Find a new way to view pain and allow yourself to go through it without suffering all the way.
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, it’s just you and Sam for the hour, as he discusses all suffering, and how to end it.
We all have experienced trauma and pain in our lives. We have been brought to tears and we have been hurt to the core. The Dali Lama says “Life is pain, but suffering is optional.” So how do we get through the pain without the suffering?
Tune in for this special show that will bring a new perspective to you on pain and suffering. Do you have a question or comment about this topic? Join live Thursday at 12 pm EDT on the Facebook Livestream and ask your questions directly to Sam!
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Today’s episode, it’s just you and Sam for the hour! The topic for this episode is about pain. He reads a section from his book Everyday Awakening called “There is No Them, There is Only Us.” He talks about the challenges we have faced in our lifetime and in the world. We tend to easily find things that make each of us different but it's about seeing the universe as one whole. Sam mentions traveling around from Asia, to the Middle East, and how no matter where you go, when you actually connect with people and listen, we all want the same things; peace, prosperity, a good life, etc. He mentions that there are always challenges in life and it makes us stronger when we have the proper support and feel that we can get past the adversity. But when we feel like there is no hope, that is when the unfortunate happens and people give up. Sam also mentions how we are interconnected in so many ways, hence the title of this section he read and proves his point mentioning how the whole world has been affected by the environmental changes as well as the pandemic.
Sam talks about choosing the topic of suffering for this episode. He recently held a ceremony in Vermont. He talks about seeing people come to a realization that their pain could have been avoided. He also mentions the quote ““Life is pain, but suffering is optional.” So how do we get through the pain without the suffering? He explains that suffering is the emotional reaction to the pain and it comes from the stories that we make up around the pain. The stories are our interpretation of our own challenges and self criticism. He says that we are always making up stories like what the past was like. We even project into the future what's going to happen and then we start suffering about things that have not or will probably never happen. He also mentions how we also make up the most stories about our parents. It will take time to change our perspectives and feelings about them if suffering and pain were involved. But he says that there's nothing wrong with suffering and it's not to say that we suffered for no reason if it means that it's revolved around stories. We are human and this is okay.
Sam tells us a story he heard from a teacher years ago. The story was that a kid used to collect different coins and keep them under the kitchen sink in a jar. One day he comes home and sees that it's gone. In search of it he found the jar next to his father’s side of the bed in his parents' bedroom. He confronts his dad who told him that he didn’t know what he was talking about. As time went by, the story that he lived with was that you can't trust any man with money. When he got older, he decided to confront his father about this story. His dad told him that it must've been a Thursday when that happened because Wednesday nights he would have his poker night. He saw the coin collection and felt proud of his son, so he took it out to show his friends and probably left it out. When the maid was cleaning, that's when it may have ended up in his parents bedroom. Now older, this person realized that he had been suffering from this event all because of his interpretation of what he thought had happened. His dad wasn't taking away his money for himself, he was just showing it off. Sam also mentions some of his own pain he went through growing up and how he suffered in a different way. He says that it's a good thing to feel pain because it means that we can change. We could also change the story revolving around the pain to end suffering. If it's all made up anyway, why don't we make up a story that is more empowering and makes us feel better about ourselves?
Coming back from the final break, Sam talks about changing the story around the things we've experienced in life. It's important for ourselves as changing the story and ending our own suffering makes our lives better. It's important for the rest of the world because how we show up in the world makes a difference. It makes a difference to those around us as well. This goes back to the title of the section he read earlier “There is No Them, There is Only Us.'' When we unravel and unwind the story that causes us suffering, we are emitting a different type of energy, of possibilities and what it's like to live without that suffering. We can transmit this energy with others open to receiving a message that they don't need to suffer around this either. This is another example of how interconnected we are, more than we think. If anything from today resonates with you and you would like support in unraveling these stories, you can connect with Sam through his website at theconciousconsultant.com, or his email, sam@theconciousconsultant.com.
00:00:57.450 --> 00:01:10.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me know what questions what comments you have I will shout you out, you can find us on the live stream on facebook@facebook.com slash inspired thoughts with Sam.
00:01:11.760 --> 00:01:32.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So today i'm going to be talking about a topic that I think sort of touches on touches all of our lives and that's the topic of pain, but before we get started with that, of course, you know as always we have our little section from my book.
00:01:33.330 --> 00:01:43.500 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Everyday awakening and we're not quite halfway through the book but we're almost halfway through the book and today's section it's actually.
00:01:44.610 --> 00:01:57.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A little little kind of short, but this is a short but powerful section of my book, and the title of it is there is no them there is only us.
00:01:58.530 --> 00:02:19.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that there are others in this world, those who do not think the way we do speak the way we do or believe the things we do we separate ourselves from other people where we see differences between them and us.
00:02:20.760 --> 00:02:33.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the truth is that we are more alike than we are different, we have more in common than divides us, for we are all people living on one planet.
00:02:34.320 --> 00:02:52.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are one human race one species and members of one global society, when we learn to see people from this larger perspective, we will realize that we are all connected.
00:02:53.880 --> 00:03:05.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If not, in daily life, then by the very molecules that make up our bodies which come from stars that exploded long before we were born.
00:03:07.320 --> 00:03:17.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Where do you separate from others, where do you divide, and can you instead find ways to bring people together.
00:03:18.810 --> 00:03:25.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Okay, so this is such such an important.
00:03:26.160 --> 00:03:33.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: topic, especially for today when we're dealing with all kinds of unrest in society wars.
00:03:35.130 --> 00:03:38.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: lockdowns challenges around the globe.
00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:40.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It really is.
00:03:41.730 --> 00:03:48.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: At least in my lifetime and i've been here a decent amount of time on this planet.
00:03:50.250 --> 00:03:57.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And like it's not like we've never fought wars before it's not that we've never been divided as a people before.
00:03:59.610 --> 00:04:02.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it feels like we're just reaching a fever pitch.
00:04:03.690 --> 00:04:06.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it's so easy.
00:04:07.500 --> 00:04:21.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To find the things that make us different somebody looks differently from us someone speaks differently, they speak a different language they act differently, they have different customs.
00:04:23.940 --> 00:04:29.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you know i've traveled I mean I haven't traveled a tremendous tremendous amount, but have traveled.
00:04:30.930 --> 00:04:44.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Pretty far I mean i've gone been down to South America, a couple of times in my life few times in my life have been to Asia, been to Europe i've been to the Middle East, committed to Africa yeah.
00:04:47.490 --> 00:04:50.460 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the interesting thing is no matter where you go.
00:04:51.510 --> 00:04:55.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When you actually connect and talk to people.
00:04:57.030 --> 00:04:58.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When you actually listen.
00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:05.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To people's hopes and dreams and desires and what people are looking for in life.
00:05:07.020 --> 00:05:11.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When it comes to the core to the essence of it we all want the same thing.
00:05:12.840 --> 00:05:14.220 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We want a good life.
00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:29.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We want peace, prosperity, we don't want to know our families are taking care of we want to know that the that you know the planet is going to be around for future generations, even if we don't have our own children.
00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:35.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, there are cousins out there, their nieces and nephews their relatives.
00:05:37.860 --> 00:05:40.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's not only us in the world.
00:05:44.910 --> 00:05:49.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when you really get to know people they all want the same things even.
00:05:51.180 --> 00:05:55.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The most vile hurtful.
00:05:57.150 --> 00:05:58.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: sadistic people.
00:06:02.550 --> 00:06:04.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They want the same things to.
00:06:07.020 --> 00:06:13.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They want to get out of the pain we're going to talk a lot about that, during the show.
00:06:16.380 --> 00:06:17.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Nobody wants.
00:06:19.200 --> 00:06:29.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A struggle that's so challenging if you feel like you can't go on, nobody wants that I mean look, there are always challenges in life.
00:06:30.300 --> 00:06:41.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's always things that we you know, are going to have a hard time with there's nothing wrong with that actually facing adversity makes us stronger it really does.
00:06:42.090 --> 00:06:50.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we have the proper support when we feel like there's a way around the adversity, when we feel that we can get past the adversity.
00:06:52.260 --> 00:07:00.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But, but when it seems when we're totally hopeless and there seems like there's no way past the pain and the challenges that we're dealing with.
00:07:02.340 --> 00:07:07.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that's when people consider suicide that's when the pain is so bad.
00:07:08.520 --> 00:07:12.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we're like enough enough I just can't do this anymore.
00:07:15.390 --> 00:07:18.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: People pretty much the same everywhere.
00:07:19.410 --> 00:07:19.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean look.
00:07:21.150 --> 00:07:29.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We do have different preferences, we do have different ways of looking at the world a lot of us disagree with other people.
00:07:30.720 --> 00:07:44.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's some big divisions in the United States, right now, and not just the United States it's worldwide, no matter where you go you find people on opposite ends of just about any topic.
00:07:48.150 --> 00:07:53.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The thing is, just because we have a different opinion just because we think differently.
00:07:55.350 --> 00:07:58.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: does not mean that we're really different people.
00:08:01.620 --> 00:08:12.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We all come from different tribes over thousands, hundreds of thousands, perhaps even millions of years.
00:08:15.480 --> 00:08:17.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you cut us, we will bleed.
00:08:19.170 --> 00:08:20.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If you hit us, we will feel pain.
00:08:22.290 --> 00:08:27.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But if you inspire us if you empower us, we will rise to the occasion.
00:08:33.090 --> 00:08:36.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We are one people, this is one planet.
00:08:38.730 --> 00:08:43.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And this one planet, the way we know it, it could be gone like that.
00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:51.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: One giant rock flying through space that hits this world today.
00:08:52.680 --> 00:08:56.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we will be put back into prehistoric times.
00:08:59.430 --> 00:09:11.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, if anything, if anything, this pandemic this situation this worldwide situation that we've been experiencing for the last two plus years.
00:09:13.200 --> 00:09:21.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If nothing else, it has shown us how interconnected, we are we're interconnected so many ways.
00:09:25.470 --> 00:09:32.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our health is interconnected right that's one of the big the biggest lesson of this pandemic.
00:09:34.020 --> 00:09:50.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How healthy one person is affects the health of the people around them, which affects the health of the people around them, which affects the health of the people around them and that's six degrees of separation, it goes everywhere everywhere around the world.
00:09:52.230 --> 00:10:03.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's not like it was in the past, where it took a long time to travel from one place to another travel happens today in hours not days or weeks or months.
00:10:05.640 --> 00:10:08.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when something affects one part of the planet, you know what.
00:10:09.870 --> 00:10:19.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's going to affect every part of the planet yeah sure that might be some really, really isolated places it doesn't affect but you know what I think eventually leave and get there too.
00:10:21.780 --> 00:10:23.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we're connected by our health.
00:10:24.750 --> 00:10:26.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're connected by the environment.
00:10:27.870 --> 00:10:37.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When the environment starts going nuts, the way it's been the last few years, it affects everybody on the planet droughts, floods.
00:10:38.280 --> 00:10:52.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: storms that are more powerful than we've ever seen you know rising oceans all kinds of things happening that affects the whole world may not always affect us the same way, but it affects the whole world.
00:10:55.170 --> 00:10:58.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And if you don't think that like things can change dramatically.
00:10:59.760 --> 00:11:09.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: If we look at the deserts of the Middle East and Africa, those were once lush tropical areas.
00:11:10.470 --> 00:11:17.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I forget the name of the scientist or the archaeologist but there was a gentleman who studied like the ruins in Egypt.
00:11:19.260 --> 00:11:24.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And found actually that a lot of the damage was water damage from rain.
00:11:25.980 --> 00:11:28.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: what's the desert today was once.
00:11:29.640 --> 00:11:36.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Tropical lush areas, and you know what what's tropical and lush today could one day become desert.
00:11:38.670 --> 00:11:40.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we're connected by our environment.
00:11:43.980 --> 00:11:46.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're connected through economics.
00:11:48.630 --> 00:11:49.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We really are.
00:11:51.420 --> 00:11:55.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The world around us, we are so interconnected.
00:11:56.850 --> 00:12:13.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: hey we think we're cutting off Russia from the world economy with our sanctions and unlock i'm not saying sanctions were a bad thing I think it's great to apply non violent measures to try and curtail violent actions, so I think it's a beautiful thing.
00:12:16.110 --> 00:12:26.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But those sanctions that affect the Russian economy Russian economy is a pretty big economy that ripples through they're both in importer and exporter.
00:12:27.120 --> 00:12:37.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: China china's with their lockdowns and affecting the supply chain what's happened over the last couple of years, it affects us here in the United States, it affects Europe, it affects everywhere.
00:12:40.170 --> 00:12:45.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're not isolated individual file systems anymore.
00:12:47.640 --> 00:12:50.700 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The world is operating in a global manner.
00:12:54.090 --> 00:12:57.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look, I think, differences of course there are differences.
00:13:00.510 --> 00:13:04.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But doesn't mean there aren't into relations and connections.
00:13:08.040 --> 00:13:15.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's so many ways that we are the same, that that life is showing us that we're interconnected.
00:13:17.790 --> 00:13:28.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I heard this phrase I don't know, maybe seven years ago, there is no them there or I think it was there is yeah there is no them there was only us that was the way I heard it.
00:13:30.030 --> 00:13:41.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And that's why I put it in the book, because it was such a big Aha moment for me of like yeah like because it's something that just resonated for me.
00:13:41.730 --> 00:13:52.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what we're not separate we're not you know, there is no them we keep fighting against other people were really just fighting against ourselves.
00:13:53.820 --> 00:13:54.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because you know what.
00:13:56.310 --> 00:14:10.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't really know what it's like to be another person, and if we were put in the exact same situation in the exact with the exact same parents and the exact same society, the exact same we might be different, but we might be the same.
00:14:12.960 --> 00:14:19.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It was an interesting show recently binge on Amazon, the man in the high Castle, which is based on.
00:14:21.600 --> 00:14:27.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: A on a novel by Philip K Dick has a wonderful science fiction right, I really love his work.
00:14:28.050 --> 00:14:46.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it shows kind of an alternate history it's like the 1960s and early 1960s and instead of the Allies winning World War Two Germany and Japan when World War Two and what what is what would the USB like with half of it being conquered by Germany and half being conquered by Japan.
00:14:48.270 --> 00:15:04.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But then it there, these films that starts showing up showing like that hey the US did when they always did when World War Two and it just It shows you how people can be one way in one reality and the exact same person another way in another reality.
00:15:05.790 --> 00:15:10.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We all like to think of ourselves as different from other people is better in some ways.
00:15:12.120 --> 00:15:18.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The truth is we don't know what we would do if we were in that situation, how would we have responded.
00:15:21.870 --> 00:15:22.560 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So.
00:15:23.820 --> 00:15:34.080 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To me, there is no them there is only us it's about learning to stop judging other people and making them wrong or bad for what they do.
00:15:35.760 --> 00:15:43.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, they may hurt people we've heard people you know, maybe we haven't done it to the same extent or dumb it done it the same way.
00:15:44.340 --> 00:15:53.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But look we've all made mistakes we've all not been as conscious not been as present net net net been there.
00:15:57.450 --> 00:16:00.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we've all made the mistake.
00:16:02.970 --> 00:16:05.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: of seeing our differences and not our similarities.
00:16:07.350 --> 00:16:11.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, with this section of my book, everyday awakening it's about.
00:16:13.020 --> 00:16:25.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's about seeing us as one whole that non dual perspective and the truth is it's not even about seeing everyone on the planet and the planet as one whole the universe is one whole.
00:16:27.540 --> 00:16:39.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know that there's been no new Water come to the earth and millions of years since the last comment hit or hundreds of thousands of years, so he's been circulating, so the water we drink today has been around.
00:16:40.440 --> 00:16:44.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: For for effectively for as long as people have been around.
00:16:45.930 --> 00:16:50.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So the water we're drinking could have been a water that you know somebody drank.
00:16:51.510 --> 00:16:54.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: 10s of thousands of years ago on the opposite side of the planet.
00:16:57.240 --> 00:17:02.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're so connected we're so connected and and and I really hope.
00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:11.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That this one section of the book that if it can touch people in just one small way to just see and get that sense.
00:17:13.230 --> 00:17:15.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Of the connection instead of the disconnection.
00:17:16.950 --> 00:17:18.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Then i've done my job.
00:17:19.500 --> 00:17:29.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see sanai on the on the Facebook live says the blood at the hospital is no color its lifeblood for us all, exactly exactly.
00:17:31.590 --> 00:17:42.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right, so that's my section from the book everyday awakening you can get it at everyday awakening book calm, or you know just go to Amazon and see it on Amazon.
00:17:43.080 --> 00:17:49.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So i'm going to go to break and when we come back we're going to start diving into our topic which today i've entitled the show the end of suffering.
00:17:50.640 --> 00:17:57.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's really the end of suffering well, you have to stay tuned to the end, to find out but i'm going to talk a lot about suffering.
00:17:58.260 --> 00:18:07.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And perhaps give you some insights and perspectives some mental and emotional and energetic tweaks.
00:18:08.790 --> 00:18:26.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: To alleviate some of that suffering that we all feel so everybody, please stay tuned you're listening to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity, we do this every Thursday every Thursday 12 noon to 1pm Eastern time right here on talk radio dot nyc and all over Facebook live.
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00:20:49.200 --> 00:20:54.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity.
00:20:54.810 --> 00:21:01.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This is one of those me only shows i'm your guest for tonight and and, by the way, in case you don't get enough of me today.
00:21:02.430 --> 00:21:17.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: i'm also going to be making a guest appearance on a frank Harrison show frank about health tonight at 5pm so make sure you tune into that as well i'm going to be talking all about the wellness Center and giving frank some perspectives on health and healing.
00:21:18.120 --> 00:21:23.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So today my topic of the week or the topic of the day is all around suffering.
00:21:25.500 --> 00:21:30.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And why did I choose this for this for this particular show.
00:21:31.320 --> 00:21:37.860 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because I see people suffering and I recently held a ceremony up in Vermont.
00:21:38.940 --> 00:21:42.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and it was so interesting to hear.
00:21:44.430 --> 00:21:52.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, to help people and shepherd people through their healing process and to hear you know some of the pain that people been through in their life.
00:21:54.060 --> 00:22:05.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And to see people kind of come to that realization that you know, sometimes some of that pain I don't want to say was unnecessary but could have been avoided.
00:22:08.790 --> 00:22:17.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: there's a quote that's been attributed to the Dalai Lama I don't know if he actually said it, he probably did or it's been attributed to the Dalai Lama, the Buddha or something like it.
00:22:18.900 --> 00:22:19.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In the code is.
00:22:21.030 --> 00:22:25.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Life is pain, but suffering is optional.
00:22:27.030 --> 00:22:34.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And the first time I heard that I thought hmm it doesn't really make sense right, I mean if you're in pain you're suffering right.
00:22:36.420 --> 00:22:41.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it really took a while for me to kind of get my head around it until somebody explained it this way.
00:22:45.090 --> 00:22:46.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Your pain we all feel pain.
00:22:48.390 --> 00:22:51.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: pain informs us pain tells us something.
00:22:52.890 --> 00:22:58.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: pain it the fact that we feel pain actually is a survival mechanism.
00:23:01.800 --> 00:23:05.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But suffering is something different from pain.
00:23:06.660 --> 00:23:08.010 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: suffering.
00:23:09.090 --> 00:23:17.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is the emotional reaction to the pain and suffering comes from.
00:23:18.300 --> 00:23:24.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The stories we make up around the pain, why are we feeling the pain.
00:23:26.190 --> 00:23:35.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know what is the meaning behind the pain, what does this say about us what does it say about others what does it say about the world about life.
00:23:38.250 --> 00:23:38.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and
00:23:41.970 --> 00:23:44.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It often leads us to these.
00:23:46.230 --> 00:23:48.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The stories that we end up creating.
00:23:50.610 --> 00:24:09.000 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We often find that they actually once we have the ability to really come down and examine them, they have nothing to do with reality they're just our interpretation they're made up stories they're all made up they're all stories that we made up.
00:24:10.170 --> 00:24:15.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because we didn't know any better because they reveal to us our own.
00:24:17.040 --> 00:24:21.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Challenges own weaknesses our own self criticism.
00:24:23.970 --> 00:24:28.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Somebody hurts us as a child causes us trauma.
00:24:29.520 --> 00:24:33.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We carry that with us, through our life until we work through it.
00:24:35.370 --> 00:24:52.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because they heard us we think oh my God like did I deserve this and my bad Am I evil, maybe they do deserve this Maybe I should be hurt more or or or were confused like, why did this happen to me I didn't deserve this.
00:24:53.790 --> 00:25:00.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, we make up all kinds of stories about the other person or the other person is evil oh my God there's their predator there this there that.
00:25:03.150 --> 00:25:10.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then maybe one day we find out that you know what they were abused as a child, so they were beat up or they were bullied.
00:25:11.280 --> 00:25:21.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And they felt so powerless that they needed to bully someone else they need to hurt someone else, so they could feel like they had some power because they feel so powerless in another situation.
00:25:23.340 --> 00:25:33.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Maybe not I mean look are there, people who are completely disconnected to their conscience, who are just there's something wrong with them and they.
00:25:34.350 --> 00:25:43.620 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: don't eat cannot empathize and they just are so disconnected to themselves that they can't see the effect they have on other people absolutely.
00:25:44.340 --> 00:25:50.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: i'm not talking about the extreme cases i'm talking about the majority of cases, because the majority of cases.
00:25:51.510 --> 00:26:07.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know Someone once said to me that if you look at any group of people, and it doesn't matter if it's a networking religious association political structure just any group of people that let's say more than 10 people.
00:26:09.150 --> 00:26:20.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They say, if you look at any group of people, they are like 10% are going to be really good 10% are going to be really bad whatever that means to you, but 80% are really in the middle somewhere.
00:26:21.390 --> 00:26:29.670 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know you tell you like 10% or extreme one way 10% are extreme another way but 80% are really in the middle there just just normal average everyday people.
00:26:32.520 --> 00:26:38.160 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so i'm talking about those 80% note and then number two extremes, but that 80% in the middle.
00:26:41.460 --> 00:26:46.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And let's face it, like who are the people we make up the most stories about.
00:26:46.860 --> 00:26:54.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's always those closest to it it's our parents it's our siblings it's our maybe aunts and uncles grandparents.
00:26:54.900 --> 00:27:06.810 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: nieces and nephews we're always making up stories in the mind is an amazing story generating device that's what the mind is the mind makes up stories all day long.
00:27:07.560 --> 00:27:23.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All day long The thing is they're all made up my attitude is just been over the last many years well if it's all made up why don't I make up a story that's empowering then instead of it when that's disempowering right, I mean if it's all made up anyway.
00:27:25.380 --> 00:27:35.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and, especially, we make up these stories about the past, the past is gone it's not here right now, well, I mean you know, some people say like everything's happening all the time it's here right now but.
00:27:36.150 --> 00:27:44.250 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: for practical purposes the past is gone the future has not happened yet, but that's another thing that causes a suffering.
00:27:44.700 --> 00:27:55.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is we project into the future what's going to happen, and then we even start suffering before something even as it happened that may never happen, yet we causes suffering anxiety fear whenever.
00:27:57.150 --> 00:28:00.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Getting back to the point i'm rambling a bit today but.
00:28:01.920 --> 00:28:07.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The stories are all made up and we make up the most amount of stories when it comes to our parents.
00:28:09.690 --> 00:28:19.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And because our mother did something where a kid when a father did something or didn't do something or said something or didn't say something we make up all these stories about it.
00:28:22.230 --> 00:28:25.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because when we're little kids our parents are gods.
00:28:27.060 --> 00:28:35.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They are the givers of life if they don't feed us, we will starve to death, if they don't take care of us the elements will destroy us.
00:28:37.170 --> 00:28:41.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they're these big huge beings were tiny little things compared to them.
00:28:43.260 --> 00:28:46.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So of course we're going to amplify everything that they do.
00:28:49.380 --> 00:28:53.970 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And it can take a long time until we can adjust and change.
00:28:56.190 --> 00:29:09.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our perspective or feelings around our parents and those those perspective those feelings those stories that we've made up when we were three and four and five years old, they ripple throughout our whole life.
00:29:11.160 --> 00:29:19.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Until we take the time to sit with them recognize them look at them and question them and doubt them.
00:29:20.880 --> 00:29:29.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then go through that suffering, you know, sometimes we don't even want to look at our suffering, because if we find out that we suffered for no reason we feel like we're idiots.
00:29:31.260 --> 00:29:33.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're not we're human beings.
00:29:38.520 --> 00:29:42.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So suffering parents, when we come back.
00:29:44.580 --> 00:29:48.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: tell you a little story that that I heard from somebody else.
00:29:49.650 --> 00:30:09.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Around a lot of suffering he had throughout most of his life around money because of a stupid story he made up that turned out had nothing to do with reality and I love this story because it's so exemplifies the way our stories that that us make perfect sense.
00:30:10.770 --> 00:30:16.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But they may be a complete misinterpretation of the reality that we experience.
00:30:17.310 --> 00:30:19.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So we're going to take a quick break first.
00:30:21.000 --> 00:30:33.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we'll continue our discussion i'm keeping an eye on the Facebook live, so if anyone has any comments questions or you own stories you'd like to share please post it to the Facebook live you're listening to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity.
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00:32:52.770 --> 00:32:57.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity.
00:32:59.160 --> 00:33:06.150 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Thank you all for joining me today it's just me and you for the hour talking all about.
00:33:07.290 --> 00:33:17.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: suffering and and you know, as I like to say, the end of of suffering is really the title of the show what i'd like to.
00:33:18.900 --> 00:33:20.580 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Make to help to bring you to.
00:33:22.590 --> 00:33:27.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see William on the Facebook live says he's been all over the world.
00:33:28.590 --> 00:33:29.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he says.
00:33:31.680 --> 00:33:41.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You all here and media is bad and things and have a new appreciation for people over there, good people and bad people in all groups, but it is how you treat each other.
00:33:43.560 --> 00:33:45.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: yeah absolutely William.
00:33:47.730 --> 00:33:56.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know the media tends to focus on all the bad things happening in the world, but when you actually meet people it's really just about how people treat each other anyway.
00:33:58.080 --> 00:34:04.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Let me continue the story, so this is something I heard and from one of my teachers years ago.
00:34:05.610 --> 00:34:19.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I affected is it was me talking really about money, but it really applies to everything, so I want you to really try and and and generalize the story to two things and see maybe how the story might even.
00:34:21.060 --> 00:34:23.430 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You can relate to something in your own life.
00:34:24.540 --> 00:34:41.640 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So as a kid this guy he used to collect different coins like old Nichols pennies dimes you know, trying to find like like old valuable coins even they weren't that far, but you know you're a kid you don't know, but you know we're collecting.
00:34:42.390 --> 00:34:48.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All these coins and he had this this this big jar and and he he kept it.
00:34:49.710 --> 00:34:52.350 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Moving believes that he kept it like under the kitchen sink or something.
00:34:54.210 --> 00:35:09.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he kind of, for whatever reason he had this thing that that you know, he was kind of hiding it he just I guess he felt like he wanted to make sure like nobody took it and nobody you know tickets things.
00:35:09.720 --> 00:35:26.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And one day he comes home and and he looks under the kitchen sink and it's gone and it's not there any like asks his mom yes, is that Oh, did you see my jar I can't find my coins are done they're both like oh I don't know where it is blah blah he started looking all over the House.
00:35:27.840 --> 00:35:36.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then, in the den where his his father would like work from home and when friends come over to be there, he found the JAR.
00:35:38.430 --> 00:35:53.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: No, not in the dance, he was in his parents bedroom he eventually went into his parents bedroom and he found the JAR inside or either underneath the bed or inside like the little end table draw next to his father's side of the bed.
00:35:54.450 --> 00:35:59.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he takes it out and he confronts his dad and it's like you know what.
00:36:00.270 --> 00:36:05.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You stole my my coin you stole my coin collection you stole my money and he's like what are you talking about I didn't take you.
00:36:05.850 --> 00:36:11.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Your money whatever and it's like yeah you did look, I found this I found this nice I bet because I know you I don't know what you're talking about you're crazy.
00:36:12.630 --> 00:36:22.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And and and and he got all upset and he huffed off and went away any any so we had this story this story developed and he was a kid at the time.
00:36:23.400 --> 00:36:25.320 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That you can't trust men with money.
00:36:27.240 --> 00:36:31.380 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: that men are going to steal money from you, because it was his his dad right.
00:36:33.270 --> 00:36:34.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he lived with this.
00:36:35.910 --> 00:36:45.390 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: This belief, the story that was underlying everything for years and years and years decades, and I believe he said it wasn't until he hit 40 or 50.
00:36:46.410 --> 00:36:54.990 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And one day he was flying into town for for for something and his dad would come and pick him up and and.
00:36:56.040 --> 00:37:06.330 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: He finally like he was going to confront him about this because it's been on his mind for a while his dad was getting old the didn't and then he finally worked up the courage to confront him about this.
00:37:07.410 --> 00:37:23.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he says, you know, Dan Do you remember when I was a kid and you took my coin collection, what are you talking about because remember I used to keep these coins under the sink and you took them and you denied it and I found it in the bedroom.
00:37:24.810 --> 00:37:25.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he goes oh.
00:37:27.270 --> 00:37:28.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That must have been a Thursday.
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:38.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: he's like what Thursday I don't know, maybe he was yeah yeah it was probably a Thursday that that happened because.
00:37:39.210 --> 00:37:48.360 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Wednesday night, you know I have my poker night, my friends, come over, and when I saw your coin collection, I was so proud of you, I took it out to show the guys.
00:37:49.110 --> 00:38:00.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, and I probably left it out and just boom when your mom came by your the meat came by and cleaned up they probably just just put it, you know until my side of the bed, but I was just showing off like how proud I was of you.
00:38:01.950 --> 00:38:02.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And he was like.
00:38:03.840 --> 00:38:04.170 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh.
00:38:05.250 --> 00:38:14.310 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Oh, you were proud of me you weren't stealing my stuff like you did I don't think he said this, but like you weren't do this internal realization you weren't stealing it, you were just showing it off.
00:38:17.100 --> 00:38:24.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then he realized he'd been carrying he'd been suffering from this event.
00:38:25.530 --> 00:38:28.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like his whole life by practically his whole life.
00:38:29.910 --> 00:38:42.600 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All from this interpretation he had of this one incident that because his coins got moved and he found it in under his dad side of the bed, that is dead stole it from.
00:38:44.640 --> 00:38:49.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now look factually did his dad move it yes.
00:38:51.030 --> 00:38:55.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But it wasn't the fact it was the interpretation that caused the suffering.
00:38:57.420 --> 00:39:09.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It was he quote unquote stole it right when you say someone steal something right there's intent behind it there there's a an assumption of motivation and what was really going on.
00:39:10.740 --> 00:39:18.630 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But the truth of the story was he didn't steal it he wasn't taking it away from his son, he was showing it off.
00:39:22.620 --> 00:39:24.210 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So I want you to think about.
00:39:26.250 --> 00:39:38.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What kinds of stories have you made up about painful things in your past and maybe even the recent past, maybe even today, the present.
00:39:39.630 --> 00:39:44.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But what kind of stories have you made up about the pain that has caused you suffering.
00:39:45.840 --> 00:39:49.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That because of the story you've made up about what happened.
00:39:51.210 --> 00:40:01.290 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That it caused you to doubt yourself it caused you to think you're not good, because you think you're bad or, of course, you think other people were bad.
00:40:04.290 --> 00:40:07.050 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And how has that affected you throughout your life.
00:40:09.330 --> 00:40:10.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Now, in my case.
00:40:12.210 --> 00:40:13.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I was you know.
00:40:14.730 --> 00:40:23.130 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When I was a kid I was kind of short I was round, I was overweight and glasses and third grade on I was kind of a sleepy little Jewish kid in the bronx.
00:40:24.090 --> 00:40:27.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And you know what I used to get picked on by the neighborhood bullies.
00:40:28.260 --> 00:40:36.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know I remember Halloween I used to get eggs thrown at me, you know my wife loves Halloween it's like her favorite holiday she loves to go up and dress up in costumes and go out.
00:40:36.690 --> 00:40:48.120 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: me not so much because I don't have such a good association with it, because when I would you know once I was old enough to go around the neighborhood on Halloween like the older kids they'd have you know.
00:40:49.110 --> 00:40:58.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: chalking a sock that they'd hit you with they throw exit you shaving cream, like all kinds of nasty stuff they do, and because I was an easy target I used to get picked on all the time.
00:41:00.870 --> 00:41:04.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And then you know i've suffered abuse by other people.
00:41:06.300 --> 00:41:11.340 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And in my case, as opposed to.
00:41:13.080 --> 00:41:28.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like like turning on the abuser instead of like making everybody else wrong and evil I just turned on myself it's like Why is this happening to me what's wrong with me that that life is bringing me so much pain.
00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:34.470 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so the way I internalized it caused me suffering, but in a different way.
00:41:36.510 --> 00:41:38.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You made me feel like I wasn't that good.
00:41:43.380 --> 00:41:50.190 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, these stories these made up stories that we carry with us throughout our life.
00:41:51.240 --> 00:42:02.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: These are the things that causes suffering look pain itself is not a bad thing you know I often use the analogy that you know if we didn't feel pain.
00:42:03.690 --> 00:42:10.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we happen to be in the kitchen talking to a friend and the stove is on and we don't realize the stove is on and we put our hand on a hot stove.
00:42:12.180 --> 00:42:26.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: By feeling pain we go action we take it off right away, but what would happen if we didn't feel the pain we'd leave it there, and then you know if we were just distracted and we didn't notice what was going on our hand would be fried to a crisp.
00:42:29.190 --> 00:42:35.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It would be damaged for the rest of our lives so it's a good thing that we feel the pain, so we make a change.
00:42:39.930 --> 00:42:49.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if we can see pain, as our friend and make a different story around the pain we can end our suffering.
00:42:52.710 --> 00:43:00.480 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's all made up anyway, I cannot emphasize this enough it's all made up anyway.
00:43:02.520 --> 00:43:04.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So if it's all made up anyway.
00:43:06.120 --> 00:43:16.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why don't we make up a story that's more empowering that serves us that uplifts us that helps us to feel better about ourselves.
00:43:18.330 --> 00:43:23.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: There are always a million interpretations of any given situation.
00:43:25.170 --> 00:43:31.740 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We can choose we choose, all the time how we're deciding to interpret the situation.
00:43:34.170 --> 00:43:40.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We don't we do not have to interpret it in a way that hurts us.
00:43:41.550 --> 00:43:43.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That hurts our hearts.
00:43:44.700 --> 00:43:46.140 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That hurts us emotionally.
00:43:47.310 --> 00:43:51.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That causes us to shut down or feel bad or or withdraw.
00:43:53.460 --> 00:44:00.840 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The world needs us to be more fully present to share our gifts.
00:44:01.590 --> 00:44:10.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And look do we have to share our gifts, with a huge number of people like I do you know doing a show and transmitting it out over the airwaves across the world.
00:44:11.220 --> 00:44:23.730 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I mean that the airwaves that the Internet across the globe know that if this doesn't resonate with you know it doesn't have to, but if it does resonate with you well, then we should talk, because this is what I do I help people to do stuff like this.
00:44:27.450 --> 00:44:39.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But even just by being present and being there and healing our own pain, so that we can be there for other people to even if it's just the immediate people are friends or family that makes a difference.
00:44:40.890 --> 00:44:53.280 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we show up for them in the best way possible, and then it helps them to feel better and then they show up better for the people around them, the ripple effect can be tremendous tremendous.
00:44:56.970 --> 00:45:00.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So yeah, this is the way we end suffering.
00:45:02.190 --> 00:45:03.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: By changing the story.
00:45:04.890 --> 00:45:11.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Alright, so I see on the Facebook live loyal listener patty says be kind if you have.
00:45:12.750 --> 00:45:20.910 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: An altercation with somebody who you just never know that person may someday be your boss and loyal listener Williams says.
00:45:21.420 --> 00:45:31.800 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We see things differently as a child to when we get older, we have a tendency to remember it differently, we have to remember, we are not that child anymore, yes, William absolutely.
00:45:32.850 --> 00:45:52.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: All right time for me to take my last break when we come back i'm going to talk about this uneven deeper level and why it is important for us to end our own suffering and and and go even deeper about why and during our own suffering.
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00:48:28.290 --> 00:48:39.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and welcome back to the conscious consultant our awakening humanity, I see a loyal listener William says, must be a New York thing I was bullied in school also and it affected me for years.
00:48:39.930 --> 00:48:50.850 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: confidence and everything i'm glad I learned, I am not, who I thought I was i'm very glad to William I don't think it's a New York thing I think kids get bullied in schools, all over the place, and actually.
00:48:51.240 --> 00:49:00.720 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What you find is happening, these days, when the kids get bullied in school, they kind of like you end up if it's really bad into extremes like either you end up.
00:49:00.960 --> 00:49:15.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: With like what happened in Columbine where the kid goes nuts and like gets a gun and start shooting people because they are in so much pain, or they end up committing suicide it's really bullying is such an epidemic in our schools.
00:49:16.650 --> 00:49:24.660 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I believe it's because kids these days they don't have the tools to deal with the complexity of society and look.
00:49:24.990 --> 00:49:34.110 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You know, can kids be mean absolutely kids can be mean, but why are kids mean they're all just trying to fit in they all want to feel like they're good enough, they all want to feel.
00:49:34.410 --> 00:49:52.590 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Like they like they have enough that they're Okay, and we need to, especially with the children, these days, we need to support them, we need to help them to feel better about themselves, they don't feel the need to to antagonize make fun of and and and beat up on other kids.
00:49:54.630 --> 00:50:11.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's really my heart goes out to children, these days, I know teen suicide it's at an all time high the rates i've heard and it's really something that that we need to really pay attention to a little bit more, so we can do something about it.
00:50:13.080 --> 00:50:13.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So.
00:50:16.230 --> 00:50:24.300 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: talked about the end of suffering, I talked about the importance of changing the story around the things we've experienced in life.
00:50:26.550 --> 00:50:43.230 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And why is that so important, I mean obviously for ourselves it's tremendously important don't get me wrong, I mean, first and foremost, changing the story and ending our own suffering its first and foremost, to make our own lives better.
00:50:45.150 --> 00:50:51.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I hope what i've talked about the stories of have brought to you, I hope this perspective.
00:50:52.350 --> 00:50:55.830 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: gives you the motivation to really look at your own stories.
00:50:57.090 --> 00:51:00.780 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and see how you can change them tweak them modify them look at them.
00:51:05.370 --> 00:51:08.100 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Why is that so important, though, for the rest of the world.
00:51:09.480 --> 00:51:15.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: it's very simple it goes back to the beginning of the show and it's talking about, there is no them there is only us.
00:51:17.460 --> 00:51:21.450 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: How we show up in the world, makes a difference.
00:51:22.740 --> 00:51:36.180 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It makes a difference to physically to the people around us emotionally to the people around us and energetically it makes a difference to the entire world What do I mean by that.
00:51:38.670 --> 00:51:41.550 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: My dear friend teacher and mentor Jennifer huff.
00:51:43.260 --> 00:51:43.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: In.
00:51:45.330 --> 00:51:47.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The in a program I took with her talked about how.
00:51:49.470 --> 00:51:51.540 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: they've done scientific studies.
00:51:52.710 --> 00:52:04.530 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: They first started with plants, and then they went to animals, and then they went to humans, looking at the cells that make up our bodies and the cells have these little receptors.
00:52:05.670 --> 00:52:17.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That receive and transmit light now obviously not necessarily visible light, because you know we don't glow at night don't drive in certain parts of the world, people may.
00:52:18.900 --> 00:52:23.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We we transmit and get a give off light.
00:52:24.060 --> 00:52:36.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: light is energy we're giving off and receiving energy all the time that's why, when we go into nature and it just feels good or we go to the ocean, or you know we put ourselves in an environment that's just beautiful.
00:52:37.710 --> 00:52:39.690 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: You can feel your body relaxing.
00:52:40.920 --> 00:52:44.760 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because we're receiving the energy of the place.
00:52:46.830 --> 00:52:48.900 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But we're also giving off energy.
00:52:51.210 --> 00:52:52.950 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And when we do our own work.
00:52:54.000 --> 00:53:02.400 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: When we unravel and unwind those stories that cause us suffering.
00:53:04.410 --> 00:53:16.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We now are emitting a different type of energy we're emitting the energy of possibilities, where the emitting the energy of what it's like to live without that suffering.
00:53:19.800 --> 00:53:26.940 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The interesting thing about light is light travels so fast it can actually travel seven times in a second around the planet.
00:53:29.040 --> 00:53:32.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So when we change the energy that we're giving off.
00:53:33.480 --> 00:53:40.680 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: we're literally on a subtle energetic level affecting people around the planet.
00:53:43.980 --> 00:53:51.420 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What does that mean that means that by us doing our own personal work by us.
00:53:53.790 --> 00:53:59.370 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: untangling unraveling those things that causes pain and trauma that causes a suffering.
00:54:02.400 --> 00:54:06.510 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: That we're actually helping other people to do the same.
00:54:08.130 --> 00:54:10.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because the energy that once we've.
00:54:11.760 --> 00:54:20.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: gone through that journey we now show the possibility to other people now, we can also show the possibility in very real ways by being.
00:54:20.460 --> 00:54:30.960 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: coaches consultants, teachers and actually physically working with people, but even from just an embodied state by holding it in our bodies in our nervous system.
00:54:31.230 --> 00:54:49.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Our cells are vibrating this new way and transmitting this energy that people who are open to, and this is the key, because we all have free will open to receiving that energy open to receiving that message are now receiving of like oh I don't need to suffer around this either.
00:54:53.070 --> 00:54:55.410 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And there's so many different aspects to life.
00:54:56.640 --> 00:55:02.790 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: It can be open to receiving this idea, they don't have to suffer with our relationship with our mother with our father.
00:55:03.270 --> 00:55:10.920 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: With our siblings with with our friends about being being not there's so many things so many little things.
00:55:11.820 --> 00:55:18.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we unwind may support somebody else from unwinding something slightly different which may help someone else.
00:55:18.270 --> 00:55:31.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and help someone else and help someone else and help someone else, and it may come back around because now all of a sudden we're working on a deeper level within ourselves on a deeper trauma maybe a generational trauma an ancestral memory, a racial trauma.
00:55:34.140 --> 00:55:36.060 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: We often don't think about.
00:55:37.110 --> 00:55:42.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: The energetic interconnection that we have with all of life around us.
00:55:43.950 --> 00:55:49.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And again, this goes back to we are there is no them there is only us.
00:55:52.920 --> 00:55:54.750 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And so, the more we.
00:55:57.390 --> 00:56:07.650 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Look and examine those stories that causes pain and suffering emotional pain physical suffering.
00:56:10.950 --> 00:56:15.870 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And we say hey This is all conception, this is all something I just made up anyway.
00:56:17.190 --> 00:56:23.070 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Is it an accurate, it could be, but so what What if it's inaccurate.
00:56:23.520 --> 00:56:41.490 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: What if it is accurate, but it doesn't serve us let's change those fundamental stories about those that we have about ourselves, we first have to become aware of them and then we work to unravel them and that's part of what I do as a facilitator and a guide and a coach.
00:56:44.070 --> 00:56:55.710 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And I really truly sincerely, if anything, of what I said touches you and makes you feel like you would like some support and unraveling some of your own stories.
00:56:56.070 --> 00:57:07.770 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Please reach out to me, you can always find me through my website, the conscious consultant.com you can email me at Sam at the conscious consultant calm.
00:57:08.580 --> 00:57:19.200 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: I see loyal listener says, this has made me rethink about my childhood my mom had every right spanking me for going against her wishes well.
00:57:20.100 --> 00:57:30.240 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: patti I can see that i'm not necessarily so sure that spanking was necessarily the best option, but it was probably the only thing your mom knew how to do at the time.
00:57:30.600 --> 00:57:46.260 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because it's probably what happened to her probably when she went against her mom's which is she was hit and that probably goes back for generations so it's probably not just your mom it that's probably a whole matriarchal lineage.
00:57:48.540 --> 00:57:55.980 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And yeah your mom probably did that because, again, she thought she was doing what was best for you, I mean I don't know exactly the situation.
00:57:56.430 --> 00:58:05.880 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: But you know she's just trying to keep you with fees she thought was keeping you safe, which she thought was the best thing for you, so thank you for sharing that.
00:58:07.980 --> 00:58:19.020 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all i'm over time, I really appreciate you tuning in this this I hope this this episode really serves you in some way I would love to hear some feedback.
00:58:20.370 --> 00:58:37.890 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So please feel free you can comment on the the Facebook live video you can send me an email, let me know what did you get from this did it touch your heart your soul did it serve you in some way did it help to release at least a little bit of suffering for you.
00:58:39.180 --> 00:58:51.570 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: Because I truly truly believe we can end suffering in our own lives if we're willing to do the work and examine these assumptions and examine the stories that we make all the time.
00:58:52.560 --> 00:59:02.040 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: So thank you all so much for tuning in this week next week, I have my dear friend, Dr Dorothy Martin Neville joining me it'll be a wonderful show, I hope you.
00:59:02.730 --> 00:59:12.090 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: tune in for it please stay tuned remember later today if you haven't gotten enough of me 5pm Eastern time frank about health yours truly will be frank's guests.
00:59:12.450 --> 00:59:18.030 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: And, of course, tomorrow, we have our Friday lineup of shows philanthropy and focus always Friday.
00:59:18.450 --> 00:59:26.820 Sam Liebowitz | The Conscious Consultant: and wise content creates wealth and next Monday, make sure you catch Graham dobbin and his show the mind behind leadership, followed by.
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