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EPISODE SUMMARY:
It's time for another Holiday Episode!
Join me, Sandra Bargman and my Guest, Jennifer Kauffman for another Co-Interview conversation during which we explore the edges of Gratitude.
What is gratitude? How do you connect to gratitude? What is the neuroscience of gratitude? How can gratitude help you to heal, forgive, and live a life of harmony - even in these tumultuous times?
Jennifer has her own podcast, Thrive Now, and we'll share stories about how we came to podcasting, what led us to the decision to dive, and what we've learned from our inspiring guests.
We'll share holiday stories, readings and insights that are sure to inspire you.
All this and SO much more!
JENNIFER KAUFFMAN is a bestselling author, award-winning results coach, inspirational speaker, Executive Producer of Emmy award-winning films and trauma survivor of the 2013 Boston Marathon bombings.
In 2021, having founded Rise and Thrive productions, she produced and directed the Transformational film, There’s Got To Be More To Life, a documentary that tells the story of her traumatic experience as a survivor of the Boston Marathon bombings, but more importantly, the journey of healing she has taken to ultimately Rise and Thrive, and to inspire others to do the same.
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Sandra welcomes us to the 47th episode of The Edge of Everyday.sandra welcomes her guest, Jennifer Kauffman. Jennifer has over 24 yrs of business experience, working for Fortune 100 companies and family owned businesses. She is also Executive Producer of Emmy award-winning films and trauma survivor of the 2013 Boston Marathon bombings. She produced and directed the Transformational film, There’s Got To Be More To Life. Jennifer mentions having a lot of hardship and adversity throughout her journey in her career and life. With this journey, new opportunities showed up and she talks about how grateful she is for this. Sandra met Jennifer through Sam Liebowitz. She asks Jennifer about what identity she leads with. Jennifer answers saying that it depends. She says that there are times where she is called to be more compassionate and kind; other times she is called to be more fearful and a warrior. She talks about evolving constantly and how her identity is constantly being interrupted. Jennifer also talks about learning to stay in balance with herself as well. Jennifer asks the same question to Sandra who says she leads with being a warrior and comedian. Sandra ends this segment reading a poem adapted from one called “This Land Belongs to No One.”
Sandra and Jennifer talk about gratitude. Jennifer says that gratitude has its own vibration. For her, it means showing appreciation for the present moment or a past experience; but also it's showing appreciation for what's to come. She talks about struggling with gratitude in her life when bad things have happened to her throughout times such as after the Boston Marathon Bombings. She says Oprah and her mother are two people that have inspired her to be grateful. Jennifer says that it wasn't easy to start to connect to gratitude. She says that in the beginning, all that came to her head was the struggles and suffering when she asked herself what she is grateful for. Her reason for starting her own show and The Rise and Thrive Movement is to lead people to understand that it doesn't have to be as difficult as she first made it to be. For Sandra, she shares that gratitude is a choice to always connect with the gift of life. Jennifer talks about finding gratitude in the challenging moments itself as it's happening. She talks about becoming aware that the challenges are for her “highest good.” Before going to break, Sandra reads a quote by Gilbert Chesterton.
Sandra gets into facts on how gratitude affects the brain and how we function physically and emotionally. Jennifer relates practicing gratitude to exercise in that the more consistent we are, the easier it gets. She says that our inner thoughts have vibrations, so to help connect your inner thoughts and inner voice, start with something simple like 3 things you're grateful for about yourself. Sandra and Jennifer also discuss finding gratitude in moments that are sometimes hard to find. Jennifer gave the example of feeling gratitude after reaching out to her estranged father. Although they didn't get to fully reconcile because of his passing, the moment of them connecting was starting to happen and that's where she says she has a lot of gratitude for. Sandra mentions that “wallowing in blame and victimhood” is something that can create a barrier for us to experience and connect with gratitude in our lives. They discuss expressing gratitude for the little and big things in our everyday lives and ourselves.
Sandra reads a question sent in from our production and “Tech Wizard” Dylan, who asks about some strategies for grounding yourself during times of distress. Jennifer goes into using our senses which isn't a mental based aspect of gratitude, rather its physical which makes it unique compared to other ways of connecting with gratitude. Sandra and Jennifer mention the power of slowing down and taking slow deep breaths and how you are connecting every part of yourself, bringing awareness to where you are in the present moment. They switch gears into podcasting. Jennifer says that she loves talking and learning from people. Realizing that podcasting gives people a platform to create, she decided to make the theme of her show to be about “thriving now.” She asks Sandra what thriving means to her. For Sandra, it means constantly growing, being curious, embracing it, and being present to change. Sandra also talks about her calling to start podcasting during the pandemic and how special it has been. You can find more about Jennifer Kauffman at riseandthriveproductions.com. Sandra closes the show with a short prayer.
00:00:17.620 --> 00:00:20.569 welcome everyone, i'm Sandra Bardman.
00:00:20.690 --> 00:00:31.639 A few years ago I wrote and performed a solo show called the Edge of every day, which was an exploration of the rough edges and contradictions we all face and grapple with
00:00:31.830 --> 00:00:49.279 the shows hit a nerve, and the relevance of the topic would only grow over time more than I could have foreseen. So here we are, real talk with real people, sharing stories and perspectives that spark provocative invitations to leap out of what's safe
00:00:49.290 --> 00:01:07.560 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: on the edge of every day. Thanks for listening down on you. Hello, everyone! We are live in the hive. Thank you for joining me on this the forty seventh episode of the edge of every day here on talk radio, dot Nyc.
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00:01:34.840 --> 00:01:53.279 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and if you're tuning in for the first time, welcome tonight, we continue to do things a bit differently In the first season of my podcast I usually highlighted just my guests completely, but tonight my awesome guest and I are going to Co. Interview,
00:01:54.030 --> 00:02:00.069 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so please make sure to ask questions in the chat, and we will do our best to answer them.
00:02:00.450 --> 00:02:10.910 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And of course I urge you to check out my past episodes with my inspiring guests. You can find them on talk radio and Nyc
00:02:10.930 --> 00:02:18.869 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: on your favorite podcast platforms, and again on my Youtube Channel, Sandra Bardman, on the edge of every day.
00:02:19.490 --> 00:02:36.340 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This show is about pushing boundaries and exploring rough edges through conversations and shared stories with friends and colleagues. It's my hope that we can begin to understand our edges. And what I mean by edges is
00:02:36.350 --> 00:02:53.800 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: those places where we are fearful, those places where we are resistant to change those places where paradoxes and contradictions live in our beliefs and in our understandings, both about ourselves and about the world around us. Listen.
00:02:54.380 --> 00:03:12.450 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: We live in edgy, tumultuous times, and people are complex. The more we recognize our own edges and get real about them, the more we can help others to do the same, and that, I fully believe, can help to change the world.
00:03:12.530 --> 00:03:15.310 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So thanks again for tuning in,
00:03:16.520 --> 00:03:22.730 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and without further ado it is time to introduce our guest this week,
00:03:23.340 --> 00:03:42.909 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Jennifer Kaufman, making her second guest appearance on the edge of every day, her first being episode twelve is a best selling author award-winning results. Coach inspirational Speaker executive producer of Emmy award-winning films
00:03:42.920 --> 00:03:48.840 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and trauma survivor of the two thousand and thirteen Boston Marathon bombings.
00:03:49.220 --> 00:04:17.290 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Jennifer is the owner and chief results officer for the results. Group Llc. She has over twenty-four years of business experience, ranging from family owned and operated Businesses to working for fortune. One hundred companies in two thousand and seventeen Jennifer received the quilly award for her contributions to Jack Canfield's best-selling book mastering the art of success.
00:04:17.480 --> 00:04:25.079 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: She was inducted into the National Academy of experts, writers, and speakers in two thousand and sixteen
00:04:25.500 --> 00:04:42.009 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in two thousand and eighteen. Jennifer launched her book, shattered, in which she shares her personal story and journey of healing Naturally, from the two thousand and thirteen Boston Marathon bombings, for which she received a five firebrand award.
00:04:42.270 --> 00:04:56.560 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Jennifer also received a fire, a five firebird award for her book. Be courageous. A collection of inspiring real life stories designed to teach young people how to face adversity
00:04:56.970 --> 00:05:17.160 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: she is the producer of the Telly award-winning and Emmy nominated Broadway Show Dream, Big Brody, Rudiger live and the executive producer a four time any Emmy award-winning film a new leash on life the canines for warriors story
00:05:17.430 --> 00:05:46.680 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in two thousand and twenty-one. Having founded rise and thrive productions, she produced and directed the transformational film. There's got to be more to life a documentary that tells the story of her traumatic experience as a survivor of the Boston Marathon bombings. But, more importantly, the journey of healing she has taken to ultimately rise and thrive, and to inspire others
00:05:46.690 --> 00:05:48.170 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: to do the same.
00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:51.840 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Who welcome Jennifer Kaufman,
00:05:51.910 --> 00:06:00.720 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Who is this person I want to meet her. I write. I love me a good juicy, she c Cv: and you have one.
00:06:03.750 --> 00:06:20.369 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: It is such a yeah, it's a pleasure to be with you tonight. And um thank you, and what you don't know, and what I do know is that this is Episode Number forty-seven forty-seven uh is my favorite number. It's a number. It's been a favorite of mine for a long time, but
00:06:20.380 --> 00:06:24.519 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: you know I wanted to say to your listeners, You know um
00:06:25.720 --> 00:06:39.560 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: the you know my My bio also came with a lot of hardship and a lot of adversity, and you know, every time that I was faced with either a near death experience
00:06:39.730 --> 00:06:44.080 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: or some sort of traumatic, you know, and I I question life.
00:06:44.090 --> 00:07:01.849 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: And then something inside of me just rose up from that experience, and I became stronger, I became more resilient. I became more grateful, and as a result new opportunities show up for me to go down this path that I I couldn't have imagined in my wildest dreams.
00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:03.000 No,
00:07:03.340 --> 00:07:19.699 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I love that, and uh, thank you so much, and that is just the perfect lens through which to frame our conversation, and everyone listening in uh, You know we love to brag because I think we need to brag.
00:07:19.710 --> 00:07:26.680 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I think particularly women. I think women struggle with this whole I need to be humble, and I
00:07:26.830 --> 00:07:28.599 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: you know I shouldn't be.
00:07:29.090 --> 00:07:35.669 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I shouldn't lay it all out there, but in fact, we really should share our light in the most
00:07:35.820 --> 00:07:41.350 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: genuinely humble but very excited way. And
00:07:41.370 --> 00:08:00.559 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I love love, love, love, love, doing that for my guests and my friends, of which you are both, but that's a perfect segment. How you are, my friend. I always like to talk about how I know my guests, and and I met Jennifer. Thanks to doing this podcast,
00:08:01.300 --> 00:08:14.279 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I had heard all about you from our our fearless leader here at talk radio, and Nyc. Sam Liebowitz, who sent me your information, and I was able to watch your incredible one
00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:33.889 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: incredible movie. And and you can hear all about our conversation, all about that on in our conversation. Episode Twelve. Go to my Youtube Channel, uh Sandra Barsman on the edge of every day, and we really dive into that in a bigger way. But tonight we want to.
00:08:34.309 --> 00:08:41.760 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I want to focus in on some other things, because we're co-interviewing and we're both podcasters and just wanting to be with
00:08:42.380 --> 00:09:00.259 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the time that we're in right now, which is the season of thanksgiving and the the season of gratitude. But before we get into that, I have one question for you which i'm loving. I'm not telling any of my guests about it, and it's my new favorite question.
00:09:00.270 --> 00:09:09.589 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Um, And I think it's a really interesting question, because it can go in so many directions. There's a lot of tendrils to this question,
00:09:10.150 --> 00:09:18.049 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so i'm. I'm just going to dive in. I'm not going to give you anything more. Um! What identity do you lead with?
00:09:19.040 --> 00:09:20.430 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: It Depends
00:09:21.770 --> 00:09:31.810 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: it of that love, that elaborate Yeah, You know, I, You know there are times to lead with um.
00:09:31.970 --> 00:09:50.649 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: You know the identity of strength and resilience, and you know one of kind of like this fearless warrior. You know there are times when that's called for, but there are other times when it's called when i'm being called to be more compassionate and kind and softer. Right? So
00:09:50.660 --> 00:09:53.850 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: it really depends on the situation. So
00:09:53.970 --> 00:09:58.950 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: what I what I realize now is I am evolving
00:09:59.050 --> 00:10:10.919 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: into my best self. Still, you know, at the right age of fifty one, and be, I hope that will never end
00:10:10.930 --> 00:10:26.099 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: in the now moment with people Then I can just cultivate, You know, a way of being or an identity that's going to be most serving in that moment. Sometimes my identity is very disruptive.
00:10:26.120 --> 00:10:38.749 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I I so here, you, when you and I are are cut from the same cloth. Um, but I think it's an interesting question also, because, you know, identity is being so redirected
00:10:38.760 --> 00:10:57.950 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: with the fluidity of gender. And you know just so many different ways of even contemplating what identity is. But I I have come to the conclusion that I like you, have a big warrior side, and I, like you, have a very loving, soft, compassionate side. So I put that forward as Edge Walker.
00:10:59.300 --> 00:11:05.890 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: You know the the the balancing of the seeming opposites, the dance of the Polarity.
00:11:05.980 --> 00:11:07.669 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And uh,
00:11:07.750 --> 00:11:10.609 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: yeah, And I definitely see that in you
00:11:10.930 --> 00:11:25.969 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: you will. And I would, I would say, though my edge these days is to um. Be more in my feminine, loving, compassionate way when i'm dealing with a difficult situation. My, you know my
00:11:25.980 --> 00:11:46.620 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: background is such that I tend to pull out the warrior when really more of a a goddess approach, or, like wonder, woman approach would be more serving. Actually. Um! So I still am learning my edge there. Um to be able to stay in balance with myself.
00:11:47.050 --> 00:12:08.750 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, and you you know so much of your work in a in business, and what patriarchal environments! Of course it was necessary for you to pull out that warrior, and and as you've shifted and grown, you know, as we all do, these different things. Different archetypes come to the for that. We explore.
00:12:09.180 --> 00:12:10.270 Um.
00:12:10.760 --> 00:12:13.859 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: But yeah, it's so. It's.
00:12:13.950 --> 00:12:24.240 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This dance of polarities is a real interesting thing for me right now, and it really describes Thanksgiving, the holiday of thanksgiving for me.
00:12:24.350 --> 00:12:27.469 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And you know this, this
00:12:27.690 --> 00:12:30.640 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: this idea of you know it. It's this,
00:12:30.680 --> 00:12:45.519 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and on the one hand it's my nostalgia for family, and I was married over my wedding anniversary. It's over Thanksgiving, and then the the mortification for the morning of the first peoples one hundred and fifty.
00:12:47.490 --> 00:12:48.490 So
00:12:49.440 --> 00:13:01.780 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: so I have a question for you before we get into the meat of our conversation about gratitude. You know. What is it that you you know? How do you answer that question for yourself about identity?
00:13:02.990 --> 00:13:10.270 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, as as I said the edge. Walker. You know I I my sassy answer, is the warrior and the comedian
00:13:10.420 --> 00:13:13.479 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: um, and you know, because
00:13:15.700 --> 00:13:20.310 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: but I feel as though I can use the comedic
00:13:20.850 --> 00:13:36.570 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: mask as a there as a mask, as a way to hide um or or to soften something. And you know I know I can walk through the world very intensely, and be a bit of a
00:13:38.280 --> 00:13:46.310 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Uh. People can be a bit intimidated, and I can have big energy. And so I think as a young person, I
00:13:46.550 --> 00:13:50.060 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: use that and my shyness so.
00:13:50.440 --> 00:14:03.749 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: But yeah, I think it's really I I've landed into that spiritual leader, Slash Edge Walker, the person that's really willing to sit in the veil space. You know this
00:14:03.810 --> 00:14:15.699 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: very human, very realistic about life here on the you know, the light and the dark of of life here, and the exploration of all that's mystical.
00:14:15.810 --> 00:14:19.660 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And the oneness of all that's really is what I lead with,
00:14:20.150 --> 00:14:22.760 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: you know, and that's the edge of every day.
00:14:23.120 --> 00:14:24.670 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And um
00:14:25.310 --> 00:14:37.609 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so as i'm liking to do, and this new iteration of the podcast and weaving some ritual into it, I have a on behalf of thanksgiving.
00:14:38.910 --> 00:14:56.759 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I have a beautiful poem that I would like to end this for Se. Section with, and we've got a beautiful candle that Jennifer and I have lit prior to the start of our conversation. So this poem is, uh, adapted from a poem by Hila Ratzabi,
00:14:57.530 --> 00:14:59.979 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: called This Land, belongs to no one.
00:15:01.870 --> 00:15:09.630 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This land belongs to no one but Mother Earth. She was here before us, and will endure after we are gone.
00:15:10.000 --> 00:15:22.750 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Let us walk gently upon this precious earth, taking only what we need, leaving little waste, nurturing the soul, revitalizing the land to sustain future generations.
00:15:23.500 --> 00:15:30.599 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This land we dwell upon today is the ancestral land of the Lanape people.
00:15:31.040 --> 00:15:46.070 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: We acknowledged their historical roots in this place. The many generations who were stewards of this land. We hear the echoes of their prayers to the great Mother earth, and seek to learn from their wisdom.
00:15:46.400 --> 00:15:56.600 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: We acknowledged the pain, the history of pain, disease, and bloodshed. The native peoples endured when they were colonized.
00:15:56.840 --> 00:16:08.869 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Though we can't reverse the course of history, we will not ignore it. Let us look history in the eye and accept its painful truth.
00:16:08.910 --> 00:16:14.250 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Let us honor the memory of those who died on this land whose sovereignty
00:16:14.290 --> 00:16:15.780 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: was lost.
00:16:15.930 --> 00:16:28.800 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Let us honor the native people who to this day keep their sacred traditions and culture alive, to seek, to reclaim, reassert, and revive their sovereignty.
00:16:30.480 --> 00:16:39.959 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: We commit to sustaining this earth, so it will continue to sustain us, our children and grandchildren,
00:16:40.010 --> 00:16:46.180 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: we commit to give more, and to take less from this fragile earth.
00:16:46.810 --> 00:16:48.539 And so it is.
00:16:49.070 --> 00:16:51.100 Oh, man, I'm in,
00:16:51.620 --> 00:16:56.450 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and we will now take a break as we honor Thanksgiving.
00:16:57.270 --> 00:17:01.729 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: When we come back we will dive into storytelling. What is
00:17:02.140 --> 00:17:09.810 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: what is gratitude with my guest, Jennifer Kaufman, on the edge of every day when we come back? Stay tuned.
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00:19:20.620 --> 00:19:34.019 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: on the edge of every day, and we are back with the glorious Jennifer Kaufman. But before we dive in I do want to give a plug a shout out for this incredible candle.
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00:20:11.140 --> 00:20:13.719 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Okay, my dear,
00:20:13.750 --> 00:20:15.479 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so let's dive in
00:20:15.660 --> 00:20:17.710 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: what is gratitude?
00:20:18.560 --> 00:20:19.690 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I know
00:20:20.180 --> 00:20:31.219 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: it can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people, and it depends. If it's sort of short term, or in a smaller way, it can mean happiness around
00:20:31.830 --> 00:20:49.000 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: a a gift or a you know something beautifully done for someone, but in a bigger way it's about. It's an attitude. It's a way of moving through the world. What? What's your definition of gratitude? So gratitude actually is a frequency
00:20:49.010 --> 00:20:59.260 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: two right? So gratitude has its own vibration to it. So gratitude for me means um a whole host of things. One is.
00:20:59.790 --> 00:21:15.130 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Gratitude shows appreciation either for something in the now moment, or something from a past experience or something that you want to invite in into the future that Hasn't manifested. Yet so gratitude can play very different roles.
00:21:15.140 --> 00:21:34.500 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: And but it is very much vibrational based. It's also very much attitude based. So So now you know. Here's the things under right. So I actually have received a gratitude award. Believe it or not. Um, of course you have um. I have. But here's the thing right? So here's the edge.
00:21:34.510 --> 00:21:36.550 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: How can you be grateful
00:21:36.760 --> 00:21:54.740 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: when bad things happen? How can you be grateful when you know you would just even connect to it. Yeah, how do you? How do you connect to it? And it's a very valid question, and I struggled with this. So here I am. I literally won an award for gratitude,
00:21:54.750 --> 00:21:58.209 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and then post bombings. I
00:21:58.470 --> 00:22:10.099 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I couldn't access it. I couldn't I couldn't access. What is it to be grateful for? I didn't wish this experience on myself nor anyone else. I couldn't access that,
00:22:10.270 --> 00:22:38.630 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and I had been literally studying and practicing gratitude for many, many years. I will plug over here, because Oprah and my mom actually two people that have inspired me to be grateful, even most importantly, to be grateful during challenging times. Now that can be really difficult. You know we live in a very um. You know we live in a world right now. That's going through so much adversity on every level.
00:22:38.640 --> 00:22:49.849 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Health, economics, um climate you name it. Every area of our world is dealing with adversity right now. So how can you be grateful?
00:22:49.900 --> 00:22:50.800 Yeah,
00:22:50.810 --> 00:23:16.260 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: how do you even plug into it? And and there's so much uh enjoyment of kind of poo-pooing gratitude as and and the snark of politics that you know. Uh, let's just be cruel and snarky, and and to you anything like forgiveness or kindness or gratitude right now. So I think There, there's
00:23:16.270 --> 00:23:17.349 there's such a
00:23:17.560 --> 00:23:21.289 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: a wave of that, and which is so,
00:23:21.470 --> 00:23:38.930 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: makes it difficult to reconnect to the gratitude. So how did you? How did you start to connect to it. It wasn't easy. It wasn't easy in the beginning. I would literally ask myself, What am I grateful for in this moment, you know, and nothing came
00:23:38.940 --> 00:23:55.820 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: nothing. All they came up was the hardship and the struggle, and the suffering and the pain that I was dealing with, and i'm like I I wasn't in the space to be grateful for that I wasn't in this space to accept it, and this is another distinguishing point,
00:23:56.030 --> 00:23:58.839 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: accepting what is we don't have to like it,
00:23:59.500 --> 00:24:07.240 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: but the more that we embrace it and accept it, the quicker we can transcend it. And I resisted it
00:24:07.450 --> 00:24:26.180 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and resisted it, and guess what it made my struggle, my suffering, my rising longer. It's why now I started my own show. It's why I started a movement called the Rise and thrive movement, because I want to actually lead
00:24:26.190 --> 00:24:39.790 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: mit Ctl. And people to understand that it doesn't have to be as difficult as I made it right well that that that really brings up my my opinion of, and what brings it into the higher vibration is the choice. One hundred and fifty
00:24:40.030 --> 00:24:55.200 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: is the constant willingness. What is the connection between gratitude and choice, and the constant choosing of that, rather than the lower vibrational resentment, or any of the above?
00:24:55.320 --> 00:25:01.849 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: You know that would be. My definition of of gratitude is that it's
00:25:02.270 --> 00:25:08.099 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: a choice to always connect to the magnificence of the gift
00:25:08.300 --> 00:25:27.329 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: of life. I mean, that's really the overarching. Yeah, I can be gratitude for a give gratitude for something that's been given to me, or a promotion, or a job, or this or that, or a a lovely bracelet. Um! And that's all glorious, but an but a way of being in the world when there's really
00:25:27.340 --> 00:25:40.280 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: mit ctl and trauma happening, and the stress of the times that we're in, or the bombings that you went through, that that is, that's really a choice that's really connecting to the the the vibration, one hundred and fifty,
00:25:40.670 --> 00:25:43.679 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and then, like the moment of the choice of gratitude,
00:25:43.920 --> 00:25:50.189 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I'd like to go deeper on choice, because it's a very place. Yes, very profound. Um,
00:25:50.570 --> 00:25:53.549 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: you know notion, because here's here's the thing.
00:25:53.820 --> 00:25:54.930 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Listen.
00:25:55.140 --> 00:26:10.440 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: The vast majority of people in the world will never live through. You know a terrorist attack, and thank God for that. Um so. But let's talk about what people are experiencing right now. Right? So let's talk about people experiencing financial hardship.
00:26:10.540 --> 00:26:32.320 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Some people are experiencing health issues. Some people are experiencing, you know, insecurity around their job and the future of their job or their business. For that matter right? We are facing, you know, increased, you know. Um inflation, you know e everything. Everything is literally coming at us, so to speak,
00:26:32.440 --> 00:26:41.379 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and the choice to actually look at it from the lens Of what if this were happening for me
00:26:41.450 --> 00:26:43.940 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and for my highest good,
00:26:45.420 --> 00:26:47.519 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: rather than
00:26:48.450 --> 00:27:05.339 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: the perspective of you know. Why is life so difficult? And why is life happening to me? And listen? We live in a world of polarity. We live in a world of contrast and expansion without contrast. We can't evolve.
00:27:05.660 --> 00:27:10.370 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Now, I would say, we're going through a lot of, you know constriction right now,
00:27:10.690 --> 00:27:13.420 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: like we're being squeezed. Yeah,
00:27:15.290 --> 00:27:19.929 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: So we come together, because here's the thing I can tell you. This.
00:27:19.940 --> 00:27:37.470 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I've been experiencing um edginess lately. Um some anxiety lately. I've even uh most recently had I woke up in the middle of night night with a mild panic attack. Now these are things I had in my younger years, and I battled with and struggled with, and
00:27:37.480 --> 00:27:50.149 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I have been anxiety and panic, you know. Panic, you know, free for a number of years. So of course my mind goes to. Oh, oh, something's wrong,
00:27:52.430 --> 00:28:03.869 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and and I liking it to. I have to pause and say, Well hold on a second. What is this? What's the gift in this. What it? What can I be grateful for, that? My body is making me aware of something,
00:28:04.310 --> 00:28:12.889 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and I liken it to like a dashboard of a car like there's an alerts happening that we're being asked to pay attention to.
00:28:12.970 --> 00:28:32.380 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Absolutely Well, i'm, but not Everybody wants to hear that what this is life. This challenge is happening for my highest good. That's you know. I agree with that fully, because that's how I live, too. But I think that there might be some steps prior to that before people can fully jump into the
00:28:32.780 --> 00:28:49.219 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Yes. As a matter of fact, this incredible, incredible challenge is happening for my highest good. But how, taking a step down, How do we connect to the gratitude? For instance, i'm what i'm thinking about
00:28:49.300 --> 00:28:50.360 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: is
00:28:50.440 --> 00:29:01.459 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: erez agmoni death. You know my own personal instance with um. A huge death was my mother's death, and this is how I counsel people. You know you don't have to be one
00:29:03.390 --> 00:29:14.679 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: mit ctl, and completely and utterly, always focused on the grief. You can also be focused on the gratitude for the relationship, the gratitude for the love that's shared so one.
00:29:14.850 --> 00:29:16.980 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So the step
00:29:17.550 --> 00:29:28.229 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in the step in finding the silver lining That's sort of the edge. That where I want to dive in, How are Where did you find your your way in there?
00:29:28.680 --> 00:29:31.999 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Um. Before you became more
00:29:32.450 --> 00:29:37.649 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I would say fluid with seeing, knowing that the challenge is also for your highest good.
00:29:37.820 --> 00:29:53.920 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Well, here's the thing, and I agree with you. I just didn't get there. Um! It was what I was faced with so much pain and so much trauma for my experience that I realized that the more I stayed in that
00:29:53.930 --> 00:30:00.710 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I literally got worse, it literally so out of sheer selfishness,
00:30:00.860 --> 00:30:10.299 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and I don't share like I want to get out of this hellhole in prison. That I find myself in and out of desperation
00:30:10.490 --> 00:30:16.379 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: is how I was like. What if this is my access? What if
00:30:16.560 --> 00:30:18.989 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Because I couldn't, I couldn't take on
00:30:19.100 --> 00:30:34.279 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: that bold statement I had to use into What if actually my meditation teacher said this to me, one of them, What if this were all happening for you in your highest good? And it was a gift, I remember being so angry,
00:30:34.990 --> 00:30:42.080 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: but she planted a seed. So then I started playing with it. Well, what if? Well, what what good could come from this situation
00:30:42.310 --> 00:30:44.129 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Over time
00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:59.480 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: my awareness shifted out of the pain cycle out of the trauma and and and drama cycle, and I started to become aware of innocent Um, of complete strangers
00:31:00.090 --> 00:31:06.020 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: sending cards of love and prayers, creating gifts.
00:31:06.120 --> 00:31:19.720 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: So we, you know. So here was this community that came together of complete strangers, seeing prayers for for the well being of all of us impacted. What if we were to do that for each other
00:31:19.960 --> 00:31:23.419 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: despite a horrific event? Yeah.
00:31:23.500 --> 00:31:41.440 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, we humans do do like our two by four is to wake us up. Um, yeah, we do. We do need that to wake ourselves up into some of the the better aspects of our lives. But we're going to have to take a break before we do. I have this beautiful quote
00:31:41.770 --> 00:31:51.939 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: that I love so much by Gilbert Chesterson, I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought,
00:31:52.430 --> 00:31:58.729 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: highest vibration, and that gratitude is happiness doubled.
00:31:58.920 --> 00:32:21.719 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I wonder, is that a great one? I love that? Well, we're going to continue this conversation. What is gratitude? How we can build it, how we can cultivate it. Then we're going to dive into podcasting, and how we got both got into podcasting when we come back with a glorious Jennifer Kaufman, on the edge of everyday stay tuned
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00:34:06.800 --> 00:34:08.739 chipping around,
00:34:08.780 --> 00:34:15.120 keep my brain to the ground. These are the days it never
00:34:16.080 --> 00:34:17.949 but for
00:34:18.920 --> 00:34:38.579 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: but on the edge of everyday kick my brain to the ground. Well, there's a seg into the brain, the brain science, the neuroscience of gratitude. And you know I i'm going to try to screen share a wonderful photo um
00:34:39.969 --> 00:34:41.100 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: of,
00:34:43.290 --> 00:34:51.109 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and we do. We see that? No, it didn't come up Here we go. Come, come back up it's lot I lost it.
00:34:52.980 --> 00:34:56.930 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Whoop-up of a screen sharing is paused.
00:34:57.770 --> 00:34:59.209 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh,
00:35:00.870 --> 00:35:02.290 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I understand.
00:35:03.100 --> 00:35:17.149 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I understand. I didn't let our fearless tech guru. Dylan know that I wanted to screen share It's okay. We don't need to see the the the photo. Um, i'm gonna dive in with just some information on um
00:35:18.550 --> 00:35:36.000 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: on what happens to the brain, and Jen feel free to dive in on this With me. Um! The areas of areas of the brain showing increased activity in the brain were the anterior cingulate cortex and
00:35:36.010 --> 00:35:46.979 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: medial prefrontal cortex. These are associated with moral and social cognition, reward, empathy and value. Judgment.
00:35:48.040 --> 00:36:00.369 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Gratitude also activates the hypothalamus as well with downstream effects on metabolism, stress, and various behaviors.
00:36:00.380 --> 00:36:16.360 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: The hypothalamus is located at the base of the brain and regulates hormones responsible for many critical functions, such as body temperature, emotional responses and survival functions, one hundred and fifty.
00:36:16.380 --> 00:36:25.249 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: One of the neurochemicals associated with the parts of the brain affected by gratitude is dopamine. And what is dopamine?
00:36:26.520 --> 00:36:28.329 The pleasure hormone.
00:36:29.260 --> 00:36:36.500 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Okay, you should be able to. I have you. Okay, Let me bring this up, and then, Jennifer, you can dive in with any other information.
00:36:36.510 --> 00:36:49.809 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Well, here's here's the thing in my own experience. Um. So at the times where I've been consistent with gratitude, and let's be clear. I've not been consistent with gratitude. Uh my gratitude. Practice over the years.
00:36:49.820 --> 00:37:14.030 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Um, it's interesting when I go through this. What I've noticed in my pattern is when things are going really well. I kind of get a little lax about my consistency and gratitude, and then, you know, and then, when the shit hits the fan, you know. I'm like oops, you know. I gotta get back to the gratitude. But here, here's Here's what i'd like in it to say right. It's kind of like exercise.
00:37:14.050 --> 00:37:36.869 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Okay, it it's like The The more consistent we are with it, the easier it is. And then what happens is that that neuroplasticity in our brain easily can get back into that frequency in the wavelength, and we it literally um calms down our body. So here's the thing. Words have vibration.
00:37:38.100 --> 00:37:50.789 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: So our inner thoughts have vibration. We don't even have to speak them out loud. But if you've got an inner critic that is judging you, criticizing you and putting you down, you absolutely,
00:37:51.460 --> 00:37:55.759 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: it would be who view to start a gratitude practice. And it can be super simple.
00:37:56.180 --> 00:37:58.929 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Three things that you are grateful for
00:37:59.530 --> 00:38:17.110 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: about yourself right? Because if you want to actually tame the inner critic, it's not about hey? I'm grateful that Sandra has me on her show tonight, and you know, although I am grateful, by the way, but it's like things like you know what i'm grateful
00:38:17.320 --> 00:38:35.359 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: that I have the courage to face my demons. I'm grateful that I have the courage to actually face my criticism and embrace it with love like and and and grow my self-compassion. What are some other ways that people disconnect
00:38:35.370 --> 00:38:41.690 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: from their gratitude that allow themselves to be disconnected. The inner critic is a huge one,
00:38:42.200 --> 00:39:00.649 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: so I think I think also life experiences right. It's like, you know. There's hardship and struggle happening, you know. Um, you know. Interesting. Just before getting on the show I was made aware of um a car crash went into an apple store and a big prominent um
00:39:00.660 --> 00:39:16.450 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: shop. You know shop about a half hour from where I live, and one person died, and seventeen people are fighting for their life, right, you know, like, you know, in here people just went off to go shopping and do Colorado, the the shootings. Yeah.
00:39:16.930 --> 00:39:24.989 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: So I just want to say this, you know, and I want to. I want to impress upon something you spoke about your mom.
00:39:25.090 --> 00:39:37.959 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: My Dad and I were estranged for nearly ten years. We got reconnected after nine eleven happened, and two and a half months later, three days after Christmas he died. Um in a tragic boating accident.
00:39:38.260 --> 00:39:46.600 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: He was fifty years old. Here's the thing we. Although we had started the process of reconciliation, we hadn't completed it,
00:39:46.970 --> 00:40:01.440 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and um looking back, you'd be very easy for me to be judgmental and critical. And frankly I was. I had to learn to shift into. I'm grateful. I had the courage to reach out when I did. Yeah,
00:40:02.480 --> 00:40:15.330 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I'm grateful for the time that we did spend together, and for what we were able to reconcile rather than what we didn't do. So that's the other piece here that's the other edges like, well, sure
00:40:15.930 --> 00:40:29.280 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: well, and I just think of the the entitlement that i'm seeing wildly all over. You know the the the sense of this is owed to me as if life owes me something.
00:40:29.770 --> 00:40:36.380 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: That's the number one thing that I'm witnessing right now, and I know that I can feel a little
00:40:36.410 --> 00:40:52.699 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: victimized sometimes by by that and victim. Hood is another absolute wall to gratitude, wallowing in blame and victimhood. You know I didn't get this because of
00:40:52.940 --> 00:41:11.700 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: well, one of my one of my mentors, Um, you know Bradshaw as many, many years ago had this statement called Blame excuses in denial. And if you actually um take the first letters of each of those words, it says bed. You can't get very far in life if you're in bed.
00:41:11.850 --> 00:41:14.120 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: That's
00:41:14.170 --> 00:41:22.979 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: the opposite is like living life above the line above victimhood, above that level of consciousness. Where you have,
00:41:22.990 --> 00:41:34.639 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: you take ownership for your life. You are accountable to yourself and to others. You take responsibility, and if you look at the first letter of those words. It's an or and with an or you can go anywhere
00:41:35.220 --> 00:41:38.160 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: that's sweet. That's a lovely metaphor
00:41:38.260 --> 00:41:53.380 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: exactly for people to remember. You have a choice. You want that, ed i'm on a river. I got my work Um, i'm in my boat, and I can float um,
00:41:53.860 --> 00:42:12.360 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so i'm thinking you know. Somebody uh said to me that they were gonna listen in and and and journaling, and they gratitude Journal. And I love that. And I remember I was given a gratitude journal a long time ago. Um, you know, when they were first coming out, and I thought they were so queer, and I ended up
00:42:12.530 --> 00:42:30.730 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: loving them. I ended up absolutely feeling it out, feeling it all, giving them as gifts. And you know again, there is the science out there that the the rewiring of the brain through
00:42:31.010 --> 00:42:35.779 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: journaling, gratitude, journaling, and and the
00:42:35.900 --> 00:42:54.699 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the growing of that muscle of being able to switch gears out of victimhood out of blame out of and grab onto that, or and to choose gratitude to make that choice that that constant work at focusing on what to be grateful for
00:42:54.710 --> 00:43:02.949 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: really strengthens that muscle. What other ways do you do? We feel are helpful in terms of growing our gratitude
00:43:03.650 --> 00:43:04.700 right
00:43:05.260 --> 00:43:23.110 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: for me. It's looking at. So I've had things taken away from me. So simple pleasures in life have been taken away from me, you know, at different stages, and so, being grateful for the air that we breathe being grateful for the glass of
00:43:23.430 --> 00:43:39.600 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: right. There are people in this world today which is shocking, giving our innovation and technology, but There are people in this world that Don't have clean water. There are people in this world that are actually not sure when they're going to get their next meal now,
00:43:39.900 --> 00:43:55.120 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and in guys, you know, and lady ladies and and guys don't take that for granted because I've been. I've been on the opposite end of that. And so now I you know I can be grateful for big things, but I can be grateful for the
00:43:55.130 --> 00:44:02.110 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: the simple things, the everyday things that we don't even that that I used to take for granted, and I sometimes still do frankly,
00:44:02.270 --> 00:44:03.370 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: totally
00:44:03.890 --> 00:44:06.449 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: totally and and
00:44:07.860 --> 00:44:17.689 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in just in terms of the self-compassion, growing the self-compassion, and taking a moment in the morning to really look in the mirror
00:44:17.830 --> 00:44:24.009 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and as you've done, with recognizing the courage to
00:44:24.400 --> 00:44:33.290 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: to make some choices to move forward, that we're uncomfortable to to look in the mirror with compassion, and find
00:44:33.870 --> 00:44:40.369 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: three things simple things, small things or large things to be grateful for
00:44:40.590 --> 00:44:47.220 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: yourself, and how you move in the world, and can have profound effects.
00:44:47.250 --> 00:45:00.859 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: I encourage the your listeners, you know. You know, given the fact that we're in Thanksgiving week, and we're leading up to the holidays. Take time. Start. Now. Start today. What are three things that you're grateful for about you
00:45:00.870 --> 00:45:23.359 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: right so, and then I would actually take that to the next level. Because then we're entering into the New Year, we're entering into Valentine love season. And What are the three things that you love about yourself? So I want you to up your challenge and and your edge, and go from gratitude to love about yourself before we have to go to break.
00:45:24.050 --> 00:45:41.769 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Wait! We missed celebration around Christmas gratitude. Celebration, indeed! Well, we didn't get to podcasting this round. We are definitely getting into podcasting and the leading edge that we are both facing. When we come back with Jennifer Kaufman, one hundred and fifty
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00:47:46.600 --> 00:47:50.909 www.TalkRadio.nyc: on the edge of our every day. And
00:47:51.150 --> 00:48:09.939 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: ah! Oh! Who is this? From what are some strategies for grounding yourselves? And remembering to have gratitude during times of distress. I've had a friend. Give me some great advice. Once he told me to stop and think of one thing I can hear.
00:48:09.950 --> 00:48:29.930 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: One thing I can see, and one thing I can feel. Oh, I love this um the rounding into the senses. That's a beautiful beautiful and a must for grounding um, and I see you've got You have an answer. Who is this? Do you know who who sent this in Dylan?
00:48:31.750 --> 00:48:33.639 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Shout out to
00:48:35.210 --> 00:48:48.150 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Oh, shout out to doing it's me I love it. Good Dylan. Well, here's here's the thing, Dylan. What I love about the you know. See here and feel
00:48:48.160 --> 00:49:01.600 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: is it literally? You're embodying it right. It's not a thought based or mental, based, You know, aspect of gratitude. It's literally you. You're looking at multiple senses. And when you do that you anchor in
00:49:01.730 --> 00:49:30.619 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: um the vibration of gratitude on a deeper level in my experience, and I perceive that you also start to build those neuro transmitters in even quicker way. I believe it accelerates people's ability to access it, and I like it to write it in a bike once, you know gratitude, and once. You know the practice, even though if you fall off, or you, you know, Haven't ridden the bike, or you haven't been practicing gratitude. You can pick it up as easily
00:49:30.630 --> 00:49:33.860 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: as you can get on a bike once you've learned it,
00:49:34.620 --> 00:49:37.760 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and it's simple. It actually doesn't take long,
00:49:37.910 --> 00:49:52.260 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and you know It's one of my go-to's when i'm stressed it's one of my go-to's when you know things turned out in in a different way than I thought they they would it's like, Okay, what can I be grateful for in this moment in this situation?
00:49:52.270 --> 00:50:02.860 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Right, you know. And and sometimes it takes a little bit to be patient with myself, and to be still, because I don't always get the answer. That's the thing as being still
00:50:03.940 --> 00:50:10.949 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and hearing the answer, and breathing deeply, and allowing everything to just calm.
00:50:11.470 --> 00:50:29.019 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Slow down. Yeah. Whole life. I've been told to slow down. I'm still learning, I know, and there's a part of me that doesn't want to slow down. But yes, I mean when your rhythm is sort of when you're not a turtle, and you're more of a horse. You want to keep that going. However, there's great
00:50:29.030 --> 00:50:47.359 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: wisdom, and that's slowing down it. And and and Dylan, you know Again, it's just really about that. It's really about taking the moment to have some, some deep breaths, and to to you know, to feel yourself where you are to be very present to where you are, and taking some deep breaths,
00:50:47.370 --> 00:50:51.890 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the power of breathe, slow breathing, and deep breathing.
00:50:52.370 --> 00:50:56.109 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I can't begin to tell you how that will change your life.
00:50:56.280 --> 00:51:16.059 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I cannot begin to tell you something as simple as connecting to your breath, putting your hand on your belly, and breathing deeply through your nose and out through your mouth. It is profound.
00:51:16.070 --> 00:51:30.700 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: And then, when you focus, you're literally connecting your your gut and your your heart and your brain. So you are literally connecting mind, body in spirit. In that moment, also, when you are breathing,
00:51:30.710 --> 00:51:38.500 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: just bring your awareness to bringing the breath all the way down to the soles of your feet and imagine that it's anchoring into the ground.
00:51:39.600 --> 00:51:44.690 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Okay, let's get into podcasting. So what what brought you to podcasting?
00:51:44.930 --> 00:51:56.190 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Um, I kind of went into podcasting. Like I go into anything. A little bit of kicking and screaming. I'm like Oh, one more thing. But then, why did you? That's amazing that. But how Did I not know that?
00:51:56.300 --> 00:52:06.569 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Um, I don't know why you didn't know that. So here's the thing I love conversation. I love talking to people I love, learning from people. I love all that.
00:52:06.840 --> 00:52:24.530 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: But it occurred like, Okay, that's one more thing that to do and to do it correctly requires consistency, and it requires a lot of dedication, and that's a lot of work, and it's a lot of commitment. Um, so it's a lot of time, and you know it's an investment. And
00:52:24.700 --> 00:52:25.979 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: um,
00:52:26.190 --> 00:52:34.319 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: you know, time is a a precious commodity to me, you know you just. We just never know when you know when our day comes, and so
00:52:34.490 --> 00:52:47.240 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: um as much as I love to interview, and I love to share people's wisdom. Um! For listeners. It was like again. It occurred like one more thing to do, and
00:52:47.450 --> 00:52:48.580 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and
00:52:48.600 --> 00:53:07.479 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: what shifted was I've seen your success Um, in your own show. I've witnessed your growth. I've witnessed your evolution, and I've witnessed the evolution of other podcasters, and I also realized that podcasting gives you um gives you a platform.
00:53:07.890 --> 00:53:14.890 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: You know that you can create from. And So I decided, Okay, if i'm going to do a podcast, what is it? I'm gonna What's the theme?
00:53:15.310 --> 00:53:34.259 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: And i'm like the themes go to juice me up, and it's got to be something that no one's really talking about. So like for you the edge of every day. Not a lot of people are talking about that, and that's why I love about your show and your message. And so for me it was. What came to me was thrive now
00:53:34.310 --> 00:53:36.970 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: because people aren't thriving now,
00:53:37.030 --> 00:53:49.930 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and they struggled to know how, and they struggled to know how. And I Haven't figured it all out by the way, which is all, And that's why we're on the planet, you know. Hopefully, we'll get better. But we'll never be perfect, and there's no such thing. But yeah,
00:53:50.060 --> 00:54:07.650 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: yeah, but this is. This is why I created it, and I got to tell you it. It. It has pushed me outside of my comfort zone, because I I kind of deal with this imposter syndrome. I'm like well, I haven't quite figured out thriving in all areas of my life on a consistent basis. Yet
00:54:07.660 --> 00:54:20.650 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and it's my deepest desire to break through it for myself and others. So why not host a show where I can be raw, real, and vulnerable, and bring guest on and say,
00:54:20.780 --> 00:54:38.109 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Okay, what's it gonna take for humanity to evolve so that we're all thriving in our own unique gifts and talents, and not trying to be like someone else, or the sameness like that, you know, thriving So I So what does thriving mean to you?
00:54:39.930 --> 00:54:41.779 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, um
00:54:41.850 --> 00:54:55.549 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: constantly growing constantly, being curious, constantly being willing to step deeply into my curiosity and embrace it, and staying present to change.
00:54:56.520 --> 00:54:58.850 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: And that is thriving,
00:54:59.180 --> 00:55:17.789 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: and that's brilliant. And here's the thing I would. It's kind of like our the start of our show. We your show. We talked about what is gratitude, but gratitude means to you is a little bit different than when it means to me. It's not right or wrong, or good or bad, it's like that's all tendrils of the same. Exactly
00:55:17.800 --> 00:55:26.930 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: So what if we could allow and embrace each other's humanity regardless of race, regardless of religion, regardless of where we live in the planet?
00:55:26.990 --> 00:55:27.830 Yeah,
00:55:29.890 --> 00:55:30.910 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: truly,
00:55:31.930 --> 00:55:33.049 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: truly.
00:55:33.100 --> 00:55:34.640 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Um!
00:55:35.220 --> 00:55:44.260 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, I it has been such a joy to step into this podcasting experience. For myself, I
00:55:46.120 --> 00:55:55.069 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I really just decided to do it, because I knew that Covid had called me forward to speak
00:55:55.110 --> 00:55:57.119 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: my voice in a bigger way,
00:55:57.310 --> 00:55:59.470 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I
00:56:00.150 --> 00:56:01.310 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I
00:56:01.610 --> 00:56:06.169 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I heard that call. I heard the polishing call of Covid,
00:56:06.500 --> 00:56:15.229 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I couldn't be on stage. So I decided that podcasting, which I knew nothing about would be a brilliant next step,
00:56:17.050 --> 00:56:18.589 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I dove in,
00:56:18.750 --> 00:56:32.670 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I like you love conversations. I have learned so much doing this podcast. I have had so much fun researching
00:56:32.740 --> 00:56:44.490 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and reading the books of my guests, and just diving into their wisdom and sharing that with my listeners. It's just been so expansive. So
00:56:44.740 --> 00:56:50.799 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: it that gets me through the the like. Oh, my God! The amount of research. Um!
00:56:51.060 --> 00:56:54.259 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: It really moves me, My! The joy of that,
00:56:54.400 --> 00:57:02.630 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the gratitude around all of that of that curiosity, and that knowledge gets me through some of the some of the other
00:57:03.640 --> 00:57:23.230 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: overwhelming aspects of podcasting. But but it's been it's been a great It's been great, and one of the highlights of the podcasting for me has been meeting you and befriending you and becoming good friends, and for our listeners, just to let you all know. Jennifer and I have been
00:57:23.950 --> 00:57:38.179 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: working on some projects together, so which you'll hear about in the future. Oh, but we only have one minute left. It's always the way way too much to say in these quick, quick hours
00:57:38.210 --> 00:57:52.320 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: before I dive into all of the things that I need to say. Closing Jennifer, I want to thank you so so much for being on the show, for speaking your wisdom and your truth, and sharing your warmth and your beauty. Thank you so much.
00:57:52.610 --> 00:58:11.040 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: Thank you, Sandra, I want to say I'm so grateful for you for your leadership, for your edge of every day, and you live it, you live your talk. I'm grateful for what you're doing for humanity. I'm grateful for your courage and your wisdom, and to keep being a stand
00:58:11.460 --> 00:58:20.730 Jennifer Kauffman | Rise and Thrive: that you know everybody has the opportunity to rise and thrive and and live their best life. And you, you literally are pioneer.
00:58:20.740 --> 00:58:40.279 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so I just want to say Thank you, and thank you for, uh, the opportunity to be on your show again. Thank you, my friend. It's been great, so we can find you at rise and thrive productionscom, and I'm going to remind everyone to go to my Youtube Channel and subscribe. Run, don't walk one hundred
00:58:40.290 --> 00:58:43.270 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Sandra bgeman on the edge of every day,
00:58:43.390 --> 00:58:47.760 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I am going to close out with my short
00:58:48.000 --> 00:58:49.870 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Chinook prayer.
00:58:52.250 --> 00:58:57.370 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: May all I say, and all, I think, be in harmony with Thee,
00:58:57.480 --> 00:59:01.640 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Spirit within me, Spirit beyond me,
00:59:01.840 --> 00:59:04.530 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Maker of the trees.
00:59:04.950 --> 00:59:16.859 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so it is. Thanks for listening in everyone. Remember, you are always at the edge of the miraculous until we speak again. Happy Thanksgiving.
00:59:17.150 --> 00:59:18.870 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Have a wonderful week,
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