[EPISODE] What To Do When You Do Everything Right and Still Lose
- How to get over bad beats and move on
- How to manage your emotions after a loss
- How to be deliberate in planning (and how to develop a Plan B)
- Turning a loss into an opportunity
- The 3 phases of crisis management
- How mentors help when the cards are not in your favor.
Ellen welcomes her listeners. The Poker Diva show isn’t about playing poker, but it’s the strategies that can help you in your life. It’s about to dealing with bullies, getting over people, learning about people, etc. It’s not only for women, but for men. The gender dynamics is very important, especially in today’s world. Today Ellen discusses dealing with a bad hand of cards, and what happens when you do everything right, but still lose. Ellen introduces Carol Perleman the founder of Perlman Communications a Crisis Communications, Management company. Ellen and Carol talks about how to manage different kind of crisis in your life.
Ellen and Carol continue to discuss moving on from “playing a bad hand”. Carol shares how she had to change the game when she got a few thumbs-down for a marketing project she was working on. Carol discusses how she fought for promotions with her male co-workers, whereas women were called aggressive while men are called assertive even though they express the same behavior. Carol also mentioned she had “lost the game”, but in the end she “won”.
Ellen gives a brief summary of what she and Carol discuss before. Carol talks about how the company she previously worked for did not provide maternity leave when she was pregnant. She had to come back to work in 10 days after she delivered her son. She also talks about how she felt when she was passed over for promotions because she had given birth to her son. Carol gives insights about the importance of knowing your own value. If you don’t know your own value, you are not appreciated where you are, go somewhere where you are appreciated for your value.
Ellen talks about how she had met Carol and how Carol gave some really good advice. Carol gave her thoughts about mentorship and how important it is.Mentors can help when the “cards” that are not in your favor. Ellen points out that there are many discussions about the same-gender mentors and different-gender mentors. Carol discusses how she always sets an example to everyone and how she mentors both genders. People underestimate the power of a mentor, especially in a time where either need to fold the bad cards or throw them away altogether.