:13:59.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, for this hour it's just me and you. So Sinai, and I hope my other loyal listeners will be chiming in throughout the I hour, and when we come back I'll get into my main topic.
00:13:59.700 --> 00:14:03.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is all about integration and disintegration.
00:14:04.080 --> 00:14:07.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and how they both serve us in our lives.
00:14:08.120 --> 00:14:26.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So everybody, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday, 12 noon to one Pm. Eastern time, right here on talk, radio, Nyc, and all over social media on Youtube and Facebook and Twitter and Linkedin and Twitch.
00:14:28.480 --> 00:14:29.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we will be right back
00:14:30.390 --> 00:14:31.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in just a moment.
00:16:48.340 --> 00:16:57.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity. Thank you all for being with me today. I do appreciate it.
00:16:58.814 --> 00:17:07.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Remember, it's just me and you today. So if you're listening on Facebook, Linkedin, Youtube, Twitter Twitch.
00:17:07.270 --> 00:17:16.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: please put your comments in the Comments section and I'll get to them during the show. I promise, long as we're live, come in after we're live.
00:17:16.130 --> 00:17:17.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: probably get to it. But
00:17:19.349 --> 00:17:25.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So today, I'm really talking my topic today is integration and disintegration, and how they both
00:17:26.150 --> 00:17:30.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: actually serve us as we're traveling along on our healing path.
00:17:33.300 --> 00:17:34.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:17:36.199 --> 00:17:40.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: let let me, you know, talk a little bit about how
00:17:40.520 --> 00:17:42.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, when we first start on our our
00:17:43.340 --> 00:17:46.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: journey of healing, of healing our deep inner wounds.
00:17:47.320 --> 00:17:49.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we we really focus on
00:17:49.950 --> 00:17:51.009 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: oh, my God!
00:17:51.080 --> 00:17:59.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: One day, when I get through this, I'm going to feel better. I'm not going to be in so much pain, and and it's going to.
00:17:59.220 --> 00:18:01.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, feel like life is actually
00:18:01.820 --> 00:18:03.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: working for us.
00:18:05.650 --> 00:18:10.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and along the way we find that sometimes
00:18:10.530 --> 00:18:13.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: part of the challenges we've been having
00:18:13.390 --> 00:18:18.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is that we actually haven't been open to feeling all the things we need to feel.
00:18:18.950 --> 00:18:23.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know there's that old expression that you have to feel it to heal it.
00:18:25.410 --> 00:18:31.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we open up. We start slowly opening up. We don't want to do it too quickly, because that can be overwhelming.
00:18:33.550 --> 00:18:41.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we open up to these feelings, and we feel the sorrow we feel, the pain we feel, the loss. We feel, the things
00:18:41.470 --> 00:18:44.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we didn't really want to feel that books before
00:18:44.380 --> 00:18:47.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: wasn't maybe safe to feel these things before.
00:18:50.530 --> 00:18:55.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so now we're we're feeling all these things. But what do we do?
00:18:55.140 --> 00:18:57.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because these feelings can overwhelm us.
00:19:01.050 --> 00:19:03.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and my teacher
00:19:03.450 --> 00:19:05.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Armand, he actually
00:19:06.430 --> 00:19:11.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: kind of describe the work we do, the healing work we do in such a beautiful way.
00:19:13.620 --> 00:19:15.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where, in the beginning.
00:19:15.520 --> 00:19:31.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This kind of you know, this idea of positive and negative, where the positive is out front, and the negative is kind of a little bit hidden in behind. And for those viewers who are just listening to the audio, I have my my one hand up in front open, and another hand closed behind it.
00:19:32.400 --> 00:19:36.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when something is kind of a little bit hidden like that.
00:19:38.990 --> 00:19:40.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it persists.
00:19:40.550 --> 00:19:45.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it stays there. It affects us, and we don't even know we're not living as consciously.
00:19:47.930 --> 00:19:55.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this work of healing is about bringing this, these so called negative things
00:19:56.140 --> 00:19:57.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: out to the front.
00:19:58.890 --> 00:20:00.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to recognize them
00:20:01.900 --> 00:20:04.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and to know that they're there, and to
00:20:05.090 --> 00:20:07.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to see them for what they are.
00:20:09.450 --> 00:20:10.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So these
00:20:10.630 --> 00:20:13.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: quote unquote negative things.
00:20:15.790 --> 00:20:17.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe they're not so negative.
00:20:19.580 --> 00:20:26.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. It sort of reminds me of this old Star Trek episode, the original Star Trek episode
00:20:28.210 --> 00:20:37.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where Kirk gets beamed up and something happens with the transporter, and he splits into 2 kirks.
00:20:37.840 --> 00:20:44.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and there's the one Kirk who's got all the positive traits and the other kirk that has all the negative traits.
00:20:45.530 --> 00:20:48.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what happens throughout the episode is, you see.
00:20:49.390 --> 00:20:50.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that
00:20:50.550 --> 00:20:54.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Positive Kirk can't make decisions. He's not as
00:20:54.421 --> 00:21:00.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: decisive. He's not aggressive. He he ends up in situations he does not sure what to do.
00:21:00.640 --> 00:21:05.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then the negative kirk is like demanding quick. And all this stuff.
00:21:06.750 --> 00:21:10.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And really, by the end of the episode, he realizes
00:21:10.950 --> 00:21:13.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that he needs both sides.
00:21:13.850 --> 00:21:19.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and so eventually they they fix the transporter. He, he goes in with the transporter, with his other self.
00:21:19.960 --> 00:21:22.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: comes back as a whole person.
00:21:25.490 --> 00:21:29.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and that was really the process of him
00:21:29.530 --> 00:21:33.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: integrating. Right? We're talking about integration at the moment.
00:21:34.200 --> 00:21:36.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: integrating those sides
00:21:36.640 --> 00:21:39.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like not keeping them hidden.
00:21:39.970 --> 00:21:42.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but seeing them for what they are
00:21:43.420 --> 00:21:45.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without judgment.
00:21:45.550 --> 00:21:46.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without
00:21:47.190 --> 00:21:48.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being critical.
00:21:50.130 --> 00:21:56.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because let's face it. You know, all of these quote unquote negative sides of ourselves
00:21:57.130 --> 00:22:01.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: are exactly what we needed to survive to get to the point where we are today.
00:22:02.800 --> 00:22:05.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so they did serve us in some way.
00:22:06.760 --> 00:22:10.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But oftentimes we don't want to see that we don't want to
00:22:11.030 --> 00:22:13.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to to have that, and so we
00:22:14.150 --> 00:22:16.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: shun it. We we pull away from it.
00:22:17.610 --> 00:22:19.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but when we fully see it.
00:22:21.860 --> 00:22:23.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we bring
00:22:23.370 --> 00:22:27.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: those negative aspects into the light of our consciousness.
00:22:28.340 --> 00:22:32.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can start to integrate them and bring them together
00:22:32.630 --> 00:22:36.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and live more as a whole person.
00:22:39.070 --> 00:22:41.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's really
00:22:41.570 --> 00:22:44.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what integration is all about.
00:22:45.680 --> 00:22:50.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's learning to bring all the aspects of ourselves together.
00:22:51.150 --> 00:22:54.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to live as a whole integrated human being
00:22:58.250 --> 00:23:00.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that lives more fully
00:23:01.320 --> 00:23:05.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that accepts ourselves, that loves ourselves.
00:23:06.620 --> 00:23:08.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all the different aspects of ourselves.
00:23:12.380 --> 00:23:13.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And
00:23:14.810 --> 00:23:17.769 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in order for us to truly accept ourselves.
00:23:18.070 --> 00:23:19.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to integrate.
00:23:21.510 --> 00:23:25.037 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so it was interesting like after this teaching with
00:23:25.780 --> 00:23:28.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with with with Armand.
00:23:29.730 --> 00:23:31.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I was there.
00:23:32.110 --> 00:23:37.289 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, first with other facilitators on Zoom, and then I was being more with my wife
00:23:37.510 --> 00:23:40.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when I was going through this process
00:23:41.900 --> 00:23:43.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of looking at
00:23:43.830 --> 00:23:48.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all these different decisions I had made throughout my life
00:23:49.410 --> 00:23:53.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that affected my life in in a pretty significant way.
00:23:55.200 --> 00:23:59.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A lot of them didn't feel so good a lot of them felt like I'd done something wrong.
00:24:03.700 --> 00:24:04.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:24:04.950 --> 00:24:09.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I kept asking myself, Can I still love myself, even though I made that decision?
00:24:09.800 --> 00:24:14.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, can I still love myself, even though I made this other decision? Yes.
00:24:14.830 --> 00:24:17.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: can I still love myself, even though I lost
00:24:17.400 --> 00:24:26.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: lots of money? Yes, can I love myself, even though I made a mistake here? Yes, can I love myself, even though you know this was very painful. Yes.
00:24:26.370 --> 00:24:34.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and one by one, really going through all these major decisions within my life, and being able to
00:24:35.270 --> 00:24:37.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hold those decisions
00:24:39.150 --> 00:24:42.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and hold the person that I was
00:24:43.130 --> 00:24:45.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: made those decisions
00:24:45.940 --> 00:24:47.749 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in love and compassion.
00:24:49.390 --> 00:24:52.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's really fascinating how
00:24:53.840 --> 00:24:57.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: once I was able to really accept myself
00:24:57.820 --> 00:25:00.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to hold myself in that way.
00:25:02.160 --> 00:25:04.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The feeling of relief.
00:25:05.370 --> 00:25:07.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the feeling of
00:25:07.710 --> 00:25:09.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: being more solid.
00:25:09.890 --> 00:25:14.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the feelings of just being okay with myself.
00:25:14.770 --> 00:25:18.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How much easier it was to cultivate them.
00:25:18.360 --> 00:25:19.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to feel the.
00:25:22.610 --> 00:25:25.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to get to that point where
00:25:26.110 --> 00:25:29.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I can truly accept myself as a human being.
00:25:31.090 --> 00:25:33.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I know it's not that easy.
00:25:34.260 --> 00:25:36.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and I'm not saying this happens, and
00:25:36.880 --> 00:25:39.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: one session or one practice.
00:25:42.730 --> 00:25:44.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet the more
00:25:45.170 --> 00:25:46.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we look at these things.
00:25:47.540 --> 00:25:52.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the more we bring out into the light of our consciousness.
00:25:53.010 --> 00:25:56.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: these aspects of ourselves that we considered negative.
00:25:58.160 --> 00:26:00.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we can learn to embrace them
00:26:02.560 --> 00:26:04.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see them
00:26:04.710 --> 00:26:07.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for how they actually serve us.
00:26:11.140 --> 00:26:14.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can live life
00:26:14.340 --> 00:26:17.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in a more integrated fashion.
00:26:18.290 --> 00:26:22.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can truly be whole human being.
00:26:26.120 --> 00:26:30.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and this is not to say that we don't have different sides of our cells.
00:26:30.490 --> 00:26:33.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is not to say that there's not
00:26:33.240 --> 00:26:38.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the little boy or little girl and the teenager within us, and the young adult within us.
00:26:40.680 --> 00:26:44.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It doesn't mean we get rid of all these different sides.
00:26:45.640 --> 00:26:49.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It means we accept them for the gift that they are.
00:26:53.410 --> 00:26:54.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so
00:26:54.970 --> 00:26:59.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: maybe that rebellious side that sometimes gets us in trouble.
00:27:00.010 --> 00:27:02.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's learning to accept that that's a part of us.
00:27:03.320 --> 00:27:04.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or maybe the
00:27:04.770 --> 00:27:08.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the the spoiled brat side of us that just wants everything our way.
00:27:09.110 --> 00:27:11.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: learning to accept that side of ourselves.
00:27:13.520 --> 00:27:16.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the side of ourselves that's caring and loving.
00:27:17.070 --> 00:27:19.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and really cares about other people
00:27:19.600 --> 00:27:21.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: except that side of ourselves.
00:27:26.250 --> 00:27:28.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we can truly
00:27:29.220 --> 00:27:31.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: bring it into our hearts
00:27:31.980 --> 00:27:34.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to see it clearly
00:27:34.280 --> 00:27:36.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and embrace it.
00:27:39.340 --> 00:27:43.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's when we could allow ourselves to be human beings.
00:27:45.040 --> 00:27:47.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's but it's okay
00:27:48.540 --> 00:27:50.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to make mistakes.
00:27:51.180 --> 00:27:53.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or would appear to be mistakes.
00:27:54.300 --> 00:27:56.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's when it becomes okay
00:27:59.040 --> 00:28:01.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just live life as a human being.
00:28:02.330 --> 00:28:07.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we can allow ourselves to live life as a human being.
00:28:09.500 --> 00:28:13.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can allow other people to live their life as a human being.
00:28:17.230 --> 00:28:20.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And sometimes that's the most important thing.
00:28:23.730 --> 00:28:26.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're more integrated and whole.
00:28:29.870 --> 00:28:31.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we're okay
00:28:31.780 --> 00:28:34.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with the mistakes that we make
00:28:34.310 --> 00:28:35.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in our own life.
00:28:36.660 --> 00:28:39.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then maybe we can be a little more accepting
00:28:40.100 --> 00:28:42.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of the mistakes that other people make.
00:28:43.220 --> 00:28:44.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe then
00:28:44.510 --> 00:28:46.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can be a little more compassionate
00:28:47.020 --> 00:28:50.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when somebody does something that doesn't feel right to us.
00:28:51.880 --> 00:28:54.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe then, we can allow
00:28:55.310 --> 00:29:00.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our friends, our family, our loved ones, our partners, our spouses.
00:29:01.290 --> 00:29:03.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to be who they are.
00:29:03.810 --> 00:29:05.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without having to fit
00:29:06.310 --> 00:29:09.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: into a certain notion of how we think they should be.
00:29:12.680 --> 00:29:14.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's integration.
00:29:17.850 --> 00:29:18.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:29:21.770 --> 00:29:24.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that takes us to our next break.
00:29:26.290 --> 00:29:27.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that when we come back
00:29:29.400 --> 00:29:31.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're going to talk about the flip side of the coin
00:29:32.580 --> 00:29:34.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: disintegration!
00:29:34.490 --> 00:29:37.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How does disintegration serve us?
00:29:39.650 --> 00:29:42.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we will get into that and more
00:29:43.540 --> 00:29:46.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after I blow my nose, and we go to break.
00:29:46.560 --> 00:29:51.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yes, you're listening to the conscious, consulting hour awakening humanity.
00:29:51.720 --> 00:29:54.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you for being here with me today.
00:29:54.320 --> 00:30:01.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please post your comments and your questions in the comments section below the videos. So I can get to them.
00:30:01.810 --> 00:30:05.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I promise to answer and and comment upon all your
00:30:06.210 --> 00:30:08.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: your comments. So please
00:30:08.190 --> 00:30:10.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: go ahead and do so. Thank you so much for tuning in.
00:30:11.340 --> 00:30:16.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're listening to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity, and we will be right back
00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:18.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after this quick break.
00:32:25.660 --> 00:32:30.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious, consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:32:31.090 --> 00:32:41.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So in our last segment, I spoke all about the process of integration, of bringing to light those things that we don't normally want to see.
00:32:43.120 --> 00:32:48.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and a learning to accept those parts of ourselves and bringing them together.
00:32:49.520 --> 00:32:52.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But life is not just about integration.
00:32:52.360 --> 00:32:57.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life is also about disintegration when things fall apart.
00:32:59.380 --> 00:33:04.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and those things, sir, and that process of things falling apart.
00:33:04.360 --> 00:33:08.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: serves us just as much as integration serves us.
00:33:09.940 --> 00:33:11.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: However.
00:33:11.150 --> 00:33:14.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: disintegration doesn't always feel that good sometimes.
00:33:14.920 --> 00:33:18.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So how does disintegration serve us? Well.
00:33:19.550 --> 00:33:22.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: simple example. I'm sure many people have experienced this.
00:33:22.800 --> 00:33:24.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you're at a job
00:33:24.160 --> 00:33:25.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or and you're in a business.
00:33:26.090 --> 00:33:34.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's not really feeding your soul. And it's not such a great environment to work with. And you're just having a hard time with it.
00:33:34.730 --> 00:33:39.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you're not leaving, even though it doesn't really serve you to stay.
00:33:40.580 --> 00:33:42.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So what eventually happens?
00:33:43.510 --> 00:33:48.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The company gets bought out by another company, and they're massive layoffs, and you get laid off.
00:33:48.340 --> 00:33:54.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or something happens in the office, and they decide that you're not needed there anymore, and you get laid off.
00:33:55.800 --> 00:34:02.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when I hear that from friends of mine, although I know it's scary, you don't have a steady paycheck anymore. For a while.
00:34:02.720 --> 00:34:06.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I always say congratulations because you weren't supposed to be there anyway.
00:34:07.610 --> 00:34:11.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So that's a process of disintegration of things falling apart.
00:34:13.400 --> 00:34:15.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes we're in a relationship.
00:34:16.350 --> 00:34:22.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It could be a marriage. It could be a long-term partnership. It could be a friendship, could be any kind of relationship.
00:34:25.730 --> 00:34:30.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you've you're keeping this relationship for a long time, and sometimes
00:34:30.699 --> 00:34:35.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that relationship doesn't serve us the way it served us in the beginning.
00:34:35.590 --> 00:34:40.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes you and the other person have changed. You're not quite the same.
00:34:41.120 --> 00:34:47.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It it things just don't flow smoothly between the 2 of you, the way used to anymore.
00:34:49.870 --> 00:34:55.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet we're afraid to let go of it, because that relationship is comfortable
00:34:55.550 --> 00:34:57.199 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it's known
00:34:57.680 --> 00:35:01.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just because the relationship has longevity. We don't want to let go of it.
00:35:05.170 --> 00:35:09.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then eventually something happens and the relationship falls apart.
00:35:10.330 --> 00:35:12.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and either yourself or the other person
00:35:13.080 --> 00:35:15.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: makes a decision and say, You know what?
00:35:15.520 --> 00:35:17.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This doesn't really work for me anymore.
00:35:19.010 --> 00:35:23.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, sometimes it's something outside of your control, like maybe a friend who.
00:35:23.480 --> 00:35:34.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know the friendship wasn't that good? Maybe they moved to another state, or they get transferred in their company to another place. And so you just don't see them as much anymore.
00:35:35.030 --> 00:35:39.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All kinds of ways that that relationship can fall apart.
00:35:41.400 --> 00:35:43.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and things need to fall apart
00:35:44.410 --> 00:35:48.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in order to rebuild in order for something new to come up.
00:35:49.670 --> 00:35:51.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's sort of like
00:35:51.210 --> 00:35:52.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the forest
00:35:54.050 --> 00:35:56.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when a tree dies
00:35:57.090 --> 00:35:58.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it falls down.
00:35:59.810 --> 00:36:02.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's lying there on the ground.
00:36:02.930 --> 00:36:05.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It disintegrates over time.
00:36:06.040 --> 00:36:08.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And what happens as it's disintegrating
00:36:08.580 --> 00:36:15.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: all kinds of bugs come and start eating it. Mushrooms and and fungi can start popping up.
00:36:16.370 --> 00:36:18.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it starts breaking apart
00:36:19.250 --> 00:36:24.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and falling apart into different pieces and getting reabsorbed back into the soil
00:36:27.420 --> 00:36:31.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: essentially becoming fertilizer for the other trees.
00:36:32.230 --> 00:36:34.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and by this tree falling apart.
00:36:35.110 --> 00:36:41.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it actually feeds the whole environment that's around it.
00:36:41.890 --> 00:36:45.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that disintegration of that tree
00:36:45.740 --> 00:36:57.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: actually gets integrated into the environment and feeds the environment and is exactly what the environment needs to grow and be more lush and continue to blossom.
00:37:00.390 --> 00:37:07.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So in the same way, whether it's a relationship or a job, or whatever that falls apart.
00:37:07.990 --> 00:37:11.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it falls apart to make room for something new.
00:37:13.370 --> 00:37:15.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's the key.
00:37:15.460 --> 00:37:22.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because oftentimes, when we're experiencing this disintegration side of things.
00:37:22.120 --> 00:37:32.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it doesn't feel so good. It's uncomfortable. We like things to stay the same. Why is this thing going away, you know. Oh, I know I didn't like my job, but I was
00:37:33.600 --> 00:37:35.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: comfortably.
00:37:36.220 --> 00:37:38.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I knew what I was doing.
00:37:38.210 --> 00:37:42.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know it. It was, you know, the comfort of a rut
00:37:42.410 --> 00:37:43.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: same thing
00:37:43.680 --> 00:37:44.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: every day.
00:37:46.460 --> 00:37:49.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so now that thing fell apart. Now, what am I? Gonna do
00:37:51.570 --> 00:37:55.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know that's where the new adventure kind of creeps into life.
00:37:55.570 --> 00:37:57.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When things disintegrate.
00:37:58.240 --> 00:38:00.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they make room for something new
00:38:01.200 --> 00:38:03.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which is now our next adventure in life.
00:38:06.500 --> 00:38:09.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So without disintegration.
00:38:09.050 --> 00:38:11.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There's no room for change.
00:38:11.660 --> 00:38:14.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's no room for growth.
00:38:15.220 --> 00:38:17.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we have to experience
00:38:18.170 --> 00:38:22.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: disintegration, the falling apart of things
00:38:23.820 --> 00:38:27.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in order for something new, something better.
00:38:27.620 --> 00:38:30.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something that that will ultimately
00:38:30.950 --> 00:38:34.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: feed us and support us in the long run.
00:38:36.890 --> 00:38:41.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the challenge is not judging the disintegration.
00:38:41.710 --> 00:38:47.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's where we really get in trouble. And that's what causes us the most challenge.
00:38:47.300 --> 00:38:50.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We judge the disintegration as bad.
00:38:50.520 --> 00:38:55.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We think we just want integration, we just want integration. We just want integration.
00:38:57.600 --> 00:39:02.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but without the disintegration there's no room for something new to come in.
00:39:05.780 --> 00:39:10.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see Sonia, loyal listener, Sanaya. Thank you so much on the live stream says.
00:39:11.180 --> 00:39:15.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: disintegration has always, in the long run been the best thing for me
00:39:15.940 --> 00:39:23.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the long run. I just had to be outside of the situation to reap the benefits and renew myself. Exactly.
00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:32.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Sometimes
00:39:33.070 --> 00:39:34.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't see
00:39:39.750 --> 00:39:42.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: challenges with being where we are.
00:39:43.990 --> 00:39:45.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't see
00:39:47.340 --> 00:39:51.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the stagnation that we are experiencing
00:39:51.610 --> 00:39:53.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: by things staying the same.
00:39:55.890 --> 00:39:57.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's not until
00:39:58.440 --> 00:40:00.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: things fall apart
00:40:01.570 --> 00:40:04.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: outside of our own volition.
00:40:04.240 --> 00:40:06.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: outside of our desire.
00:40:06.440 --> 00:40:08.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: outside of
00:40:09.780 --> 00:40:11.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our will.
00:40:14.370 --> 00:40:18.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but then eventually, we can see how this disintegration
00:40:18.510 --> 00:40:20.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: eventually serves us
00:40:25.180 --> 00:40:29.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a a minor example. Maybe some of you can relate to this
00:40:30.590 --> 00:40:33.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: before I married my wife 21 years ago
00:40:34.680 --> 00:40:39.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was in the relationship with a woman for 6 years, and it was going really well.
00:40:39.800 --> 00:40:42.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We really liked each other. We were good together.
00:40:45.230 --> 00:40:48.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then, eventually, that relationship disintegrated.
00:40:49.570 --> 00:40:52.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we split up. But it wasn't a
00:40:54.490 --> 00:41:01.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it wasn't a relationship where, when we split up, we were angry at each other, upset at each other. It was fairly
00:41:01.640 --> 00:41:02.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: amicable.
00:41:02.970 --> 00:41:08.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know. It was a little painful. It hurt a little bit because we were so good together. It's like, Oh, my God!
00:41:08.920 --> 00:41:10.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What am I going to do now?
00:41:13.530 --> 00:41:15.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But that relationship disintegrated.
00:41:17.860 --> 00:41:23.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and after that relationship disintegrated, you know. I took a little time for myself, started dating again.
00:41:24.040 --> 00:41:27.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: met the woman who eventually became my wife.
00:41:30.780 --> 00:41:35.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yet if I had not experienced the disintegration of that relationship
00:41:37.000 --> 00:41:39.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I wouldn't have this new relationship.
00:41:40.430 --> 00:41:43.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now for 21 years not so new with my wife.
00:41:46.210 --> 00:41:47.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you see, that's the thing.
00:41:49.470 --> 00:41:52.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't know what's around the corner in our life.
00:41:53.250 --> 00:41:56.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't know what adventure awaits us.
00:41:56.790 --> 00:41:58.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't know
00:41:59.770 --> 00:42:08.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what amazing thing life has in store for us that could be so much better than what we're experiencing in the moment.
00:42:12.160 --> 00:42:14.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we can develop this perspective.
00:42:15.780 --> 00:42:18.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: develop the capacity.
00:42:18.650 --> 00:42:22.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hold disintegration in our life
00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:24.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: without judging it.
00:42:26.910 --> 00:42:27.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then
00:42:29.090 --> 00:42:31.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we can live a little more freely.
00:42:31.940 --> 00:42:35.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can live a little more in tune with life.
00:42:38.300 --> 00:42:40.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can be
00:42:40.650 --> 00:42:44.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a little more at ease with all aspects of life.
00:42:48.270 --> 00:42:55.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because the disintegration, the falling apart of what no longer serves us
00:42:55.090 --> 00:42:57.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is an essential part of our growth.
00:42:59.670 --> 00:43:02.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't grow by being comfortable.
00:43:02.500 --> 00:43:05.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't grow by things staying the same.
00:43:05.800 --> 00:43:10.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't grow by feeling great and wonderful all the time
00:43:11.490 --> 00:43:13.989 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we grow. When things fall apart.
00:43:14.400 --> 00:43:18.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we grow, when we experience the challenges of life
00:43:18.500 --> 00:43:19.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we grow
00:43:19.940 --> 00:43:24.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when those unexpected things happen and come to us.
00:43:26.140 --> 00:43:29.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and we have to learn to deal with something different.
00:43:32.470 --> 00:43:36.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Yep, we can allow that disintegration to happen
00:43:37.130 --> 00:43:40.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where we can be open to things falling apart.
00:43:42.270 --> 00:43:47.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we have the opportunity to bring something new in and integrate
00:43:48.210 --> 00:43:49.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something new.
00:43:51.360 --> 00:43:55.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this whole process of disintegration and integration
00:43:57.250 --> 00:44:00.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: now gives us a richer, fuller life.
00:44:02.770 --> 00:44:03.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: which
00:44:03.880 --> 00:44:06.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: leads me down to
00:44:06.390 --> 00:44:09.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: our next commercial break at our final segment.
00:44:10.480 --> 00:44:12.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where I'll talk about
00:44:13.410 --> 00:44:14.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: how to be
00:44:14.830 --> 00:44:20.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: at peace with both integration, disintegration, integration, disintegration.
00:44:21.410 --> 00:44:23.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How do we live in a world
00:44:23.820 --> 00:44:26.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that's changing so rapidly?
00:44:26.950 --> 00:44:30.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That feels like it's disintegrating and falling apart
00:44:31.390 --> 00:44:35.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: while we're integrating new things and new awarenesses for ourselves.
00:44:36.550 --> 00:44:38.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I'll talk about all of that
00:44:39.510 --> 00:44:41.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and bring this all together
00:44:41.540 --> 00:44:43.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in our final segment
00:44:43.400 --> 00:44:44.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after the spray.
00:44:44.930 --> 00:44:51.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious. Consult awakening humanity.
00:44:51.650 --> 00:45:03.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and if you have any comments or questions, please post them in the live stream in the Comments section, and I'll get to them in this final segment. So everyone, please stay tuned. We'll be right back
00:45:03.670 --> 00:45:05.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: after these messages.
00:47:13.480 --> 00:47:22.309 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And welcome back to the conscious. Consult now our awakening humanity. I hope you've been enjoying this show. We've been talking all about
00:47:22.360 --> 00:47:25.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: integration and disintegration, and
00:47:25.250 --> 00:47:27.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know the adventure of of life.
00:47:30.450 --> 00:47:40.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: please, if if you do have any comments or questions please post them in the comment section of the live stream.
00:47:43.990 --> 00:47:44.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so
00:47:45.070 --> 00:47:48.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is our final segment. So let me talk about, how do we
00:47:48.750 --> 00:47:53.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: work with this process of integration and disintegration? Right?
00:47:54.080 --> 00:47:55.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because
00:47:56.650 --> 00:48:00.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: let's face it. We buy a house. We don't want it to fall apart.
00:48:00.390 --> 00:48:05.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're we're working on something we're we're in a relationship. We're doing whatever doesn't matter.
00:48:07.160 --> 00:48:09.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's hard to let go of things.
00:48:10.430 --> 00:48:13.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's hard to see how things can really
00:48:13.780 --> 00:48:16.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: service when there's loss there.
00:48:17.810 --> 00:48:19.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you see, that's really the thing
00:48:21.430 --> 00:48:26.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: in the process of disintegration, of things falling apart.
00:48:26.480 --> 00:48:29.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we have to integrate that feeling of loss.
00:48:31.540 --> 00:48:36.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that feeling of grief and loss of losing something. It's real.
00:48:37.090 --> 00:48:39.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it's part of being a human being.
00:48:40.020 --> 00:48:42.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's part of the whole process.
00:48:44.170 --> 00:48:50.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So even if it's something that doesn't service, and we're actually glad to be out of it.
00:48:50.790 --> 00:48:59.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like, let's just say, an abusive relationship or relationship that really doesn't feed us and just kind of tears us down.
00:49:01.050 --> 00:49:05.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: even though. Yeah, it's a great thing. We're no longer in that relationship.
00:49:07.310 --> 00:49:14.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's still a loss. We're still used to being in that relationship. And when it disintegrates when it falls apart.
00:49:14.910 --> 00:49:16.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That's a loss.
00:49:18.760 --> 00:49:22.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so we need to acknowledge that loss.
00:49:22.550 --> 00:49:27.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We need to sit with that feeling of loss, sit with that feeling of grief.
00:49:28.020 --> 00:49:32.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of having lost something that was in our life, even if it didn't serve us.
00:49:36.910 --> 00:49:39.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what being brought up Jewish
00:49:40.210 --> 00:49:44.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you learn from a young age when someone dies, we have this
00:49:44.040 --> 00:49:46.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: ritual called Sitting Shiver.
00:49:46.400 --> 00:49:48.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're basically for 7 days.
00:49:49.460 --> 00:50:02.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You're supposed to, you know, not listen to music, not sit on anything comfortable, not do a whole bunch of things. And basically, relatives just come over. Bring food. You do a lot of eating. You know, Jewish religion is all about food, just like.
00:50:02.560 --> 00:50:04.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But many, many other cultures.
00:50:06.760 --> 00:50:12.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I always used to think this is silly. Why do we have to do this person's gone. What's difference does it make?
00:50:13.650 --> 00:50:17.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But I tell you I've really come to appreciate how
00:50:19.510 --> 00:50:22.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: giving that time and space to grieve
00:50:24.150 --> 00:50:27.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: the loss that we're feeling, even if it's not
00:50:27.460 --> 00:50:32.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: someone. We were that close to her, even if it was not someone we really like that much.
00:50:32.510 --> 00:50:36.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The fact that they were in our lives and part of our lives.
00:50:37.000 --> 00:50:39.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and they're no longer there.
00:50:42.510 --> 00:50:44.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We need to give space for that.
00:50:46.860 --> 00:50:49.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the way to really.
00:50:52.390 --> 00:50:53.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I guess.
00:50:53.950 --> 00:50:58.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: be okay with this process of disintegration
00:50:59.890 --> 00:51:02.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is to give space to feel the loss.
00:51:03.490 --> 00:51:07.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because if we don't give space to feel the loss, it's eventually going to creep back up.
00:51:08.190 --> 00:51:10.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's going to cause us problems later on.
00:51:12.020 --> 00:51:24.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we're really present to the disintegration and the feelings around the disintegration, then we can process them. We can be present to them. We can allow those energies to flow through us.
00:51:25.590 --> 00:51:26.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and once we've
00:51:27.220 --> 00:51:31.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: process them, we don't have to completely process them, not a hundred percent.
00:51:31.190 --> 00:51:38.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but at least acknowledge them at least feel our feelings, which in this culture we really don't feel our feelings.
00:51:38.790 --> 00:51:39.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Pita
00:51:41.230 --> 00:51:45.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: acknowledge that sense of loss, acknowledge
00:51:46.060 --> 00:51:51.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what's really going on inside. So we can release that energy.
00:51:51.110 --> 00:51:55.610 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So then we can make room for something new to then integrate.
00:51:57.250 --> 00:52:05.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean the way life is. It's a constant process of disintegration, integration, disintegration, integration, disintegration, integration.
00:52:06.970 --> 00:52:08.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: like the beating of our heart.
00:52:10.330 --> 00:52:14.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We're opening and closing, opening and closing, opening and closing.
00:52:17.240 --> 00:52:20.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And how to be okay with all of this
00:52:22.500 --> 00:52:28.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: is to really just be present to what we're feeling. Be honest with ourselves.
00:52:29.360 --> 00:52:35.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Be honest that sometimes you know what this doesn't feel so good. This sucks. I hate this.
00:52:35.970 --> 00:52:37.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Be truthful with yourself.
00:52:39.210 --> 00:52:43.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't say Oh, well, good good riddance! I'm glad they're gone. I'm so much happier now.
00:52:44.040 --> 00:52:45.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so much happier now.
00:52:46.660 --> 00:52:47.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and you're miserable
00:52:49.660 --> 00:52:51.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because, even though they were a jerk.
00:52:52.650 --> 00:52:53.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you still miss them.
00:52:54.300 --> 00:52:56.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You still miss that presence of your life.
00:52:59.910 --> 00:53:02.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not always easy to be honest.
00:53:02.590 --> 00:53:04.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's not always easy to be truthful
00:53:04.870 --> 00:53:06.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with ourselves. In fact.
00:53:07.000 --> 00:53:12.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I would say the hardest person to be truthful to is ourselves.
00:53:13.020 --> 00:53:16.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Once we can be truthful to ourselves, then we can be truthful to others.
00:53:21.690 --> 00:53:22.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So yeah.
00:53:23.690 --> 00:53:27.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sometimes we just have to feel it.
00:53:29.480 --> 00:53:34.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know, sometimes, when things are disintegrating, we have to deal with a whole bunch of stuff, so
00:53:34.460 --> 00:53:36.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we don't have time to feel our feelings.
00:53:38.010 --> 00:53:39.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, if if
00:53:39.810 --> 00:53:45.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: something happened, we have to move, we lost our lease and we're moving our home, our office, our business.
00:53:47.750 --> 00:53:54.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't have time to like feel the loss in the moment, because there are things that got to get done. And that's okay.
00:53:57.220 --> 00:54:02.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But once we do have the moment to sit and be with the feelings
00:54:03.400 --> 00:54:06.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to say you know what I missed that old place.
00:54:06.550 --> 00:54:07.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I really liked
00:54:07.840 --> 00:54:11.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: my old apartment, my old house, my old office.
00:54:14.160 --> 00:54:18.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you know, even though it smelled even though it was bad, even though it was this or that
00:54:19.450 --> 00:54:20.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: to just admit
00:54:20.850 --> 00:54:23.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that that process of disintegration
00:54:23.510 --> 00:54:26.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: left a little bit of a hole inside ourselves
00:54:27.300 --> 00:54:30.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: before we start filling it up with something new.
00:54:33.600 --> 00:54:34.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So yeah.
00:54:34.970 --> 00:54:39.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so the key to being okay with integration and disintegration.
00:54:39.970 --> 00:54:43.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Just be okay with what we're feeling in the moment.
00:54:43.680 --> 00:54:44.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's that simple.
00:54:45.440 --> 00:54:46.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not easy.
00:54:46.880 --> 00:54:48.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: not easy at all.
00:54:49.070 --> 00:54:51.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: but that simple.
00:54:54.460 --> 00:54:56.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it's something we're not taught.
00:54:57.040 --> 00:55:01.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: As a matter of fact, it's something that we're kind of taught not to do
00:55:02.040 --> 00:55:03.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: from the time we're young.
00:55:07.020 --> 00:55:07.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But
00:55:08.600 --> 00:55:12.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we really want to live life to the fullest.
00:55:12.520 --> 00:55:15.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we really want to
00:55:16.140 --> 00:55:19.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: experience all the juiciness
00:55:19.890 --> 00:55:21.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of life.
00:55:24.560 --> 00:55:29.599 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's no way around it. We have to feel what we feel. We have to be present to it all.
00:55:31.520 --> 00:55:33.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and when we can release the judgment.
00:55:34.640 --> 00:55:40.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: when we can stop making integration better than disintegration or favored.
00:55:41.840 --> 00:55:47.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we, we can say that you know what, whether disintegration is comfortable or not, it's still good
00:55:47.270 --> 00:55:50.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: whether integration is comfortable or not. It's still good.
00:55:50.470 --> 00:55:51.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It's all good.
00:55:52.090 --> 00:55:54.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: because it's all a part of life
00:55:55.900 --> 00:55:59.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: where we can really, truly be okay
00:55:59.830 --> 00:56:02.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with all that life has to offer.
00:56:05.900 --> 00:56:08.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can live a fuller life.
00:56:08.810 --> 00:56:10.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: then we can live
00:56:10.690 --> 00:56:12.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: a life worth living.
00:56:14.910 --> 00:56:16.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and it takes practice.
00:56:16.700 --> 00:56:18.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Does it happen overnight?
00:56:19.640 --> 00:56:21.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Does it happen
00:56:23.220 --> 00:56:25.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: just by chance, or happen stance?
00:56:26.040 --> 00:56:29.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It happens consciously, with intention.
00:56:29.800 --> 00:56:31.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: with effort.
00:56:32.660 --> 00:56:33.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: especially
00:56:34.070 --> 00:56:40.019 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if we've been brought up to cut off our emotions. If we've been brought up not to feel the things we feel.
00:56:43.660 --> 00:56:44.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So
00:56:45.460 --> 00:56:49.589 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that is my show. All about integration and disintegration.
00:56:49.910 --> 00:56:51.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I hope that was helpful.
00:56:52.100 --> 00:56:53.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Hope you enjoyed it
00:56:54.450 --> 00:56:55.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if you did.
00:56:55.840 --> 00:56:58.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: or you have some comments about it, please
00:56:58.900 --> 00:57:04.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: email me at Sam at the conscious consultant.com.
00:57:05.910 --> 00:57:09.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if there are other topics you'd like me to touch upon.
00:57:09.280 --> 00:57:11.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: if there are other things that
00:57:11.190 --> 00:57:13.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you think would be
00:57:13.690 --> 00:57:16.169 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: an aspect of life
00:57:17.350 --> 00:57:20.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: you'd like me to explore. Let me know.
00:57:20.650 --> 00:57:24.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And posted in the comment section of the video can email, me
00:57:26.291 --> 00:57:33.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: go to my website, the conscious consultant.com go to the contact, form and contact me and let me know.
00:57:34.680 --> 00:57:37.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for being with me this hour
00:57:37.620 --> 00:57:41.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: next week. We have a wonderful guest in store for you. Not just me.
00:57:43.340 --> 00:57:45.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: so I hope you'll tune in
00:57:46.060 --> 00:57:51.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thursdays, 12 noon to one PM. Eastern time right here in talk radio, NYC.
00:57:52.440 --> 00:58:07.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And don't forget if you missed any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on talk, radio and on all the podcasting platforms. Apple, Google spotify Pandora Iheart radio. Wherever you find podcasts, you can find the conscious consultant hour.
00:58:08.560 --> 00:58:13.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all, especially my loyal listeners who tuned in every week.
00:58:14.410 --> 00:58:24.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Don't forget. Later today we have Frank Harrison and his show, Frank about health. At 5 PM. Eastern and Fridays. We have, of course, our Friday blocks of shows
00:58:25.310 --> 00:58:27.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: starting at 10 Am. Eastern time.
00:58:28.220 --> 00:58:32.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for tuning in. Take care we will talk to you all next week.
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