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[EPISODE] Free Yourself From Crazy-Making Relationships
This week, on The Conscious Consultant Hour, Sam welcomes Author and Relationship Expert, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD.
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Her mission is to provide the insights, information, and inspiration for clients and audiences to transform relationship with themselves and other humans to be honest, respectful, and safe in all ways. Even the United States Marines have sought her help!
Dr. Shaler focuses on helping the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to stop the crazy-making and save their sanity.
Author of sixteen books including Escaping the Hijackal Trap and Stop! That’s Crazy-Making, she hosts the internationally popular podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Toxic Relationships. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, has reached over 335,000 views.
The show opens with quotes from Abraham and the Universe, the human mind tends to overcomplicate things, looking for chaos in simplicity to make sense of our lives, but the Universe tells us that it’s not that difficult, the most profound answers are found more than likely in the simple, straightforward messages the world gives us. Abraham, this week, urging patience, taking things slow, opportunity and possibility surrounds us in abundance and it’s not going anywhere, hiding in places we don’t always immediately see, and sometimes it’s important to stick around to dig deeper to see if there’s something more, which more than likely, there is. Sam then introduces the guest, Rhoberta Shaler.
“Just because something is simple does not mean it’s easy.”
Rhoberta reflects on her childhood, growing up in a dysfunctional household with a borderline mother and a narcissistic father, which sparked an interest in the chemistry behind these kinds of relationships. Rhoberta defines the term ‘hijackal’ and how to identify if you’re in a relationship with one, dissecting telltale signs and explaining how these traits are developed in one’s youth, a conversation spurring about different kinds of abuse in relationships, Rhoberta describing how to speak up to your partner without outright instigating and shifting blame.
Rhoberta talks preparation when leaving a relationship with a hijackal examining relationships with their children, making sure you’re leaving stable financially-speaking, learning the true scope of the abuse, and practicing aforementioned techniques to maneuver through confrontations. The conversation then travels to life after leaving the hijackal, repairing yourself spiritually and mentally after that relationship, different types of hijackal both overt and covert, how people get trapped in these relationships in the first place, and how to identify a hijackal before you get too deep into it.
“Whip off those rose-tinted glasses because you can’t see red flags.”
Now you’re single and you’re on your own, Rhoberta explains how this is the time that you take for yourself and stay out of relationships, see it as a time of peace, and urges to stay away and not communicate with the hijackal to avoid getting hooked back in. She explains how to escape falling into these kinds of relationships over and over again, recognizes patterns formed back in childhood, and suggests getting help from professionals on these matters. The show closes with Rhoberta explaining in greater detail how to deal with these situations when children are involved, outlining how to treat the children and how to portray the relationship with the estranged partner.