Feeling safe is more important than we think.
Feeling safe is about more than our environment.
Feeling safe involved more than just the people we’re surrounded by.
Feeling safe is essential for us to heal, grow, and be authentic.
As human beings we get traumatized by many things.
Our nervous systems respond to all sorts of stimuli.
Someone yelling at us on the phone can be traumatic and make us feel unsafe.
A person’s energy when they walk into the elevator with us can make us feel unsafe.
A dark and deserted place can make use feel unsafe as well.
What triggers one person may not be what triggers someone else.
As individuals, we all come to life with different associations and different experiences.
Do we really know when we make someone else feel unsafe?
Are we aware of what we do for others that does make them feel safe?
Without feeling safe we cannot relax.
Without feeling safe we cannot allow ourselves to show how we really feel inside.
Without feeling safe we cannot begin or engage in any kind of healing.
What we often overlook is that we first have to feel safe with ourselves, before we can feel safe with anyone else.
Sometimes, we don’t even consider what situations we need to be in to feel safe.
Do we feel safe with our families?
Do we feel safe with our friends?
Do we feel safe in our work environment?
What is the solution when we don’t feel safe?
Change where we are. Change who we are with. Change what we are experiencing.
When we find a moment’s peace, then we can begin to analyse what we need to feel safe.
When we are alone, and present to ourselves, then we can feel our bodies and see where there is tension or concern.
Knowing what we need to feel safe is important for us to create safety for others.
If we all keep in mind what it means to feel safe and to how to create safety around us, perhaps we can create a safer world.
~ Sam Liebowitz, The Conscious Consultant