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EPISODE SUMMARY:
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, we have another special show with just you and Sam as he shares about where to find the most important validation.
We all look for validation throughout our lives. From our parents to our friends, teachers, bosses, and coworkers. We naturally seek it from the outside world, wanting so desperately to be recognized.
Yet as long as we continue to seek validation from the outside world, we will always be disappointed. We will be let down. We will be hurt.
The funny thing is that as soon as we stop looking for it elsewhere, and start looking for inside of ourselves, we no longer need it to come from other people. When we truly see ourselves, accept ourselves, and validate how we feel, we no longer care whether anyone else validates us or not.
And that when the magic happens. For the very thing we were looking for our life, the same thing we just learned to give ourselves, now that we stopped looking for it, it comes to us in droves.
Please join us as Sam shares his insights and experiences from working with hundreds of people over the years, about the importance of validating ourselves, and how to do that.
Tune in and share your own thoughts and feelings about validation, and how you look for it or not, on our YouTube livestream or on our Facebook page.
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On this episode of The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam is by himself today to talk about where to find the most important validation. To start the episode, he reads from one of his blog posts entitled, “When We Walk Out One Door, Another Door Will Open For Us.” Sam shares some of his experiences and dives deeper into the meaning behind the posts and how it will relate to the discussion in this episode, such as personal boundaries for example. As always, to read this blog and more content from Sam, please visit www.talkradio.nyc/blogs for more information.
After the first break, we return to Sam discussing about the idea of validation. He goes on to talk about how we seek validation from the time we are kids and how it changes over time in the way we seek it. Sam also highlights the trap of how we need some sort of validation, where we may seek it from, and how if someone won’t be able to give the validation we need we will find it elsewhere. It is a power that holds over people that has the power to diminish us. Now, if we can’t use validation to meet this need people have, then how can get have that need met? Sam will provide an answer to this in the following segments.
Moving along with the discussion, Sam picks up where he left off in the last segment. Sam answers and provides and thoughtful explanation as to how we can take back the power of having empty validation. He highlights that listening to ourselves and prioritizing our validation over seeking it from somewhere else. He says that we have to give ourselves validation first before anything else. He goes on to talk about how we can receive our validation and how it can feel emotionally in the long run. The only validation, and the best, that we can ever receive is from ourselves, that comes from within us.
As the episode comes to a close, Sam wraps up by sharing an overall summary of what he talked about throughout the episode. He highlights that we may not know how we may feel due to other factors, but by doing our deep healing work and accepting ourselves as human beings we may not fall into this trap of seeking validation from others. With flaws and all, we have to accept ourselves where we are in the moment and know that we can make the change but understand that we may feel something in the moment and use it for our learning. To learn more from Sam please visit www.talkradio.nyc for more information.
00:00:31.220 --> 00:00:40.249 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Good afternoon, my conscious co-creators. Welcome to the conscious consultant hour awakening humanity.
00:00:40.360 --> 00:00:45.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm very, very pleased that you were all here with me today.
00:00:46.150 --> 00:01:02.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's one of those special shows. It's just you and me for the hour. No guest today, as I tend to do these about once a month roughly, so I hope you'll join in the conversation. Ask your questions and your comments.
00:01:02.720 --> 00:01:06.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and let me know how you feel about all this.
00:01:06.870 --> 00:01:08.256 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so please.
00:01:09.230 --> 00:01:10.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: please join in
00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:16.965 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: awesome. So I hope you caught last week's show last week show was actually quite an interesting show.
00:01:17.540 --> 00:01:25.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: with a gentleman all of talking about leadership and and and the journey to really how to
00:01:26.090 --> 00:01:26.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: take
00:01:27.370 --> 00:01:31.899 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that place where it really you can serve yourself and others.
00:01:32.070 --> 00:01:36.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So of course, we're gonna start off our show with
00:01:36.440 --> 00:01:43.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: my blog post from a couple of years ago, and it's kind of following along the same theme as my blog post
00:01:43.880 --> 00:01:53.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: last year last week. Because this was something I was dealing with a couple of years ago, and you know this was my venting in a way.
00:01:53.870 --> 00:01:56.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So this blog post is entitled.
00:01:56.820 --> 00:02:02.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we walk out one door another door will open for us.
00:02:04.300 --> 00:02:06.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sometimes we are pushed
00:02:06.300 --> 00:02:07.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to take. An action
00:02:08.300 --> 00:02:10.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we might not be sure
00:02:10.669 --> 00:02:13.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: if it is the right thing to do.
00:02:13.620 --> 00:02:17.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Doubt creeps in, and we are not quite sure
00:02:17.860 --> 00:02:23.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: yet, when the moment arrives that we take a stand. Life rewards us.
00:02:23.580 --> 00:02:26.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we may feel uncomfortable in the process.
00:02:26.840 --> 00:02:30.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: There is uncertainty around what will happen next.
00:02:30.630 --> 00:02:34.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We face the unknown and get nervous about it.
00:02:34.890 --> 00:02:40.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: yet we can no longer stay and put up with something that is out of alignment.
00:02:41.980 --> 00:02:45.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It is time for us to walk a different path
00:02:45.820 --> 00:02:47.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to move on.
00:02:47.650 --> 00:02:51.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We may not know what lies before us.
00:02:51.400 --> 00:02:53.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: The future is often unpredictable.
00:02:54.620 --> 00:02:58.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: yet when the smoke clears and the dust settles.
00:02:58.310 --> 00:03:02.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we will find ourselves in a very different place.
00:03:04.310 --> 00:03:10.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for having stood up for ourselves, tells the universe to stand up for us.
00:03:11.180 --> 00:03:15.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So as we leave out one door, another door opens for us.
00:03:16.710 --> 00:03:22.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that change we were so fearful of before
00:03:22.230 --> 00:03:25.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: turns out to be a great blessing.
00:03:26.820 --> 00:03:34.299 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What had us doubt our choices and our actions turns into a new opportunity for something better.
00:03:35.110 --> 00:03:40.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Life always responds to us when we take better care of ourselves.
00:03:42.030 --> 00:03:47.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we no longer put up with something that does not make our hearts sing.
00:03:47.700 --> 00:03:50.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Life rewards us.
00:03:50.970 --> 00:03:57.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We are given a new opportunity that is more in alignment with who we know ourselves to be.
00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:04.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Life never punishes us for standing up for what is right for us.
00:04:05.440 --> 00:04:08.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It may not be obvious at the time.
00:04:08.660 --> 00:04:13.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sometimes we have to wait for things to work out just right.
00:04:13.810 --> 00:04:17.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or we need time to find a new perspective.
00:04:18.029 --> 00:04:22.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That shows us how our situation is so much better than before.
00:04:24.180 --> 00:04:29.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It may take some courage to face our fears and stand up for ourselves.
00:04:30.030 --> 00:04:31.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to say No
00:04:32.250 --> 00:04:34.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when it is not convenient.
00:04:36.320 --> 00:04:38.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Yet surely.
00:04:38.090 --> 00:04:43.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: as we walk out the door and move in a new direction.
00:04:43.450 --> 00:04:47.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Life supports us as it always has.
00:04:49.780 --> 00:04:54.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Is there something you're putting up with? That is, it is time to change.
00:04:55.710 --> 00:04:57.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Is your fear
00:04:57.700 --> 00:04:59.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: holding you back
00:04:59.650 --> 00:05:03.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: from doing what you know you must do.
00:05:04.160 --> 00:05:05.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Mp.
00:05:06.320 --> 00:05:07.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So
00:05:09.450 --> 00:05:14.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you you know these couple of blog posts all
00:05:15.340 --> 00:05:17.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: evolved out of
00:05:17.420 --> 00:05:20.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: a situation I was in a couple of years ago, where
00:05:21.420 --> 00:05:25.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the Mentor I was working with at the time, and I had been working with him for like
00:05:26.310 --> 00:05:33.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: well over 3 and a half years. It was probably close to 5 years, 5 and a half years I'd been working with him
00:05:35.120 --> 00:05:36.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and
00:05:39.130 --> 00:05:40.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it was a
00:05:41.150 --> 00:05:44.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: challenging relationship. Many times.
00:05:44.520 --> 00:05:50.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: many times I felt bullied and not recognized, not validated.
00:05:51.130 --> 00:05:52.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: not seen
00:05:54.540 --> 00:06:01.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: many times where I just felt unsafe to do the deep work with this gentleman.
00:06:04.780 --> 00:06:06.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and because
00:06:07.140 --> 00:06:08.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I felt
00:06:09.570 --> 00:06:16.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I don't know, I couldn't quite trust him in some way, and it was on a very unconscious level. I really was not aware
00:06:16.680 --> 00:06:17.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: of, like
00:06:18.810 --> 00:06:21.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: how much I didn't feel safe with him.
00:06:22.700 --> 00:06:26.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: He was always after me. You gotta do your work. You gotta do your work. I'm not seeing you. Da da da.
00:06:27.040 --> 00:06:28.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and
00:06:28.300 --> 00:06:29.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: all
00:06:31.370 --> 00:06:36.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it did was just push me further away from him until a point where
00:06:37.340 --> 00:06:40.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: he said something, and I was like, Nope, this is unacceptable.
00:06:41.510 --> 00:06:43.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm I'm not putting up with this.
00:06:44.490 --> 00:06:46.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I went to
00:06:46.110 --> 00:06:49.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the person who is in charge of of
00:06:49.680 --> 00:06:52.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: facilitation in this program. And I said.
00:06:53.060 --> 00:06:55.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I can't work with them anymore. I need to move on.
00:06:56.260 --> 00:07:01.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I need to work with a different mentor. And she was like, Okay, well, who do you want to work with?
00:07:01.560 --> 00:07:06.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I gave her my first choice cause. My first choice was was a guy who had
00:07:06.810 --> 00:07:16.699 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: had known, for I don't know at the time it 8 years almost, and we had a good relationship, and I felt he knew me well.
00:07:17.450 --> 00:07:23.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and and he was totally up for working together, and at first she said, No.
00:07:23.740 --> 00:07:25.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I was like, Oh.
00:07:25.930 --> 00:07:29.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: okay. So my first choice was out the window.
00:07:29.970 --> 00:07:34.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So then I said, Well, what about this other guy who I had a good relationship with?
00:07:34.610 --> 00:07:37.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And she was like, Okay.
00:07:37.500 --> 00:07:40.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: let me think about it, and I'll get back to you.
00:07:41.870 --> 00:07:44.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And so that was good. But
00:07:44.920 --> 00:07:54.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it didn't really make sense for me to work with this other guy. He's down in Kentucky. My other guy was in New Jersey. He was much closer, so so I I called up
00:07:54.270 --> 00:08:06.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the guy who who was my first choice, and I said, Look, hey? I talked to her, she said. No, you know I don't know. I told her then how about this guy? And he says, Don't worry about it. Let me talk to her.
00:08:06.760 --> 00:08:14.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So he called her up and talked to her, and I actually didn't find out about what he actually said to her to change her mind
00:08:14.360 --> 00:08:15.929 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: until recently.
00:08:17.720 --> 00:08:18.495 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And
00:08:19.330 --> 00:08:22.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: after he talked to her, she said, Okay, Sam, you can work with him.
00:08:23.390 --> 00:08:25.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And then I remember
00:08:25.620 --> 00:08:27.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: going to the first
00:08:28.060 --> 00:08:29.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: session with him.
00:08:30.740 --> 00:08:31.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and they're
00:08:32.220 --> 00:08:33.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: were people there
00:08:34.179 --> 00:08:35.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: who had known
00:08:36.460 --> 00:08:38.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for years before.
00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:41.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it just felt like a coming home.
00:08:41.679 --> 00:08:45.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It felt like, this is where I belong.
00:08:45.230 --> 00:08:51.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and also seeing him, and how he had grown my new mentor, and how heart centered he was!
00:08:52.170 --> 00:08:58.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It just felt so much more in alignment with who I am and how I operate, and
00:08:59.060 --> 00:09:03.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it felt easy. It felt good, it felt in alignment.
00:09:05.860 --> 00:09:07.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I was
00:09:08.110 --> 00:09:11.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: actually very nervous about leaving this old mentor
00:09:12.440 --> 00:09:21.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because he had such a reputation in the community. He'd been doing this work a long time, you know. He was the guy in New York City to study with
00:09:22.290 --> 00:09:22.995 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and
00:09:25.570 --> 00:09:39.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and for a long time he was the only option. I mean. I basically probably would not have stayed with him as long as I did. Had I had another choice. But there just was another choice available, and my friend, he had just become a mentor.
00:09:39.970 --> 00:09:42.189 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know. Less than a year before.
00:09:43.630 --> 00:09:44.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so
00:09:45.720 --> 00:09:49.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it was a little scary to take that step. It was a little scary to
00:09:50.110 --> 00:09:56.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: call up the the woman in charge and say, Hey, look! This ain't working for me. I can't work with this guy anymore.
00:09:57.880 --> 00:09:59.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And
00:10:01.350 --> 00:10:04.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm so grateful I made that call.
00:10:05.980 --> 00:10:10.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm so grateful because it put me on a new path
00:10:11.400 --> 00:10:18.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that's taken me in a whole nother direction that feels so much more aligned, so much more supported.
00:10:19.290 --> 00:10:21.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And so this whole idea that
00:10:21.790 --> 00:10:25.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we walk out one door another door will open for us.
00:10:26.660 --> 00:10:30.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's really from my personal experience.
00:10:31.810 --> 00:10:35.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and this is not the first time this has happened many times in my life.
00:10:38.390 --> 00:10:40.999 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and the funny thing about it is.
00:10:42.190 --> 00:10:54.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we often think we don't have a choice. We often think like, Oh, if I leave, if I stop doing this, things are gonna be awful their consequences. It's not gonna work out. What am I gonna do?
00:10:57.500 --> 00:10:59.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And the funny thing is that when we
00:11:00.060 --> 00:11:03.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: stand up for ourselves, when we say yes
00:11:03.730 --> 00:11:06.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to what truly supports us.
00:11:07.030 --> 00:11:10.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: life often says Yes, back to us.
00:11:14.730 --> 00:11:17.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and and one of the lines in here
00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:23.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: is life always responds to us when we take better care of ourselves.
00:11:24.230 --> 00:11:34.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You see, taking better care of ourselves does not just mean getting enough sleep, eating, healthy, exercising all the sort of standard stuff we know.
00:11:36.570 --> 00:11:39.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: taking better care of ourselves.
00:11:39.910 --> 00:11:44.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: is making the choices and decisions that are truly in alignment
00:11:44.970 --> 00:11:47.809 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: with our heart, mind, body, and spirit.
00:11:48.740 --> 00:11:49.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's about.
00:11:51.800 --> 00:11:52.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: really.
00:11:56.910 --> 00:11:59.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it's it's about really saying
00:12:00.050 --> 00:12:01.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and validating
00:12:02.800 --> 00:12:05.039 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: what is right for us.
00:12:07.240 --> 00:12:10.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: what meets our standards. What is okay.
00:12:10.870 --> 00:12:12.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: what violates
00:12:12.690 --> 00:12:16.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: our standards, what? What violates our boundaries?
00:12:18.390 --> 00:12:36.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You know, we put up certain boundaries. And we say, like, this is okay. And this is not okay. It's kind of a scary thing. Because when we say, this is not okay, people are not used to having those kinds of boundaries put in front of them, so they often step over those boundaries. They often push past them.
00:12:37.620 --> 00:12:41.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it's really a lesson to say, No, no is no.
00:12:42.930 --> 00:12:51.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it's scary to do it because people are not used to it. They're going to give us a look, a face. They're going to be gruff. They're going to give us a hard time about it.
00:12:53.110 --> 00:12:57.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because we've never really stood up for ourselves in that way before.
00:12:58.040 --> 00:13:00.029 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So it's expected
00:13:01.500 --> 00:13:03.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that they're going to push back
00:13:04.570 --> 00:13:07.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because they're testing to see. Do we really need it?
00:13:08.450 --> 00:13:17.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's like a little child when a parent says No, when the child still tries. Oh, but what about this? And parents still say no. And the child, what about that? And still say, no.
00:13:20.930 --> 00:13:23.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But how often do parents give in to the children
00:13:23.780 --> 00:13:28.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and what they say first, no ends up turning into a yes, later on.
00:13:28.110 --> 00:13:29.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That's what we're used to.
00:13:30.010 --> 00:13:35.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because that's the way we're brought up. That's the way life has been around us for so long.
00:13:36.310 --> 00:13:41.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so we don't know good boundaries, but when we set those boundaries and we stick to them.
00:13:41.110 --> 00:13:42.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: life will support us.
00:13:43.220 --> 00:13:51.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Life will somehow things will work out in a way we didn't expect in a better way than than we ever thought possible.
00:13:54.500 --> 00:13:57.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and then, after a while we find that yeah, like.
00:13:58.350 --> 00:13:59.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: actually.
00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:03.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: was the absolute right decision for me.
00:14:07.570 --> 00:14:11.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So sometimes when we walk out that door.
00:14:11.470 --> 00:14:14.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we take that step into the unknown.
00:14:15.160 --> 00:14:18.259 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's scary because we don't know where it's going to lead us.
00:14:18.290 --> 00:14:21.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we don't see any other doors in the moment.
00:14:21.570 --> 00:14:27.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And and W. We're just shaking in our knees, cause we don't know what's gonna happen.
00:14:31.620 --> 00:14:33.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But in my experience.
00:14:34.280 --> 00:14:37.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we have the courage to take that step
00:14:38.380 --> 00:14:41.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: ultimately, things always work out for the better.
00:14:41.970 --> 00:14:44.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: may not work out right away for the better.
00:14:45.090 --> 00:14:46.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it may be.
00:14:46.680 --> 00:14:52.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know, really kind of back and forth, unknown, not quite sure for quite a while.
00:14:53.810 --> 00:14:55.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But in the long run.
00:14:56.350 --> 00:14:59.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: after we've made that decision and we've taken that action.
00:15:00.980 --> 00:15:04.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Maybe months later, maybe years later.
00:15:05.060 --> 00:15:07.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we look back and we go. Oh, my God!
00:15:07.640 --> 00:15:10.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Thank God! I made that choice
00:15:11.120 --> 00:15:12.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and stood up for myself.
00:15:13.240 --> 00:15:15.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It made all the difference in the world.
00:15:19.540 --> 00:15:20.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so
00:15:21.200 --> 00:15:22.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I hope
00:15:23.880 --> 00:15:25.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this story
00:15:26.100 --> 00:15:29.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: resonates with you in some fashion.
00:15:29.730 --> 00:15:32.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and if there's something in your life
00:15:32.210 --> 00:15:34.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that's not serving you
00:15:34.200 --> 00:15:36.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that does not feel good.
00:15:36.660 --> 00:15:37.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that
00:15:38.520 --> 00:15:40.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: is causing you to
00:15:40.700 --> 00:15:43.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to, to not sleep well at night.
00:15:43.940 --> 00:15:45.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm begging you
00:15:46.110 --> 00:15:48.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: stop putting off making that decision.
00:15:50.360 --> 00:15:53.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: stop waiting for the perfect time
00:15:53.430 --> 00:15:58.429 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to make a different choice, because the perfect time is always right now.
00:15:58.770 --> 00:16:02.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because until you make that decision and do something about it.
00:16:02.760 --> 00:16:04.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: always gonna be like that.
00:16:06.910 --> 00:16:14.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And when you do make that choice. When you do step forward into the unknown. When you do, allow yourself
00:16:14.810 --> 00:16:16.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the grace
00:16:16.660 --> 00:16:19.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to say, this doesn't work for me.
00:16:20.540 --> 00:16:24.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Ultimately it absolutely will work out in your favor
00:16:25.090 --> 00:16:30.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: may not always be easy, but it will be better than it was before.
00:16:30.900 --> 00:16:31.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So
00:16:31.850 --> 00:16:34.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that's my blog post
00:16:34.370 --> 00:16:39.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: entitled when we walk out one door another door will open for us.
00:16:39.640 --> 00:16:51.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You can always find my blog@talkradio.nyc slash, blog, and of course, on my own personal branded website, the conscious consultant.com.
00:16:51.390 --> 00:17:00.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I have a new blog every single week. So there's lots and lots of them. And this one is from a couple of years ago. I got a lot more since then, so please check it out
00:17:01.830 --> 00:17:04.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: alright. So coming up
00:17:04.540 --> 00:17:12.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: more of me. Yes. And so my topic for today is talking about the best validation in the world.
00:17:12.510 --> 00:17:15.819 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Everyone's looking for validation. Let's talk about
00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:18.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: most important validation for us.
00:17:18.500 --> 00:17:36.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consult hour awakening humanity. We do this every Thursday 12 noon to one pm. Eastern time right here on talk radio, Nyc and all over social media on Youtube and Facebook and Twitter and Linkedin and Twitch. And we'll be right back
00:17:36.570 --> 00:17:37.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: just a moment.
00:19:53.520 --> 00:19:58.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And welcome back to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity.
00:19:59.140 --> 00:20:12.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: This is one of those special shows. It's just you and me for the hour. So please comment chime in on the live stream. Let me know your thoughts, your questions and I will answer them all.
00:20:12.510 --> 00:20:16.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So today's topic kind of came up because
00:20:16.597 --> 00:20:29.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: of of a couple of things that happened recently. 1 one person that I was working with in a healing ceremony, and and also in a in a training session. We were talking about this.
00:20:29.490 --> 00:20:32.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And that's this idea of validation.
00:20:33.470 --> 00:20:34.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And
00:20:35.230 --> 00:20:38.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know, it's kind of funny, because
00:20:38.810 --> 00:20:46.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: from the time we're children. From the time we're kids we're always looking for validation. We're always looking
00:20:46.350 --> 00:20:49.049 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for someone else to say.
00:20:50.460 --> 00:20:57.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I see you. It's okay. I you're, you know. I agree with you. It's alright.
00:20:59.050 --> 00:21:05.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we're always looking to the external world. I mean, initially, we're looking at it for my parents, right?
00:21:05.550 --> 00:21:11.689 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We always want our parents to say, Yes, you're good, you're special. We love you all that stuff
00:21:12.870 --> 00:21:20.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and the reality is they're busy with their own stuff, and that often doesn't happen.
00:21:24.390 --> 00:21:27.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And so from the time
00:21:30.030 --> 00:21:31.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the
00:21:31.310 --> 00:21:32.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so from the time we
00:21:33.390 --> 00:21:39.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we don't get that validation, whether it's from parents, siblings, friends, relatives, anyone.
00:21:43.010 --> 00:21:46.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it becomes this unmet need.
00:21:49.440 --> 00:21:53.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And we start looking for validation and recognition
00:21:53.310 --> 00:21:55.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: in all kinds of other places.
00:21:57.410 --> 00:22:02.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And you know, I remember years ago, I saw these reports that said that
00:22:02.450 --> 00:22:04.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: people in the workforce
00:22:05.520 --> 00:22:11.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: would rather get more recognition than more money for a job well done.
00:22:12.820 --> 00:22:16.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that people felt so unrecognized
00:22:18.540 --> 00:22:29.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that if they did a good job and look, we all would like a raise. And of course you know, different in every situation, and when economic times are bad. The money's more important.
00:22:31.380 --> 00:22:43.271 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But at the time when things were like not great, not bad. But somewhere in between, people were like, you know, hey, I would like to get recognized for the job that I did. I would like to get recognized that I actually did something good
00:22:43.570 --> 00:22:47.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because we're all thirsting for that recognition and that validation
00:22:52.320 --> 00:22:54.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I was, too.
00:22:54.530 --> 00:22:55.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I have, too.
00:22:55.950 --> 00:22:58.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for most of my life, and probably still to today
00:22:59.260 --> 00:23:02.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: call the pot calling the kettle block. Absolutely.
00:23:07.100 --> 00:23:09.419 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because we want to know.
00:23:10.200 --> 00:23:11.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We want to know
00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:16.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that other people see us in a way that makes us feel good.
00:23:19.610 --> 00:23:21.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because ultimately
00:23:22.750 --> 00:23:25.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this need for validation
00:23:27.400 --> 00:23:30.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: comes from a very deep place.
00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:34.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're either.
00:23:36.060 --> 00:23:38.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're not quite sure
00:23:39.030 --> 00:23:41.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we're actually good.
00:23:45.510 --> 00:23:49.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we're not quite sure about our own value.
00:23:50.380 --> 00:23:52.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: our own contribution.
00:23:52.660 --> 00:23:54.559 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and so we need to
00:23:54.900 --> 00:23:57.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: hear it feel it from another person.
00:24:01.010 --> 00:24:02.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And so we go looking for it.
00:24:04.070 --> 00:24:08.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and everyone is different, and we go looking for it in different ways.
00:24:09.410 --> 00:24:16.959 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Some people go looking for it through partners, through through relationships, through lovers.
00:24:17.430 --> 00:24:25.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: other people. It's through business relationships and bosses and looking for their boss to validate them other people. It's from family.
00:24:25.580 --> 00:24:33.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know. We all have our own unique flavor of of how we're looking for this recognition and validation.
00:24:38.500 --> 00:24:41.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And what inevitably happens is
00:24:42.560 --> 00:24:45.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because we're looking for it
00:24:45.450 --> 00:24:47.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: in the wrong places.
00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:49.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: comes with
00:24:50.090 --> 00:24:55.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: a lot of things that don't really serve us and end up, not working out that well
00:24:59.450 --> 00:25:05.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: like. And I've had many friends that this was the case. They were looking for it from a boyfriend or girlfriend.
00:25:07.640 --> 00:25:09.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and because
00:25:10.130 --> 00:25:17.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: they were looking for it from someone else, and they were constantly searching for it. The people they would find would just take advantage of them.
00:25:18.080 --> 00:25:19.359 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: They would
00:25:19.530 --> 00:25:21.569 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: not treat them that well.
00:25:21.770 --> 00:25:22.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: they would
00:25:23.080 --> 00:25:32.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: cancel at the last minute. They would not show up. They would make all kinds of excuses, you know they would be, they would not be
00:25:34.453 --> 00:25:39.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: conscious of their of the of these other person's needs.
00:25:41.150 --> 00:25:47.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and they would always, my friends would always feel worse. They were like, how come they didn't do this? How come he did that? Why can't he do this?
00:25:48.360 --> 00:25:53.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And then eventually, what would happen is the situation becomes untenable, and they would break up.
00:25:54.920 --> 00:25:57.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and then they'd go find another boyfriend or girlfriend.
00:25:58.210 --> 00:25:59.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and guess what
00:26:00.280 --> 00:26:02.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it would end up being the exact same thing
00:26:04.760 --> 00:26:09.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because they didn't do the internal work that needed to be done.
00:26:11.520 --> 00:26:16.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because they were still looking for the validation from an external place.
00:26:21.300 --> 00:26:23.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And you see, that's the
00:26:23.640 --> 00:26:24.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: trap
00:26:25.550 --> 00:26:27.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: of this need
00:26:27.250 --> 00:26:29.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for recognition and validation
00:26:31.610 --> 00:26:35.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we keep looking for it in the outside world.
00:26:39.320 --> 00:26:41.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And usually
00:26:41.600 --> 00:26:44.449 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: other people are looking for the exact same thing.
00:26:44.570 --> 00:26:48.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and they have their own needs. They have their own trauma, they have their own pain.
00:26:50.580 --> 00:27:00.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So they're not able to really give us what we really need. But we keep trying. We'll do anything. We bend over backwards. We will do whatever it takes.
00:27:02.060 --> 00:27:10.059 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and all that does is tell the other person that they can do whatever they want, that will keep showing up, even though they treat us like shit.
00:27:12.600 --> 00:27:14.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that does not serve us.
00:27:15.150 --> 00:27:19.399 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that does not tell life that we value ourselves.
00:27:21.490 --> 00:27:23.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And that does not really help
00:27:26.400 --> 00:27:30.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because we're putting an internal need
00:27:30.280 --> 00:27:32.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: on an external source.
00:27:33.820 --> 00:27:36.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're giving that power to someone else.
00:27:41.290 --> 00:27:45.949 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and whenever we give our power away to someone else, no matter
00:27:46.640 --> 00:27:50.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: from what angle, what perspective, what reason.
00:27:51.920 --> 00:27:59.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: all we're doing is disempowering ourselves, putting ourselves down, diminishing ourselves in some way.
00:28:00.570 --> 00:28:03.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: diminishing our value in some way.
00:28:05.330 --> 00:28:07.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that never works out well for us.
00:28:09.980 --> 00:28:10.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: never.
00:28:13.760 --> 00:28:15.069 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So what do we do
00:28:17.270 --> 00:28:23.909 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: right? So okay, Sam, you're telling me I should not be looking for recognition, validation in the outside world to other people.
00:28:24.030 --> 00:28:25.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So what do I do?
00:28:27.350 --> 00:28:29.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That's the tricky part, isn't it?
00:28:31.670 --> 00:28:38.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: If we can't look for meeting this deep emotional need in the outside world.
00:28:40.210 --> 00:28:42.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: then where do? How do we get that need met.
00:28:46.090 --> 00:28:48.229 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I'm going to get into that
00:28:48.450 --> 00:28:50.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: right after this next break.
00:28:52.840 --> 00:28:53.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because
00:28:54.160 --> 00:28:55.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this is a deep topic.
00:28:56.820 --> 00:29:01.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I would love to hear your experiences. I would love to know.
00:29:02.860 --> 00:29:05.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What challenges have you had in your life
00:29:06.120 --> 00:29:10.369 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when you've gone looking for validation and recognition elsewhere?
00:29:13.150 --> 00:29:15.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I want to hear your stories.
00:29:15.680 --> 00:29:23.719 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I'll give you my perspective on them. So please post them in the comments section of the video. Let me know. Reach out to me.
00:29:24.580 --> 00:29:30.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You know you can always reach me at Sam, at the conscious consultants.com.
00:29:32.770 --> 00:29:35.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we will continue this conversation
00:29:36.260 --> 00:29:40.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: in just a moment when we come back. So please stay tuned.
00:29:40.550 --> 00:29:51.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You're listening to, of course, the conscious consultant hour. We do this every Thursday 12 noon to one pm. Eastern time right here on talk. Radio, NYC.
00:29:51.580 --> 00:29:57.849 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And we'll continue our conversation together all about validation and recognition. In just a moment.
00:32:03.500 --> 00:32:12.149 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And welcome back to the conscious consult now awakening humanity. I see loyal listener. Patty is with us. Thank you, Patty, appreciate
00:32:12.710 --> 00:32:14.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you sharing the video as always.
00:32:15.010 --> 00:32:21.129 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I would love to hear your comments and and your perspectives on validation
00:32:21.620 --> 00:32:38.529 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: as well. And of course, please, if you're listening to the show whether it's live. If it's on the live stream, please share it to your own feeds. Let's bring more people into the conversation. If you're listening to the podcast share it with your friends if you find value in this.
00:32:39.160 --> 00:32:40.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And
00:32:40.250 --> 00:32:42.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so we've been talking all about
00:32:43.280 --> 00:32:53.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this idea of of the need for recognition and validation, and and the trouble it kind of gets us in when we look forward in other places, when we look forward in other people.
00:32:54.120 --> 00:33:04.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Now for some people, it drives them to be super successful and to be center of attention influencers on the stage, great speakers.
00:33:05.580 --> 00:33:09.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But usually, if they're doing it. For that reason
00:33:09.220 --> 00:33:11.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: there's a little bit of emptiness inside.
00:33:12.730 --> 00:33:16.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because whenever we're looking for something externally.
00:33:17.500 --> 00:33:22.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we're as I mentioned before, we're giving our power away. So how do we take our power back?
00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:25.379 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How do we reclaim?
00:33:26.090 --> 00:33:27.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Are inherent
00:33:28.590 --> 00:33:31.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: authority and sovereignty
00:33:31.910 --> 00:33:35.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we so want to be seen and recognized by other people.
00:33:37.100 --> 00:33:37.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So
00:33:38.130 --> 00:33:39.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: here's the thing.
00:33:40.190 --> 00:33:42.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And this I'd learned a while ago.
00:33:43.560 --> 00:33:49.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And just knowing this in my mind again, I still gotta feel it. You still gotta work it out.
00:33:49.960 --> 00:33:52.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So what I'm going to share with you.
00:33:52.676 --> 00:33:56.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It may sound trade. It may sound obvious.
00:33:57.140 --> 00:34:00.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: but actually doing something about it, actually
00:34:01.190 --> 00:34:03.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: being able to change
00:34:04.010 --> 00:34:06.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: much more challenging.
00:34:06.520 --> 00:34:14.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Then we realize. And and that's why it's always good to work with a mentor, a coach, a facilitator of some kind.
00:34:14.820 --> 00:34:15.489 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: E.
00:34:16.150 --> 00:34:17.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Because here's the thing.
00:34:19.219 --> 00:34:23.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: If we're not validating and recognizing ourselves.
00:34:25.540 --> 00:34:31.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: no amount of external validation is going to make us feel whole
00:34:33.760 --> 00:34:38.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: as long as we are looking towards someone or something else
00:34:39.449 --> 00:34:40.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to say.
00:34:40.790 --> 00:34:42.609 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's okay. You're good.
00:34:44.380 --> 00:34:46.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Where was going to be disappointed
00:34:47.920 --> 00:34:49.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because everyone else
00:34:51.010 --> 00:34:56.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: has their own trauma has their own things, and they're not going to necessarily be able to show up the same
00:34:56.880 --> 00:34:59.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: way or show up in the way that we need them to.
00:35:01.430 --> 00:35:05.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: The only person we can ultimately rely on is ourselves.
00:35:06.800 --> 00:35:09.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So what does that mean for us when it comes to validation?
00:35:11.650 --> 00:35:16.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It means the person that we need to look for validation from is ourselves.
00:35:18.300 --> 00:35:21.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It means we have to give it to ourselves. First.
00:35:23.940 --> 00:35:26.579 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: how do we give validation to ourselves?
00:35:28.380 --> 00:35:31.729 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Really simple, not so easy, but really simple.
00:35:34.790 --> 00:35:38.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's by saying something as simple as you know what
00:35:38.350 --> 00:35:41.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I feel like this. And it's okay.
00:35:45.520 --> 00:35:53.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's okay that I feel down. It's okay that I feel like, shit. It's okay that I'm upset. It's okay that I'm angry.
00:35:54.690 --> 00:35:56.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's okay.
00:35:58.930 --> 00:36:01.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often do we say that to ourselves?
00:36:03.560 --> 00:36:05.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often
00:36:05.470 --> 00:36:10.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: do we actually take a moment to sit with what we're feeling in the moment
00:36:10.130 --> 00:36:12.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and validating our own feelings?
00:36:17.020 --> 00:36:17.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What
00:36:19.810 --> 00:36:21.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: what if we do
00:36:24.080 --> 00:36:27.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when somebody violates our boundaries.
00:36:29.550 --> 00:36:35.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What do we do when we've done a good job? Do we pat ourselves on the back and say, Hey, good job.
00:36:37.520 --> 00:36:45.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: do we? Objectively, and not from an ego-based point of view of trying to make ourselves better than we are, or the center of attention.
00:36:48.770 --> 00:36:50.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What do we do
00:36:50.840 --> 00:36:53.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we actually did something good.
00:36:54.570 --> 00:37:01.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Maybe we helped somebody. Maybe we we figured out something challenging. Maybe we just showed up in a way
00:37:02.860 --> 00:37:04.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that really
00:37:04.950 --> 00:37:08.159 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: served both ourselves and the other person.
00:37:08.510 --> 00:37:14.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often do we just take a step back, look at and objectively say, you know what
00:37:15.250 --> 00:37:17.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I did really? Well, in that situation
00:37:18.540 --> 00:37:19.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know what
00:37:20.300 --> 00:37:24.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I feel really good that I went to the gym this morning.
00:37:24.520 --> 00:37:26.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or Hey, you know what
00:37:26.620 --> 00:37:29.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I really am proud of myself
00:37:29.670 --> 00:37:31.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for eating healthier.
00:37:34.000 --> 00:37:35.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or maybe just
00:37:35.570 --> 00:37:38.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know what I'm proud of myself
00:37:38.390 --> 00:37:41.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for having the courage to step out
00:37:41.150 --> 00:37:43.839 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and try something new or different.
00:37:48.890 --> 00:37:52.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often do we recognize ourselves.
00:37:53.070 --> 00:37:56.509 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: how often do we give ourselves credit
00:37:57.610 --> 00:38:01.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for what we just went through for what we just experienced?
00:38:01.610 --> 00:38:07.459 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often do we say to ourselves, wow! You know I just came through something really tough.
00:38:07.710 --> 00:38:14.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I can't believe how strong I am that I manage to come through that. And and I'm not bitter, and I'm not angry anymore.
00:38:19.110 --> 00:38:21.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How often do we actually do that.
00:38:27.160 --> 00:38:28.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I wonder?
00:38:29.340 --> 00:38:31.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I wonder
00:38:31.990 --> 00:38:34.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: if we did more of that?
00:38:38.940 --> 00:38:41.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How would other people see us?
00:38:43.770 --> 00:38:45.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You see, here's the funny thing
00:38:49.490 --> 00:38:52.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we no longer
00:38:53.390 --> 00:38:58.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: need to be validated by other people, because we're validating ourselves.
00:38:59.240 --> 00:39:01.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Something very interesting happens.
00:39:03.720 --> 00:39:06.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because when we make it okay
00:39:08.140 --> 00:39:13.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to be who we are, to feel what we feel, to show up the way we show up.
00:39:13.810 --> 00:39:18.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: even if it's not perfect, even if it's not the ultimate way we know we can show up
00:39:19.420 --> 00:39:23.219 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to just be okay with where we are
00:39:25.430 --> 00:39:30.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and recognize and validate ourselves. For where we are.
00:39:30.990 --> 00:39:32.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: The funny thing is.
00:39:33.450 --> 00:39:36.409 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: suddenly other people start to validate us.
00:39:36.500 --> 00:39:39.789 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Suddenly. Other people start to notice.
00:39:43.850 --> 00:39:47.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We are showing up better that we are showing up differently.
00:39:48.770 --> 00:39:51.089 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we did accomplish something.
00:39:53.000 --> 00:39:56.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Now, look, is everybody going to? No, of course not.
00:39:57.370 --> 00:40:04.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Is the whole world gonna beat a path to your door just because you now are like, okay, that you're feeling depressed. No, of course not.
00:40:09.090 --> 00:40:15.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But the more we make it okay for ourselves, and we're at peace with it.
00:40:16.460 --> 00:40:19.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're now resonating at a certain level
00:40:20.790 --> 00:40:25.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that people who resonate with us at that level start showing up
00:40:28.190 --> 00:40:35.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: there's an old adage that goes. We cannot change anybody else. But when we change ourselves.
00:40:35.530 --> 00:40:37.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: others show up differently.
00:40:39.100 --> 00:40:41.879 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that adage is so true
00:40:44.130 --> 00:40:48.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we cannot make people recognize us, we cannot make
00:40:48.820 --> 00:40:51.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: people validate us.
00:40:51.300 --> 00:40:57.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We cannot make another person validate our feelings, our emotions, our experiences.
00:40:59.890 --> 00:41:01.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We can't, we just can't.
00:41:02.740 --> 00:41:03.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because
00:41:04.370 --> 00:41:09.639 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: even if we force them to do it and they do it. It's not going to feel real, and it's not going to be true.
00:41:12.100 --> 00:41:13.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: However.
00:41:15.210 --> 00:41:17.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: we start to validate ourselves
00:41:18.820 --> 00:41:25.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we start to say you know what I had. This is experience. And this is the way this experience made me feel.
00:41:25.710 --> 00:41:27.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I'm okay with that
00:41:29.720 --> 00:41:30.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: bats.
00:41:31.510 --> 00:41:36.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That's when people say, Hey, Sam. You know I know you went through a hard time
00:41:40.460 --> 00:41:42.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we show up vulnerably
00:41:43.480 --> 00:41:48.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and really share with others what's going on inside our heart.
00:41:51.250 --> 00:41:53.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That's when they show up and recognize us.
00:41:54.650 --> 00:41:56.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But it's scary to do that.
00:41:57.580 --> 00:42:01.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And if we're not validating ourselves, we can't do that.
00:42:02.300 --> 00:42:07.239 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because if we're not making it okay for us to be the way we are?
00:42:07.930 --> 00:42:10.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Then how can we share that with other people?
00:42:14.000 --> 00:42:15.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You see, actually
00:42:16.780 --> 00:42:22.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the key towards having all the things that we want emotionally
00:42:26.280 --> 00:42:30.329 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: is making it okay to be where we are emotionally.
00:42:33.780 --> 00:42:38.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to just say to ourselves, you know what I'm scared, and it's okay to be scared.
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:41.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or I'm angry
00:42:42.100 --> 00:42:44.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because I experienced this.
00:42:45.800 --> 00:42:50.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or I'm upset because someone crossed my boundaries.
00:42:51.700 --> 00:42:55.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Whatever it is you're feeling in the moment.
00:42:55.780 --> 00:42:59.209 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can you make it okay, that that's what you're feeling.
00:43:00.080 --> 00:43:02.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can you find a way to say you know what
00:43:03.230 --> 00:43:04.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm a human being.
00:43:05.740 --> 00:43:10.629 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Any human being in my place would feel the same way, having gone through what they went through.
00:43:12.170 --> 00:43:16.099 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: This is true, this is honest, this is real. This is me.
00:43:18.850 --> 00:43:22.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: This is what I'm feeling right here right now.
00:43:26.350 --> 00:43:29.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: can we make that okay
00:43:29.720 --> 00:43:31.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for ourselves?
00:43:34.260 --> 00:43:36.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Because ultimately.
00:43:36.890 --> 00:43:37.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: ultimately
00:43:41.070 --> 00:43:42.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the only
00:43:42.930 --> 00:43:48.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: real validation that means anything to us in the world is our own.
00:43:51.690 --> 00:43:56.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: The only validation, the best validation
00:43:56.290 --> 00:43:59.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we can possibly ever receive
00:44:02.160 --> 00:44:06.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: is the validation, the validation that comes from within.
00:44:10.060 --> 00:44:11.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That says.
00:44:12.400 --> 00:44:16.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know what I'm shaky right now because I don't know what I'm doing.
00:44:18.650 --> 00:44:22.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm scared right now because I'm afraid I'm gonna fail.
00:44:24.650 --> 00:44:26.869 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm lonely right now
00:44:27.350 --> 00:44:30.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: because I really want to be with other people. And I'm not
00:44:32.450 --> 00:44:39.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: saying those things and recognizing and making it okay that we feel that way.
00:44:40.410 --> 00:44:43.939 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: That's the best validation we can ever receive.
00:44:49.510 --> 00:44:50.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But that seemed
00:44:50.600 --> 00:44:52.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: untrained muscle.
00:44:52.460 --> 00:44:54.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're not used to that idea.
00:44:55.100 --> 00:44:58.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It takes practice going to the gym and working out
00:45:01.310 --> 00:45:03.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and practicing, validating ourselves.
00:45:07.760 --> 00:45:08.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So
00:45:09.130 --> 00:45:11.439 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: not quite finished with this topic yet.
00:45:12.070 --> 00:45:14.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: but we do have to take our last break of the show.
00:45:15.970 --> 00:45:17.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I hope
00:45:18.000 --> 00:45:20.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this show is touching something
00:45:20.320 --> 00:45:24.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: within you. I hope it means something to you. I hope it supports you in some way.
00:45:26.860 --> 00:45:33.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and if you're having a challenge with this and you want support, you can always reach out to me, and we can have a session virtually
00:45:34.580 --> 00:45:36.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or in person. If you're in New York.
00:45:37.720 --> 00:45:41.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sam, at the conscious consultant.
00:45:41.730 --> 00:45:43.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and I will be right back
00:45:43.360 --> 00:45:45.079 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: after the short break.
00:45:46.440 --> 00:45:48.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we're going to wrap it all up
00:45:50.110 --> 00:45:51.499 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and talk about
00:45:51.590 --> 00:45:54.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: practices for validating ourselves.
00:45:54.360 --> 00:46:00.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So everyone, please stay tuned. You're listening to the conscious consult hour awakening humanity.
00:46:00.450 --> 00:46:03.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we will be right back in just a moment.
00:48:11.200 --> 00:48:15.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And welcome back to the conscious consult now awakening humanity. So
00:48:16.600 --> 00:48:21.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: this hour I've been really touching upon this idea of validation.
00:48:22.510 --> 00:48:26.969 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and how validation is so important to us.
00:48:26.980 --> 00:48:28.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it really is.
00:48:29.490 --> 00:48:30.930 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: But it's a trap
00:48:31.230 --> 00:48:35.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we fall into of looking for validation from other people.
00:48:38.610 --> 00:48:42.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and the only way out of that trap is to validate our cell
00:48:45.880 --> 00:48:50.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and and validating ourselves is an unused muscle
00:48:51.690 --> 00:48:54.270 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we haven't really exercised.
00:48:56.060 --> 00:49:00.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So we need to start exercising it if we really want to feel
00:49:01.340 --> 00:49:03.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: solid within ourselves.
00:49:06.420 --> 00:49:11.539 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So how do we do that? How do we validate ourselves? So I already mentioned.
00:49:13.400 --> 00:49:16.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: part of it is just being okay
00:49:18.230 --> 00:49:21.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and recognizing where we are.
00:49:21.960 --> 00:49:24.649 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: How are we feeling in this
00:49:24.690 --> 00:49:28.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: present moment? Right here right now.
00:49:33.240 --> 00:49:36.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: lots of times. We don't even know how we feel in the present moment.
00:49:38.030 --> 00:49:46.619 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Lots of times. There's so much trauma and pain and challenges we're just trying to survive.
00:49:46.830 --> 00:49:50.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we can't be truly present to how we're feeling in the moment.
00:49:51.780 --> 00:49:54.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So first and foremost.
00:49:54.610 --> 00:49:58.319 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it's about doing our own deep healing work.
00:50:00.590 --> 00:50:05.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's getting to that point where we can accept ourselves as human beings.
00:50:07.890 --> 00:50:13.520 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it's recognizing that we are human beings, perfectly imperfect.
00:50:14.560 --> 00:50:18.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're not always going to feel good.
00:50:19.100 --> 00:50:24.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: We're not always going to do the right thing that makes the other person feel good?
00:50:27.280 --> 00:50:30.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we just all admit that to ourselves
00:50:31.220 --> 00:50:33.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we all make mistakes.
00:50:34.420 --> 00:50:38.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that we all have bad days and good days, good days and bad days.
00:50:41.020 --> 00:50:44.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we just allow ourselves
00:50:45.960 --> 00:50:47.679 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: the right to be
00:50:48.190 --> 00:50:49.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: human beings
00:50:52.960 --> 00:50:56.349 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: in being a human being means we feel things.
00:50:57.820 --> 00:51:00.339 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Being a human being means.
00:51:01.300 --> 00:51:05.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sometimes we feel crappy, and sometimes we feel great.
00:51:05.740 --> 00:51:09.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sometimes we do good work. Sometimes our work isn't as good.
00:51:11.300 --> 00:51:14.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And can we just recognize and give that to ourselves?
00:51:16.850 --> 00:51:23.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we just say to ourselves that, regardless of what anyone else thinks, says or feels?
00:51:26.630 --> 00:51:29.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I know I feel this way right now.
00:51:31.440 --> 00:51:36.179 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and you know what it almost doesn't even matter why we feel the way we feel.
00:51:36.280 --> 00:51:38.669 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and of course it matters, but not really.
00:51:48.930 --> 00:51:51.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we can really accept
00:51:52.530 --> 00:51:54.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and not make it wrong.
00:51:55.470 --> 00:51:57.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we don't feel good.
00:51:59.350 --> 00:52:01.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: when we can validate
00:52:01.900 --> 00:52:07.139 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: those feelings of pain and sadness and grief and anguish.
00:52:09.250 --> 00:52:12.759 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we just make it okay that we feel those things?
00:52:14.040 --> 00:52:18.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we accept that? All of that is part of our life?
00:52:24.140 --> 00:52:27.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we just make it okay
00:52:27.720 --> 00:52:29.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: to be who we are.
00:52:31.220 --> 00:52:34.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: with all our flaws, with all our
00:52:34.560 --> 00:52:36.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: inadequacies.
00:52:36.530 --> 00:52:40.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: with all the things about ourselves, we would love to change.
00:52:42.560 --> 00:52:46.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's okay to want to change things. But can we be okay where we are?
00:52:48.070 --> 00:52:50.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Can we look at ourselves in the mirror
00:52:51.600 --> 00:52:53.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and just say.
00:52:53.450 --> 00:52:54.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know what?
00:52:55.210 --> 00:52:56.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: It's okay to be me.
00:52:57.740 --> 00:53:01.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And it's okay to feel what I'm feeling right here right now.
00:53:03.170 --> 00:53:08.119 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And I wonder. I just wonder for you listening to this show right now.
00:53:10.190 --> 00:53:11.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: What if you
00:53:12.040 --> 00:53:13.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: stopped
00:53:13.450 --> 00:53:15.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: 4 or 5 times a day
00:53:15.560 --> 00:53:18.979 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: at random moments, and just took a breath
00:53:20.100 --> 00:53:21.739 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and said to yourself.
00:53:22.030 --> 00:53:23.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: You know what
00:53:23.270 --> 00:53:25.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I'm feeling this right now.
00:53:26.120 --> 00:53:28.440 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and it's okay that I feel this.
00:53:30.070 --> 00:53:32.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I wonder what would shift for you.
00:53:33.300 --> 00:53:35.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I wonder what would change for you.
00:53:37.990 --> 00:53:43.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I wonder how people might respond to you differently
00:53:45.620 --> 00:53:48.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: if you made it okay
00:53:49.580 --> 00:53:53.519 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: that you're feeling exactly what you're feeling right now.
00:53:57.570 --> 00:54:02.269 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and that if you didn't need anyone else to say.
00:54:03.500 --> 00:54:04.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it's okay.
00:54:05.610 --> 00:54:09.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: If you didn't need anyone else to say you're good.
00:54:10.630 --> 00:54:13.889 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: or if you didn't need anyone else to say.
00:54:15.480 --> 00:54:18.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: it's all right to feel what you feel.
00:54:19.190 --> 00:54:21.549 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: but you just set it to yourself
00:54:22.570 --> 00:54:25.479 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: if you just validated yourself
00:54:27.190 --> 00:54:30.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: for where you are in your life at this moment.
00:54:33.150 --> 00:54:37.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I wonder? I'm curious. What would shift for you?
00:54:38.060 --> 00:54:40.109 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I would love to hear from you.
00:54:40.830 --> 00:54:46.799 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I would love to know, and and maybe you can come back next week on the live stream and report
00:54:47.030 --> 00:54:48.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: back to us
00:54:49.630 --> 00:54:55.279 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: what happened when you started to say to yourself, I feel this in the moment, and that's okay.
00:54:57.290 --> 00:54:59.659 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I really would love to hear about that.
00:55:01.200 --> 00:55:02.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So.
00:55:03.380 --> 00:55:06.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: unfortunately, we're coming to the end of the show.
00:55:07.180 --> 00:55:15.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I appreciate you all sticking around with me. I appreciate everyone who took the time to tune in and
00:55:15.360 --> 00:55:18.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and share this hour with me.
00:55:19.030 --> 00:55:21.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: I know I didn't have a guest, and
00:55:21.350 --> 00:55:25.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: you know, sometimes having a guest is interesting.
00:55:26.070 --> 00:55:31.389 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: but sometimes we can dig a little deep into some personal stuff when it's just you and me.
00:55:33.030 --> 00:55:33.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So
00:55:35.120 --> 00:55:38.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: was this episode helpful, for you
00:55:38.180 --> 00:55:40.709 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: did mean something for you.
00:55:42.050 --> 00:55:48.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Please let me know. You can always reach out to me at Sam, at the conscious consultant Com.
00:55:49.910 --> 00:55:54.859 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and if you got something of value out of this episode. Please share it with your friends.
00:55:55.600 --> 00:55:57.469 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: However, you wish to share it
00:55:57.560 --> 00:55:58.829 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: fine by me.
00:56:00.000 --> 00:56:02.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: so I appreciate you all tuning in.
00:56:03.440 --> 00:56:19.919 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Of course, you know I've been neglectful last week. I didn't mention it, but right after my show there's another great show on the network called the Mind Body, health and politics show with Dr. Richard Lewis Miller, who was a guest on my show, and you could hear my interview with him a few weeks ago.
00:56:20.365 --> 00:56:25.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: And he talks about all kinds of things, some very taboo stuff, some not so taboo stuff.
00:56:26.020 --> 00:56:54.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So if you like my show, I think you might enjoy listening in and tuning into a show. It's right after my show at one Pm. Eastern time here in talk radio, Nyc. And of course Frank Harrison, with his show, Frank, about health at 5 Pm. Today, Eastern time, and then Fridays, we have our business shows the philanthropy and focus, and always Friday and Tuesday evenings. Of course you've been hearing Dr. Mira's commercial, the hard skills a very good show as well, and
00:56:54.880 --> 00:57:05.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: coming soon. We're going to have after Mirror show on Tuesday evenings. We're going to have the happy, happy spot which was supposed to start this week, but we have to delay it a couple of weeks, and we've got more shows on the horizon.
00:57:06.930 --> 00:57:13.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: So if you have not yet go to our website, sign up for our newsletter click on the button that says, Join the tribe.
00:57:14.030 --> 00:57:37.779 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Sign up for a newsletter, so you can stay up to date on all the new Sh shows coming. We're starting to bloom. It is spring, and so more shows are coming, and we'll have more shows for you new shows throughout the year. So thank you all for tuning in. Don't forget. If you missed any part of today's show, you can always catch the replay on talk, radio, Nyc, on your favorite podcasting app and on all the social media platforms.
00:57:38.170 --> 00:57:41.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: Truly, truly, truly, thank you for tuning in.
00:57:41.690 --> 00:57:44.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consutlant: and we will talk to you all next week.
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