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EPISODE SUMMARY:
They will hear about two parents' resilience and strength and how that transformed the small Floral Park community and then the world. They will hear how they can get involved, enroll in the HFF's free Self-Esteem Rising programs for their community and learn about strategies that can save you on your darkest days.
About Org: The Hance Family Foundation was created in the summer of 2009 after Warren and Jackie Hance lost their three daughters in a car accident on July 26, 2009. Emma, Alyson and Katie Hance were only 8, 7 and 5 years old. Facing unbelievable loss and grief, Jackie and Warren started this foundation as a way to honor their girls and create some joy out of tragedy. The HFF teaches our original social-emotional learning programs called Self-Esteem Rising to females of all ages all across the world. We honor the Hance girls because they lived with enthusiastic confidence. Kate Tuffy created these programs and is the chairperson of the HFF Executive Board. Meet Warren Hance: is the president and founder of the Hance Family Foundation. He is father to Emma, Alyson, Kate and Kasey Hance. Meet Kate Tuffy: is a special education teacher and behavior analyst. She created Self-Esteem Rising after being moved by the incredible hope and optimism that the Hance Family Foundation symbolizes.
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00:00:47.310 --> 00:00:51.369 Tommy DiMisa: Bob world. It's your boy, the one and only nonprofit sector
00:00:51.600 --> 00:01:08.600 Tommy DiMisa: connector, your boy, Tommy D. Coming at you. Episode 162. I don't always shout out the number, but I was talking to my new friend, Kate Tuffy just a couple minutes ago. One 162 times I've walked up the stairs from my kitchen just below the roof
00:01:08.770 --> 00:01:09.999 Tommy DiMisa: in my attic.
00:01:10.090 --> 00:01:28.633 Tommy DiMisa: I just like to say in my attic, I actually hashtag on social media in my attic, and it's like other people that have hashtags in my attic. I'm not sure what their deal is in their attic, but in my attic. We do a couple of things here on philanthropy and focus. We help nonprofit organizations tell their stories and amplify their message. And you know
00:01:29.430 --> 00:01:40.510 Tommy DiMisa: this has become my journey. Man, this become my mission. I'm gonna do 5,000 episodes of this show. How the hell are you gonna do that, kid. Don't curse, we don't curse on the show. How are you gonna do that? How are you gonna do? 5,000 episodes.
00:01:41.710 --> 00:02:11.399 Tommy DiMisa: This show charges me up every Friday morning, and I'm sure it charges you up listening to it because you hear from people who are changing the world. We're making the world a better place. We're on the front lines. Some are serving people who experience homelessness. Some are serving people who have in insecurity around food. We have people working with the disabled or intellectually, developmentally disabled possible population I love, you know those are my folks, you know. That's very close up to my heart. By the way, I feel it compelled this shout out
00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:38.780 Tommy DiMisa: the Lindy Lou Foundation in memory of my cousin Linda, who did an incredible job at the Lindy Lou classic, raising money and all that money, and Linda's name goes to organizations that are serving that population of people with intellectual developmental disabilities. But my friends gang I chose to hang out with the nonprofit sector. Right? That's what we're doing. I hear the Long Island railroad train behind me. I haven't heard that in a while live during the show. I feel like I gotta call it out like if there's an elephant in the room, name it. So that's the railroad in my attic
00:02:39.720 --> 00:02:42.100 Tommy DiMisa: for me. This is it's a labor of love.
00:02:42.510 --> 00:03:07.110 Tommy DiMisa: Every morning, Monday, through Friday I eventually do this show. That's how you get the 5,000. But the point is, if you are connected to a nonprofit organization, if you sit on the board, if you love a nonprofit organization, if you run a nonprofit organization, or if once a year you volunteer for that nonprofit. Hook me up, man, Tommy d dot nyc on Instagram Tommy d at philanthropy and focus. Pho cus. Maybe I should have spelled it with an F. It would have been easier. I wouldn't have to spell it every single time.
00:03:07.300 --> 00:03:36.590 Tommy DiMisa: Tommy, Df philanthropy in focus.com on the email, I get a and I'm gonna give you my cell phone. No, I'm not a trick deal. I'm not gonna give you my cell phone number, but you probably get it. If you Google, me, I I just I'm taken by the work nonprofits. Do. We founded the nonprofit resource hub, I'm involved with the Long Island. Imagine awards, 2 weeks from now is the Long Island. Imagine awards. So make sure. If you wanna partner up and connect with that, I I get just. We've been a sponsor by agency. Vanguard benefits my business partners. Ed Probes and Vinnie blossy, and I've been
00:03:36.590 --> 00:03:45.689 Tommy DiMisa: sponsored for a number of years. May first crest Hollow Country Club. There's going to be 500 people that are supporting the nonprofit sector, the New York City. Imagine awards the applications route right now.
00:03:46.780 --> 00:03:53.630 Tommy DiMisa: look, you want to call yourself the nonprofit sector connector man. You better be involved in the sector. You better be out there building relationships.
00:03:53.900 --> 00:03:54.940 Tommy DiMisa: So
00:03:55.300 --> 00:04:21.350 Tommy DiMisa: there was a the building 1 45 Tulip Avenue, where I spent many of my team and twenties a place called Halligans. My Uncle Joe Graziano on this bar and actually spoke to W. Warren is my guest here today, Warren Hanson, Kate Toughy, we're gonna get in the conversation. But, Warren, we gotta laugh because I was talking to our friend Louis yesterday, and I think you might have been in the background what I was talking to I I grew up working in Floral Park. My wife is from Floral Park.
00:04:21.550 --> 00:04:31.621 Tommy DiMisa: I grew up in Franklin Square, just down the road apiece just down Tulip Avenue. There, I mean. That's my hometown man. I used to get my mail delivered to Halligan's. That's bit of a joke, but I used to check in there all the time
00:04:31.930 --> 00:04:45.317 Tommy DiMisa: lifelong friends that came out of that neighborhood. Many of my friends that are Bell Roads guys now moved into Floral Park, which 2530 years ago you didn't do. But now I guess Bell Roads guys can move into Floral Park. That's a whole nother joke some people get that one
00:04:45.860 --> 00:05:00.299 Tommy DiMisa: floor park is is incredibly important and and what a community it is. And the only reason we didn't buy a house in Flora Park, my wife and I. When we were looking to move we moved from Franklin Square and Floral Park way out to Glen Oaks village Bell Road shot out to Queens
00:05:00.300 --> 00:05:28.306 Tommy DiMisa: to thought we'd end up back in the village, but I wanted I wanted some property, so we end up a little bit up north on the north shore for some dirt, so my kids could run around and a a what a crazy story how things happen and things go full circle. But I was driving through the neighborhood, and I kept seeing the office for the Hands Family Foundation that opened up right next to a spot called Buts and such, where we used to buy Swedish fish. When I worked the bar we would go across the street by Swedish fish and stuff like that, and candy.
00:05:28.600 --> 00:05:42.610 Tommy DiMisa: And I saw the building I was, wow! They got our storefront. How awesome is that! And then months go by, and whatnot the power of social media. This should make some folks in your office laugh at Hans family foundation because I saw this thing on social media. And this is kind of this
00:05:42.610 --> 00:06:05.739 Tommy DiMisa: trend going all where, of course, we do this because we're a nonprofit, where, of course, we do this because we're nonprofit like. Of course, I wear 7 hats because I'm a nonprofit like. Of course, we have a gala going on, and we have volunteers like, because we're nonprofit, and I saw it on Instagram, and it resonated with me. So because I'm Tommy D. And I just do things. I call the office and Kate and Warren. I think the woman I spoke to Emily. Is that the right name
00:06:06.039 --> 00:06:30.029 Tommy DiMisa: so, or or Emily because she got to deal with this situation like on the fly, probably not even expecting. She probably just thought it was gonna be somebody calling the drop off of basket for the upcoming run or something, and she gets a whole Tommy d show going on. I'm like, you don't understand. I'm Tommy DI from Floor Park Halligan all this, and she's laughing and she's joking. I said, I love what you guys just did on social media. And she said something like.
00:06:30.524 --> 00:06:54.415 Tommy DiMisa: It's funny you should say that, Tommy D. And it was quick that she started. Call me Tommy D's. Because funny said it because we weren't even gonna do that like I don't know who. But maybe, as the program director, somebody is like, I don't wanna do this or it doesn't look good, or I'm embarrassed. And I was like gang. This is what it is. I go right outside of my comfort zone from jump every morning, and I think that's what we have to continue to do. Be authentic. Get outside of your comfort zone. Take some chances, man.
00:06:54.650 --> 00:07:12.180 Tommy DiMisa: I get anxiety with what I'm gonna do on this program because I'm trying to serve the organization and serve their mission. But that's what it is. It's about getting a little anxious. It's about getting uncomfortable. Look, here's what Kate and I were talking in this virtual green room, and I'll leave it here before we get into the show. I wanna say this.
00:07:12.310 --> 00:07:14.659 Tommy DiMisa: if you want to do something.
00:07:14.860 --> 00:07:42.399 Tommy DiMisa: please go out and frig and do it, man like it's not gonna work exactly the way you wanted it to, I promise. I mean, I can't promise, but I'm pretty sure it isn't gonna work, we thought. Guess what though, you just tried it, man, you you were like in moments. Now you're a different person. You're a different being because you got into it. I don't need to say life moves fast right? We gotta take opportunities when they're in front of us. Alright. Put the soap box away. I will stop preaching for a moment here because I have 2 guests on the show with me. I'm
00:07:42.650 --> 00:07:46.737 Tommy DiMisa: I'm just this is an honor for for having you on the show.
00:07:47.620 --> 00:08:06.300 Tommy DiMisa: I appreciate the work you're doing, Warren. I want you to introduce yourself first, and then we're gonna have Kate Tuffy introduce herself. We're gonna talk about this organization. We're gonna talk about the incredible impact. I know floor park. Well, I was looking over your board of directors this morning. I know a lot of those names I I mean this to me is.
00:08:06.750 --> 00:08:28.669 Tommy DiMisa: I probably should have been connected to you and involved with what you guys are doing earlier. But life is what it is, and this is the way it is. But from the going forward. I want to help. I want to be connected. I want to see where where I can make an impact. Warren hands. Please introduce yourself, sir. Welcome to philanthropy and focus. That was like a 9 min tummy d rant. Just get ready. It only gets better from here. Warren and Kate tough you both. Here, Warren, hands! Take it away, please, sir.
00:08:29.120 --> 00:08:30.550 WJH: How are you doing, Tommy? D
00:08:30.978 --> 00:08:35.310 WJH: I just first first, I wanted to just comment on what you just said about
00:08:35.980 --> 00:08:40.169 WJH: calling out and trying things, and it's something I've been.
00:08:40.210 --> 00:08:45.750 WJH: I've been thinking about a lot lately, and I just got interviewed the other day from my my
00:08:45.760 --> 00:08:49.129 WJH: from Maris college which I graduated from in 89,
00:08:49.300 --> 00:08:54.179 WJH: and they they kind of. They just ask, what what lesson, or what? What would you say to somebody?
00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:57.830 WJH: You know that was in your shoes 30, 35 years ago.
00:08:58.100 --> 00:08:59.030 WJH: and
00:08:59.150 --> 00:09:02.740 WJH: kind of dovetails right in with what you were just saying, and that's that.
00:09:04.040 --> 00:09:14.430 WJH: you know. Not that there's no knowledge in in success. Obviously we all learn from succeeding. But if you already know what 2 plus 2 is, if you know that's 4.
00:09:14.690 --> 00:09:21.439 WJH: How much have you really learned? If somebody asks you that question, the the knowledge that we gained is from failure.
00:09:21.520 --> 00:09:39.779 WJH: That's how we really learn. That's how we we, we figure things out. And it's really, really challenging, especially for me. And and you made reference to it. And that is like stepping outside of your comfort zone. Failure has been a very, very challenging thing for me to to face. I feel like
00:09:39.900 --> 00:09:41.860 WJH: for most of my life. I've
00:09:42.000 --> 00:09:44.099 WJH: I've kind of taken the safe route.
00:09:44.350 --> 00:09:52.329 WJH: You know. I used to say to my business that when a when a window, when a door closed, a window opened, it's just. It's just kind of the way things worked out for me.
00:09:52.460 --> 00:09:53.540 WJH: And
00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:59.760 WJH: I I think there was probably more meat on the bone, you know, in life if I had.
00:09:59.870 --> 00:10:03.770 WJH: if I had been willing to take more risks or more challenges, or just.
00:10:03.830 --> 00:10:07.740 WJH: you know, like you said, stepping outside my comfort zone. So
00:10:07.790 --> 00:10:12.319 WJH: I I think there's a lot really a lot to that message that you're spreading. It's.
00:10:12.370 --> 00:10:19.999 WJH: you know, it's a simple sentence, and it's it's easy to kind of to kind of take in and to process. But there's really
00:10:20.950 --> 00:10:32.950 WJH: it. It's significant. I think I think it's it's probably one of the most important things in life to learn that that failure is good. They is okay. Failure is where you're gonna become a better person.
00:10:32.950 --> 00:10:33.430 Tommy DiMisa: That is so.
00:10:33.829 --> 00:10:34.230 WJH: So.
00:10:34.230 --> 00:10:59.259 Tommy DiMisa: So great I fail is good. Failure is okay. That's what we should be talking about like, that's life, man. But we've we put this stigma around. Oh, man, I I did poorly. Yeah, alright. But now we figured stuff out, man, like. And again, Warren, I want you to say I don't do this all the time. I push my, I have to be pushed sometimes, and I have to push myself. So I'm speaking to you and everybody. And, Kate, it's not just like I don't have this figured out, but I just know like that's we gotta do get uncomfortable right.
00:11:00.460 --> 00:11:01.135 WJH: Absolutely.
00:11:01.810 --> 00:11:10.390 Tommy DiMisa: Failure. Good failure is something we can learn from. We. Okay, that's the end of the show gang. We'll be back next Friday. Okay, toffee.
00:11:11.150 --> 00:11:22.389 Tommy DiMisa: Not a cool, freaking name. I gotta just start with that Kate toffee. Because, like, I just want to call you toffee like, that's it like it, and I it might work. My wife. Will you have to let me know? But did they call you that's going on.
00:11:22.390 --> 00:11:24.883 Kate Tuffy: All my kids just go by tuffy and tough.
00:11:25.160 --> 00:11:28.300 Tommy DiMisa: That makes sense. That makes a lot of sense. You have boys and girls.
00:11:28.450 --> 00:11:37.769 Kate Tuffy: I have one son and 2 girls, and they all started playing basketball young, and it just kind of stuck from the courts that they played on.
00:11:37.770 --> 00:11:57.459 Tommy DiMisa: Oh, dial man, Nick, names! Listen. I've been Tommy D since I'm 2 years old, man, and I and like it's funny I was out of my dad's store, which we gotta talk about. My dad owns Ralph's tiny ices out in Huntington, but I was out at his store, and next door. I was having some food at the Greeks next door, and they go like. Oh, we love your dad, Tommy, and I go. My dad, Tommy, my dad's, Tom.
00:11:57.789 --> 00:12:15.470 Tommy DiMisa: I'm Tommy d right like. That's the like. I thought that was cute cause. That's not what he would never introduce himself as Tommy. So I thought, that's kind of. But nicknames are are fun. Kate, tell me about your background. Then. I really want Warren when we come back from break to get into the kind of the story about the organization. But what is your background? And then we'll find out how you all met.
00:12:15.590 --> 00:12:25.370 Kate Tuffy: Sure. So my background is, I work as a behavior analyst or behavior therapist. And I work in lots of schools and lots of home settings.
00:12:25.370 --> 00:12:50.360 Kate Tuffy: and I was fortunate enough to be working in the John Lewis Child School for years a few years prior to 2,009, when the hence family foundation all started. I was able to in 2,008 work in classrooms. I mainly support children who have a diagnosis on the autism spectrum who have behavioral challenges in school, and my job is to support them and make life easier
00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:58.099 Kate Tuffy: for them. And a lot of times I'll loop in their peers and and try to create little social circles.
00:12:58.100 --> 00:13:20.742 Kate Tuffy: And as you'll hear from Warren, Emma Alison and Katie loved attending the John Lewis Child school, and Emma was a huge help to me. In 2,008 and 2,009 school year, and I knew Emma, because I also live in Flora Park and my daughter Maddie was the same age.
00:13:21.290 --> 00:13:47.999 Kate Tuffy: so I was very familiar, and friends with the Hance family, and then, when the hence family foundation began, I was so moved by the organization, so moved by the mission, and just the to be honest, just the actual creation of the organization that I promised myself that I would work hard to get involved any way I could, and find a spot that could potentially create a little bit of impact.
00:13:48.000 --> 00:14:12.660 Tommy DiMisa: I love that. Find a spot right gang. If you want to be part of something, get involved. Show up. There's a book I have around here. It's called thinking grow rich. And I forget the guy that they're talking about in the book. But he just kept showing up at Thomas Edison's factory warehouse, whatever manufacturing plan, and said, I'm going to be working. I'm gonna be your partner, Mr. Edison. He didn't say it like a job, he said, I'm going to be your partner, Mr. Edison, and it goes on and on and on. It's like 300 days in a row. He keeps showing up until
00:14:12.660 --> 00:14:35.480 Tommy DiMisa: Edison finds a gig for him to go out and sell something. The incandescent bulb or something like that right point of the matter is, gang you wanna be part of something lean in, find a spot for yourself, create a spot for yourself. You were drawn into that. It sounds like Kate, obviously. And we're gonna hear more about that. As we go through the program today, I gotta make one comment. I'm on the advisory board for New York city for best buddies. I'm sure you're familiar with best buddies
00:14:35.480 --> 00:14:43.425 Tommy DiMisa: in my in memory of my cousin Linda. We've created a bunch of best buddies practices out here practices. Excuse me, school communities here on clubs on Long Island.
00:14:43.932 --> 00:15:08.380 Tommy DiMisa: So I love what you're talking about. You know that peer engagement of our quote unquote neurotypical students and our Idd students, which gang I gotta be honest, I have no clinical background. I'm just gonna save things. And you know, if you find me in the street, you can argue with me and tell me I'm wrong. I think it's all the spectrum. I think mental health is a spectrum. I got the Adhd. Yes, it's called the Adhd here in the attic, but I got the Adhd for my entire life. For 43 years I thought I was, quote
00:15:08.380 --> 00:15:31.389 Tommy DiMisa: quote unquote, neurotypical, which, to be honest with you. What the hell is that neurotypical? What's typical? I I sorry, Jerry Seinfeld for a second. What's typical, though, honestly, you know, like nothing. We're all people, we are learn differently. We interact differently when we talk about. You know, when I talk about the spirit of Huntington Art Center, where I'm on the board. We talk with the artworks program, the incredible work that that individuals with intellectual
00:15:31.390 --> 00:15:32.910 Tommy DiMisa: disabilities do
00:15:33.810 --> 00:16:01.250 Tommy DiMisa: on on website, design and social media. And it's not. It's about accessibility. It's about making opportunities for people. We are one race of human beings. Let's just connect. Let's let's love. Yeah, tell me, do you sound like Kumbaya? Well, that's what it is. It's about compassion. It's about love. It's about community. It's about being together. I know we're gonna talk about that today. Alright, when we come back, Warren, I'm gonna put you on. I want you to tell me about the organization. We're gonna be back. We'll be back in like 45 s. We're gonna learn about Hands family foundation.
00:16:01.250 --> 00:16:07.580 Tommy DiMisa: We're going to talk about the incredible programs that the organization provides how involved in the community of the organization is.
00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:08.680 Tommy DiMisa: we're gonna
00:16:09.040 --> 00:16:25.439 Tommy DiMisa: we're gonna tell you all the story that you may or may not know. And then you're gonna be impacted. And you're gonna help out. It's just easy. It's like this show is very basic. I mean, I'm incredible, right? But the show is pretty basic conversation. You're boy the one and only nonprofit sector connector coming right back.
00:18:37.520 --> 00:18:38.810 Tommy DiMisa: Like that will work great.
00:18:38.810 --> 00:18:39.950 WJH: Great great thieves.
00:18:40.415 --> 00:18:55.409 Tommy DiMisa: I love it. I love it. I used to back in the early days, like you know, 3 years on the show back in the early days I used to say, Alright, listen, now that you know the lyrics. When we come back you have to sing it with me. I haven't made anybody do that in a long time. But that's a song I wrote. My friend Brendan Levy, who's manages
00:18:55.820 --> 00:19:20.209 Tommy DiMisa: He manages the relationships and business development at the Queens Chamber Commerce. Very good friends of mine, Tom Grets and Brendan Levy, the leadership team at the Queens Chamber. Brendan has a band. He's a singer band called Damaged Goods, because back in the day when we were all young people they had a band, and they were called the Goods, but now they're old men. So now they're called damaged goods, and that's just kinda how that shook out. But we wrote that song together. Brendan Sing Brendan is the singer, but it's like a Lenin and Mccartney.
00:19:20.210 --> 00:19:37.130 Tommy DiMisa: If you ever listen to the show we wrote this, we wrote it together, so it's like a Denisa levy situation alright back to the show I shared the website while we're away. The website is Hants family foundation.org Hans family foundation.org hans is spelled HANC. E.
00:19:37.457 --> 00:20:03.010 Tommy DiMisa: I wanna just read something. The Hands Family foundation honors the lives of Emma Alison and Katie Hans by providing our unique self esteem programs worldwide. We're experts in the field of social, emotional learning. I talk about Adhd before I talk about mental health a lot on this program. I was in a meeting last night at the High School here, because we're talking about substance, abuse, and the coalition against substance abuse, and all these different
00:20:03.010 --> 00:20:07.490 Tommy DiMisa: things. It all runs together gang social emotional learning, right?
00:20:08.010 --> 00:20:12.367 Tommy DiMisa: Eq. Emotional intelligence. Kate Tuffy, I'm sure we're going to get into some of that today.
00:20:12.650 --> 00:20:20.279 Tommy DiMisa: Warren, can you tell us about the organization? Can you? Can you just tell us, take us back a little bit about the creation of the organization? Please, sir.
00:20:22.050 --> 00:20:31.089 WJH: Yeah. I mean, you. Just you just read a really quick summary of what we are and who we are. But you know some of the history in the background is, you know.
00:20:31.260 --> 00:20:34.749 WJH: my 3 girls, Emma Alison and Katie, were
00:20:35.090 --> 00:20:40.320 WJH: killed in a car accident in 2,009, July 20 sixth.
00:20:40.470 --> 00:20:43.510 WJH: They were 8, 7, and 5.
00:20:43.830 --> 00:20:45.040 WJH: And
00:20:45.710 --> 00:20:51.250 WJH: you know I was thinking about this on the on the way here. I'm actually out in Northport right now.
00:20:51.727 --> 00:20:55.220 WJH: But thinking about what today, what we're gonna talk about. And
00:20:55.480 --> 00:20:57.420 WJH: you know what I wanted to say. And
00:20:58.030 --> 00:20:58.670 WJH: and
00:21:01.370 --> 00:21:08.508 WJH: I just totally totally zoned out there. I I lost my train of thought completely.
00:21:10.110 --> 00:21:13.125 WJH: But I got it. I got it so.
00:21:13.620 --> 00:21:21.120 WJH: you know, when you when you've really kind of lost, not kind of when you've lost everything, everything, you're everything.
00:21:21.180 --> 00:21:24.429 WJH: the worst of the worst of the worst. You've lost everything.
00:21:24.690 --> 00:21:28.930 WJH: the worst thing you could lose, you know, when you're in that spot like
00:21:29.930 --> 00:21:31.650 WJH: the darkest it gets
00:21:31.820 --> 00:21:33.839 WJH: is when you've lost all hope.
00:21:34.330 --> 00:21:35.440 WJH: and
00:21:35.560 --> 00:21:39.759 WJH: you know the reality of losing your 3 kids like that. It's
00:21:39.860 --> 00:21:42.360 WJH: you lose hope and you lose hope fast
00:21:42.660 --> 00:21:51.040 WJH: and you gotta fight to survive. You gotta fight to figure out what it is that's gonna start, just start
00:21:51.310 --> 00:21:53.639 WJH: to restore your hope.
00:21:54.290 --> 00:21:55.470 WJH: And
00:21:56.200 --> 00:22:04.719 WJH: for me it was really in the very, very early hours of the aftermath of this this this horrific day.
00:22:04.850 --> 00:22:08.059 WJH: and I had a conversation with Kate in my driveway.
00:22:09.730 --> 00:22:21.610 WJH: and I had gone to Jlc. John Louis, where my girls were going, and I graduated from there, and and I remembered as a sixth grade they used to give out these little awards. These you get a savings bond.
00:22:21.930 --> 00:22:24.340 WJH: and a lot of it had to do with
00:22:25.180 --> 00:22:28.669 WJH: a family remembering a loved one. You know there was
00:22:28.760 --> 00:22:34.629 WJH: the Thomas Mcveigh award, and you know, so based on a certain set of criteria. They would
00:22:34.670 --> 00:22:40.070 WJH: present these kind of little mini scholarships to kids. And I said to Kate, I said.
00:22:40.080 --> 00:22:41.530 WJH: That's what I want to do.
00:22:41.600 --> 00:22:43.610 WJH: I want my kids to be remembered.
00:22:43.680 --> 00:22:49.870 WJH: And this is how I want to do it. I want to have a little. I want to give out a little savings bond every year.
00:22:49.920 --> 00:22:51.810 WJH: so that my kids are remembered.
00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:54.199 WJH: And that was it. That was the
00:22:54.260 --> 00:22:58.060 WJH: that was the germ. That was the sea. That was the start. That's
00:22:58.520 --> 00:23:01.300 WJH: how we went from nothing
00:23:01.450 --> 00:23:18.420 WJH: to to where we are today, which is a couple of 100,000 girls put through our females. Couple of 100,000 females put through our self esteem programs, and I couldn't be more proud of what we accomplished. It's been a wild, wild journey. It's been
00:23:18.480 --> 00:23:27.019 WJH: 15 years now. It was a room full of people that I used to say, we're family friends and foundation. That was what was.
00:23:27.170 --> 00:23:31.589 WJH: That was what was important to me when we started like we had a foundation. Yes.
00:23:31.660 --> 00:23:37.320 WJH: but it was about family and friends, and how we were gonna start to figure out how to make an impact on people.
00:23:37.490 --> 00:23:44.030 WJH: And those first couple of years we had our run and we had some fundraisers and we raised. We raised some really good money.
00:23:44.840 --> 00:23:45.860 WJH: And
00:23:45.870 --> 00:23:56.420 WJH: you know, I wanna just I wanna double back a second and and about about how this foundation has has come to be and how we've really become successful.
00:23:56.470 --> 00:24:08.490 WJH: And again, this was probably August or September of 2,009. We were just getting. We got a Po box, and we got this, and we were people were taking the time to get us off. 501 c. 3,
00:24:08.790 --> 00:24:12.650 WJH: and a very good friend of the Foundation
00:24:12.680 --> 00:24:15.020 WJH: worked for a company down on Wall Street.
00:24:15.290 --> 00:24:20.269 WJH: and unbeknownst to me. One day I go to the Po box that we had just opened.
00:24:20.810 --> 00:24:23.340 WJH: and there was a $25,000 check.
00:24:23.830 --> 00:24:29.229 WJH: and you know $25,000 was was the world to us at that time it was everything.
00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:33.269 WJH: and I I grab that check, and I called my father
00:24:33.540 --> 00:24:36.110 WJH: and I said, Dad, we just got
00:24:36.160 --> 00:24:40.820 WJH: we just got our first real donation. We just got a $25,000 donation.
00:24:41.450 --> 00:24:45.409 WJH: and my father was a rock. He was in life, he
00:24:47.130 --> 00:24:52.720 WJH: talking about never seeing someone's sweat. He was as German as German could be.
00:24:53.290 --> 00:24:54.430 WJH: and
00:24:54.510 --> 00:24:55.600 WJH: my father
00:24:55.700 --> 00:24:57.479 WJH: basically broke down
00:24:57.590 --> 00:24:58.999 WJH: with that phone call.
00:24:59.380 --> 00:25:02.189 WJH: and I think it all just kind of came rushing into him.
00:25:02.310 --> 00:25:03.490 WJH: And he said.
00:25:03.540 --> 00:25:06.629 WJH: You you you're gonna make a difference.
00:25:07.100 --> 00:25:08.890 WJH: you know, and
00:25:10.350 --> 00:25:13.270 WJH: that check just changed it all. It just
00:25:13.320 --> 00:25:17.319 WJH: it provided the the it just. It opened my eyes to.
00:25:17.350 --> 00:25:23.080 WJH: you know not only what I thought what Kate thought, what other people that were involved thought but what my father thought.
00:25:23.270 --> 00:25:24.360 WJH: And
00:25:24.410 --> 00:25:27.689 WJH: you know that meant that meant everything to me. And
00:25:27.790 --> 00:25:36.849 WJH: you know in a lot of ways. I do this for my kids, and I do it for the other people that volunteer and spend their time, and that have sacrificed with their families.
00:25:37.250 --> 00:25:40.029 WJH: but I do it to make you know my father proud as well.
00:25:42.767 --> 00:25:51.942 Tommy DiMisa: Let Warren thank you for your candor. Thank you for sharing this story. The insights that you share. I I mean I say it all the time.
00:25:53.400 --> 00:26:01.629 Tommy DiMisa: and I even think of it. In many organizations that I meet with come out of a tragedy. The formation comes out of a tragedy towards legacy
00:26:02.400 --> 00:26:03.050 Tommy DiMisa: and.
00:26:03.050 --> 00:26:26.179 WJH: Yeah, Tommy D, just to jump in there quick. Sorry you know that. That's what I say. I say, I say, often, you know this foundation was born out of a tremendously sad event it was it. There's no escaping that. But sadness is not what we're about, you know. We're about hope we're about optimism. We're about potential. We're about when you're faced with the worst of the worst of the worst.
00:26:26.400 --> 00:26:41.449 WJH: Putting your feet on the floor and showing and setting an example that, yeah, the world is really, really hard. It's really, really challenging. And you're gonna get knocked on your ass in small ways and in significant ways. And the only choice we really have because
00:26:41.540 --> 00:26:49.049 WJH: because we're given this great gift is to is to fight, and it's to move ahead, and is to do our absolute best
00:26:49.080 --> 00:26:55.330 WJH: to set examples, not only for our peers, but the, but but the kids, the the
00:26:55.400 --> 00:27:02.289 WJH: the communities that are paying attention. You know the the setting, the wrong example. I mean, we look, we all.
00:27:02.630 --> 00:27:05.460 WJH: There's no, there's no saints here, right? We all
00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:07.999 WJH: do things that we probably wish we didn't do.
00:27:08.110 --> 00:27:08.950 WJH: But
00:27:09.480 --> 00:27:12.560 WJH: you know, to set an example that people can say.
00:27:12.700 --> 00:27:14.959 WJH: if that guy can survive that.
00:27:15.160 --> 00:27:25.289 WJH: then I can survive this, and although I hate, I hate when people kinda make that comparison to me like, Oh, you did this. So I have to do that. It's it's
00:27:25.440 --> 00:27:27.479 WJH: I'm not really comfortable with that.
00:27:27.540 --> 00:27:30.719 WJH: But that's that's a lot of what it is, right. It's a lot of like
00:27:30.800 --> 00:27:33.030 WJH: I've tried to show people that
00:27:33.180 --> 00:27:35.439 WJH: it's possible to rebuild that hope.
00:27:37.150 --> 00:27:39.380 Tommy DiMisa: Thank you for that. Thank you for
00:27:39.710 --> 00:27:42.029 Tommy DiMisa: just thank you for sharing all of that.
00:27:42.100 --> 00:28:07.869 Tommy DiMisa: It is possible rebuild, and it's possible to keep forward, and and you and many, many people are proof of that. And hundreds of thousands of females are now impacted because of the work you're doing, Kate Tuffy, how do we? The fighting that goes on that one foot in front of the other? What impact are we making for? How? What does the programming look like when you know we know where, how you knew Warren. We know how you knew the girls. But where, how did this start? Where you got involved in in in the programming.
00:28:08.200 --> 00:28:19.369 Kate Tuffy: Yeah. You know, I think, Warren, very humbly shared about the start of the organization. That's where it all started on July 20, sixth, 2,009 and a gorgeous.
00:28:19.720 --> 00:28:23.911 Kate Tuffy: sunny summer afternoon on a Sunday afternoon.
00:28:24.870 --> 00:28:33.074 Kate Tuffy: Our community of Floral Park was absolutely stopped, and Warren and Jackie's entire lives
00:28:33.690 --> 00:28:50.100 Kate Tuffy: changed irreverably, you know, forever. And in on July 20 sixth, on July twenty-seventh or 20 eighth, I don't know when it was, Warren immediately was saying to group of us, I wanna I wanna do some good. I wanna start a foundation. And he was also saying
00:28:50.160 --> 00:29:07.549 Kate Tuffy: repeatedly, I am so sorry you have to tell your children this, and that was the impetus for so many of us to say, Let's get involved. The fact that he was so concerned, and Jackie as well, so concerned about how parents were, gonna go home and share what had happened.
00:29:07.550 --> 00:29:29.599 Kate Tuffy: and share that that hopefully they were safe, and that hopefully, this, you know, isn't something that happens over and over again. And then you know the foundation started, and with tremendous help from so many of Warren and Jackie's friends and people who just gave it their all and and made sure this organization got off the ground.
00:29:29.600 --> 00:29:51.166 Kate Tuffy: and simultaneously. Our school district, the Flora Park Bell Row School district, worked very hard to prepare for the return of students that September they didn't wait till September they open their gymnasiums. They had experts come in to be available to parents and students alike to talk about bereavement and loss and grief, and that everyone's individual reactions to
00:29:51.520 --> 00:30:01.659 Kate Tuffy: the accident, to the loss of M. And L. And Katie were valid, and and that everyone wanted to. You know there was a space in the safe space for people to be heard.
00:30:01.660 --> 00:30:11.899 Kate Tuffy: But the reality was, the doors opened that early September when schools started again and lots of children, lots of adults walked in the doors, and they were talking about an accident.
00:30:12.010 --> 00:30:18.840 Kate Tuffy: and kids were coming in with pictures cut out from the newspaper in their folders and their notebooks.
00:30:18.860 --> 00:30:19.980 Kate Tuffy: and
00:30:20.110 --> 00:30:34.469 Kate Tuffy: I thought, you know, as a mother of 3 myself, as someone who deeply admired the courage and the strength that Warren and Jackie were showing on a daily basis to get out of bed and and be an example for others.
00:30:34.922 --> 00:30:51.750 Kate Tuffy: That maybe we could change the conversation, and maybe we could stop talking about how the girls passed away. And instead, we could talk about how they lived because they were 3 spectacular girls with enthusiastic levels of confidence. You know, when I needed
00:30:51.780 --> 00:31:11.369 Kate Tuffy: a friend to jump in for a kid who was really struggling in Emma Hans's class, Emma just jumped in, and this little guy was. He's a great great kid, but he didn't make it easy, and sometimes he would say, Get away from me, or I don't wanna talk to you or leave me alone to Emma. And
00:31:11.370 --> 00:31:26.879 Kate Tuffy: you know this 8 year old kid, I asked her one day, why do you keep coming back? She would like walk he would. At lunchtime he would walk the perimeter of the fence often just in a loop, and she would walk next to him, and she would talk about things that he liked that maybe she didn't know an awful lot about.
00:31:26.940 --> 00:31:33.089 Kate Tuffy: And I I asked this 8 year old kid. Why do you keep doing it? And she said, you just gotta keep trying.
00:31:33.270 --> 00:31:51.629 Kate Tuffy: So I figured in that fall. I'm just gonna try to to change the conversation, to talk about who they were. So I went to Warren and Jackie in early September of 2,009. I asked them if I could create a program for 50 participants, 50 girls that
00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:53.100 Kate Tuffy: talked about
00:31:53.110 --> 00:32:08.509 Kate Tuffy: self self esteem and self awareness and confidence. And you know, knowing that children, but girls in particular, take in the world differently, and that there is, we know about the lack of self esteem, often that can
00:32:08.520 --> 00:32:11.299 Kate Tuffy: can lead to serious
00:32:11.530 --> 00:32:40.479 Kate Tuffy: complications and consequences and and decisions. And that there is a way to teach self esteem. I know that. And there's a way to to help girls think about themselves in different ways, so that they then treat others in different ways. So I asked them if I could honor their children by creating this program. My goal was 50 participants, as I said, and in the village of Flora Park, Warren and Jackie so generously said yes, and they took the time to share stories about their girls.
00:32:40.490 --> 00:32:42.890 Kate Tuffy: and they took the time to
00:32:43.020 --> 00:32:47.829 Kate Tuffy: to pay attention to the little project that I was trying to create
00:32:47.890 --> 00:32:52.610 Kate Tuffy: and and we got started. And then there really was a
00:32:52.750 --> 00:33:01.609 Kate Tuffy: moment in time that changed the trajectory. I I was nervous about find even finding 50 participants, and I was.
00:33:01.835 --> 00:33:17.820 Tommy DiMisa: I wanna ask you, let's here's the thing is I like, I have a lot of questions about this. I wanna know, like how what age groups and all the stuff. Let's do this. Let's take a quick break. Let's run through break. We're we're Logan, I'm telling you, Logan. Quick! Break! We can't do a long break. We're gonna do a quick break. We'll come right back. I wanna know
00:33:17.870 --> 00:33:26.010 Tommy DiMisa: I I I think I know how these stories go, but you wouldn't know if you could find 50 participants. But we'll see we're gonna leave it like a cliffhanger. We'll be right back.
00:35:24.520 --> 00:35:26.270 Tommy DiMisa: Alright! Alright, Warren hands.
00:35:27.515 --> 00:35:42.809 Tommy DiMisa: I'm assuming there's some kind of stage or some kind of announcement you make at this big walk on May eighteenth. So I challenge you. That's like a month away. So I wanna come on stage, and you and I sing the philanthropy and focus song together.
00:35:42.810 --> 00:35:43.305 WJH: Yeah.
00:35:43.800 --> 00:35:58.020 Tommy DiMisa: Like it. Nonprofits need connections to move in right directions. Alright, Tommy, back to the show. Alright! But I I laugh because I see you're getting into it, man, you're digging to zoom, dig into song. Maybe. Does the Hands Family Foundation have a theme song?
00:35:58.380 --> 00:35:59.710 Tommy DiMisa: No, nothing.
00:35:59.710 --> 00:36:01.249 WJH: Is nothing as good as that one.
00:36:01.250 --> 00:36:23.230 Tommy DiMisa: Maybe it should have them, we should get into theme song. Alright, Kate, toffee right back to you. Let's get it. So you you said, we're gonna change this conversation. We're gonna talk about empowerment. We're gonna talk about self steam that Jackie and Warren said they bless this. And to go for Kate. We love you. Let's make it happen. And what you say. Oh, I want to get 50 participants now. I don't know about math a lot.
00:36:23.250 --> 00:36:36.080 Tommy DiMisa: but my friend Warren just said, hundreds of thousands of of young women females have been impacted by this work. How many? So go ahead? We we don't have to tell them punchline just yet, but you weren't sure if you'd get 50 participants, how'd that go.
00:36:36.080 --> 00:37:00.110 Kate Tuffy: Yeah. So I enlisted the help of a friend who is a brilliant social worker. Her name is Liz Monroe. We spent about a month on curriculum development, and we decided the beautiful Me was gonna be taught 3, 1 h sessions. So over the span of 3 weeks, and I just put the word out there to some kids in the community who were very close to Mnl. And Katie and some kids who
00:37:00.110 --> 00:37:24.019 Kate Tuffy: I knew could potentially benefit from this group, and I let Warren and Jackie know we were starting. I got some space donated by a local school, and we settled in for our first session. We were about halfway through that first hour, and Jackie hands came in the door, and she looked great. She had a smile on her face.
00:37:24.050 --> 00:37:53.360 Kate Tuffy: and she had brought some dessert and snacks for the participants. And you know her presence showed all the girls in that room, and showed me that it was okay to be doing this group and that she appreciated it, and she gave us her her permission to move forward. Second week same thing happened. She came in with this great big tray of brownies and fruit, and she just said, Hey, you know, it's okay to have some sweets, and it's okay to balance it with a little bit of a healthy snack as well.
00:37:53.430 --> 00:38:02.709 Kate Tuffy: And she left, and again her presence showed that she was moving forward in in. She was getting out of bed that day, and she was
00:38:02.740 --> 00:38:23.870 Kate Tuffy: living, and she was surviving the worst of the worst. And then the last session. That third night she came in again with a treat, and then she had a little pink gift bag for every participant, and for me, as the instructor, and for my friend Liz, and inside that gift bag there was a photograph of Emma and Alison and Katie.
00:38:23.870 --> 00:38:46.700 Kate Tuffy: There was a necklace with 3 hearts on it, symbolizing her girls, and she had handwritten every participant a note, and the note said that she thanked the girls for coming to beautiful me, and for learning a little bit more about Emma and Alison and Katie. But she wrote more importantly, thank you for taking the time to learn more about yourself, and how to be kind to yourself and others.
00:38:46.710 --> 00:39:08.829 Kate Tuffy: and those participants in our first, ever beautiful me group in 2,009 were their necklaces back to school the next day back to the basketball courts. They played on the art lessons, the playgrounds they were in, and I started getting a lot of calls, a lot of text, a lot of emails asking, what was this group? And how could someone get their their child into it?
00:39:08.830 --> 00:39:28.520 Kate Tuffy: So we continued. You know, with a lot of help from a lot of friends with tremendous growth over the last 15 years, which we'll talk about but we haven't had 50 participants go through the program. We've had over 200,000. So far worldwide. We teach in. Yeah.
00:39:28.520 --> 00:39:36.472 Tommy DiMisa: Why I come on like that's 200,000 lives impacted by this change in conversation. Right?
00:39:36.940 --> 00:39:38.110 WJH: Dummy, dummy.
00:39:38.110 --> 00:39:39.620 Tommy DiMisa: Anymore. It's gonna get away.
00:39:39.620 --> 00:39:41.839 WJH: It's not 200,000 lives.
00:39:41.990 --> 00:39:44.440 WJH: Those are the females that sit in the room.
00:39:44.620 --> 00:39:47.730 WJH: It's everybody else. They go home and impact.
00:39:47.810 --> 00:39:49.989 WJH: So it's it's
00:39:50.140 --> 00:39:53.180 WJH: it's unknowable. How many lives it's really impact. We can.
00:39:53.180 --> 00:39:54.209 Tommy DiMisa: It? It really.
00:39:54.210 --> 00:39:55.239 WJH: 5 200,000.
00:39:55.240 --> 00:39:57.430 Tommy DiMisa: Well, because it's infinite right? Because we know that.
00:39:57.430 --> 00:39:58.170 WJH: This.
00:39:58.170 --> 00:40:07.121 Tommy DiMisa: Whoever those girls affect. Now turn around, and those people that are affected affect other people. That's infinite. That's just what it is, Warren. Thank you for pointing that out.
00:40:07.680 --> 00:40:29.139 Kate Tuffy: And those participants. To this day every single participant still gets that gift package from Jackie. We have a community of girls as young as 5 years old, women as old as a hundred 5, because we had a a participant. It was a hundred 5 a few years ago. Go through our program. They all wear that necklace. They all get that note. They keep the photograph of M. And Alison and Katie
00:40:29.140 --> 00:40:45.850 Kate Tuffy: as a reminder not only of what is possible, but also as a reminder of their time and beautiful me, and that will continue until the day we close shop. You know we. We keep this community tied together. And the invisible string connects us all.
00:40:46.148 --> 00:40:50.931 Tommy DiMisa: The invisible string connects us all gang. If you're only listening right now, please go to
00:40:51.250 --> 00:41:01.819 Tommy DiMisa: the website, Hands family Foundation, then you go on the programming, and you get to beautiful me all the other. Correct me if I'm wrong, Kate, but they can go directly. Self esteem rising org. That's another way to get here.
00:41:02.228 --> 00:41:15.130 Tommy DiMisa: Some people are listening, you know, later on into the future. But I want you to to make sure you connect with the organization I'm seeing. Listen, the the logo I'm hearing about the necklaces. I want to go to this invisible string you just talked about.
00:41:15.377 --> 00:41:44.880 Tommy DiMisa: I'm big on the hoodies. I saw this morning that there's like some things in like on the website I saw there's some like swag in the window hanging. I saw you there were T-shirts something again. It was like a I have to go by, but I need to get myself some gear because I I got on a book. Fairies t-shirt this morning, shout out to book fairs out free port, my good friends, Eileen minogue, executive director, and Amy's as Lance we found a shout out, I love you both for what you do and what you what you've done, what you're doing. But I do like to rock the swag, so I gotta get myself.
00:41:45.020 --> 00:42:00.809 Tommy DiMisa: Little little hands stuff, little get me some gear. I I mean, I am not asking for I'm saying I will purchase. But we gotta work something out, Tommy. It's not all about hoodies, I know, but I like hoodies. Alright. Warren, are you having fun? Are you having fun yet? Warren Hance?
00:42:01.300 --> 00:42:02.750 WJH: I'm having fun. Tommy. D.
00:42:02.750 --> 00:42:10.842 Tommy DiMisa: I, that's my guy. Love it, toffee! What about you? You fired up? See, this is the show we did break in the middle of show, and I just make sure my guests are entertained. Are you having fun, Kate? Toffee.
00:42:11.040 --> 00:42:11.850 Kate Tuffy: Still is like.
00:42:12.050 --> 00:42:30.939 Tommy DiMisa: Good. What do we? What do we want to talk about programmatically as well as this cause that we're gonna get into in our final segment. When we come back a little while we're gonna talk about what's upcoming. But we we do as I shared with you the other day. And again, Kate, we talked about this morning. We run out of time way before we run out of words. So what else do you want to share programmatically about the organization.
00:42:31.308 --> 00:42:54.869 Kate Tuffy: We teach beautiful me, we train the teachers and we so that there are long lasting relationships in schools in sports organizations, in social services, groups in hospitals and nursing homes. We are available again for every female participant from age 5 to 105, and we do not charge anyone a penny to become trained in our beautiful Me program, or
00:42:54.870 --> 00:43:07.518 Kate Tuffy: for the beautiful Me program to be taught. So every single material, every single like gift that I referenced. Everything is provided free of charge, because that's our mission, and we are gonna work around the clock every single day to make it happen.
00:43:08.027 --> 00:43:15.319 Tommy DiMisa: That because free, so things can be made free. But somebody has. Somebody pays the bill at the end of the day. Right? So it's your sponsors. Where's that money come from?
00:43:15.540 --> 00:43:36.413 Kate Tuffy: Yeah. So our sponsorships come from a variety of of different events that we host and Warren can speak to our fifteenth 5 K. And family fun day on May eighteenth. We have a golf outing in July. The golf outing sells out every year, but the visibility, sponsorship opportunities are enormous
00:43:36.800 --> 00:43:46.570 Kate Tuffy: for anyone who wants to come in and and support that event. And then, of course, we have. We have a fall cocktail party event.
00:43:46.570 --> 00:44:11.359 Kate Tuffy: but every single day. The opportunity exists for anyone to log on to hance family foundation.org and donate to put the next beautiful me participant through the program. It is as simple as a $25 donation. That'll open a seat in beautiful me for the next participant, and it can be in your community. It could be anywhere around the world. We work in 37 states and 14 countries. Currently.
00:44:11.410 --> 00:44:21.670 Kate Tuffy: that number grows every single day, and we are happy to take, you know, for any donation to come in here. We'll open up a seat. Beautiful me!
00:44:21.670 --> 00:44:32.419 Tommy DiMisa: Who delivered so Kate toffee is not going around the whole world doing this doing the programming. So are you kind of deputizing people to to deliver the program. What does that actually look like in practice?
00:44:32.420 --> 00:44:59.160 Kate Tuffy: Yeah, we have a strenuous training program, meaning that it is tried and true. We have partnered with an affiliate of Harvard Medical School which is the Baker children center up in Boston to fine tune our training process to to become experts in turn key training for social, emotional learning. So we have a training program with tens of thousands of trained teachers around the world.
00:44:59.160 --> 00:45:15.959 Kate Tuffy: and that affords anyone who becomes trained as a teacher or mental health professional to teach beautiful me to as many participants as they want, and we support them every step of the way. They become partners and family members of our organization, and we work with them to disseminate the program.
00:45:16.180 --> 00:45:19.270 Tommy DiMisa: So I I gotta ask you this. I I know I asked you when we were like
00:45:19.580 --> 00:45:40.989 Tommy DiMisa: catching up earlier this week, and I shouted out. I said something about girls. Inc. Of Long Island. Now, Renee, Daniel Flagler is actually before flag. The focus was like, live like this. We I played around. I did a couple of episodes. Rene did one of those with me. And Renee's become a very good friend of ours. She's a client of my agency. The girls Inc. Of Long Island is a client of our agency. We
00:45:41.840 --> 00:46:01.259 Tommy DiMisa: I I think you've worked with them in the past, is it. Possibly. Would. You want to do more work, you know. Alright. So we'll work that out. We need you all to know Kate and Warren. I need you to know about the nonprofit resource, Hub, nonprof, everybody else, nonprofit resource hub.org. It's an organization. We founded my business partner and 3 other colleagues of ours founded this organization.
00:46:01.498 --> 00:46:20.611 Tommy DiMisa: And it. And it is just that it's a resource for nonprofit organizations. Warren, you mentioned you had a team of folks setting up the 501 C. 3, 15 years ago, back in O. 9, we help get organizations, really find the best of breed resources. So anyway, we'll put that on the side. But I want you to get connected to that, because there's 300 nonprofit organizations that are part of that community that we've built
00:46:21.089 --> 00:46:39.310 Tommy DiMisa: both in New York City, Long Island, and then it goes a little further out to around the country a bit the thing I wanted to say about girls. Inc. I also think you know it makes sense for Girl Scouts. I I'm sure you probably partner up with Girl Scouts a lot. My friend Tammy Severino is the CEO of Girl Scouts of Suffolk County. I don't know if you work with them.
00:46:39.730 --> 00:47:04.249 Tommy DiMisa: my my very good friend, Nyikia White just left Girl Scouts of Suffolk County from in the Development Department to go to Long Island Children's Museum. Maybe there's something here with Long Island children's Museum, Erica Floreska and I. I didn't think I tell anybody this but Erica Fluoresca and I were doing the show live 2 weeks ago, and my entire house started shaking, and I didn't say anything, and Erica didn't say anything. But the show goes from 10 to 11 Eastern time.
00:47:04.250 --> 00:47:34.040 Tommy DiMisa: Okay, we had an earthquake right. I didn't say anything, and Erica didn't say anything. We didn't say anything to each other until the show was over, but I didn't know if my house was gonna fall down, but, as they say, the show must go on. So I just kept trudging through. I have no idea what she was saying for those 7 min, because the house shaking, I thought it was in the Wizard of Oz, but Erica, Long Island Children's Museum, if you don't know them yet, Kate and Warren, we gotta get you connected there. So the point of the matter is, that's what this show is all about. That's really what my journey is all about is making the connections bringing people together when we come back.
00:47:34.760 --> 00:48:01.349 Tommy DiMisa: That's what I want to talk about, Warren. You're gonna hit me really good with, with the golf outing and the run walk, and all that stuff you can tell me about it. You can tell me who's coming. What do you need that sort of thing, Kate? And then I want you to tell me, Tommy. Love to know girls ain't better love to know girls, guys, whoever it is, we're gonna leave it all out there on the field, as I like to say. So it's ask time as K. Ask time. It's like a show. I'm like, I'm like. What do you say, Logan? A game show host! Here comes lightning round break, and then the lightning round right back.
00:50:02.600 --> 00:50:14.800 Tommy DiMisa: Hey, hey, Warren, there's a guy I love this guy. I don't even know him, but I love him already. There's an architect on your one of your sponsor called Bobby K. Love that I don't even hold. We got to get you unmuted. There we go, you know.
00:50:14.800 --> 00:50:16.969 WJH: Bobby K. Yes, I wonder.
00:50:16.970 --> 00:50:28.699 Tommy DiMisa: We're related Bobby Kane, Tommy D. But it's funny, though, like right above that I see camp anchor. Now. We have a very special connection to Camp Anchor. The Lindy Lou Foundation has been supporting the drama program in in memory of Linda.
00:50:28.710 --> 00:50:40.640 Tommy DiMisa: Well, Linda Ann Cunningham, Lindy Lou, my cousin, for many, many years. We love the drum program, shout out to camp bank, or we could talk about that another time on another show or over a couple of coffee, anyway. Let's get into this. What's upcoming? What do you need? How can we help.
00:50:42.850 --> 00:50:44.579 Kate Tuffy: Lauren, you want to talk about the race.
00:50:45.290 --> 00:50:47.980 WJH: Oh, sure! On May
00:50:48.340 --> 00:50:52.250 WJH: May eighteenth, of 2024, we will be
00:50:52.300 --> 00:50:53.700 WJH: hosting our
00:50:53.770 --> 00:50:56.050 WJH: fifteenth, fifteenth.
00:50:56.140 --> 00:50:57.300 WJH: fifteenth.
00:50:58.285 --> 00:51:00.040 WJH: Race, walk, run!
00:51:00.410 --> 00:51:01.115 WJH: It's
00:51:02.730 --> 00:51:04.630 WJH: it's hard to believe. Really.
00:51:04.820 --> 00:51:09.099 WJH: it seems like yesterday, and it seems like a million years ago, all at the same time.
00:51:09.200 --> 00:51:12.310 WJH: But it's really it's a spectacular event. It
00:51:12.540 --> 00:51:25.560 WJH: it's it's about the work that we do, and it's it's really a tremendous celebration. You know. You made a good point before, Tommy, like we? We put all these girls through this program for free right? It's free to them.
00:51:25.700 --> 00:51:27.340 WJH: It's free
00:51:30.440 --> 00:51:31.130 WJH: for
00:51:31.640 --> 00:51:33.030 WJH: not for profit
00:51:33.160 --> 00:51:34.939 WJH: is that you have to ask.
00:51:35.020 --> 00:51:53.860 WJH: There has to be an ask right? There has to be funding to get these programs out there and and and available to people. So this is one of our big fundraisers for the year. We ask people for their time, their talent, their treasure, whatever they can give us, to to advance the cause, not for us.
00:51:54.060 --> 00:52:02.200 WJH: but for the next participant. A beautiful me! It's a great day. It's about the beautiful meat community. It's about the village of Flora Park.
00:52:02.230 --> 00:52:05.909 WJH: We'll have. We have one of the biggest 5 K's on Long Island.
00:52:06.010 --> 00:52:10.589 WJH: I've been told it's either the the biggest or the second biggest that we toggle back and forth
00:52:10.870 --> 00:52:13.800 WJH: between us and the Michael Murphy Foundation.
00:52:13.800 --> 00:52:14.880 Tommy DiMisa: Sure. Yeah.
00:52:15.360 --> 00:52:23.460 WJH: And that's what my timer tells me, at least, and so. But we'll have just for the 5 K. We'll have probably almost 2,000 runners
00:52:23.480 --> 00:52:26.480 WJH: that'll leave Centennial Gardens and Floor Park.
00:52:26.640 --> 00:52:34.820 WJH: run up the street to our beautiful, beautiful little downtown area, past Llv. And then
00:52:34.940 --> 00:52:49.179 WJH: and then right down the heart of where we're all from the heart of where your uncle set up his business. We go. We go right down Tulip Avenue with these 2,000 runners, all wearing the same color shirt, all celebrating.
00:52:50.186 --> 00:52:53.270 WJH: Hf beautiful me, Laura Park
00:52:53.420 --> 00:52:56.720 WJH: each other. It's just it's just a spectacular day.
00:52:56.870 --> 00:52:59.540 WJH: and it really, kinda
00:53:00.580 --> 00:53:24.909 WJH: it kind of provides the life blood for the rest of the year. You know, there's other things we do. After that we have. We have a great golf outing in July, like Kate said, for golfers we booked up. People have often said to me, Why don't you run a second course, Warren. And I say, it's that's just not the type outing I want to run like we. It's a very intimate crew. I don't wanna have to tell some guy that he's gotta go 5 miles down the road to play golf.
00:53:24.980 --> 00:53:33.330 WJH: But then come down and have dinner with us, and you're on the B team like these are all 18 players. Come to the dinner. If there's no room for the golf.
00:53:33.330 --> 00:53:33.800 Tommy DiMisa: To be the.
00:53:33.800 --> 00:53:36.289 WJH: The best, the dinner's the best deal going.
00:53:36.290 --> 00:53:48.393 Tommy DiMisa: And you don't have to have a a crappy date on the golf court. I love to play golf. I play out in golf all the time. But you don't have to be frustrated that you sucked all day, you know. Now you just, but you just go to for the meal and have some cocktails, if that's your fancy right, and have have the.
00:53:48.580 --> 00:54:02.769 WJH: There is. The dinner is the steal of the day, and you could come, and you can celebrate all the great work that's getting done, and we host our event at Cherry Valley Country Club. They treat us like kings over there.
00:54:03.100 --> 00:54:04.170 Tommy DiMisa: That's July.
00:54:04.490 --> 00:54:14.080 WJH: It's July eighteenth, at the Cherry Valley Country Club in Garden City, monday, July eighth. I'm sorry. Monday, July eighth, Monday, July eighth, yeah.
00:54:14.325 --> 00:54:23.419 Tommy DiMisa: Last year. Oh, it says, last year it showed me on the website. Okay, I don't know if the prices, how much is the dinner cause dinner from last year seems pretty cheap for for a golf.
00:54:23.840 --> 00:54:29.050 WJH: I'm not a hundred percent sure it is. I think it's about a buck, 25 or a buck 50 for the dinner. It's.
00:54:29.050 --> 00:54:31.400 Tommy DiMisa: Last year was a hundred and a half like that's a that you talk about.
00:54:31.400 --> 00:54:32.070 WJH: Yeah, Steve.
00:54:32.070 --> 00:54:47.229 Tommy DiMisa: You get the network you get to meet the people you get to support the organization. I don't know about you, Warren hands, but my raffle basket game is nasty, and I tell you this, and people say, tidy, why do you win so many baskets? How come you're so good at basket. I'll tell you the secret. I buy a lot of freaking tickets.
00:54:47.870 --> 00:54:50.050 Tommy DiMisa: Stoke man gang it ain't. It's not that I'm so good, but.
00:54:50.050 --> 00:54:50.890 WJH: Yeah. Zumby.
00:54:50.890 --> 00:54:51.330 Tommy DiMisa: Yes.
00:54:51.330 --> 00:55:03.899 WJH: Tommy D, we we we got one of you on our team. His name is John Corcoran works out with 10 baskets at every event, people look at him sideways. How'd you do it? You're right. He dropped the most money and bought the most tickets.
00:55:03.900 --> 00:55:04.400 Tommy DiMisa: It's the.
00:55:04.400 --> 00:55:05.730 WJH: Won the most prizes.
00:55:05.730 --> 00:55:07.960 Tommy DiMisa: Not a lot of it. This ain't luck, baby. This is not luck.
00:55:08.233 --> 00:55:08.780 WJH: State paid.
00:55:08.780 --> 00:55:15.090 Tommy DiMisa: And it's not because I got a lot of money. It's just because I am cranky. If I don't win more and is what happens. So I just buy a lot of rabbits.
00:55:15.140 --> 00:55:37.449 Tommy DiMisa: I love it. I will be involved with the stuff you guys have coming up. I wanna be there. I know I'm gonna know 60% of the room in these plate. This is Floral Park man. I mean this, these guys can remember me. Tommy D, you know, you used to scrape me up off the floor in Halligans when I drank too much 25 years ago, you know. Like, Tommy? D, yeah, you had to get me out. You had to throw me out at times. Anyway, we'll leave that there Kate Kate Toffee! Who else we're running out of time. Who else can we connect you with.
00:55:37.660 --> 00:56:07.460 Kate Tuffy: Yeah, the other thing that I think that we're always looking for at the organization is to spend every penny we raise on our programs. So if any of your listeners, anyone, your community is a professional volunteer meaning is somebody working in marketing or web design or social media software platforms or event planning. We welcome you at the organization. We have this beautiful storefront at 1 30 Tulip Avenue and Flora Park. We have volunteers all day long in our, in our offices. It fills the office with
00:56:07.751 --> 00:56:21.139 Kate Tuffy: with life and with a lot of laughter. And we would love if anyone wants to volunteer as a professional doesn't have to be a huge commitment, but reach out to us at Hans Family foundation.org, and we would love to bring you in.
00:56:21.580 --> 00:56:43.855 Tommy DiMisa: Folks if you're not involved. But you're a local nonprofit. You're missing the game. You you drop the ball. You didn't figure it out because I'm telling you selfishly. Of course we do this to be selfless, but selfishly. I feel so much better about my lot in life and my deal when I'm helping out, I mean, sometimes I wake up and I'm not so smiley like, but nobody's gonna know it. But maybe to people who live here. But.
00:56:44.130 --> 00:56:47.599 WJH: Tommy d Tommy D. That's what I tell people about volunteering.
00:56:47.700 --> 00:56:49.349 WJH: The dirty little secret
00:56:49.420 --> 00:56:57.849 WJH: is you get more out of it than you put in like you don't realize that going in, but you're the one that really reaps the benefits. It's it's spectacular.
00:56:57.850 --> 00:57:22.609 Tommy DiMisa: Lauren. Some days, like I'll wake up. There was one day I was kinda funky on a Monday, right, and I was in a I was kinda in a you know, whatever mood. So I I go out. I get a couple of boxes, Joe and I get a bunch of donors and bagels, and I brought it to this place over here called Nosh, which is a soup kitchen food kitchen in my neighborhood over here, and I just gave the food to the volunteers to thank the volunteers for what they're doing. I'm not asking accolades gang. I'm just trying to tell you. I felt better because I did
00:57:22.610 --> 00:57:32.130 Tommy DiMisa: that. And now I want I like to feel good. So when I did 60 days of service running around Long Island in New York city volunteering nonprofits that was to me.
00:57:32.130 --> 00:57:50.550 Tommy DiMisa: Everybody's like, Oh, my God, that's so great! You're doing that. But I'm it ain't about me. I'm trying to show you how easy it is to get involved, and every single time Dopamine shout out to my Adhd is out there. Dopamine was flying all over the place. I was getting my fix because I was making an impact and given back Kate, give me a final word. Then Warren's gonna give me one that we gotta go.
00:57:51.010 --> 00:58:08.119 Kate Tuffy: Please go on our website. Hans Family foundation.org sign up for a run on May team decide that you wanna put the next middle school, or high school girl, or a female of any age through beautiful me make a donation, and if you have some talent and some time. Come on down and help us.
00:58:08.320 --> 00:58:09.230 Tommy DiMisa: Warren, hands.
00:58:10.910 --> 00:58:19.519 WJH: Yeah, I would say that that buddy out there that's struggling and doesn't think that there's a light at the end of the tunnel that the key to life is hope.
00:58:19.550 --> 00:58:22.139 WJH: It's all about hope. Hold on!
00:58:22.190 --> 00:58:24.369 WJH: Pain ends hope.
00:58:24.810 --> 00:58:25.940 WJH: It can be done.
00:58:26.260 --> 00:58:35.969 Tommy DiMisa: Thank you so much, Warren. Thank you so much, Kate. Remember, we, the family, the Hands Family Foundation, understand that self-esteem is essential to building, resilience and confidence.
00:58:36.130 --> 00:58:50.180 Tommy DiMisa: resilience and confidence starts with self esteem, starts to self love. Give yourself a hug. Oh, man, you can even feel like the good vibes just by giving yourself a hug. Just do it, man. Listen! Have an incredible day. Make the world a better place. Don't forget, though, by the way.
00:58:50.200 --> 00:59:06.999 Tommy DiMisa: the reason that they, these 2, are on the show today is because they did a post on the Instagram that got me excited, and I called up the office, get uncomfortable, lean in, make things happen, change the world, and if you want to hang out with me, you know, just find me. I'll be at a nonprofit doing some work. What, Warren, before we go.
00:59:08.570 --> 00:59:11.150 WJH: I'm proud of you, Tommy D. That's all I want to say.
00:59:11.150 --> 00:59:29.589 Tommy DiMisa: Thank you, brother. I appreciate you, man. I look forward to hugging you both in real life soon we should do like a Facebook live from the office. Let me give me something to do, even if I got let me just come by. I'll sweep the floor, whatever we'll make a video about it. Listen, you guys, Rock, shout out the floral park, shout to the village, and I saw family in the village. Make it a great day, everybody. We'll see you next week. Bye.
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