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EPISODE SUMMARY:
Cindy is a rockstar of 'Can Do' energy, inspiring and guiding countless clients, fans and friends to connect with the truth, power + potency of their voice.
No stranger to exploring the rough edges of Life and pushing all the boundaries, Cindy is committed to educating people on chronic illness and pain, also known as invisible disabilities, and recently received the Invisible Disabilities Association’s Invisible No More Perseverance Award 2022
We'll talk about:
- The transformational power of storytelling
- How is your passion, including sexual, connected to finding Your Voice? Cindy shares the science behind this...
- Her new #StandingStrongSong (to which I contributed a handful of lyrics)
Cindy Ashton is an Award-Winning TV host, Singer/Actor, Keynote Performer, Speak From Your Power™ Trainer and Author of Liberate Your Voice: How to Trust Your Power In A World That Shuts You Down. Drawing from her extensive background working with Broadway Professionals, Emmy Winners, and Hollywood Celebrities, she is a master at showing her clients how to increase their sales, connection, and influence through the power of storytelling and their voice. Cindy has received awards from President Obama and Queen Elizabeth II for her lifetime of volunteerism and has been featured in multiple media, including ABC, Thrive Global, Inc. Magazine and Forbes.
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Sandra welcomes us to the 45th episode of The Edge of Everyday. This week, Sandra tells us that this will be a co interview with her guest, Cindy Ashton. Cindy is an Award-Winning TV host, Singer/Actor, Keynote Performer and Author of Liberate Your Voice: How to Trust Your Power In A World That Shuts You Down. She has also interviewed countless celebrities on the red carpet at the Oscars and has done a TED Talk as well called “How to Speak From Your Power With the Art of Liberessence.” Sandra talks about how they met. She gives credit to Sam Liebowitz. They met by the entrance of Central Park in NYC. She asks Cindy what identity she leads with. Cindy says that the identity she leads with or wants to lead with is the performer version of her. She believes that with her performer self is the best self she leads with because she's more connected to her soul, the audience, the person or people she's talking with, gets more curious, creative and engaged. But she mentions struggling to trust that identity. Cindy talks about creating connections through energy with things and people. Sandra also mentions what identity she leads with. Sandra reads an invocation she wrote in honor of Cindy.
Cindy shares her early memories of “performing” in front of her audience in her living room. She believes that this was what she was meant to do. She mentions how she was born with a 20 percent chance of living and structural damage on the left side of her body. She had to go through her first heart surgery at 11 days old. Cindy has overcome amazing obstacles and has been off of medication for over 30 years. She has been able to do the everyday tasks because of her resistance to limiting herself based on what doctors told her. As a teenager, she went to the library to learn about nutrition, health and heart problems. Cindy talks about going to the doctor every week to check on her heart and how she found out how she was still stable at every check up even after she stopped taking her medication by herself. Cindy mentions living with an invisible disability and the unfortunate challenges she faced being at the hospital for most of her adolescent years. This was where she realized that her voice didn't matter at the time. So she took it upon herself to learn the art, craft and science of getting your voice heard. She used her power to transform her chronic illness based on her research and learning. Cindy talks about receiving the Invisible Disabilities Association’s Invisible No More Perseverance Award 2022 enjoying getting the “attention and nourishment” she deserves because she knows that she is being recognized, heard, and it will impact the world in a greater way.
Cindy switches the conversation and asks Sandra about where her passion to get her voice heard started. Sandra jokes about “popping out of the womb with it.” She says that her mother told her that she marched into the kitchen one day at 3 or 4 years old with her hands in her hips saying that she was here on a mission. She has always been passionate about acting, music, singing, but also her energetic and spiritual understanding. Her passion stems from her desire to use all of her gifts in trying to make the world a better place. Cindy also talks about studying music and as a second major, she chose kinesiology. She only took this so she could figure out how to heal her body. She ended up doing a specialization in relaxation therapy. She started to make connections about our body and how stress affects body language but also energy and emotional intelligence, something that she emphasizes. She digs deep into nerves in our body and activating them in healthy ways that affects sexual energy as well. Sandra mentions women needing to get in touch with the power of their voice a lot more during these times, mentioning the importance of voting which is taking place this week.
Cindy talks about her new Standing Strong Song. This song is about bullying and discrimination. She always loved writing music and began at the age of 10. In 2006, she released “Butterfly” which she shared on Youtube. She talks about not having the courage in sharing her voice, her true self as a singer/songwriter. She mentions writing a song a few years ago after a terrible moment in her life. She came back to it in June. But between the shootings in the convenience store in Buffalo and the incident in Texas and the events in June with women’s rights and Roe v. Wade, it took her to a moment of deep sorrow, grief, anger and rage. Cindy decided to get back up and get her music out there. This was when she called Sandra to be a co lyricist. She mentions not being able to be on the same page with the producer she worked with. She used the power of her voice and was true to herself to produce the realest version of herself and her music. Sandra talks about why she chose to work with Cindy on the song and what it means to her. You can find Cindy Ashton at speakfromyourpower.com, cindyashton.com, or her cindyashtontickets.com. Before closing the show, Cindy shares the message of breathing into your body and trusting yourself. Sandra does a closing prayer.
00:00:15.410 --> 00:00:18.359 welcome everyone. I'm Sandra Bardman.
00:00:18.470 --> 00:00:29.429 A few years ago I wrote and performed a solo show called the Edge of every day, which was an exploration of the rough edges and contradictions we all face and grapple with
00:00:29.620 --> 00:00:47.029 the shows hit a nerve, and the relevance of the topic would only grow over time more than I could have foreseen. So here we are. It's a real talk with real people sharing stories and perspectives that spark provocative invitations to leap out of what's safe
00:00:47.040 --> 00:00:54.399 www.Talkradio.nyc: on the edge of every day. Thanks for listening.
00:00:54.460 --> 00:01:08.170 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Hello, everyone. We are live in the hive. Thank you for joining me on this, the forty fifth episode of the edge of every day here on talk, radio and Nyc.
00:01:08.180 --> 00:01:22.919 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And for those of you who have become my loyal listeners. Thank you so much for spending time with me and my guests. Our numbers keep growing, and I have you to thank. I couldn't do it without you two hundred and fifty.
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00:01:34.290 --> 00:01:46.139 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and if you're tuning in for the first time, welcome tonight, we are doing things a little bit differently, as we did with our anniversary episode last Monday on Halloween.
00:01:46.150 --> 00:01:56.290 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I usually highlight my guests completely, but tonight my awesome guest and I are doing a Co- interview with each other,
00:01:56.600 --> 00:02:02.319 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so please ask questions, shoot them into the chat, and we will do our best to answer them.
00:02:02.400 --> 00:02:20.029 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And of course I urge you to check out my past episodes with my inspiring guests. You can find them all on talk radio, dot Nyc. On your favorite podcast platforms and on my Youtube Channel again Sandra, Bargeman on the edge of every day.
00:02:20.850 --> 00:02:22.960 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So this show
00:02:23.540 --> 00:02:38.139 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: this show is about pushing boundaries and exploring rough edges through conversations, and shared stories with friends and colleagues. It's my hope that we can begin to understand our edges.
00:02:38.150 --> 00:02:44.780 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: What I mean by edges is those places where we are fearful,
00:02:44.890 --> 00:02:47.429 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: those places where we are
00:02:47.540 --> 00:02:59.079 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: resistant to change those places where paradoxes and contradictions live in our beliefs and in our understandings, both about ourselves and about the world around us
00:02:59.570 --> 00:03:06.139 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: listen. We live in edgy, tumultuous times, and people are complex.
00:03:06.220 --> 00:03:20.960 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: The more we recognize our own edges and get real about them, the more we can help others to do the same, and that, I fully believe can help to change the world. So thanks again for tuning in wet,
00:03:21.630 --> 00:03:26.670 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and without further ado, it is time to introduce our guest
00:03:26.700 --> 00:03:28.010 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: tonight.
00:03:28.750 --> 00:03:46.009 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Cindy Ashton is an award-winning Tv host, singer actor keynote performer, speaker from your power trainer, and author, of liberate your voice how to trust your power in a world that shuts you down
00:03:46.170 --> 00:03:56.350 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in two thousand and eighteen. Cindy won the tally award for social issues alongside Cbs news for her show. Cindy on Court.
00:03:56.380 --> 00:04:04.239 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: She has interviewed countless celebrities on the red carpet at the Oscars grammy parties, and more.
00:04:04.330 --> 00:04:14.150 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Sidney has given her Ted Talk. Speak from your power and the art of liborescence on stages across the country,
00:04:14.340 --> 00:04:33.039 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the drawing from her extensive background working with Broadway professionals, Emmy Winners and Hollywood celebrities. She is a master at showing her clients how to increase their sales, connection, and influence through the power of storytelling and their voice.
00:04:33.100 --> 00:04:52.180 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Cindy has received awards from President Obama and Queen Elizabeth Ii. For her lifetime of volunteerism and recently received the invisible disabilities, association's invisible no more perseverance award, two thousand and twenty-two.
00:04:52.370 --> 00:05:05.100 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Cindy has been featured in multiple media, including Abc. Cbs, Nbc Fox. Thrive global Ink Magazine and Forbes
00:05:05.270 --> 00:05:08.190 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Welcome, Cindy Ashton!
00:05:08.460 --> 00:05:09.940 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Hello,
00:05:10.350 --> 00:05:26.039 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So happy to be here. Oh, i'm so happy! You are always on the edge, my friend. I am so happy to have you on tonight. We are going to have fun.
00:05:26.050 --> 00:05:41.669 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, my God! You haven't fun, woman, totally. We're always having fun, I that's truly something that I associate with you, and that makes me so very, very, very happy to have fun. That is one of the one of my missions in life
00:05:41.680 --> 00:05:51.950 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: is to understand that life, even with its seriousness. You need to have more fun and humor and play. And you are the epitome of that, my friend.
00:05:53.070 --> 00:06:17.789 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Wow, Play play, as you know, opens up portals to creativity and possibility and stress, relief and orgasm. And we might talk about our cousins later, totally. It opens up parts of the brain that that really the the frontal global parts of the brain that are all about creativity and solving problems at a new level and global consciousness. Indeed,
00:06:18.230 --> 00:06:35.129 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: so I always like to share how I know my friends or colleagues have on the show, and we have Sam Leibowitz, the fearless leader of talk radio, Dot Nyc. To thank for our introduction. Thank you, Sam. Thank you, Sam. I remember sitting out, and we met at one hundred and one
00:06:35.480 --> 00:06:49.060 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Central Park Central Park right? Right? The entrance. Yeah. And we sat right on that edge and on the edge. It was on the edge. It was every day the lunch and fell in love.
00:06:49.150 --> 00:06:57.100 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I did. You're so. Not my type in some ways, but I still felt in love with your soul.
00:06:57.110 --> 00:07:25.790 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: She's a sister. I know her. I'm happy indeed! So I have a fun question that was asked of me recently, and I also heard it on another podcast, and I was intrigued both times. I've asked some of my former guests this, but not all of them but you. I totally am excited to ask this question. Someone who who wears many hats like myself. Oh, Yes, um, and and and and
00:07:25.800 --> 00:07:34.409 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: finds many ways to bridge them, to balance them, to connect them. So tell me, what identity
00:07:34.430 --> 00:07:36.400 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: do you lead with
00:07:39.200 --> 00:07:50.999 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: the identity that I lead with, but I often that I want to be leading with. But I have betrayed many times in my life is the performer, me,
00:07:52.870 --> 00:08:11.769 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and the reason why I I believe that that is my best self that I lead with is because when i'm truly in my Performer self, i'm connected to my soul. I'm connected to the audience. I'm. I'm. Connected to the person or people i'm talking with, I am creative. I am curious.
00:08:11.780 --> 00:08:13.610 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I am engaged
00:08:13.760 --> 00:08:17.020 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So that's my ideal that i'd like to
00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:22.330 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: connect with and lead with in terms of
00:08:22.710 --> 00:08:25.150 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: that identity.
00:08:25.380 --> 00:08:30.730 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: But it's been. It's been a struggle, if trusting that identity.
00:08:31.730 --> 00:08:44.120 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Ah, there's the word trusting because I i'm at self trust. Damn it! Well, because I would say that you lead you definitely. Um.
00:08:44.400 --> 00:09:03.650 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I mean you connect with people, no matter what you're doing. Um! It's just, you know, no matter how you are working with clients working on stage, giving keynotes whatever you are connecting with the audience. Perhaps it's just, you know. I get this the sole call to want to perform into,
00:09:03.660 --> 00:09:13.299 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: to inspire through that kind of storytelling and the identity, the understanding of identity really plays into that whole
00:09:13.700 --> 00:09:22.570 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: storytelling aspect. What! What, what story am I telling about myself, and what what story am I sharing with the people I'm communing with.
00:09:23.010 --> 00:09:34.690 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So it's interesting, because now that you have spoken your divine truth of this, I think, which is partially from Sandra, and partially from the Divine coming through you, because that's you is that my identity is connection.
00:09:35.200 --> 00:09:36.370 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Hmm.
00:09:36.530 --> 00:09:41.010 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Because I I don't betray myself. I'm either connected or I'm. Not right.
00:09:41.180 --> 00:09:45.160 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So that's
00:09:45.580 --> 00:10:09.369 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: not that I connect people, but the way, but the energy of connection and creating connection, whether it's with an audience or here to with you or my plants, who I sing to all the time Carol Chloe and Susie J. Name after my two sisters. Um, you know I'm always connecting. I mean, i'll be. I'll be in Trader Joe's and i'm and i'm like connecting with a shopping cart
00:10:09.380 --> 00:10:21.779 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: like like I'm like Oh, this is what They' like. I'm. Always feeling into connection of everything. So there you go. So thank you for helping me clarify that the performer is part of that. But I but my!
00:10:24.180 --> 00:10:25.230 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, oh,
00:10:25.940 --> 00:10:27.280 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: we froze!
00:10:28.030 --> 00:10:29.300 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, no!
00:10:31.700 --> 00:10:33.230 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Hello!
00:10:35.770 --> 00:10:42.079 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Hello! Hello! Oh, no! Our girl she has frozen. Am I, Dylan?
00:10:42.670 --> 00:10:44.519 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Can you hear me? Dylan?
00:10:46.150 --> 00:10:50.259 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Cindy has frozen. Cindy, are you there
00:10:51.270 --> 00:10:54.090 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and hang on folks? We're going to be back
00:10:54.250 --> 00:10:57.840 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Um, dylan, is it me?
00:10:58.120 --> 00:10:59.560 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I don't feel like
00:10:59.720 --> 00:11:02.359 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Dylan. Are you there, please,
00:11:03.120 --> 00:11:04.240 Dylan,
00:11:05.130 --> 00:11:06.550 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Where are you
00:11:06.860 --> 00:11:07.900 there?
00:11:10.000 --> 00:11:11.020 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Hmm.
00:11:12.640 --> 00:11:19.730 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: She froze. Yes, she did. She'll come back in So while we're waiting for you to jump back in.
00:11:19.890 --> 00:11:24.250 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, she's back There she is. My, my, my
00:11:25.160 --> 00:11:26.040 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Nope,
00:11:27.820 --> 00:11:31.020 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: she's froze again. Hmm.
00:11:32.820 --> 00:11:38.359 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Okay. So we are. I'm going to talk a little bit about the identity that I lead with
00:11:38.810 --> 00:11:52.960 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: um. You know that that I know Cindy wanted to ask me about. I'm back You are back. So So, my Internet. Even though i'm plugged into the Ethernet decides to do its thing of its own. So
00:11:53.190 --> 00:12:01.290 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: the question I asked you which which you didn't hear because my Internet decided to go. I was what I did. Do you lead with Ms. Sandra?
00:12:01.760 --> 00:12:09.429 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, you know it's funny when I I've I've very sassily said that I I lead with the comedian
00:12:09.820 --> 00:12:20.739 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: um, and and, as you know, as we opened up with humor and playfulness, and and I think I use that a bit to um
00:12:23.140 --> 00:12:31.620 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: to protect myself. It can be disarming, and it can be powerful that way, but it can also um
00:12:33.010 --> 00:12:39.549 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: be away for me to hide and not be in my power because I can be. I can be a big presence,
00:12:39.580 --> 00:12:46.209 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and and I think that that was uh, as young people often learn, they can use
00:12:46.550 --> 00:12:48.949 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: comedy as a way of
00:12:49.380 --> 00:12:50.619 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: as a mask,
00:12:51.180 --> 00:12:59.840 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I wouldn't say that I use it all the time as a mass, but sometimes but I think really what I lead with into your discovery.
00:13:00.570 --> 00:13:01.880 Yeah,
00:13:01.930 --> 00:13:03.550 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: is Presence
00:13:03.600 --> 00:13:23.330 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: is is really the presence to I. I could say my spirituality a spiritual leader. But I think it's. It's deeper than that. It's a presence with the divine. It's a present like you have expressed with others, and with that communion with others,
00:13:23.340 --> 00:13:24.740 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and
00:13:25.430 --> 00:13:27.260 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: you know I
00:13:29.350 --> 00:13:46.849 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: my understanding about that, and wanting to weave that into more into this show was what prompted me um to desire to weave some ritual into each of my episodes. I was just on a um
00:13:46.860 --> 00:13:56.710 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: a podcast to amplify you with Michelle Abraham, who is a big name in the podcasting community, and I was telling her that I
00:13:56.820 --> 00:14:14.890 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I had heard her speak in a networking group that we are both in, and she's was talking about recalibrating every now and then your podcast, and it felt that landed her, saying that landed on me at a time when I was already doing that I was already thinking about. How do I want to update this?
00:14:14.900 --> 00:14:32.229 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This um podcast, not only for my listeners, but for myself and ritual Um, adding that ritual into the podcast was what made the biggest sense to weave more of my spirit into it, because
00:14:32.240 --> 00:14:36.159 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I see these conversations as transformational,
00:14:36.260 --> 00:14:38.150 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I see ritual
00:14:38.280 --> 00:14:40.440 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: as transformational,
00:14:40.500 --> 00:14:54.459 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and the edge the understanding of the the dance of the opposites, the balancing of the opposites. I get the vision of the yin-yong symbol, and that dancing of
00:14:54.480 --> 00:15:07.519 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: of opposites and paradoxes and polarizations, and that can be a very liminal space of not knowing much like the ritual space of not knowing much like the ritual space of not knowing
00:15:07.570 --> 00:15:08.830 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: um.
00:15:08.860 --> 00:15:11.430 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So i'm going to
00:15:12.110 --> 00:15:14.150 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: before we go on to break.
00:15:14.290 --> 00:15:16.920 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I am going to open
00:15:18.480 --> 00:15:22.310 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the circle of this conversation with a
00:15:22.860 --> 00:15:25.700 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: a beautiful opening and vacation,
00:15:26.070 --> 00:15:27.930 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I'm going to light a candle.
00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:35.899 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And I've written this in honor of you, Cindy Ashton, and our our work with finding the power of our voices
00:15:37.850 --> 00:15:39.600 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: mystery of life.
00:15:39.990 --> 00:15:47.490 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: You who are as vast as the universe, and you who are as personal as a heartbeat,
00:15:48.100 --> 00:15:53.199 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: help me always to speak the truth quietly
00:15:53.460 --> 00:15:57.170 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: to with an open mind when others speak,
00:15:57.430 --> 00:16:02.510 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and to remember the piece that may be found in
00:16:03.400 --> 00:16:07.230 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the wisdom of the universe is truth,
00:16:07.450 --> 00:16:11.490 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and this wisdom and truth flows through me.
00:16:12.150 --> 00:16:16.439 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Help me to be a person of truth in all that I do,
00:16:16.540 --> 00:16:18.500 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and in all that I say,
00:16:19.400 --> 00:16:30.449 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: open the gate of consciousness through the beauty and power of our voices, and allow each of us to be seen
00:16:30.500 --> 00:16:33.399 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and heard more fully.
00:16:34.620 --> 00:16:37.599 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And So it is,
00:16:38.050 --> 00:16:41.610 and I will light this candle before we go to break.
00:16:48.710 --> 00:17:05.909 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so it is, and when we come back from our break we will dive into the transformational power of storytelling with my incredible guest, Cindy Ashton. Stay tuned on the edge of every day.
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00:19:20.450 --> 00:19:26.239 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and we are back with Cindy Ashton. Speak from your power.
00:19:26.350 --> 00:19:42.020 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So now we're going to dive into the transformational power of storytelling, which is always a big, fat, favorite topic of mine, and it's really at the heart of all of the work that both you and I do, Cindy.
00:19:42.030 --> 00:19:51.980 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So you have a phenomenal phenomenal story about how you came into the world, and how you connected to your
00:19:52.730 --> 00:20:00.890 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: your voice and your desire to strengthen your voice. Can you share that story with us? Absolutely
00:20:01.080 --> 00:20:14.940 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: so? I always joke around that I was swimming in my mother's belly, and I was doing like torrels and jazz hands, and I mean, my mom said that when she was pregnant she's like this baby is kicking like crazy. She's like. What is this kid going to be? I was like It's him to get out and dance,
00:20:14.950 --> 00:20:32.990 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and um! My earliest memories were me putting on sequins, you know, back in the Madonna days, putting on the sequence and then going to the record player. All the young ones are going. What's a record player? And uh playing, you know a Holland ready, and and I would put the I would dim the license. I love it.
00:20:33.290 --> 00:20:39.959 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Uh well guess what I was singing right. I didn't like it right. I was stim the lights in the living room,
00:20:39.970 --> 00:21:03.990 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and I was, you know, perform for my audience of millions. My imaginary audience. So I always people don't. Oh, I have you I What is? What did you decide to form? I'm like uh it wasn't a choice um. So for me performing and getting my voice heard was always always part of what I was supposed to do on this planet,
00:21:04.000 --> 00:21:10.659 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and, as you know, and some of the people watching who have heard me speak before my body had other plans for me.
00:21:10.800 --> 00:21:37.750 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Um! I had. I was born with a twenty percent chance of living heart failure and structural damage on the left side of my body, which meant that I had cast on my legs as a toddler, and hopes that my legs would grow up, and that I might be able to walk, let alone go on to dance, and I had to have speech therapy to learn how to speak hopefully. Speak, let alone sing, and I have my first surgery when I was eleven days old, and then two more surgeries at five and fourteen,
00:21:37.760 --> 00:21:58.189 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and the doctors set up fourteen years old. Well, you know, Cindy, we've saved your life, but you're gonna need a fourth heart surgery. Uh, It's been thirty something years, and still no fourth heart surgery. They said i'd be on medication for life. And that's a crazy story how I got myself off of medication, but I've been off medication for over thirty years.
00:21:58.200 --> 00:22:00.719 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, that's incredible!
00:22:00.770 --> 00:22:04.239 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Oh, I I I I I I did not know that.
00:22:04.260 --> 00:22:18.179 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Oh, okay. So here's the crazy story, you know. Thirteen, fourteen. Can those fourteen? You know how we define a bitches at that age i'm still defiant pitch, but a rebellion in hot.
00:22:18.190 --> 00:22:48.179 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I'm a rebellion at heart, so they tell me that I you don't have to take. You know don't do more than walking, because it's going to be strenuous for your heart. You know all this laundry list of what I couldn't do. Don't do more than general courses. Don't. Do you know, don't go to University? Just have a nice easy life, and i'm like, Okay, So that's where I was fourteen. I was a bitchy fourteen teenagers who was like, Oh, yeah, you telling me it's so. I remember like as much as I hate libraries, and it's I love knowledge. But I
00:22:48.190 --> 00:23:04.040 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: they hate libraries or stuffy, and I feel like I'm going to choke when the lights drive me crazy. But I would go every single day after school, and I would read every single book around nutrition and health and heart problems and everything I possibly could to educate myself, and I was going at the time for weekly
00:23:04.270 --> 00:23:23.670 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: hospital visits to get my weekly testing, and I started getting curious, or just, you know, Nosy and i'd be like. So what does that number mean? And what is a normal person's number should be? And what's my baseline? And I was asking all these questions, and then I I didn't realize what it. I didn't know What intuitive was at the time
00:23:23.680 --> 00:23:35.909 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: didn't know, but I intuitively just ask myself, well, if I take four pills a day, and i'm stable right now. If I knock it down to three and a half pills a day, would I or my body adjust?
00:23:35.920 --> 00:23:49.420 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So I would I knock it down to three and a half, and every week I go in. I'm like what's my numbers? I'm like. Oh, i'm still stable. So a month or two later. I'm like I'm gonna knock it down to three pills. So I did this for about a year. Never told the doctors ever told my parents.
00:23:49.610 --> 00:23:54.109 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And then one day I was like, Hey! That's why I've been off medication for a month,
00:23:54.230 --> 00:24:03.700 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and I've been off medication every my body just so it has been. It is so. So. The challenge with living with an invisible disability.
00:24:04.300 --> 00:24:13.349 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Um is that people can't see it, and if they can't see it. They don't believe you. Um,
00:24:13.430 --> 00:24:18.269 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So I There's so many stories I have, and just to kind of highlight, a couple of stories
00:24:18.750 --> 00:24:22.190 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: being in a hospital in and out throughout my childhood.
00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:41.100 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Literally, I would have a doctor looking at an echo cardiogram with all his, you know five, and unfortunately i'm saying him, because there was really not as many females back then in the medical profession getting better. Um, literally. Residents students poking at me.
00:24:41.110 --> 00:24:43.299 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: We literally look at the screen ago.
00:24:43.520 --> 00:25:04.220 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Oh, you see, somebody right here. Somebody died of that last week, and i'm like you fucker i'm sitting right here. I am lying right here right, or it would be like I really don't want all the residents to touch me. Well, you don't have a choice. I'm like, Wow! Is that shit still going on, because can we talk about consent? That's a whole other episode. Um! So I learned very early on that my voice didn't matter,
00:25:04.540 --> 00:25:07.840 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and I wasn't important, and
00:25:08.390 --> 00:25:36.930 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: it has been a lifetime of trying to advocate for myself, and so I took it upon myself as usual. Um, to take spend my entire life, studying everything to do with the art and the craft and the science of getting your voice heard. It's fantastic, this passion to know all of the tendrils, all of the whole story of this, and to transform
00:25:36.940 --> 00:25:38.160 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the story.
00:25:38.210 --> 00:25:39.250 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Right?
00:25:39.290 --> 00:25:59.210 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So So this really is getting getting your voice heard, getting the public's voice heard, This is personal for me. It's personal, and it's been a lifelong mission, and I continue to study and continue to learn, and and I have continue to reverse all my health stuff and my integrative medicine, Doctor and I had a conversation last year, and she's like.
00:25:59.220 --> 00:26:09.700 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Have you thought about doing a documentary on your story, because I have all the scientific data to show how you have literally created miracles in your body, and it doesn't make any sense. And I said,
00:26:09.850 --> 00:26:16.550 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I think I should do a documentary, so that I can explain to people all my research and what I've done, because
00:26:17.050 --> 00:26:36.929 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: chronic illness is real, but it can for some people, because i'm not going to say for everybody. But there are things that can be done, but people don't know about the mug, just about my whole freaking life researching
00:26:36.940 --> 00:27:02.029 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: those listening in. I was telling Cindy just basically overall some of the thing directions. I wanted to take our conversation in. And Cindy, you know she had this really powerful thing that she said. You know that that I I want you to please repeat Cindy, because I think it really it is a big portion of the power transformation transformational power of storytelling,
00:27:02.040 --> 00:27:10.039 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: please. Yeah. And this is really important, because this is being my big Aha! That I have completely freed myself from in the last couple of weeks. It's my big thing i'm very proud of.
00:27:10.150 --> 00:27:27.969 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So when you grow up, not being seen and heard and disregarded. You fight to get your voice heard, regardless of what situation you are. But what happens is is that when you start to get your voice heard and you get attention, then you get addicted to that attention, and
00:27:27.980 --> 00:27:42.249 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: you know when I won the invisibility, you know, just invisible disabilities, and visible no more award. I was very honored, and I was like. Finally, i'm being recognized for my lifetime of work on this,
00:27:42.260 --> 00:27:49.019 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: but what I've been really unraveling in the last couple of years, and I wasn't able to name it in some of last week or two,
00:27:49.320 --> 00:27:52.219 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: was the fact that
00:27:53.050 --> 00:27:58.130 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I get off. We're going to use that word because we're talking about. We're going to use that word.
00:27:58.190 --> 00:28:00.200 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I get off
00:28:00.830 --> 00:28:15.059 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: on the attention and the nourishment that I get, and I was like no, not me more. I'm done get any attention in our estimate I need, because i'm now being seen and heard for being invisibly disabled.
00:28:15.070 --> 00:28:22.129 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I am far more excited about getting the attention and nourishment that I need, because we all need attention and nourishment.
00:28:22.440 --> 00:28:41.469 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I am far more excited to do that in a way that will impact the world in a greater way, which means we'll talk about our song together later, which is more of my music going out in the world, more of my acting going out in the world, more of you working with amazing clients. So that's a big Aha! What are we all addicted to that?
00:28:41.480 --> 00:28:55.560 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: That is not freeing us? And what is it that it's giving us that we can turn into a positive
00:28:55.600 --> 00:29:03.200 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: storytelling that genuinely uplifts and transforms or
00:29:03.960 --> 00:29:22.990 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and understanding the story that restricts ourselves, we can begin, and it could be possibly the same story at different times in our lives, that if we have, we've cling to something that no longer serves us, it restricts us energetically one hundred and fifty,
00:29:23.000 --> 00:29:28.879 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and and and doesn't really tell our true story, but we cling to it for reasons like,
00:29:28.930 --> 00:29:40.639 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: uh, it gives us the energy, the addictive energy that we so desire.
00:29:40.650 --> 00:29:57.340 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: For years people have said finally, Somebody is talking about this because we still don't talk about enough in our society. So for me it really was that I was impacting a lot of lives, but it was at the cost of me, and so I will still advocate for this cause, but I don't know what it's going to look like in this may not lead with that identity.
00:29:57.350 --> 00:30:09.620 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I don't leave with that identity. There you go back to that Exactly. All right, So we're going to take a break now, and when we come back with our luscious Cindy Ashton, we are going to talk about
00:30:09.720 --> 00:30:21.249 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: passion and the connection to our voice and to standing strong song when we come back with Cindy Ashton on the edge of every day. Stay tuned.
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00:32:18.570 --> 00:32:33.250 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: on the edge of every day with Cindy Ashton, and we are back talking about passion, and it's connection to finding our voice sharing our truth, speaking our truth to power.
00:32:33.300 --> 00:32:34.420 Yes,
00:32:34.990 --> 00:32:36.380 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: so, Sandra,
00:32:36.430 --> 00:32:55.530 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: you heard my passion for voice. Where does your? And one of the things that I love about you is that your voice gets heard on so many levels as an interface minister, bringing couples together for their marriages, counseling people as a presentation trainer. As an artist
00:32:55.750 --> 00:33:02.800 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: you have an extraordinary voice. Where did this? Where does your passion to get your voice heard. Start.
00:33:04.510 --> 00:33:09.860 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I well, I like you. I popped out of the room with it. I mean, you know,
00:33:09.870 --> 00:33:31.150 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: one of my favorite, one of my favorite stories to tell. Apparently you know my mother told me this, and I I shared it in the edge of every day, and I share it uh many times when I'm asked, is apparently according to my mother, I marched into the kitchen somewhere around the age, three or four, with my hands on my hips, and I told my mother that I was here on a mission.
00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:34.899 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Of course you did, and um,
00:33:35.150 --> 00:33:49.759 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and I think you know, if you had asked me what my passion was when I was in college or high school, uh, or my early twenties, I would have said as an actor as a performer, as a singer, as a voice over artist. Uh, but
00:33:50.500 --> 00:34:11.060 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: that wasn't my only passion. I was also equally as passionate about all of my psychic understanding, all of my energetic understanding, all of my spiritual understandings and internal in in Qu, in in inquiring, and all of the exploration of that as well
00:34:11.070 --> 00:34:21.050 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: from an early age. I was a little kid in the corner with the antenna that could read the energy and see the energy. So I think my passion
00:34:21.860 --> 00:34:24.009 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: stems from um.
00:34:26.040 --> 00:34:45.109 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Truly a desire to use all of the gifts, and I have many, and i'm very grateful to use those in service to the world in trying to make the world a better place, and throughout my life I've connected to these ways, and it's
00:34:45.170 --> 00:35:04.550 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: finally in the last ten years. Well, finally, you know it's been fine. It's called a lifetime. It's a journey I've I've brought together all of these different hats, and all of these different tendrils and and woven them into one tapestry. So it doesn't feel as though
00:35:04.560 --> 00:35:05.740 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I i'm
00:35:05.810 --> 00:35:14.880 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: it all feels like the same work. It is me sharing my voice in the world. You know I have a great story. When I was in um
00:35:15.170 --> 00:35:16.430 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Seminary,
00:35:17.170 --> 00:35:23.500 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: my second year of seminary we had to do. We had to give um twenty minute sermons,
00:35:23.750 --> 00:35:39.230 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and you know, and and as somebody I I it could be anything. And of course i'm not a part of, or to organize religion. So you know mine's going to be on what it's going to be on. But anyway, there there was somebody in the class. Um what it is the one of the quietest um
00:35:39.240 --> 00:35:53.140 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: uh members that I went to seminary with was the woman who put her hand up and went first to give her ser sermon first, and I was like, Oh, go, girl! And she got up and
00:35:54.270 --> 00:36:23.629 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: went on to give this extraordinary conversation a A all of us were weeping. It was so engaging, so she was alive with her wisdom, with what she wanted to share. Her storytelling was extraordinary, and I went up afterwards, and I can hug her and congratulated her, and she was at all coming from you. That's that's such high praise, you know, because you're and I'm like i'm like, Yes, you're right. I'm very comfortable on stage. I'm very comfortable,
00:36:23.810 --> 00:36:28.879 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: but this is not uh-uh! But what you did is not what I do.
00:36:29.070 --> 00:36:31.859 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: You spoke your truth
00:36:31.890 --> 00:36:40.009 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: with your voice. I can hide behind a character or a script
00:36:40.110 --> 00:36:41.990 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: or a costume.
00:36:42.100 --> 00:36:44.220 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: It's not my voice
00:36:44.530 --> 00:36:49.959 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: that I've been sharing out in the world in a big way, and that was a turning point for me.
00:36:50.780 --> 00:37:04.520 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Wow, that's a huge insight
00:37:04.590 --> 00:37:14.260 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: communication. And being out in the world. My, Yeah. So you needed really needed. And that's I can see that in you part of your rebellion that you had to work through that.
00:37:14.300 --> 00:37:18.950 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And interesting same with me, not for my mother from my father.
00:37:19.170 --> 00:37:21.999 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: There is a whole fricking car load of them
00:37:22.130 --> 00:37:28.560 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: everybody India, I mean. People think i'm immigrants to the us for my career.
00:37:28.570 --> 00:37:45.429 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I just had to escape. I had to be somewhere where I can feel seen and heard, and I didn't know if it would be here or not. But divine guidance brought me here, and I've had a remarkable career here. American audiences love me compared to Canadian ons audiences. Now that i'm successful Canadian on this seem to like me now. But
00:37:45.600 --> 00:38:02.000 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: yeah, Ken is a great country, but I felt completely rejected by the theater community, by my family by like I just had to escape. I I would have not been still here if I was still there. I needed to get out of there and be somewhere where I could be seen it. And I'm:
00:38:02.440 --> 00:38:03.620 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: I'm: here.
00:38:03.710 --> 00:38:04.649 Yeah,
00:38:05.080 --> 00:38:06.729 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: spreading your light.
00:38:07.620 --> 00:38:23.989 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: This little lot of mine. Indeed. Indeed. So okay. Let's swing around. Let's we back to passion and sex, and it's connection to, because we got a touch on this
00:38:24.020 --> 00:38:42.210 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: alright, So let's talk science. So I did a degree in kinesiology. My mind kinesiology of all things. I love it right. So when I went to university I got in for music, which is a whole crazy story, but that's for another show. Um! And i'm like, What am I going to do for my second Major? And as I was flipping through, i'm like what's kinesiology?
00:38:42.220 --> 00:39:11.180 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And i'm like It's a study of the human body, and i'm like this is what I go to. Libraries every fricking day to do. Is, figure out how to heal my body. So I took that degree so that I could dissect bodies and analyze P. And draw blood, and do all these things, I mean it was premed. Really, all I have to do is, and I had almost three days. So if I did two chemistry courses, it took the M. Cat. I can get it in. Met school just saying Um, but it's so interesting because I had only taken this just so that I could he continue to figure out how to heal my body?
00:39:11.190 --> 00:39:15.279 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: What I ended up doing is specialization in relaxation therapy.
00:39:15.620 --> 00:39:23.570 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And while it was supposed to be for me only it has informed my work as a speak from your power trainer,
00:39:23.810 --> 00:39:43.720 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and in ways that is beyond there beyond beyond beyond. Because what I what I start to notice over time, because I started teaching voice and piano, and then moved to, you know, speaking, and then executives and blah blah blah, but was really fascinating is that I would start to notice, because of my relaxation, therapy degree
00:39:44.330 --> 00:39:48.280 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: correlations between stress patterns in people's body
00:39:48.290 --> 00:40:18.270 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: with specific traumas, with specific ways that it showed up in their body language and their speaking voice. So when people say to me, Well, I've already had speaking training. I'm like, Yeah, but you could do everything you're telling you, and you're still going to come across badly because of what's happening with your stress patterns. So the most perfect presenter who has everything choreographed, and they have great speech, could still come across badly and turn people off and lose sales because of the stress patterns in the body, and how it affects voice, body, language,
00:40:18.280 --> 00:40:37.429 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and energy. And I started, and I have over the years documented specific traumas to what specific voice issues to specific. And one day i'm going to hire a research company to go and take this and substantiate this before I die. You need to. Are you familiar with the work of Carolyn Mace, who's in medical intuitive?
00:40:37.440 --> 00:41:07.420 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So I've I've I've seen her speak years ago, and I was impressed with her. But I haven't read anything lately, but maybe this is along those lines that that Meta, that I gotta give her some of my research and say, go, do this and give me credit, because because truly right, so it's about being connected to the to the body. And over time I started to make connections that, were. We were not taught in school, but i'm like, Wait a second. We've got our Celiac nurse which other people know as the second brain or your solar plexes, which is an inch or two below your belly,
00:41:07.430 --> 00:41:14.150 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and i'm like this is your emotional brain, as as i'm helping my clients to breathe and release the stress by doing.
00:41:14.160 --> 00:41:44.149 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Ha! Ha! I'm realized. I realize that I'm actually raising their sexual energy. I'm releasing oxytocin, but also by learning how to breathe. There, and you're You're connecting with the Celiac nursing You're stimulating them and helps you to be truthful and as actors. It's all about truthfulness. But I find that most people who do speaking, training it's about posturing, and it pisses me off to no end. But when you breathe into your body, and the Celiac nerves are are are working. Then it's your magn,
00:41:44.160 --> 00:42:04.970 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and we're going to talk about the sexual nerves in a moment. But when you have a ceiling actors activated. You're more in touch with your emotional intelligence, and you are literally able to feel and read other people and be able to respond from a place of truth versus like i'm going to be happy, and i'm going to be sat. Then I started thinking, even deeper as i'm working with clients, because I go right to the public floor,
00:42:05.670 --> 00:42:22.979 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and for people who don't get offended, i'm like, Breathe up through your vagina, or breathe up until your testicles. But I I could read. I read people for a living which has been terrible and wonderful for my dating life. Um, and and you have this trauma. And yeah, we're done um.
00:42:23.220 --> 00:42:52.200 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: But going back to this at the bottom, we over s spleenic nerves and our splenic nerves there, there's different parts of them. But if we go down to the public floor. Splendid nerves is for sexual arousal. It's for procreation. It's all these wonderful things when we truly learn how to breathe into that part of our body. We then activate those nerves in healthy ways in terms of healthy sexuality. So you are automatically super magnetic, charged up expansive, attractive,
00:42:52.210 --> 00:43:12.470 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: no matter what you look like, no matter what size you are. If you're an introvert or an extrovert, and people are attracted to, and they're enthralled by you, and they don't even know why. And so when I work with clients when I get I read people the clients that are open, I talk to them about healthy sexuality, and they love it. And then a lot of women,
00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:28.520 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: especially those who, being trauma traumatized in any kind of way when they get into their body and into their sexual power. They actually take their power back, because they, because they're in their safety when they feel strong that they can actually spot if someone's going to be a predator like
00:43:28.560 --> 00:43:44.810 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: it's unbelievable. This works. I need to be able to teach this to other people so that they can take this over, and we magnify absolutely well in the times that we are in. I mean, you know, if there's ever a demographic of people who really need to get in power uh in touch with the power of their voice. It's women,
00:43:45.000 --> 00:43:59.709 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: it's absolutely women that need, and they are. And you know. I don't mean to insinuate that women are not rising up and getting in touch with the power of their voice. But but I mean that's the kind of thing that that, and it's not just for
00:43:59.840 --> 00:44:15.880 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: for people who are presenters or speakers. I mean, this is the kind of work that every single solitary female on the planet right now needs to have right; that that getting in touch with speaking their truth,
00:44:15.890 --> 00:44:31.799 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: speaking their boundaries, speaking their wisdom, not people pleasing, you know, not over explaining, not not right, all of those things that yeah, three things that yeah, not not uh apologizing,
00:44:31.860 --> 00:44:46.189 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: standing in their power, standing in their vocal power. Oh, i'm getting incredible chills from this. Because why? Because tomorrow we're all voting tomorrow. We're using. Women are all going to vote.
00:44:46.660 --> 00:44:54.730 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, they're gonna come up with the power of their voice as their vote tomorrow on election day.
00:44:55.470 --> 00:45:02.940 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Oh, that's a lovely, deep, glorious!
00:45:03.310 --> 00:45:10.659 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I'm sorry, oxytocin breath. Exactly. Well, that was glorious. Cindy Ashton.
00:45:10.670 --> 00:45:34.949 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, uh yeah, So we have to take a break. It's as always. This show goes flies far too fast. But when we come back. If you have any other points on this, you want to make terrific um, and then we're gonna move on to standing Strong song. And Yes, when we come back with Cindy Ashton on the edge,
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00:47:31.070 --> 00:47:37.460 Keep my brain to the ground. These are the days it never ring.
00:47:38.380 --> 00:47:40.269 But oh!
00:47:41.250 --> 00:48:01.089 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: On the edge of every day, and we are back with Cindy Ashton speak from your power. So, yeah, from your power standing strong song, Talk to us, Talk to us about standing strong song. What was?
00:48:01.100 --> 00:48:08.539 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: How did you. When did you start writing music? And what was the inspiration for this particular song?
00:48:09.480 --> 00:48:20.879 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So I, my first song. I was about ten years old. My bird Chippy died, and I wrote on the song I had birds to Oh, my God! Our little parakeets are so cute,
00:48:20.890 --> 00:48:38.420 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: but should be done, and I wrote a song, and it went Chippy, Chippy, Chippy, I love you or Chippy. I me anyways, is very pathetic. But that was my first song when I was ten, and I sang it to him, and I made him a little copper stone, and you know whatever um so.
00:48:38.430 --> 00:48:46.659 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: But and then through high school I would just go bump, but I and I would just experiment on the piano. I really wasn't. I didn't know how to play piano terribly well at the time
00:48:46.860 --> 00:48:51.250 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and um, and I always loved songwriting um,
00:48:51.600 --> 00:48:52.919 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and then
00:48:53.150 --> 00:49:09.480 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: but I but I've been writing for years, and I only put one song really out in the world, and I got almost three hundred thousand views on Youtube, and that was a two thousand and six. It was called Butterfly, and I was always upset about that, because not about getting that many views, because that's remarkable,
00:49:09.800 --> 00:49:15.870 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: but because I never felt like it was the best expression of my voice. I mean, I definitely think it's a
00:49:17.720 --> 00:49:24.000 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: because I felt like it was a really pretty song. But me as an artist is not pretty,
00:49:24.610 --> 00:49:35.339 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and what I mean by that is that, as you know, I was trained musical theater, I was actually trained far more in opera and very little musical theater. But i'm that's what i'm trying to do. That's what I've been hired to do my whole life,
00:49:35.450 --> 00:49:38.800 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and so I have the song. It's like my butterfly.
00:49:38.980 --> 00:49:41.220 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Hi! Sorry it's pretty.
00:49:41.290 --> 00:49:43.049 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: But I was like, Yeah,
00:49:43.100 --> 00:49:52.359 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And I remember, you know my friend Mark Smith. Why, i'm doing a concert on on November thirtieth. Go to Cindy Ashton tickets. Dot com um,
00:49:52.420 --> 00:50:01.309 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: you know we used to do gigs a lot. He's a black guy and he would go, Girl, you've got like a black soul inside of you like You're like a soul singer like that's really You're like blues and soul.
00:50:01.320 --> 00:50:14.940 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And so I was like I put out a song that people love to be happy to had an impact, but it wasn't my voice, and I wasn't I've never truly had the courage of a courage of in spades with a lots of other stuff. But
00:50:15.070 --> 00:50:24.899 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and I've gotten my voice out as a Tv host and all kinds of stuff. But as me as a singer songwriter. I've never truly let what my voice sounds like out in the world.
00:50:25.220 --> 00:50:42.330 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And um so So that's really why I I got stuck there, and I've been writing music, writing, music, writing music, and I went through some crazy shit a few years ago with a crazy ass predator, and I remember sitting down writing this song, and at the time, and I came back to it.
00:50:42.390 --> 00:50:56.169 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Um in June, because May and June demolished me like i'm pretty good with staying grounded and and and doing my inner work not to take everything on, but between the convenience store shootings in Buffalo,
00:50:56.410 --> 00:51:05.360 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and then and then you know the shooting down in Texas for those wonderful children who are all gone now, and those families are going to suffer forever.
00:51:06.070 --> 00:51:10.140 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: By the time we got to June and Rosie Wade happened.
00:51:14.300 --> 00:51:34.199 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: It took me to the place where I'm. Trying not to go with this moment, which was deep sorrow and grief, and shock and anger and rage, and I thought you and I had already been planning on putting my music out finally, and having the bravery i'm like, Get off your fucking ass and get your music out there.
00:51:34.210 --> 00:51:48.639 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And so I called you to be my pro lyricist. Because you're you're phenomenal as a musician and as a storyteller, but you're also like me, very aligned, and have done a lot of work on yourself, and I knew that you would be a great collaborator.
00:51:48.980 --> 00:52:02.310 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And so we started to work on the song, and we were super excited because we had the launch on October twenty, eighth, and there were challenges. The producers uh wonderful human being who's very talented. But we weren't an alignment,
00:52:02.320 --> 00:52:12.060 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and no matter how many times we tried to get on the same page, it just wasn't happening, and when I heard the final cut I was sick to my stomach,
00:52:12.470 --> 00:52:29.000 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and I remember calling you. But I was like, Oh, and Can you listen to this and see like, Am I over reacting? And I was I? I finally decided to be truthfully who I am as an artist, and then I i'm, there's no way in how I was going to put something out there that
00:52:29.050 --> 00:52:38.530 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: was going to be misrepresented of me, and I was really, and that was really hard for me to say. Sorry to the producer. But we're not going ahead and walk away.
00:52:39.220 --> 00:52:53.099 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: The power of what you just shared about how you stood in the power of your voice, and you stood in your truth, and you didn't get, allow yourself to be yes,
00:52:53.260 --> 00:53:10.829 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and and to compromise in a way that was on collaborative. I mean, you know everyone talks about how compromising is such a great thing, and to some extent yes, it is, but we all know the inst. We all know the instances instances when that isn't the case
00:53:11.100 --> 00:53:28.529 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: when it is absolutely squelching your voice, and you stood in your power. And so I mean working on this and seeing you're helping, serving your vision was just a glorious experience. It's contributed so much.
00:53:29.800 --> 00:53:51.490 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Thank you, my friend. But you know again I I always want to be very respectful. This is your vision and your vision for this I I and that's Why, i'm excited to see taking a break from it, but not put it. It's not going away. No adding strong song, and your your vision for it uplifting.
00:53:51.590 --> 00:53:55.739 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so what what was
00:53:55.980 --> 00:54:02.299 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: as you continue to work on it as we continue to work on it? What do you hope?
00:54:02.360 --> 00:54:09.140 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: How do you hope that this will inspire the listeners. So the song is about bullying and discrimination,
00:54:10.040 --> 00:54:14.189 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and everybody has been bullied and discriminated against
00:54:14.360 --> 00:54:16.759 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and for us
00:54:17.370 --> 00:54:23.699 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: one of the big messages. I want to get out there, going back to sexual power and being in your body and embodied
00:54:24.030 --> 00:54:33.669 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: it's a standing strong isn't posturing up and continuing to fight. Because here's the truth of it. Is that the minute that you do this somebody is going to push back.
00:54:33.870 --> 00:54:37.810 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: That's not saying we're lying down, because, believe me, we are not.
00:54:37.950 --> 00:54:49.489 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: If I could vote tomorrow, I would i'm on a green card. I am not allowed to vote. It pisses me off, but I vote in many other ways, and how I let my voice be heard. So all of you! You better damn. Well vote tomorrow. Um!
00:54:49.590 --> 00:54:54.699 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: But here's the truth of it. But if we can open up the space,
00:54:54.710 --> 00:55:15.140 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: if standing strong is about being in your power, and not being posture, but truly in your power and opening up the space. Then there's room for conversations and for people to come together, and that's the big message. It's partially for people to feel like i'm feeling seen and hurt. I've been through this i'm feeling seen and heard I feeling the strength of the second thing, feeling the strength of all of us coming together.
00:55:15.250 --> 00:55:26.710 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: And the third thing is, is, can we please stop fighting and be smart, Get in our bodies, get into that balance between the feminine and the masculine.
00:55:27.680 --> 00:55:29.629 Hmm. Hmm.
00:55:30.560 --> 00:55:39.159 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: So I want to know why. Go ahead. Because I feel like I I Haven't asked. I really want to know. Why did you choose to say yes to me
00:55:39.650 --> 00:55:43.000 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: and work on this project? And what does this song mean to you?
00:55:43.340 --> 00:55:49.929 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, standing strong uh do absolutely reach right out and grab me. Um!
00:55:50.660 --> 00:55:53.219 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Well, first of all, I I,
00:55:53.350 --> 00:55:55.839 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: as a spirit, I relate to you,
00:55:57.340 --> 00:56:03.209 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and your passion for service to the world and your passion for service to serving,
00:56:03.560 --> 00:56:05.930 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: finding our voices.
00:56:06.250 --> 00:56:12.309 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so that was definitely something I wanted to to do. And
00:56:12.330 --> 00:56:13.889 and I love writing.
00:56:14.150 --> 00:56:28.149 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: So you know this is another, and and you're so freaking kick ass. You know. I just knew that that you had. You had a vision. You had a vision for this, and that's why I wanted to dive. Dive ahead.
00:56:29.990 --> 00:56:43.010 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: But we've just gotten our two minutes to the end. Cindy Ashton. I know there's so much more I have on always, so much more I have to ask. So i'm going to have to have you on back on the show another.
00:56:43.440 --> 00:56:47.599 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: You're such a remarkable, beautiful human being, and i'm grateful
00:56:47.660 --> 00:56:56.140 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: in my life, and I love you dearly.
00:56:57.350 --> 00:57:02.909 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Thank you, Sam.
00:57:03.110 --> 00:57:08.079 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Yeah, baby. So I want to. You know again
00:57:08.180 --> 00:57:16.339 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: tomorrow. Folks. We need to remember to use the power of our voices with our voting,
00:57:16.470 --> 00:57:18.629 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and there's
00:57:18.810 --> 00:57:26.940 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: three rules that I want to begin to uh about in the podcasts. Um
00:57:27.760 --> 00:57:36.079 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: the edge of every day, living life on the edge of every day. Three rules, paradox, humor, and change.
00:57:36.090 --> 00:57:48.320 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: You talked about paradox, the power of opposites, the dance of paradoxes, remembering that life is a mystery, Be open and be curious. The second one humor
00:57:48.670 --> 00:57:55.880 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: keep a sense of humor, particularly about yourself in these challenging times. We're really going to need it.
00:57:56.550 --> 00:57:58.879 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And the third one is change.
00:57:59.640 --> 00:58:18.369 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: There's no more constant thing in life than change. So the sooner we accept it and grow our muscle of being comfortable with it the better. We're all going to be again in this challenging times. So, Cindy Ashton, you are ubiquitous. Where can people find you,
00:58:18.480 --> 00:58:36.430 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: Cindy Ashton, dot com, or speak from your power? Dot com? Or if you'd like to come to my virtual concert at the end of the month. Cindy Ashton tickets dot com
00:58:36.440 --> 00:58:48.029 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: um Any last things before we uh give our closing prayer for our ritual? Any last nuggets of wisdom. You want to leave our listeners with,
00:58:48.070 --> 00:58:50.089 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: breathe into your body,
00:58:50.780 --> 00:58:55.650 Cindy Ashton ~ Speak From Your Power: get centered, and trust you. You have everything inside of you.
00:58:55.960 --> 00:58:57.880 Ah, Amen,
00:58:58.040 --> 00:59:13.790 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: and that's a beautiful segue into this closing prayer that I gave last week for Sowen, for Halloween, with respect and honoring of our ancestors that have passed on, but it feels particularly potent
00:59:13.820 --> 00:59:20.670 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: today tonight on the eve of this very important election.
00:59:22.650 --> 00:59:28.869 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: Courage, integrity, wisdom, cleverness, kindness, and compassion.
00:59:28.910 --> 00:59:31.850 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: These are the virtues I believe in
00:59:31.920 --> 00:59:48.940 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: this is who I am. My mother and her mother, my grandmothers and their grandmothers, Ruth Bader, Ginsburg, Sojourner Truth, Susan B. Anthony Eleanor Roosevelt, these are ancestors among many
00:59:48.950 --> 01:00:02.189 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I admire, These are powerful voices. I hear I am blessed by their knowledge and their example. I'm. Inspired by their action. Today I will cry,
01:00:02.260 --> 01:00:19.599 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: forgive, listen, learn, let go, and let my tears water the seeds of my future within my own gifts I will do as the ancestors did, I will take part in the grand history of humanity.
01:00:19.610 --> 01:00:31.840 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: I will come alive, and with that aliveness I will be a hero in my way on my own edge of every day to honor their memory.
01:00:32.800 --> 01:00:43.299 Sandra Bargman | The Edge of Everyday: And so it is. So it is. Thank you. Thank you, dear Cindy Ashton. Thank you for being on the show tonight. Thank you all for listening in
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